Alin75's advice column | Page 44

home view feedback ask questions add as friend advicenators

Gender:

Male

Location:

Denmark

Occupation:

Translator

Age:

43

Member Since:

November 28, 2004

Answers:

1296

Last Update:

April 28, 2014

Visitors:

136780

Favorite Columnists

Main Categories:

about

advice

Help! My dog at a choclate Ho Ho! It was not the brand name Ho Ho however same thing. She only got ahold of one of them. I called the company and they said that it was a little under 1oz for what she ate. I have been looking online and I am seeing some places saying it could kill her and others saying it will make her sick. I am really worried! Does anyone know? She is not acting any different. She is about 15 lbs. I also do not know what category of choclate this would be under. I know it is not Bakers however that is it.; I called the company and they said that they could not help me! Please help!

Thanks,

Nothing wrong with everyones advice. Definately keep a close eye on your doggy. However, she is very likely just fine. I have seen dogs eat a lot more chocolate than that and have no problem. I think to kill a dog you need a fair amount of that dark potent cooking chocolate. At least thats what a I heard from a dog trainer.

Point being stay alert, but I dont think you need to worry about a thing.

So, I just gave my best friend a blow job. It only took like a minute for him to cum, is that normal? Does that mean I'm just that good? Or just he was really horny? Or that it was his first blowjob, or a mix of those?

None of the above, all of the above, some of the above. Impossible to tell if it was one or more of the options you listed, or a whole new option altogether (e.g. he is one of those guys that finishes really quickly). Most likely its just a question of age and being very exited.

I need some help, i have herd alot that starveing yourself to lose weight doesn't work, but i have also herd that thats how the celeberties stay so skinny.I already know that starving yourself is vary bad for your body, so don't bother telling how dangerouse it is.I just want a yes, or no answer on wether or not it works, also i have been dieting for a wile, i run of the tredmeal every day for a hour and i have been eating healthy foods.But i haven't lost eny weight and i still look the same, i have been doing this for 3 weeks, what am i doing wrong?

Ok question 1 first. It depends what you mean by "works". Do you lose weight? Of course you do. But bear in mind that it will be muscle that you lose first and then fat. Also you will do damage to your metabolism making weight gain very easy once you begin to eat normally again. So the answer I guess is "yes" though if you are considering it, why not take the even easier weight loss solution... sawing off part of your body, its even quicker :)

If you arent losing weight from what you are doing, you are very likely doing some of the follwing things wrong:
1. Still eating too many calories
2. Eating too rarely (remember 4-6 small balanced meals a day evenly spaced every 3-4 hours or so)
3. Eating the wrong things- for one thing make sure you eliminate most saturated fats. Similarly make sure you get your daily needs of essential fatty acids, particularly omega 3(from things like oily fish, flax seed oil, walnuts etc). Also make sure you eat plenty of protein. Most of the meals should be based around a good lean protein source such as skinless chicken/turkey, tuna, lean beef, cottage cheese etc.

Calculate your calorie needs and create a 500 cal deficit every day. Divide your remaining calories evenly among your meals and see if this doesnt help. Heres a cal calculator:

http://www.stevenscreek.com/goodies/calories.shtml

Good luck

do you guys know any motivating like pumping up songs i can lisiten to when im at the gym?

This is one you wont hear too often, but for me nothing motivates like Manowar. I am convinced that if they would play that at the gym everyone would be able to lift 20% more...

so today, this kid told me he went to the bathroom and got stoned..and its true he did cause he was acting really weird and his face was all messed up when he got back. But i just don't understand how he could do that and not get caught or how he was able to do that in the bathroom, or like what he was getting stonned on?

Stoned is usually only used to refer to derivatives of marijuana (e.g. hash, canabis etc). I.e. not the hard drugs.

In my school we didnt have smoke detectors in the bathroom so getting away with something like that would have been really easy I guess. Just crack open a window and hope no one walks in...

Its hard to stop someone when they are stoned. Its much easier to spot a drunk person since alcohol hits so much harder. If you didnt know he had smoked up, do you think you would have noticed?

My boyfriend is 42 and I am 29. We have a great relationship except for the fact that he is into alot of porn and recently i looked at his computer and he was on a website called hornymatches.He put in his profie that he is looking for casual sex. i was shocked he has a lot of female friends and he feels like the sex on the net is an escape. he said he would give it up but i have set up spyware on his computer and he is still checking those sites, little does he know i have changed his profile to say that he is gay!!! ha ha i am a very attractive woman and he is older, do you think he will cheat eventually? i guess looks arent everything, he assures me he will never cheat and i am going out of my mind and doing alot of investigating and worrying. HELP

I agree completely with Razhie's answer. All else aside, what is the "casual sex" thing doing on his profile?

I am not sure I am too fond about the way you are going about this either. Apart from the invasion of privacy issues it also feels as though you are beating away at the symptoms rather than the disease. If he is going to cheat, changing his profile to "gay" will delay it a bit thats all.

