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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

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hello i am 16yrs old and me and my boyfriend have been dating your about 2yrs and he said i should go on the pill just in case it happens and i told him that i wanted to wait until marriage to have sex but he like always carries a condom and i am scared he mit prssure me into doing it and i even sat him down and talked to him about it and he bought me a loundry outfit from victorias secret for my bday and i am getting kinda scared please anyone help me thank you!

Do not feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do.

Tell your boyfriend you want to wait until marriage to have sex, which is really honorable.

If he can't accept that, he's probably not worth it anyway.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i am a big history buff! and i like to talk about history where on rhe web is a good place to talk live about history?

http://www.google.com/Top/Society/History/Chats_and_Forums/

http://members.tripod.com/~Erala/historychat.html

Enjoy!

--Jack
(17/m)

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me and my friend sally have always been really big fans of energy drinks. i was wondering where you could find crunk juice..and if anyone knows of any stores...please help!!!!!!

Meijer or Wal-Mart should have them.

But, if all else fails, try gas stations, like Laura said.

--Jack
(17/m)

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josh decided he would choose between me and kelsey but he would need a couple days because he liked us both. i finally talked to him and he said he was sticking with kelsey...so once again he led me on and broke my heart! its so hard to find the right boy, should i just give up on him?

"So once again he led me on..."

He's done this before?

This guy is NOT worth it. Definitely give up on him. You should find someone who won't put you up to a choice against another girl.

There are plenty of guys who will treat you right, unlike Josh.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey i was kept shut or silent for 3 days now.. I'm not talking to anyone, neither to my parents.. I didn't check my phone and i don't care who i lose contact with.. can you tell me what's happening??

Hmm, maybe you're just.. in the mood to be alone for awhile.

It's alright, I guess.

But communication with other humans is kind of vital to life. I wouldn't go too much longer.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey. i think i need a good advice on this. I've suddenly stopped any contact or communication with my friends except for my best bud. I started to get interested with high-end fashion.. I have this "i don't care what you may think" attitude. Before, i was this nice girl who never dared to lose contact or be sweet with my friends, i was so concervative that i never had a taste for heels or skirts... but i think i got tired and i suddenly wanted to be left alone and do things my way. I had this friend who was so overly-dramatic, she's a great pal but i suddenly told her to just FORGET ABOUT ME and move on.. The boys who were eyeing me and who i constantly texted, now i just ignore them..

What's got into me? Really, why the sudden change of my persona?? I'm really confused..

I don't want to be left alone but why do i feel this??

Teenage crisis, perhaps?

I'm not sure. If you are upset you've stopped talking to all of your friends, maybe let them know that something's changed about you and you're trying to figure it out, and that you're sorry about not talking to them.

If you don't want to talk to them, then I guess there's really no advice to give other than to just keep on doing what you're doing.

--Jack
(17/m)

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18/f. Hey everyone.

A few months ago "one of my supposedly best friends" and my other "really good friends" all started these nasty rumors about me and were calling me names such as; slut, whore, skank, waste of time, waste of breath, never important, etc. I mean I was getting restricted phone calls, instant messages, text messages, messages on facebook/myspace from all these different people. I was getting verbally harassed for about 2 weeks. I'm not getting into the rumors because thats besides the point and they weren't true no matter how many times I told them, they didn't believe me. I do nothing to them, I ignore them. I don't spread rumors about them. I want NOTHING to do with them anymore. They are totally out of my life, for good.


Anyways, my current best friend (whom I have been friends with since 1st grade) stuck up for me and was telling the girls that it wasn't true. (Like a best friend should do.) But she still talks to those girls and she still hangs out with them. I can't tell her who she can and can not talk to because thats not fair to her. You know? But she says she doesn't like to hang out with them because they are immature and full of drama. Yet, last weekend she went to a party with them. There was drinking involved and you never know what was said at that party about me. Because even though it's been around 8 months, the girls still talk about me and how the rumors are true. I hear about it every so often. And you never know what was being said about me because alcohol brings out truth and whatnot, you know? You don't know who said what or what was said, etc.

Anyway, now my current best friend is leaving these girls comments on their facebooks saying how they all need to hang out again, it was so much fun, etc. She knows I can't stand these girls for what they did to me and yet she still talks to them. It hurts my feelings how she does still hang out with them. I wouldn't do that to her, even if they did nothing to me, that's just how I am. If someone messes with my friend, they have to deal with me. I tried telling her that it hurts my feelings that she still hangs out with them and talks to them, but she doesn't do anything about it. I don't know what else to do.


I don't even know what question I'm asking you guys, that's how confused I am. Haha. I guess basically, what I am asking is for some advice about what to do with my current best friend. How to handle this situation in a mature, adult manner.

You've said you've talked to her, but I would try again.

Tell her it really hurts you that she hangs out with them even though they did all this mean stuff to you.

You're right that you can't control who she hangs out with, but she should be a good friend and at least hear you out.

