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There is a long story behind this, but basically I had drunken sex that I didnt want to happen so it could be called rape, but its a whole messy story.

But anyway, onto my question. I was on the last day of my period. My period had stopped earlier on in the day. I don't even know whether the boy wrapped it up or not, and just the THOUGHT of him makes me want to vomit, so I'm not asking him. I wasnt on any birth control because I use the ring - and you take that out for the week you're on your period. I've been vomitting and feeling sick to stomach all the time since then (which was Friday night) and I can't eat. How possible do you guys think it is that I'm pregnant? And should I wait to take a pregnancy test or should I just take one now? 17/F

You would not be feeling pregnancy syptoms this early if you were. Second the chances of you becoming pregnant the day after your period is very unlikely. There is a small possiblitly but ver very small. You will have to wait until you miss your next period for anything to show up on a test anyway. Wait a month and if no period test. As far as STDs go I would def see a doctor when you can. Good luck with this.

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I had an boyfriend in 6th grade but he left for Canada. But before he left (like 2 months before) We has a huge physical fight. I talk to him like 3 times a week on MSN and i totaly forgive him. I love hime and he loves me and i'm planning to move to where he is. But the problem is, his absece has made me depressed, i love him so much!! And my school grades have dropped significantly.. is there any way to cure that missing ingredient??

Find a new man who won't hit you. Dont stand for that behavior. You are worth better, Any man who hits a women does not love them like they deserve to be loved.

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My boyfriend (22) and I (20) have been together for over two years now and we've celebrated many holidays together. For my birthday, he got me a Dooney and Bourke purse and for Christmas, he bought me a Tiffany's bracelet! He has bought me many gifts that I have loved, and I thought this was great, because he knew my taste and what I would like!! I recently found out that his mom has been telling him what he should get me for these holidays. It kind of hurts my feelings because it makes me feel like he doesn't know me very well at all. He just goes to his mom to find out what he should get me. I have a feeling that someday, she's gonna pick out the ring he should propose to me with!! I hate this!! I want him to pick out this for me himself!! What should I do about this?

Get over yourself......Your boyfriend is taking the time to go and ask what you like...which means he is taking the time to learn about you. There are men who just dont care and even forget. Count your blessings and stop complaining.

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So, just for kicks, I want to video tape my friend acting stupid. She's one of those real proper types who hardly ever acts crazy. So when she does it's really a sight to see.

So my question is.. How do I hide my digital camera so that she wont notice it?

Oh and dont worry, this is all in good fun. I would never do anything to intentially hurt her.

Unlike a lot of others, I rate! So please respond!

Just keep in Mind it is illegal to video tape someone with out there consent. Just make sure she isnt the type to get really mad. She could press charges if she is. Just a warning.

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What do you guys think of a 18-year-old(f) dating a 24-year-old(m). And don't give any of that "age doesn't matter crap" bcasue it does. What do yall think of the maturity levels?

The biggest problem I see... The 18-year-old is still a freshman in college and the 24-year-old graduated 2 years ago.

There are 2 consending adults. I am 22 and my BF is 26. if she was under 18 and in high school then there would be a problem. I think its ok leagaly and moraly.

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Alright, I'm letting you all know right now this is going to be lengthy. Over a year ago, I was dating this guy and we broke up after 4 months of dating because of problems and whatnot. I found out after we broke up that he was doing so many things behind my back like smoking pot (I'm disgusted by that) having sex with other girls, touching other girls at school, etc. We broke up, I moved on then came summer and then my first year of highschool. A long lost friend I guess you could say, met up with me and told me she met this GREAT guy and told me his name. I told her that he was an asshole he treats girls like crap don't date him he'll break your heart, yadda yadda yadda. They dated for about 2 months and broke up because shockingly enough, he was cheating on her. She came to me apologized for being a bitch and not listening to me and I forgave her. Now, about a week after they broke up I found out that he was trying to hook up with some girl. She's an innocent girl and a complete sweetheart that should not be dating a guy like him. I told her how he was and she didn't believe me. I have been trying to prove for the longest time to her (they're still dating, it's been 5 months) that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. So I got one of my friends to act as if she had a crush on him and talk to him online and see what his reaction would be. Sure enough, he accepted the offer of getting head from her, making out with her, and even getting sex from her. We saved the conversation and printed it out and showed it to her the next day. She didn't believe a word of it, so she showed it to him and his excuse was that his friend was over and they were just joking around. My friend pulled out her cellphone and read off a number and said "Is this you're boyfriend's cell phone number?" and sure enough, it was. After that day, he IMed her and said this "Baby, why'd you have to start shit today, I didn't want her knowing about that!" Which proves my point that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. I'm fed up with trying to deal with her not believing me. But it bothers me so bad that he's doing all this to her! She hates my guts because she claims I'm trying to break them up and me and a good friend of hers almost got into a fight (fists, hair pulling, slapping.. typical girl fight). I decided not to even bother anymore, but I feel so horrible just sitting here, seeing what he's doing to her and not being able to do ANYTHING about it because she won't belive me! I think that now she's begining to see what he's doing to her but I really don't want to forgive her for what she put me through. Should I keep trying to point out the blaitenly obvious? Or should I let her figure it out on her own? IF she ever figures it out and they break up and she comes crying to me, what should I do? I don't want to forgive her! Please help, this is so confusing for me. Sorry it was so long.

