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She doesn't believe me!
Alright, I'm letting you all know right now this is going to be lengthy. Over a year ago, I was dating this guy and we broke up after 4 months of dating because of problems and whatnot. I found out after we broke up that he was doing so many things behind my back like smoking pot (I'm disgusted by that) having sex with other girls, touching other girls at school, etc. We broke up, I moved on then came summer and then my first year of highschool. A long lost friend I guess you could say, met up with me and told me she met this GREAT guy and told me his name. I told her that he was an asshole he treats girls like crap don't date him he'll break your heart, yadda yadda yadda. They dated for about 2 months and broke up because shockingly enough, he was cheating on her. She came to me apologized for being a bitch and not listening to me and I forgave her. Now, about a week after they broke up I found out that he was trying to hook up with some girl. She's an innocent girl and a complete sweetheart that should not be dating a guy like him. I told her how he was and she didn't believe me. I have been trying to prove for the longest time to her (they're still dating, it's been 5 months) that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. So I got one of my friends to act as if she had a crush on him and talk to him online and see what his reaction would be. Sure enough, he accepted the offer of getting head from her, making out with her, and even getting sex from her. We saved the conversation and printed it out and showed it to her the next day. She didn't believe a word of it, so she showed it to him and his excuse was that his friend was over and they were just joking around. My friend pulled out her cellphone and read off a number and said "Is this you're boyfriend's cell phone number?" and sure enough, it was. After that day, he IMed her and said this "Baby, why'd you have to start shit today, I didn't want her knowing about that!" Which proves my point that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. I'm fed up with trying to deal with her not believing me. But it bothers me so bad that he's doing all this to her! She hates my guts because she claims I'm trying to break them up and me and a good friend of hers almost got into a fight (fists, hair pulling, slapping.. typical girl fight). I decided not to even bother anymore, but I feel so horrible just sitting here, seeing what he's doing to her and not being able to do ANYTHING about it because she won't belive me! I think that now she's begining to see what he's doing to her but I really don't want to forgive her for what she put me through. Should I keep trying to point out the blaitenly obvious? Or should I let her figure it out on her own? IF she ever figures it out and they break up and she comes crying to me, what should I do? I don't want to forgive her! Please help, this is so confusing for me. Sorry it was so long.
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Not to sound mean...But this is not your bussiness. She needs to learn on her own time. And if he continues with this behaveior she will learn. He is a scumbag, but you never know maybe she dosent care. I say stay out of it. let it be. He's not your man, she's not your girl friend. they are on there own. Just keep peace and it will come out in its own time. Good luck
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You have every right to be mad. I would not be the happiest girl aloive if mine ever did that to me. The best thing I can tell you is that you have to let her figure it out on her own. In the mean time try mending the torn friendship. Just tell her that you were wrong even though you so know that you are not. Become close friends with her again so that atleast when the little bastard does ruin her life you can be there for her to fall back on. Also, you can be close to her so that if he ever tries to get her to have sex you can tell her not to that it is not worth risking pregnancy. The best thing that you can do now is try to help her with the relationship. So that she won't get crushed as hard when the time come. Even though you don't want to forgive her and she may be the biggest bitch you ever knew I would rather help the bitch so she doesnt get pregnant then watch her suffer with the hurt of gettin dumbed and possibly being pregnant. Sometimes you have to take the harder path it will pay off in the end. You will have to put up with a lot but just think about the day when he dumps her and you are the only one that she has to be there for her. If you dont think that that will work then you maybe as a last resort just tell her to come to this site explain the situation to some people and then we can all comment on it. Maybe then she will realize that you could have some knowledge. Don't get to stressed out and just be happy that you are not the one that is blin to the relationship anymore. Wish you luck
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let her figure it out. you tried to help but she didn't listen. she needs to make her own mistakes and learn from them.
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