about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

I like to meet new people online all the time, because I think it's interesting to talk to someone from someplace different from where I live. Well, a couple months ago, I met... "J." J lives across the country from me, and we've become very very good friends. I honestly can say I love him, in a very unromantic way. More of the way you love your best friend. Only, it's a bit of a problem because I'm a 14 year old girl, and J is 32, married, and about 3,000 miles away. I don't expect many people to understand our relationship.

I hate having to be sneaky to talk to him. We've talked on the phone once, and he actually sent me a birthday card. I love him enormously, like a family member or something. I feel a lot like we should stop talking, because it's not... socially acceptable for us to be such good friends, and I'm sure my mom or his wife or anyone would approve of our friendship. But it would break my heart to have to stop talking to him.

What should I do?

First off, I agree with Razhie in that you should stop hiding this friendship.


That being said, there's really nothing that will take away this feeling of guilt, other than letting your parents know about your relationship with this man. You need to tell them about it. Lying to your parents is NEVER a good thing, and it really isn't right for you to do. I suggest sitting them down and telling them what you told us: that you have been talking to a man, but you've been hiding it and you feel awful for doing so. Tell them the absolute truth, and let them know what's going on.


Another point Razhie made that you deeply need to consider: think of this man's wife. He is MARRIED! Think of how his wife is going to feel knowing he's been talking to you, and hiding it from her all along. I think you should urge him to let his wife in on this secret, and to STOP lying to her: it's completely wrong.


Best of luck.


-Laura (16-f)

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how do i make a website.

i want to make one for my bf with pictures of us, quotes, icons and so on

i want it just for him and i to see

any ideaS?

I think you should make a photobucket account. You can have separate albums with just pictures of the two of you, or just icons, etc. It's really easy to use, too.


You can also set it to private, which requires a "guest" password, and you could give your boyfriend the password. This way, only the two of you can see it.


-Laura (16-f)

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why are people so upsessed with tanning..like my sister goes tanning everyday and it makes her look gross. like her skin looks like leather. and whenever i go to the mall i see girls that are like orange, and all dried out. I don't understand why people don't stay with their natural skin tone...and if they want a natural glow or a little more color why cant they just get a tinted mostiurizer...then you can skip the whole cancer thing? idk it just makes so sense to me at all, if anyone goes tanning or knows why people do these please explain it to me

I think it's disgusting to go tanning. I would never do it, and I think it's good that you're not into it just because your sister and everybody else is.


Like somebody said below, girls are obsessing over it because of the media. They put images into our heads to try and show us what "beautiful" is. Honestly, though, I don't think anybody truly knows what real beauty is anymore.


I personally am proud of my pale skin, and don't plan on changing any time soon ;]


-Laura (16-f)

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okay, thanks for reading this

what i need advice about is songwriting. i need to write the lyrics to a song, just lyrics to a melody or both the melody and the lyrics, but my problem is i just can write songs! lol, i just dont know how to do it, for me is much more easier to write stories and that stuff.
but anyway, i just want some advice on where to start and how to write lyrics, it would be awesome if you could help me :]
thank you in advance
xo,

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=534515


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What I think makes the best song, is really putting feelings into it. Writing it so that it provokes an emotion in people when they listen to it. Allowing people to relate to it, and know exactly what you mean. I also think you need something catchy, in it. Like, it's hard to explain...


Alright, I have an example of the feelings portion of my answer, have you ever heard the song "Six Feet Under The Stars" by All Time Low? If not, listen to it. The lyrics are just really good (in my opinion) not only for your question, but everybody whose trying to write songs and I think everyone has those feelings of not being good enough for somebody and wanting to impress somebody. The song just makes you remember a time you wanted so badly to impress somebody, and it provokes an emotion. See what I mean?


And what I said about the putting it in a catchy way, have you ever heard the song "If You Wanted A Song Written About You, All You Had To Do Was Ask" by Mayday Parade? Probably not, but the song has a PERFECT example of what I'm trying to say. During the song, there's a part that says:
"And you dropped the note, and we changed key.
You changed yourself and I changed me,
I really didn't see us singing through this.
Then you screamed the bridge and I cried the verse
and our chorus came out unrehearsed.
And you smiled the whole way through it,
I guess maybe that's what's worse."

The way they put that was just so catchy and I loved it, because they didn't just make the lyrics say something like: 'you gave up on me, I gave up on you, I didn't think we'd make it through this, but you were wrong." blah blah blah.


