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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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um well theres this kid that i have liked for such a long time and i thought he liked me too...i mean he led me on and everything but whenever i try to talk to him he never listens n theres no way to make him listen so talking is out of the question...i changed myself so much for him and now i dont even no who i am anymore...well he flirts soo much with like everyone so i basically know he doesnt like me but he did like me b4 so im soo stuck now and theres no way to get over him...i mean i had a thick sweater and thick pants on and i was sooo hot but the thought of him gave me chills....im in love and theres nothing i can do....how can i make him like me or what can i actually say to him PLEASE HELP ME im seriously in trouble!

you can't make someone like you, they either do or dont. and what is wrong with you? you never go changing yourself for no guy, he should like you for you. and trust me you will get over him in time.

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im kind of going out with this boy secretly.i feel terrible about it.but if anyone ever found out they just wouldnt accept us.well we barely talk to each other anymore i dont know what to do.he always seems to be really busy.If we do talk its like for 10minutes really late at night.how can i spend more time with him or talk to him more with out anyone finding out?please help me..

just hang out with him, who cares what other people think, if you really like this guy, you can't spend the rest of your lives sneaking around

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Sorry this is so long, but u need the whole story to understand.

About a week ago, I had sex with my boyfriend. The next day, i told my best friend about it. Since im only 14, she flipped out on me. She told me I was WAY too young and I was stupid for doing that. She made me promise I wouldn't do it again until I was older.

She has always said she will respect what I do even if I do mess up. But she didn't understand that.

A few days ago, I had sex with him again, and didn't tell her. I talked to her on the phone last night, and I accidently told her I had sex again, and she flipped out. She asked me a bunch of stupid questions, but I answered them. I also let it slip that I gave my first blow job. She REALLY got mad about that, so I told her I was kidding about it and I had never done that.

I want to tell her I did all that stuff, but im afraid she won't understand. Is there any easy way to tell her? or is it best just left alone?

Well she is probably upset because she is concerned for you. 14 is way too young to be having sex! What if you get pregnant or get an STD or something. Sex is no joke, that shit changes everything. But since you already are i suggest you use protection. Anyways... try and explain to your friend that it is over and done with and she should just accept it. Let her know she is your best friend and you should be able to share girl stuff with her. But if she says she doesn't want to hear about it, then just accept that. And let her know you still want and need her as a friend.

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hey. what will happen if u jack off before your voice changes? is it ok? i really need to know!!

yeah its fine...wack away weirdo

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OK, I really like this guy, a lot like i cant stop thinking about him no matter what people tell me about him, like it doesnt even matter to me, but like, im not sure if he REALLY likes me, hes never said like "i like you" as cheesy as Im sure that would sound, but, hes always wanting to do stuff (btw i just asked another question earlier sorry :-/ ) and like, im okay with it, but how do i tell him that i dont want to take it too far unless were in a relationship?

i already told you to just tell him straight out you do not want to do anything with him unless you are in a relationship, if he doesn't want to be with you, then he probably doesn't like you and is using you.

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I just wanted ideas of things I can do to keep myself busy this summer. I was dating this guy 'sonic'(we have been on and off since january, he was my ex)and tonight we 'broke up' (we weren't really OFFICIAL but dating) even though I have feelings for him and i feel kinda sad i'm ready to move on. any ideas?

I'll rate

sit around and twittle your thumbs then try to eat your toe nails

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Okay im 17 i will be 18 n feb n there is this boy that i talk to on the net n like i met him a couple times n talked to him n he is 15 wont be 16 intill march n like i can tell him anything n i think im sorta getting feelings for him but i dont know if i should date him since he is 15 n younger them me .. n my friends what will they think>

who cares what you're friends think. if you like him then they should like him, if they are your real friends. age is just a number, if you like him go for it. Good Luck! :)

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- - ok, me and my best guy friend Mike keep getting in fights over shtuff. Like EVERY SINGLE time i talk to him, he has to bring up his girlfriend, who is like one of my friends and he KNOWS I HAVE THIS MAJOR CRUSH ON HIM!! and we always get in a fight over it, cuz how would you feel if you asked your best guy friend out *not the brightest thing to do i guess* and he said no he isn't "ReadY" and then went and asked out your friend..? My god!! and now i dunno what to do, cuz i'm sick of fighting with him......

what do i do?
Signed..
- Stupid Best girl friend

i understand what you are saying, but you just have to accept the fact that atleast you still have a friendship and that should be more important to you. he probably thinks that since you are so close of a friend he should be able to talk to you about his girl and confide in you. Just tell him you don't feel comfortable talking about her. and if you're tired of fighting then stop fighting.

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ok..i'm 15..im seeing this guy who's 16..and i really like, ok well love him and everything's so perfect right now..BUT i've never made out with any1..i've been the type of girl always into sports, school..not really had time for boyfriends or serious relationships..BUT he thinks i have "french-kissed" some1 and i feel dumb telling him

just kiss him already. dont think about it just do it. once you do it once it will get easier and easier and better and better trust me. if he really likes you he wont make fun of you, he will encourage you to kiss him more so you can get better.

