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Hey Guys! My name is Ashley and I live in Katy. I go to Katy High School and am active in FFA. I love volleyball and hanging out with my friends! If you have a question about anything just feel free to ask me! Don't be shy! :-D xox aShLeY xox

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I am going to this Volleyball day camp for 4 days and I really really like it but I'm terrible at it cuz I'm new and like everyone else can spike n stuff. I probly won't make the team next year but i really like the sport. Wut can i do?

I love volleyball too! I used to be SOO bad at it too but you just have to keep trying and practicing and NEVER give up! I couldn't serve over hand or anything, but I tried my hardest and made the team and got better as the year went on. You will only get better if you keep trying but if you give up you will never get better! And don't be doubtful saying you won't make the team next year.... you have to think POSITIVE and believe in yourself! You will learn to spike and do everything really do if you keep trying your hardest! Well hope I helped and everything goes well! Please rate and if you have anymore questions just feel free to slip them in my box! :-D * ashley *

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Hi Ashley,

I am writing you today to ask you what i should do about my husband. You see he is about 20 years older than me, and well if you saw his dick you would know why i married him!! But he doesnt want to have sex anymore. What should i do to get him to want me more. i decided to ask you b/c you are young and probably get any guy you want. thanks for your help...Brooke L.

Well thanx for writing! I'm sorry to hear about your situation with your husband! I would try something new with your husband! Maybe get some new outfits to wear and wear them around him .... or try doing your make-up or hair different. Just something physical to spice things up! Show him you still got what he wants! Just be creative! Do whatever it takes! Well hope I helped and if you have anymore questions about anything feel free to drop them in my box! Good Luck!!! * ashley *

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OK I'm with a boi that I like but I am confused about us i mean i really care about him but then i have douts if i really like him or not so i dont know if i should just go on with the relationship or end it.

I know EXACTLY how you feel! I've been through the same thing. You really care for the guy but you have some doubts in the back of your head. I was going out with this guy and had those same doubts and I thought they would go away, but in the end they didn't and we broke-up b/c I didn't feel the same way about him as he felt for me. I think you should bring this up with the guy when yall are talkin and see how he really feels about you. Your doubts may go away but mine didn't. They just got worse, and if the guy really likes you and you don't like him the same you need to end it before it goes too far and you lead him on. Well hope I helped and if you have anymore questions about anything just feel free to drop them in my box! Hope everything turns out and please rate me! * ashley *

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Ok I just learned how to run the Laundry machine but the only thing is that when I dryed the clothes, they still smelt like the people who wore them, so is there any specific kinda soap to use and how much do I put in there?

~*Cleaning Ladie*~

When you dry them your suppost to put one of those smell things in there. I think they're called Fabric Softener. They make the clothes smell good. Hope I helped and if you have anymore questions feel free to drop them in my box! Please rate me! * ashley *

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dear ashley,
i am writing u today b/c me and my boyfriend are having difficulties. u see we love having sex and all but latley it is boring. and he always wants to do it but i dont know wat to do. cause i mean who wants to have sex every minuet of everyday?? umm...not me!!i just dont know wat is goin on. i mean i think i love this guy. but if all he wants is sex wat am i suppose to do please help me out!! thanks alot hun!!! confussed one!!

Thanx for writing! Now about your situation .... If I were you I would seriously talk to your boyfriend about this. Tell him how him always wanting to have sex makes you feel. I know you think you love him ... do you think he loves you??? If all he wants is sex then you need to dump this guy. I know it would be hard to do but you have to do what YOU think is right. But if he really does care for you then you need to stay with him! You just have to do what your heart says and follow it. But you HAVE to talk to your boyfriend about the sex situation and let him know how you feel! Hope I helped! Good Luck and if ya have anymore questions feel free to drop them in my box! * ashley *

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I went out with this guy. I knew he was a player and stuff. and a lot of grls liked him. But he liked me and asked me out. So about the first 3 days we were together he kissed another grl. but when i told him i didnt no if i want 2 b with him he threatened to kill himself. so i stayed with him.. later i found out that he fingered a grl and made out with her. but i still liked him a lot. Was i wrong for staying with him after the first tyme? am i worng for being his friend?