So bottom line, good songs (to me at least):
1. Provoke an emotion.
2. Put it in an interesting way.


Hope this Helps!


-Laura (16-f)

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Well just like everyone else I like having music to listen to about what's going on in my lifee. But I can't really find anything good lately. Can anyone list me a few songs? I like the alternative, acoustic music. Songs about heartbreak and relationships and all the good stuff please? :)

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1:
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
Amazing: Josh Kelley.
At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
Cue The Sun: Daphne Loves Derby.
Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Forever: Chris Brown.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Headspin: Jamestown Story.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hero/Heroine: Boys Like Girls.
I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Must be Dreaming: The Maine.
I Will Follow You Into the Dark: Death Cab for Cutie.
In My Heart: My Favorite Highway.
Island: The Starting Line.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Just Another Romantic: A Kidnap in Color.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
Little of Your Time: Maroon 5.
Middle Of The Night: Sherwood.
My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
On Top of the World: Boys Like Girls.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Run To You: The Rocket Summer.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
Skyway Avenue: We The Kings.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
So, In This Hour...: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
Up and Up: Relient k.
The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
Think of You Later: Every Avenue.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
With You: Chris Brown.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.


2:
All Again For You: We The Kings.
Amazing Because it is: The Almost.
Beauty In A Car Crash: Flight 409.
Before You Go: Flight 409.
Between You and I: Every Avenue.
The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot: Brand New.
Cute Without The "E": Taking Back Sunday.
Dead Leaves And The Dirty Ground: The White Stripes.
Dreaming With A Broken Heart: John Mayer.
Driving Away: Holiday Parade.
Emergency: Paramore.
The Golden State: Flight 409.
Gone So Young: Amber Pacific.
I'd Hate To Be You When People Find Out What This Song Is About: Mayday Parade.
Just Say You're Not Into It: Mayday Parade.
The Last Something That Meant Anything: Mayday Parade.
A Lesson in Charades: Asteria.
A Lonely September: Plain White T's.
Miserable at Best: Mayday Parade.
Music Box: Thrice.
Northern Downpour: Panic at the Disco.
Nothing Left To Lose: Mat Kearney.
One-Man Drinking Games: Mayday Parade.
Pressure: Paramore.
Remembering Sunday: All Time Low.
Say the Word: The Classic Crime.
Shadow of the Day: Linkin Park.
So Contagious: Acceptance.
Three Cheers For Five Years: Mayday Parade.
Tired and Uninspired: My American Heart.
Until You're Over Me: Maroon 5.
Up Against The Wall: Boys Like Girls.
You're Making It Come Alive: My Favorite Highway.


-Laura (16-f)

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so is it normal to have like discharge on your panties on a normal basis?
mine used to be like whiteish.
but now its like brownish? what is that?!?!

You didn't mention your age, but I'm assuming you're still young. You're probably just getting your period and you will most likely be perfectly fine.


If it continues, and really starts to bother you, talk to your mom or older sister about it; see if they think a visit to the doctor is necessary.


-Laura (16-f)

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16/f
I went to a party 2 weeks ago. Well while i was there, i met this guy and i thought he was pretty cute. Well we were just talking as friend kassandra is his friend. Well, i thought he was cute so she told him that. He said i was pretty but he liked some other girl to. So, two weeks later (last night) i went to another party and he was there and he started coming up and talking to me and giving me hugs and all that. He got my number from one of my friends and he said that he was going to call me when he got home from the party. Well, he never called. I'm sure something came up or something, but that's only half my problem. I am not good talking to the guys i like. I naturally get nervous and don't know what to say. I am really shy and i've tried to be the best outgoing person i can but it just dosen't work. So, when he does call me, i'm not sure what to say or talk about. I mean, me and my last boyfriend always had those awkward silences on the phone and i hated it. Before he knew i liked him, i had no trouble talking to him but now since he knows, it's awkward. What do i do? What do i say?
Thanks!

It's perfectly normal to get nervous while talking to people, especially boys [and ESPECIALLY when you have a crush on them].


The first thing you need to do, is take a deep breath and ignore the butterflies that start flying around in your stomach the second you see his name show up on the screen of your phone. When you see it's him calling, just make sure to stay calm and act like you're talking to your best friend or the person you're most comfortable with. If you don't let yourself get nervous, and you don't think about saying something stupid, the chances of you having a great conversation will be MUCH higher =]


That being said, start by asking how he is, what he's doing, and/or how his day went. Then, try talking about your interests. For example, you can say something like, "Oh, today I saw a preview for this movie and it looked really good. Have you seen it/Do you think it looks good?".


