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My best friend won't accept me for what I did
Sorry this is so long, but u need the whole story to understand.
About a week ago, I had sex with my boyfriend. The next day, i told my best friend about it. Since im only 14, she flipped out on me. She told me I was WAY too young and I was stupid for doing that. She made me promise I wouldn't do it again until I was older.
She has always said she will respect what I do even if I do mess up. But she didn't understand that.
A few days ago, I had sex with him again, and didn't tell her. I talked to her on the phone last night, and I accidently told her I had sex again, and she flipped out. She asked me a bunch of stupid questions, but I answered them. I also let it slip that I gave my first blow job. She REALLY got mad about that, so I told her I was kidding about it and I had never done that.
I want to tell her I did all that stuff, but im afraid she won't understand. Is there any easy way to tell her? or is it best just left alone?
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seeing as yall are best friends, shes just trying to look out for you. i feel the same with my best friend, im 14 and i let my boyfriend finger me the other day and i told my best friend and she went crazy on me. if shes your best friend, she'll love you and be there for you regardless of what you say or do with your boyfriend, but for now i would leave the subject alone until yall are maybe a little older and things like having sex are more common. hope it helped.
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well you lost your virginity already, what does she expect you to do? turn back time? its your decision whether or not you want to have sex. just take note that your friend is concerned. she probably doesnt want you to end up pregnant or having std's. so if you decide to keep having sex, just make sure you have protected sex
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Well you can just talk to her and tell her that you're going to tell her something that will probably make her mad, but you have to get it out. That could work.
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hey, i understand i'm in the same prjecament kinda theres things i haven't told my friends.
but i know if they can't except u for u than there not your friend there just a poser.
tell her and if she doesn't understand screw her.
hope i helped
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your friend is probably used to being able to predict your every move because you know each other so well and now your doing things that she doesn't understand why you'd do ... try explaining to her why you don't view sex the same way as she does and make sure to take the necessary precautions...also, don't put any pressure on her to become more sexually active and don't treat her as if you know more than she does just because you've already had sex because it will just end up in her viewing you as a completely different person
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no, there is no easy way of telling her. you either tell her about it or you don't. Understand where she is coming from on this one, she's just worried about you, and that's understandable right? I mean, not every girl has sex when they're fourteen. She just doesn't want you to end up in a bad situation and get into trouble. It's because she cares.
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Well she is probably upset because she is concerned for you. 14 is way too young to be having sex! What if you get pregnant or get an STD or something. Sex is no joke, that shit changes everything. But since you already are i suggest you use protection. Anyways... try and explain to your friend that it is over and done with and she should just accept it. Let her know she is your best friend and you should be able to share girl stuff with her. But if she says she doesn't want to hear about it, then just accept that. And let her know you still want and need her as a friend.
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ok u are to young anyways for things like that and she wants to protect u from hurting your self. but whats dun in dun better left unsaid
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well if uve told her more than once and she flips out everytime it seems that its best left alone. but before u completley decide to drop it. try talking to her one more time about it. ask her why it bugs her so much, cause she seems to be freaking out way too much for it to be only cause ur 14, maybe shes jealous of u..but then again she really could just care. but its your decision to mess with this kid. if she doesnt like it its ok for her to express her opinion but she cant make u promise like that. just try talking to her about it one more time and say everything that u feel u need to say and if she continues not to understand and continues to freak out just avoid telling her..its her own fault.
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talk to her about it, it's better to be honest with each other then keep secrets or lie about something. trust me if you hide it from her she'll find out somehow and then she'll be even more mad that you lied to her.
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Well there's really no easy way to tell your friend about all of this. You need to explain to your friend why you didn't want to tell her b/c you were afraid of how she would react. You also need to remind her that best friends are suppost to be the people you can trust not judge you b/c of something you did. You HAVE to tell your friend about all of this b/c if it slips out again she may get SOO mad where she doesn't want to be friends anymore b/c she thinks you hide stuff from her! Well I hope this helps and everything works out! Rate me if you want! * ashley *
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Well obviously, its best not to tell her because she doesn't want you doing those things, but if shes your best friend... then I know you're supposed to tell them everything. If she doesn't understand then shes not a true friend. I agree with her that you're too young, but thats not my business. Just try to tell her that you were the one who made the choices, and she should accept them. hope i helped :)
Good luck!
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Megan
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This maybe a possibility that ur friends just a bit jealous. She may be livin the only life. She mite have sum hatred bout wut u did...
Then again she can just be tryna keep you safe for ur own sake. Ur friend maybe had experienced more than u have n noes that no good come from it. Ask her why this topic pisses her nerve so much... THere has to be more then just ur only 14
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