If I were you and found out he did anything with another girl I would have dumped him the minute I found out, but I know you stayed with him b/c you liked him alot. You will like him for a while, but you will evenually get over him. I know it's hard but you gotta stay strong. No your not wrong for being his friend, but it just makes it harder to be around him if you still like him. Try to stay a little distant from him if you can. Well hope I helped and please rate. If you have anymore ?s just feel free to drop them in my box!
* ashley *

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I look at a lot of the questions and then the answers they get..a lot of them have to do with sex..and a lot of the answers are saying it is okay as long as you use protection and you really "love" them. These are usually teens, like me, too! I agree with having safe sex and stuff but my main concern is the actual action of sex. Sex should be something special you share with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. At this age, it is very unlikely that you will stay together forever, no matter how well your relationship is going. Are there any people on this site waiting for marriage? Does anyone agree with me?

*Flabbergausted*
i like that word =P

Yes I agree with you! You should wait till marriage, but these days it rarely happens. Everyone feels they should do it because everyone else is doing it or they think they love the person. At our age it is rare for people to stay together forever. And yes there are alot of people asking questions about sex and sexual things. Everyone is really curious about the whole subject of sex. Well if you have any more questions feel free to slip them in my box.
* ashley *

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Sorry this is so long, but u need the whole story to understand.

About a week ago, I had sex with my boyfriend. The next day, i told my best friend about it. Since im only 14, she flipped out on me. She told me I was WAY too young and I was stupid for doing that. She made me promise I wouldn't do it again until I was older.

She has always said she will respect what I do even if I do mess up. But she didn't understand that.

A few days ago, I had sex with him again, and didn't tell her. I talked to her on the phone last night, and I accidently told her I had sex again, and she flipped out. She asked me a bunch of stupid questions, but I answered them. I also let it slip that I gave my first blow job. She REALLY got mad about that, so I told her I was kidding about it and I had never done that.

I want to tell her I did all that stuff, but im afraid she won't understand. Is there any easy way to tell her? or is it best just left alone?

Well there's really no easy way to tell your friend about all of this. You need to explain to your friend why you didn't want to tell her b/c you were afraid of how she would react. You also need to remind her that best friends are suppost to be the people you can trust not judge you b/c of something you did. You HAVE to tell your friend about all of this b/c if it slips out again she may get SOO mad where she doesn't want to be friends anymore b/c she thinks you hide stuff from her! Well I hope this helps and everything works out! Rate me if you want! * ashley *

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ok my ex boyfriend has been talking to me A LOT more then usual and trying to break me and my boyfriend up but my ex boyfriend brok eup with me so why would he wanna break me and my boyfriend up? and do you think my ex likes me?

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I think your ex boyfriend was jealous that you had another boyfriend! He doesn't want you to be happy b/c he's not happy or something like that! It's a possiblity that he doesn't still like you. That could be why he was doing that! If I were you I would talk to him about it. Hope this helps and please rate me! *ashley*

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ok so there's this guy who is a friend of my family and he comes to all our parties and holidays and stuff. last year he came on vacation with us and we hit it off and became really great friends. we started dating on valentines day and he was always so sweet and affectionate and caring. we talked online every day for hours and everytime i came home from school on weekends we hung out. it was hard for us since i was away at college but he always said things would be so much better when i graduated (in may). then all of a sudden he started acting distant and we stopped talking as much. he has a really stressful job so i believed him when he said he was just really busy. but now that i'm home he like NEVER talks to me and i dont understand what happened! but when i see him he acts like normal again and every once in a while he'll call me or something. its so weird. if it was any other guy i'd be like forget him...but i know we'll be seeing each other at family stuff anyway and i dont understand why he would want to throw away our friendship and everything! does anyone have any insight as to what i should do or what this means? should i tell him he's hurting me or just wait till he comes around again?

That's really weird! Maybe he thought you were talking bad about him or something. I don't really think he's just busy all the time. There has to be something wrong with him if he acts like that. YES you need to talk to him about it and tell him how this makes you feel! Don't wait till the next time you see him b/c then it may be too late! You really just need to tell the boy how you feel and see what's goin on with him! Hope this helps and everything gets better! Please rate me! * ashley *

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hey..im 13..5'4..and wiegh 140..is that fat? is that y guys dont like me?