Or try finding a common interest. For example, one of my friends and I are both really into the TV show LOST, so whenever LOST is on, either him or I will say something and that will immediately spark a conversation. So, find something you're both really interested in and go from there.


You can also always talk about school. Ask about his classes, his teachers and what he thinks about them, etc.


Good luck =]


-Laura (16-f)

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me and my mom are having this stupid fight and I need to know if i'm being ridiculous or not.

ok so my photographer is in the process of moving from cali to colorado and so she hasn't had time to upload all of my pictures for us to go through. She sent us 5 random pictures just so we would have like a sneak peak at something. so my mom decideds to email these pictures to like EVERYONE we know. and they're all printing them out and whatever.

I got mad and told her that she had no right to do that. everyone would've gotten their pictures when it came time to give em out. that was 5 pictures out of like thousands we have to go through and they weren't meant to be printed out or shown to anyone but me and my mom.

am i over reacting for being mad that she did this? she said I sound ridiculous.

but senior pictures are a big deal and I would have really liked to have given the people the ones I liked.. not have random pictures of me all over every ones walls.

that's not how it works..

let me know.. thank you.

I don't think you should be angry with her. She is your mother, and senior pictures are a big deal. You're growing up, and she's proud of you. While there are thousands to go through, the 5 that were sent to you probably got your mom excited, and she probably sent them without really thinking about it. But don't yell at her or anything for it, moms get excited over things like that all the time; it's part of their job ;]


Just talk to her about it, and let her know it bothered you and you'd like her to ASK you next time.


-Laura (16-f)

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Hi,
Im a guy, 15 and about 3 months ago I bought my own acoustic guitar. The brand is Washburn and the modle is Oscar Schmidt I think. Anyway, I've been going on to youtube and teaching myself songs. I don't know very much about music, so I don't know what songs are out there, but the ones I did find I've learned and perfected. So far I've learned "Follow you into the dark" by Death Cab., "Hey there delilah" by plain white t's, "Good Riddance" By green day, and a few other songs. These are the kind of songs I'm looking for, the softer acoustic guitar songs, u know like one with a good mellody. I'm ready to learn more, I just don't know where to look. Does anyone have any ideas on what songs I should learn next?

Best of Me by The Starting Line was a good suggestion by somebody below.


Anywho, some other ideas:
You Be the Anchor... by Mayday Parade.
Hands Down by Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You by The Rocket Summer.
She Makes Dirty Words Sound Pretty by Pierce the Veil.
Running from Lions by All Time Low.
Skyway Avenue (Acoustic)by We The Kings.


And my friend's brother learned "Island in the Sun" by Weezer and it was the most amazing thing I've heard in a long time, so try looking that song up, too =]


-Laura (16-f)

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Hey im 17/f. My boyfriend says hes confused about our relationship but doesnt wanna break up but we might have to. He lives 20 minutes away and i dont have my license yet. He says he hates drivinga all the time which i understand. He is the same age as me by the way. Is there any song out there that describes him being kinda far away, we wanna make this work but dont know if we can. Anything along those lines, im flexible so anything would really work. Thanks!

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From there:


Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
Amazing: Josh Kelley.
At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
Cue The Sun: Daphne Loves Derby.
Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Forever: Chris Brown.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Headspin: Jamestown Story.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hero/Heroine: Boys Like Girls.
I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Must be Dreaming: The Maine.
I Will Follow You Into the Dark: Death Cab for Cutie.
In My Heart: My Favorite Highway.
Island: The Starting Line.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Just Another Romantic: A Kidnap in Color.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
Little of Your Time: Maroon 5.
Middle Of The Night: Sherwood.
My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
On Top of the World: Boys Like Girls.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Run To You: The Rocket Summer.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
Skyway Avenue: We The Kings.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
So, In This Hour...: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
Up and Up: Relient k.
The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
Think of You Later: Every Avenue.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
With You: Chris Brown.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.



-Laura (16-f)

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Hey. I'm in AP Bio and I have to write up an experiment on plants. I am not an expert on plants at all. Does anybody know of an expirement that I could start and finish within 2-4 weeks?

I once did a science fair experiment where I planted seeds in a cup of dirt and watered them with different substances. I think I used things like milk and lemon juice to water them with. It was actually kind of a cool experiment!