I cant really say what the correct course of action is. Frankly I cant really figure out how he managed to talk his way out of things when you confronted him (about the ad he posted). I mean, you had it in writting, the man is actively looking for "casual sex". Seems like all the proof in the world doesnt it?

not to offend anyone. but if youre a virgin right, and then like you get raped.. and then later on you were asked if youre a virgin or not, would you say yes or no?

I am no expert but I cant see how one can still qualify to be a virgin. The answer in my opinion is (regretfully) no.

I resently gained like 20 pounds, i am 13/f 5 foot and 130 pound, i know thats fat.All my sisters make fun of me and call me fatty-mic-fat-fat beacuse they are all vary skinny and beautiful even my parents and friends make fun of me.So i started to eat less and run on the tredmeal every day for a hour but after a wile i desided i would way myself and see how much have lost but i only gained a pound,No matter what do i can't seem to lose weight and now the people at my shcool are tonting me.I don't think i am old anoff to buy eny dieting pills thoughs (how old do you have to be to do that?).What should i do i really whan to ose weight but no matter what i try i can't.

You know if you use the search funtion you can find tons of questions very similar to yours. Anyway, heres a few diet tips:

1. Eat 4-6 small meals every day evenly spaced every 3-4 hours or so. This is very important for your metabolism. Divide your calories more or less evenly between these meals, though eating a bit more before periods of activity and a bit less before periods of rest.
2. Eat balanced meals and drink lots of water
3. Avoid saturated fats and things that have sugar added (that takes care of most of the "crap" one eats). Note most of the "bad" fats come from animal products (fatty meats, cheeses, etc). Read the labels.
4. Make sure you get enough protein. Base your meals around a good protein source like skinlees chicken/turkey, cottage cheese, tuna etc. A meal could thus be 200g cottage cheese, an apple and a small handful of walnuts, or it might be 150g of skinless chicken breast, a salad made with a good oil and 50g of pasta. Note that the actual size of the portions should be determined by your calorie count.

Heres a calorie calculator. These things are never totally accurate in my opinion, but it will give you a good start.
http://www.stevenscreek.com/goodies/calories.shtml

Aim to eat 500 calories less than you burn every day. So figure out your total, subtract 500 and then divide the remainder by 5 (or however many meals you have that day). You can get a feel for this by trial and error, but doing it mathematically can help at the beginning.

As for exercise, anything is good, however I think a combination of cardio and weights is best. When you do cardios like running, its best done in the morning before breakfast.

You are best off avoiding diet pills. Proper diet and exercise is a better more sustainable option.

Good luck.

13/M

Hey, i know this is kind of weird but... one day i was at my gf's house and she wanted to give me a handjob but i was to nervous because i thought my penis was to small. What would the normal size be for someone my age? right now mines 5 1/2 inches.
Thanks for helping me.

You are perfectly normal, nothing to worry about.

what are some things to lower your risk to heart attacks.. like not smoking?

Here is a link I dug up:

http://www.hsibaltimore.com/ealerts/ea200201/ea20020128.html

It gives you a very comprehensive diet description as well as the usual advice (e.g. exercise).

In other studies I have read about aspirin was another supplement that would lower the risk. As far as I know thats pretty much accepted. Another study, which I am not sure how comprehensive or generraly accepted it is, showed that eating walnuts regularly also significantly reduced the risk of all sorts of heart problems.

do guys like it better when your completely shaved down there? thankss.

I certainly dont. However these days I think I find myself in the minority.

What does it mean when a guy call you and said, "Wanting to see you" when he's drunk?

Does he like you or just horny?

Actually it could be either. It depends on the situation and the guy. While drinking does make one more "horny", it also provides a sense of courage. So, if the guy liked you and was the kind of guy that was too embarrassed to call you before, he might suddenly find the courage when under influence.

I dont know this guy so its hard to make that assesment. Usually though one can tell from the guy quite easily. If he is the player type... horny. If he wants to see you right then and there (not lets make a date next Friday for example) then also probably horny.

What is the best diet to be on?

Everyones diet will vary depending on their activity level, weight, needs (i.e. are you looking to slim down, bulk up, or stay where you are) etc.

The only answer to give here that is general enough to fulfill all the criteria is "a balanced diet". This means no diets that eliminate macronutrients (like no carb or no fat diets for example). The most common recommendation these days seems to be a 40-40-20 distribution of calories between protein- carbs- fats (where protein and carbs have 4 calories per gram and fats have 9).

Generally avoid saturated fats, things with sugar added to them, processed foods etc. Eat plenty of veggetables and drink a lot of water.

If you are looking to lose weight, eat 500 cals or so below what you burn. If you are looking to bulk you need a calorie surplus.

In general terms, as you have phrased this question, thats about all I can say.

For over a year now i have been trying to lose weight but nothing i try works.I hsve hiven up eating all the foods i love and have even started to work out more, but nothing happins.I would give enything to skiny but i am starting to dout the will ever happin.What should i do?

Well, have you tried doing it mathematically. Determine how many calories you burn in a day, and then subract 500 or so from your diet. This of course means counting everything you eat. Normally I think this is going overboard, but in your case it might be neccessary.

Also, join a gym and try to do a combination of weight training and cardio (one weights, one day cardio usually works quite nicely). For best results, do the cardio in the morning before breakfast.