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okay well i had this boyfriend and we broke up but we still like eachother and i told him i wud go out w. him wen skool started again but i like someone else now and i wanna go out w, him but i feel bad cuz the other guy still thinks i like him and i do but only a lil and i kno i dont wanna go back out w, him and idno how to tell him bout the other guy and i dont want to cuz they hate eachother alreadi and they wanna fite and if i told him bout it he wud like kill the other kid and im soo confused idno wat to do now!?!help plz

just tell the other guy you are not interested in him anyone... you dont have to tell him who you like now. its not his business.

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okay. i have a super-creepy stalker, and i talked about it at work and after that my friend called him and told him to leave me the hell alone because i told him to. the thing is.. i never said that. then my stalker got real mad and said " mind your own f-ing buisness a-hole!" and now im really afraid... for both myself and my friend. now i have to go back to school in a month and i have to see him everyday. im so worried that he is going to hurt me because he really doesnt respect authority at all. and i dont really want to talk to him at all because thats how this whole stalking thing began-- with me being nice to him. im so confused and everytime i see him i start shaking and my heart pumps really fast. do i need therapy or something? help me

go report him to someone... if he bugs you at school tell a councelor... the kid sounds freakin nuts... or get someone to kick his ass and tell him to leave you alone... you shouldn't have to walk with fear

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omfg...im such a dumbass...i acidentily deleted all the names on my buddy list...is there any way i can get them back cuz i had like 200 and can only remember like 5...!!!!please say yes!!!!!!

wiggle your nose like bewitch and watch them appear!

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ok, next year i will be in 7th grade and i am gonna do athletics. im kinda short for my age and dont have much muscle or anything. im not overweight, but im not exactly "strong and athletic". im afraid that next year i will make the bad teams and be one of the worst atheletes there. im not a ver good runner and im afraid were gonna have to do alot of that! i just dont wanna look stupid in front of all my other friends who are tall and long-legged and will be able to run a mile in 5 minutes, wen im bak there truggin along. does any1 no an easy way 2 get in shape without havin 2 like do hours and hours of strenuous excersise?? plz answer! :)

I RATE WELL!!!!!

well the only way you can get better at running to run. start running now, everyday, and by the time you get to school you will be better at running. and just have confidence and do your best. if your friends make fun of you then they aren't really your friends. a real friend will help you do better.

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okay.. so i like this guy.. *joe.. and like.. weve kinda been doing "stuff" for a while, im not sure if he REALLY likes me or if hes just using me, ive asked him if hes using me and he said he isnt, but i dont know, tonight hes supposed to come over and i dont want to do anything with him if he doesnt like me and we cant have a relationship ya know? sorry if this is confusing but i really need help, btw i rate

so tell him you dont want to do anything with him unless you guys are in a relationship... if he can't respect that then kick the jerk out cuz he's just using you... end of story

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my b/f's birthday is in the middle of august.. should i get him something since weve only been goin out 4 a lil while (a month)? if so, what in the world do i get him?!

get him a video game or a fitted cap or something

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I just met my current boyfriend this summer and I really do love him. The problem is, he's moving a little too fast for me. I have no problem kissing him but he's trying to do more and go further. I'm too embarrassed to say something, but I really want to take things slow since we haven't been going out for a while. He's really experienced too and he's done alot of sexual things with his old GFs. I'm not anything like them though! What should I do or say to him?

tell him just because he is experienced doesn't mean you're ready to be yet, and you are not like his old gfs, you want to take things slow... if he can't accept that forget him, he's a jerk... and don't feel bad or let him pressure you into doing anything... be proud that you are a good girl and not a whore

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I know this sounds really nasty but I'm bulimic, but instead of throwing up, I take laxatives. I don't know how to make myself stop. My dad knows and he isn't really doing anything to stop it. Has anyone dealt with an eating disorder who can tell me?

you shouldn't do that. you can really mess up your bowls and then you'll be hospitalized and shitting through a tube into a bag, happened to my friend, not fun. maybe you should see a councelor and talk about why you do this, if you can find the root of the problem maybe you can help yourself stop. and if i were you i would do it soon, so i wasn't shitting in a bag. :)

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hey when my friend is on her period and she keeps telling me to do stuff forher and her excuses is always " I am on my perios and i dont feel good" and i cant help but do it for her cause i am just that good of a friend. Should i tell her to do it her damn self or keep on being a good friend?

tell her to do that shit her damn self

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how much is over protective when it comes to your bf. mines lives 15 mints away, but different schools different friends, i love him and trust him! but i know he used to be a player, and some of his friends dont like me because i actully broke his ways, i know he wouldnt cheat, but when i talk to some of his friends that are girls online i just get unconfrotable and feel bad when i hear things that he didnt wanna talk to me about, am i over reacting if im just not confortable when he talks to other women?

hmm... telling other girls stuff that he can't even tell you... thats a litle strange... maybe you should ask him about this... otherwise don't really over react about these things, he's your man and you know it

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when you are signed in and you click your questions the list of questions you asked pops up how do u delete that list of questions?

you prey to the deleting gods! duh!

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