-Laura (16-f)

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i have a problem...i ALWAYS cry. i can cry whenever i want too. i just think cry, and i start crying. sometimes i cry when i'm not even sad, and i don't want too. it's actually really embarassing. idk why, i told my mom about this and she told me that something must be wrong and that i must be sad about something, because i told her that sometimes i started crying when i wasn't even sad. i think it's just like a stress release for me, but i'm ALWAYS stressed, and there's no way to change that, so it's really annoying. i mean i HAVE kind of been sad lately, but i've felt like this my whole life, and although i've always been an easy crier, i never cryed for no reason like i do now. i can make myself cry whenever i want, and sometimes i just feel like crying, even when nothing in particular is wrong. if something tiny goes wrong, i'll start crying. i don't know what to do! it's really embarassing, because people think i'm a baby, but i'm like um i don't even know why i'm crying right now i'm not even upset. like i'ts really embarassing, can someone please help me and tell me what to do to make myself stop crying? is there anything i can do physically or emotionally? and has this happened to anyone else before?

There MUST be a reason for your crying. I highly doubt that you just randomly burst out in fits of hysteria over nothing. That being said, you DO need to find out WHY you're crying. You need to sit down, and really THINK about what's bothering you.


Here's an idea for you:
Next time you feel like crying, stop yourself. Don't just stop and sit there, that will be ineffective and most likely do nothing at all to help you. Do something else instead. Do you have a journal? If not, start one right away. It's such a good way to let out everything you're feeling and to say everything you want to say. It's really effective in helping with stress and emotional problems. I highly suggest starting a journal and whenever you feel like crying, start writing.


Along with starting a journal, I think you should stick with the idea of doing something else. If you feel like crying, do for a bike ride, read a book, put on some music, bake a cake, take pictures, something, ANYTHING, that makes you feel good. Do you have a hobby? For me, it's running or photography. Whenever I'm really down or upset, I'll go for a run or go out in my backyard and snap some pictures. Find a hobby that makes you feel GOOD, and stick with it.


Now, along with the journal/hobby, I think you should talk to somebody. Talk to you mom about WHAT is bothering you, not just the fact that something IS bothering you. You can talk to a sibling, an aunt or uncle, a school counselor, or any trusted adult. Sometimes, talking about your feelings is all it takes to keep them under control.


I hope this helps.


-Laura (16-f)

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my bf and i both like to read so he suggested that we both pick out a special book for each other to read. can anyone suggest any good book for me to give him to read and he is 20 if that matters. and he has a good high reading level. and if you can, can you give me a summary of the book you suggest. thank you!

Books are the best gifts!


I'll give you the title/author of a book and a link to it's page on Amazon so you can read reviews, summaries, etc:


1. A Million Little Pieces by James Frey.


"Frey is pretender to the throne of the aggressive, digressive, cocky Kings David: Eggers and Foster Wallace. Pre-pub comparisons to those writers spring not from Frey's writing but from his attitude: as a recent advance profile put it, the 33-year-old former drug dealer and screenwriter "wants to be the greatest literary writer of his generation." While the Davids have their faults, their work is unquestionably literary. Frey's work is more mirrored surface than depth, but this superficiality has its attractions. With a combination of upper-middle-class entitlement, street credibility garnered by astronomical drug intake and PowerPoint-like sentence fragments and clipped dialogue, Frey proffers a book that is deeply flawed, too long, a trial of even the most na‹ve reader's credulousness-yet its posturings hit a nerve. This is not a new story: boy from a nice, if a little chilly, family gets into trouble early with alcohol and drugs and stays there. Pieces begins as Frey arrives at Hazelden, which claims to be the most successful treatment center in the world, though its success rate is a mere 17%. There are flashbacks to the binges that led to rehab and digressions into the history of other patients: a mobster, a boxer, a former college administrator, and Lilly, his forbidden love interest, a classic fallen princess, former prostitute and crack addict. What sets Pieces apart from other memoirs about 12-stepping is Frey's resistance to the concept of a higher power. The book is sure to draw criticism from the recovery community, which is, in a sense, Frey's great gimmick. He is someone whose problems seem to stem from being uncomfortable with authority, and who resists it to the end, surviving despite the odds against him. The prose is repetitive to the point of being exasperating, but the story, with its forays into the consciousness of an addict, is correspondingly difficult to put down."


Link: http://www.amazon.com/Million-Little-Pieces-James-Frey/dp/0307276902/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221166835&sr=8-1



2. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon.