Now, as for your diet. I am not sure how you are eating, but here are some general tips on getting the most out of your meals:

1. Eat 4-6 small meals every day evenly spaced every 3-4 hours or so. This is very important for your metabolism. Divide your calories more or less evenly between these meals, though eating a bit more before periods of activity and a bit less before periods of rest.
2. Eat balanced meals and drink lots of water
3. Avoid saturated fats and things that have sugar added (that takes care of most of the "crap" one eats)
4. Make sure you get enough protein. Base your meals around a good protein source like skinlees chicken/turkey, cottage cheese, tuna etc. A meal could thus be 200g cottage cheese, an apple and a small handful of walnuts, or it might be 150g of skinless chicken breast, a salad made with a good oil and 50g of pasta. Note that the actuall size of the portions should be determined by your calorie count if you dont feel you are able to succeed through trial and error.

Heres a calorie calculator. These things are never totally accurate in my opinion, but it will give you a good start.

http://www.stevenscreek.com/goodies/calories.shtml

Good luck

does anyone know what a pube is?
my friends say it and i just nod my head like i kno. lol but i dont sooo anyone care to fill me in ?

AND WHATS A KEG FOR CHRIST SAKE?

Pubes were properly defined below (i.e. pubic hair).

A keg is a container for beer. Its like a metal barrel.

Edit: A quick check on wikipedia let me know that in fact a keg is also used for other drinks... just like me to only think of beer. Anyway heres a link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keg

ok. so i want a flatter stomcach. and everyones liek ohh do crunches and stuff.

but then some people are like well wouldnt that just build muscle under your stomach? so you'll get fatter?

Ok, this is a very relevant question considering the stuff that is written on this site.

So here goes... Crunches will not in any way whatsoever make the fat go away from your stomach. I have read the answers below, and the vast majority of the stuff written (with the exception of the person directly below me) is not correct.

Without a negative calorie balance you arent losing weight from anywhere. With a negative calorie balance you are losing fat from your entire body. You cannot direct (or "spot reduce")this fat loss to an area. Unfortunatly its our genes that decide if an area is emphasised.

So, where crunches come in is really to shape your stomach, once you have lost the fat through other means. If you still have stomach fat then you will just build up muscle under this fat.

There is a really bad myth going around advicenators, that humans can somehow spot reduce fat. "I want thinner thighs" or "I want slimmer legs" are answered with "do squats or lunges", much like crunches are prescribed for thinner bellies. This is simply not the way things work.

So, if you want a flat stomach check your diet first and foremost. Then look into adding cardio to help the calorie balance. Then, if you want a defined six pack, look into crunches and things like that.

I'm taking a poll and I'm curious what people think the most spoken language is. Don't search the site or look at other people's answers and see. I want what YOU think.

This is a difficult one because you havent stated "as a first language". I am pretty sure that Chinese would feature as nr1 for first language. However, when looking at the overall "most spoken" (as a 2nd language as well)I would expect English to be nr1.

How do you play hard to get without making you seem "too hard to get"?

As a guy I agree wholeheartedly with the answer below. Sure, there will be some guys who get a thrill out of the extra chase or whatever... but then there are the rest of us that figure its time we move on (or worse, realise the girl is playing games and develop a real dislike towards her). Life would be so much easier and more pleasant if people didnt play games with one another imo.

Anyway, I definately agree with below, be yourself in all respects. Then the guy also knows what he is getting... improves the chances of the relationship working if you ask me.

ok im 14/f
and i need helpp!!
im 5'5 and im like around 110 pounds ( im not really sure cuz i havent weighed myself in a while)..
but anyways..
my bf is like 5'6 and he only weighs 100 pounds
and i think its really weird that he is soo much skinnier than i am..
so like what should i do?
and what are some good ways to lose weight fast?

thanks xo

EDIT (my apologies if I was a bit harsh with the earlier answer): Anyway, if you really think you need it (it really does not look that way by looking at the numbers). This kind of question I have answered many times, so I will just link you to a similar question:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=447735

Its a pretty long answer. The bare bones are, eat often, eat balanced meals, eliminate most saturated fats, eat moderate on carbs, exercise drink plenty of water, eliminate junk foods and other similar crap, etc.

In the link there is a calorie calculator. Also there are meal examples. In your case, since you are a pretty small person, you will probably need to cut the portions down. Use the calorie counter to determine how much to eat per meal.

For your boyfriend I recommend pumping weights at the gym and a good bulking program. A few pounds of lean muscle wouldnt hurt the guy :)

It's stated in the koran: "Forbidden to you (for food) are: dead meat, blood, the flesh of swine"

So when it says dead meat does it mean just the swine or it also refers to any other animals?

And also, does islam prohibit eating chicken?

I cant comment on the actual wording of the Koran. However, from my Muslim friends I have learned that they can eat all kinds of meat (except pork) providing that this meat is halal. Basically the blood is drained out of the animal in a specific way. Perhaps the "dead meat" thing is a bad or incomplete translation.

So chicken is ok, as is beef, lamb, other kinds of birds etc.

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>