Not to sound mean...But this is not your bussiness. She needs to learn on her own time. And if he continues with this behaveior she will learn. He is a scumbag, but you never know maybe she dosent care. I say stay out of it. let it be. He's not your man, she's not your girl friend. they are on there own. Just keep peace and it will come out in its own time. Good luck

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What stocks should I buy?

MacDermid Inc Stocks....Look into it trust me it will be worth it down the road.

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Next week im flying to Hawaii alone in an aircraft, but i have a phobia for planes and i don't want to panic during the flight or cry. I can go on airplanes thats not a problem but im just scared. Does anyone know how to get rid of the phobia

Valum

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I'm really skinny, especially my arms. I wanna build muscle in them, especially in my wrists cuz my wrists are so small and they make my arms look akward. What are some good excercises to build muscle in my arms? Thanks!

Free weights

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okay..I know that this is bad and stuff but I just really need advice--quick! On sunday night i drank about a quarter of a bottle of beer, a few sips of sangria and like a cup of vodka..I am going to the doctor for a check-up on thursday and i'll be getting blood taken, will any of the alcohol be in my body still, and if so will it be shown when my blood is taken? (i'm 5'0'' and 100 lbs)

sweetie no it wont show up. And if you have to ask a question like that then you should not be drinking. Or you should learn more about the effects before you start.

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Today i found out from alot of people that my boyfriends been cheating on me with this girl that i absolutly hate and wen i asked my boyfriend about it he sed it wasnt true and they are lying to me, but i dont know wether to trust him or not because he has cheated on me before and tryed to hide it but i found out and idk why but i let it slide (plz noone give me a lecture on that). His bestfriend even told me that which is why im questioning him but he keeps on saying its not true. I dont know what to do, should i break up with him even though hes saying it not true or should i stay with him? someone please help me! btw me and him are both 15 and weve been together for 10 months, and we also dont go to the same school. thanks for your helf

Track him down....get sneaky....Catch him in the act then make your desion weather or not you want to be with him. Dont rely on rummors to be true. See it with your own eyes before you go acusing.

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ok... me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and we still haven't had sex... i am a virgin but he isnt, he has had sex 3 times. I am afraid that i am really tight down there and that either it wont fit or its really going to hurt. my friend said not to worry about it but i am freaking out and tomorrow i am going ova his house because its our 1 year and we are going to be home alone, and he is already brought up like hints that he wants to do it... i am soo scared... PLEASE HELP !!!

2 Words KY Jelly

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I am thinking about dating this Christian, even though I am not religious. Please dont tell me not to care what his religion is-because I don't. I just want to know other people's opinions on christians. I want to know how they act and how other people view them. Thank you!

It all depends if they are very devoted to there religion or if there parents just make them go. I am christian but I dont go to church and I dont practice anymore. I dont see anything wrong with them as long as there not preaching all the time.

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im 17 and when i go to have sex with my girlfriend
my penis goes soft and have trouble getting it in
this has happened a couple of times and its a bit worrying my penis is not real big could that be the problem what can i do?

its not the size that matters. Its the motion in the ocean.