"Christopher Boone, the autistic 15-year-old narrator of this revelatory novel, relaxes by groaning and doing math problems in his head, eats red-but not yellow or brown-foods and screams when he is touched. Strange as he may seem, other people are far more of a conundrum to him, for he lacks the intuitive "theory of mind" by which most of us sense what's going on in other people's heads. When his neighbor's poodle is killed and Christopher is falsely accused of the crime, he decides that he will take a page from Sherlock Holmes (one of his favorite characters) and track down the killer. As the mystery leads him to the secrets of his parents' broken marriage and then into an odyssey to find his place in the world, he must fall back on deductive logic to navigate the emotional complexities of a social world that remains a closed book to him. In the hands of first-time novelist Haddon, Christopher is a fascinating case study and, above all, a sympathetic boy: not closed off, as the stereotype would have it, but too open-overwhelmed by sensations, bereft of the filters through which normal people screen their surroundings. Christopher can only make sense of the chaos of stimuli by imposing arbitrary patterns ("4 yellow cars in a row made it a Black Day, which is a day when I don't speak to anyone and sit on my own reading books and don't eat my lunch and Take No Risks"). His literal-minded observations make for a kind of poetic sensibility and a poignant evocation of character. Though Christopher insists, "This will not be a funny book. I cannot tell jokes because I do not understand them," the novel brims with touching, ironic humor. The result is an eye-opening work in a unique and compelling literary voice."


Link: http://www.amazon.com/Curious-Incident-Dog-Night-Time/dp/1400032717/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221166955&sr=1-1



3. Are We There Yet? by David Levithan.

"Elijah and Danny are brothers who have grown apart. Elijah is a mellow, kind, live-in-the-moment, pot-smoking teen who likes to wonder about things and to wander without a plan. Danny, six years Elijah's senior, is a young up-and-comer with a prestigious New York law firm, who dresses meticulously and exerts a rigid control both on his own life and on the lives of those around him. In an attempt to draw their sons back together, the boys' parents arrange a vacation to Italy. But the appearance of a girl who may have the power to separate the two brothers even further means the trip may not reach its intended goal. Levithan's latest is a stylized, pensive, almost mournful piece that outwardly travels through three of Italy's most famed cities but is focused almost exclusively on the interior landscapes of two uniquely sympathetic young men. At times overly self-aware, the book's literary complexity and minimal action make this a title for older readers attracted to mature psychological and philosophical perspectives."


Link: http://www.amazon.com/Are-There-Yet-David-Levithan/dp/0375839569/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221167024&sr=1-5



-Laura (16-f)

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I'm going through Amazon ordering books right now, and am wondering if anyone has any suggestions to read.

I'm 16, f, if that helps

Some other books i've read recently are: The Twilight Series, The Book Thief, Wicked, and the Giver

THANKS
:D

Yay for books =D


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-Laura (16-f)

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I was thinking for my one year anniversary of doing something cute.

I was going to get him:
365 of something.
52 of something.
12 of something.
and, 1 of something.
(365 days in a year, 52 weeks in a year, 12 months in a year, one year)

I wasn't thinking "big" somethings, necessarily.. but I can't think of that many "small" somethings.

I wan't it to be cute, you know?
Any idea's? Will my guy like this?
Guys-would YOU like a cute idea like this?

THANKS!
(If any other suggestions for gifts, would be appreciated:)

That is so cute and I think it's an excellent and very creative idea. You have no idea how much I'd love for a guy to do this for me [yes I know you're a girl doing it for a guy, but is' adorable regardless]


Here are some ideas for you:


- A mix cd with 12 songs that remind you of him.
- A book of 52 words you'd use to describe him.
- A scrapbook with 365 things that remind you of him [pictures, ticket stubs, magazine ads, anything].
- 1 night together where you do what you did on your first date, or go to the place where you first met.
- 12 flowers of some sort.
- 12 balloons.


Hope it helps =]


-Laura (16-f)

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hi im trying to find some good books to read.
ive read a lot of books and i read everything that my friends suggest and thats a lot of books. l0l
anyways i need some books to read that are 7th grade level and higher (im a really good reader, so preferrably higher levels). i like books that have drama, or ficional history like forever amber, stuff about school, boyfriends, backstabbers, sex, drugs, money, sports, basically anything.
please tell me what its about and/or the author.
any advice is greatly appreciated =]

Yay for books! =D
I'll give you the title, and a link to the Amazon page so you can read more info on them.