No your not fat! Muscle weighs more than fat soo if you play sport or are active that's why! Guys are going to be guys! Just be yourself and don't worry about the guys! You'll find a good one! If a guy judges on just looks and not your personality then he's one of those guys out there nobody likes! Hope this helps! :-D * ashley *

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hey when my friend is on her period and she keeps telling me to do stuff forher and her excuses is always " I am on my perios and i dont feel good" and i cant help but do it for her cause i am just that good of a friend. Should i tell her to do it her damn self or keep on being a good friend?

I know you want to be a good friend but jeez how much are you gonna take??? It's ok to do stuff for her sometimes but all the time is a little overboard. I would only do stuff for her all the time if she did them in return if you were on your period and didn't feel good! Hope that helps and please rate me!

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I`m just curious..WHEN i decide to do it..and the guy has a huge dick..will it hurt like hell? Or is this somehow pleasurable? If the man i marry has a huge one..i wanna be able to have sex with him wihout being in tons of pain..im a virgin so i dont know what sex feels like.

Help me out? k thanks!

I'm a virgin too, but alot of my friends have done it so I know about some of this stuff. Of course for your first time it's going to hurt no matter what. If the guy is really big, then it's probably going to hurt a little more. I'm sure after awhile you'll get used to it, but only do it if your ready. Hope that helped!

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Who Is YoUr FAVORITE nEiCe In ThE wHoLe WiDe WoRlD?? :) and are you gonna miss me when i move away in 19 days?!?!?! :( :( :( *britt*

I dunno who that would be .... I don't have anyone goin to college in 19 days that I'm gonna miss .... JUST KIDDING! I guess I'll miss ya alittle but just alittle! LoL And NO sleeping with ANY ugly guys while your up there too missy!!! Find me some hott cowboy and bring em down here for me! :-D LoL well have fun in college and i'll miss ya! Call me alot too! Love Ya! ~~> your favorite auntie

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Okay there is this boy that i met a couple times but i mostly talk to him on the phone i wanna hang out wit him n get to knwo him n we both agreed on that well the first nite we were suppose to do something he was sick for the day the sec time he got hurt at work .. im not sure if he is just making this up or it really happen but like i said i sorta like this boy n wanna get to knwo him n hang out what do i say to him for him to see it

Do you really believe that he keeps getting hurt/sick? If I were you I would ask the boy about this! You just need to tell him how you feel about him! Things always work out for the best! *ashley*

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ok..im not extemely popular..i`d say im in the middle. Well anyway theres a guy..we went out..then broke up.
Lately ivve ben so lonely that ive been thinking of getting backk together with him...maybe just to hook up. I think he`d be fine with this idea..but I dont want it getting around. i dont want ppl to know WHAT we will do..or that i did it with him. Ive had bad experiences with this kinda stuff getting around school. Give me advice on wat to do? Thanks

Well it's your decision what you do and it's really nobody's elses business but your own. If you and the guy choose to go back out then thats yalls choice. No matter what happens people are always going to talk! Just don't listen to what people say! Do what YOU wanna do and if your worried about stuff getting around school.... just tell the guy not to say anything if yall do anything/if yall have done stuff! You should at least be able to trust the guy!

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ok so theres this guy who said he liked me and i was like totaly excited and ya no how it is so yea he asked me out but then was like were not going out and then was like we are so i just ignored him for the last 2 months and i just recently started talkin to him again and we've been talkin and well now he keeps say he loves me and i dont believe him cause of last time adn hes always saying this when hes at a friends house but he dose it at his too but hes more calm about it...i dont trust him and i really dont believe he likes me but some of my friends do! OH and also hes gone through all my friends well most of them saying he wants to "hang out" which i no means more cause of what was said to me by him...ugh i have no idea what to do and i dont want to talk to him about it cuase its like AHHHHHH lol what should i do!?!?!?!?!?


HELP
BB

I would first say go for it with the guy but then you said he has been through all of your friends. That's a tough decision for you to make. As much as you don't want to talk to him about it, I really think you should because it's the only way you will know forsure what he's thinking. Ask him what the deal was with the first time ya'll were going out, why he always wants to hang out now, if he really means the "i love you"s.. stuff like that! Just let him know how you're feeling and what you think about all of this! In the end things will turn out for the best! Good luck and hope everything works out the way you want it too!

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