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I am a 66 year old woman that is allergic to cats and dogs and many other things.My daughter age 40
and grandaughter age 23 have dogs in their homes.I cant' go visit them.I can't afford the doctor bill everytime I visit them we are on soc. sec.My question is should I just put them out of my life or just have a phone relationship
with them? I can go and stand outside the house and talk. I am really depressed over this.I feel like they care more for the dogs then they do me.I raised the 23 year old grandaughter. Now my daughter has a 5 year old that I don't get to see very much.

Why dont you talk with them and have them come visit you. If you are not able to see them because of health issues they should understand and be willing to come visit you. I think you should make a phone call and talk about this with your family. Best of luck.

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Hey I'm going to New York for my birthday and I want to go shopping there...does anyone know what the good stores are there? Also, I want to go vintage shopping there, but I don't want to spend a fortune..anyone know some good shops there?

H&M they have the most awsome clothing at amazing prices. When I lived up north I shopped there all the time. Go Online and check them out. They have 2 locations in NYC. Good Luck and Happy Birthday

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My mom and I spent the whole day together. That's not the point. We went somewhere to visit family and when we came home, I went in my room to get away, to relax. So she goes in the living room and sits down on her fat ass.. and conviniently starts ordering me to do things. I was sitting her, we had gotten home like 15 minutes prior to this. I told her I would do it in a bit but she proceeded to yell at me to do it. So the very last time she yelled at me, these were her words: "If you're not fucking out here in 5 damn minutes, I'm kicking your ass off the computer." So in return, I told her to shut up. Not even yelling, it was to myself, and she overhead. So she came to take my danm cellphone, the phone I bought with my money, and pay for with my money, and for some reason she believes she has owenership over because its in her name. BULLSHIT. I'm so pissed I'm hitting shit now.. I want to hit her. Please help.

Sweetheart I know your going to hate to hear this, I know I did when I was around your age. But Thats your Mother, she has the right to take away privlages. A phone and a computer are privlages. If you are not doing what you are told there are consequnses. When you get older and have a full time job are you going to talk to your boss like that when he askes you to do something. If so then expect to not have a job. She is teaching you a valuable lesson in respect. I know your pissed now. But understand when you have kids you will think totaly different. Try turning it around. put yourself in her possition. If you asked someone to do something for you and they gave you an attitude wouldnt you have the same reaction as mom. Remember she is the only one you will ever have. Love her and respect. And talk about what makes you upset. Communication is a huge part of Life.

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Hey, I'm 13 in eighth grade, and this Saturday on October 30th, there will be a Junior High Halloween Dance. I need a costume idea, but I go to a Catholic school, so we can't have "vulgar", "revealing", or "gorey" costumes, as my principal says. I want to dress girly, and I want people to be like "Whoa, that is a great costume!" I'm not sure if this would help, but I have red hair that's down to the ends of my shoulder blades and white skin. Any ideas? Thanks I'd really appreciate it.

P.S. PLEASE don't suggest I dress up as Little Orphan Annie.

red hair huh..........Go with pipy long stockings

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Ok everyone. I a having a problem, and I don’t know how to deal with it. Last night I was out with the girls, and I was depressed, with absolutely no reason to be depressed, I even had an energy drink which normally makes me crazy, but I was all staring out the window. I am not having guy problems, cuz me and my bf have a past and are back together. And he kissed me for the first time a few days ago and I see him everyday and he makes me happy. My home life is better than It has been, I have NO REASON to be depressed, but I am. A friend said maybe I am so overwhelmed with love for him that my body is overtaken by the love and happiness that my body cant handle it and I go into a depression…is that possible? Or is there maybe something else causing it? Please help me in any way you can. If your advice is good, I will rate you.

How old are you? It maybe PMS You get all sorts of different feeling when your about to get your period. It could be that. Are you on any meds? Could be that too. If you need anymore info please feel free to write to me.
Thanks

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I know that I might sound a little jealous or over protective but just put yourself in my shoes for a minute.... Ok my boyfriend cheated on me a couple weeks ago and I gave him another chance, but I can't trust him anymore, Well tonite he is goin over to his ex-girlfriends house to help her with her "homework", i am really worried and I am also scared.. I was messing around and asked him if I said it was ok if he would do something with his ex and he said hell ya and I said well im not giving you permission. But do you really think that is going to stop him? Any ways i am really confused.. if you help me I will definetly rate you!! thanks

Sweetie if you dont have trust then you shouldn't have the relationship. I say leave him and find someone you can trust.

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