Here are some of my favorites:
This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen. [best book I've ever read!]
Link: http://www.amazon.com/This-Lullaby-Sarah-Dessen/dp/0142501557/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075245&sr=8-1


Really anything by Sarah Dessen is great. She writes for teenage girls, but not just the normal "OMG I love him, does he love me?". She's just a really great author and you should definitely check her out. Here are some more links to her other books:


That Summer:
http://www.amazon.com/That-Summer-Sarah-Dessen/dp/0670061107/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075297&sr=1-1


Someone Like You:
http://www.amazon.com/Someone-Like-You-Sarah-Dessen/dp/0142401773/ref=pd_bbs_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075297&sr=1-2


The Truth about Forever:
http://www.amazon.com/Truth-About-Forever-Sarah-Dessen/dp/0142406252/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075363&sr=1-1


Other than that, have you tried The Clique series? I really don't enjoy them anymore because I'm 16, but 7th grade is just the right age to read them:
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b/102-5012405-8752151?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=the+clique%5C


Here are a few other book suggestions, too:


All American Girl by Meg Cabot:
http://www.amazon.com/All-American-Girl-Meg-Cabot/dp/0061479896/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075430&sr=1-1


Just As Long as We're Together by Judy Blume:
http://www.amazon.com/Just-Long-Were-Together-Blume/dp/0440210941/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075513&sr=1-1


If We Kiss by Rachel Vail:
http://www.amazon.com/If-We-Kiss-Rachel-Vail/dp/0060569166/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1221075543&sr=1-1


Hope this helps! And if you need more, inbox me =]


-Laura (16-f)

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ok so ive had a crush on this guy and he dosent even no i exist so is there anyway that i can get his attention and get him to ask me out?

Seeing as I'm not a guy myself, I'll give you a link to an answer by an actual guy!
Here's a helpful answer of my friend, Jack's:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520


From there:
"First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =]."


Hope it helps ;]


-Laura (16-f)

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okay so i printed out a monthly calendar for the whole schoolyear (september - june). i was just curious, what's the point of using the monthly calendar? last year, i didn't have / use one (i just wrote it all in my agenda. like if i were to have a test in english on friday, monday - wednesday, i would write "English - Test Friday" and then on thursday i'd write, "English Test Tomorrow!" so i could see it at a glance that way).

(1) i know they're used for keeping track of assignments, due dates, other commitments, etc., but do you think i should just wait until i get busy to see how it works?

(2) isn't it tedious to have to update BOTH your agenda and your monthly calendar everyday?

(3) what are the advantages of using a monthly calendar BESIDES being able to see things "at a glance" ?

1. I would start using it now so that you get into the habit of writing down important dates and keeping track of everything. Put things like friends' birthdays on there, etc, just so you get used to it.


2. Yes and no. Yes, because well, the actual updating itself takes time. No, because it's worth it in the end.


3. You stay organized, and you always know what's going on. When somebody asks if you're busy, you can just check your schedule and give them an answer rather than an "I'll have to get back to you."


Really, the idea of having a monthly calendar is wonderful in my opinion. Staying organized is such a great skill to have. It will definitely help you in the long run, too =]


-Laura (16-f)

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well im new at school but ive met a good amount of pple but anyway what i really need tips on is how to get invited to a party!! i havent been to one in a while and i really wanna go to one! thanks :)

Make some more new friends and start conversations with new people:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311


From there:


That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:

1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.


2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.


3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.


4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.


Good luck!


-Laura (16-f)

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i usually listen to alternative/rock/etc. i listen to rap like if the song is popular. okay my question is: what are some of your favorite/popular rap songs?
i think i might start listening to more rapp, i don't know; i have to hear songs that i like so.
also: i heard this one rap song, my friend was playing. i don't remember what it's called but there was a hook in the song that goes 'run forrest run'. haha.
-->please list artist with song

I'm not huge into rap, but I listen to it when I'm in the car with my friends:


- Handlebars: Flobots.
- Forever: Chris Brown.
- Lollipop: Lil Wayne [I think?]
- Low: T-Pain.
- Closer: Ne-Yo.
- American Boy: Estelle.
- Forever: Chris Brown.
- Love in This Club: Usher.


That's all I could think of, because like I said, I'm not huge into rap. But I have a really big list of alternative bands if you're interested. Just hit up my inbox and I'll send it to you =]


-Laura (16-f)

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