--Jack
(17/m)

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14/f
I've had this huge crush on my best friend (who is a guy) and i've always been to afraid to tell him or anyone. People were always teling us that we should go out cause we act like a couple and we look cute together but nothing ever happened. Last week he told me that he has had a huge crush on me since spring break and he asked me out. i didnt give him an answer but i realized that i didnt like him anymore..is that normal to not like someone after liking them for a year? i dont know what happened. please help me figure out what to do

It's perfectly normal to lose feelings and get feelings for someone quickly, or even over time.

So your situation is normal.

If you don't like him anymore, don't lead him on by going out with him.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Are Coal Chamber Cyber Goths?

I'm not sure.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coal_Chamber

Maybe that will help?

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok so this might be a stupid question but on the sat i know they have a bunch of formula's listed at the top of the math section but i was doing a practice test in an act book and it didnt have any formulas at the top of the test. For those of you who have taken the act, do they give you any formulas for the math section? I really hope they do or im screwed for this saturday! ugh! sorry if this is in the wrong category, i didnt really know where to put it. Thanks in advance!

I took the ACT in March, and I don't remember formulas.

A lot of the math was proportions and adding degrees in triangles, which doesn't require an equation.

My guess is that if they were to give you a problem that required an equation, you would get it.

But I honestly don't remember formulas.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Do guys prefer the fun, athletic, adventurous type.. or the girly type. Or a balance of the two?

I prefer a mix of both, personally.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I am making webpage and I like you guys check it out and let me know there anything I sould add or do.. http://littlebutterfy09.weebly.com/

I just wanted to say that I think it's wonderful that you're overcoming your condition. You touched my heart =].


I think your website is great!

The quotes are inspiring and meaningful. =]

Good job; it's a lot better than I could ever do!

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay I know sound werid. but having a egg allgery. i know egg is all protaine.. is there a thing maybe i probly be not able have food hase protaine? like meat and stuff like that? or i don't know i just thinking lathy with having sucking headaches all the time. half of the time iknow it sinus but it hard to tell becouse sometimes i feel like it not just sinuses..any ideas?

Do you mean protein?

We're not doctors, but maybe you should see one to get it checked out.


You could have a vitamin deficiency, you could have headaches because of changes in weather, or a number of things.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay well im a young kid, so i really dont like my green vegtables. my mom says i will like them when im older, but i just dont know! i dont even like seafood. is there something wrong with me?! please hellpp!

There's nothing wrong with not liking certain foods. Most kids hate seafood and vegetables at a young age.

Personally, I still hate green beans and most vegetables. I like corn, peas, carrots, cucumbers, pickles [if they're vegetables?], and olives. That's really it.

Seafood is disgusting, in my opinion. There are a lot of people who don't like it, so there's nothing wrong with you. I'll never like seafood. It smells and tastes nasty. Even fish-sticks are gross.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being his friend again... but not for awhile.

I would wait AT LEAST three months to even begin getting back to normal. Both of you need time to get over one-another.

He probably hasn't called you because he doesn't know what to say.

Just wait, like I said.

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f
Hey,Okay so my mum and dad just started renting a pub

its owned by this reallyy nice local family who are fairly well off. see the father is a polititan and his eldest son just got elected.
anywho,so the youngest son is 17 and reallyy good looking and nice..there was a big party on last saturday night after his brother got elected and i had to work behind the bar everytime he came up to it he smiled at me,I Kept catching his eye all night too.

my mum told me today that the other day he asked her who I was that he thought I was nice & pretty ,my mum didnt let on I was his daughter though and she said oh "thats jess,shes only 15 though"
she said he laughed then and said that wouldnt bother him considering hes only 17 and that he thinks im nice
then mum goes "shes my daughter" and he obviously got all embarassed.

anyway my problem really is that i really like him and hes coming in to help clear the office overhead and mum asked me to help so basicly itl just be the two of us up there working all day..im worried about what to talk to him about?I dont wanna say something stupid or look like an idiot.

and do you think he likes me?(my friend said she thinks he does but like weve never properly even talked and i find it hard to believe how he could like me he could probably have anyone)
or what mum said scared him off?,should i even try start something with him or am I just kinda running away with the idea that something will happen and being naive
sorry if this seems stupid but id aprciate any advice or opinions on what I should do and how to go about it! i sometimes get nervous and mess stuff up when i really like someone and I dont know how to not!
thanks for any help,
sorry if this is long! =)

Be yourself. Honestly, that's my advice in a nutshell. If you try to change yourself to impress him or dumb yourself down to not intimidate him, you're leading him in a different direction.

If you're honest about who you are, and how you act, and he starts liking you, then you know he's liking you FOR YOU, not for what you're pretending to be.

Talk about things you'd talk with any male friend of yours.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I've been on Advicenators for a few years, on and off, and this hasn't been a problem so far.

I received a very hurtful feedback to a question that I tried my darndest to answer well! I know we can file a report, but it wasn't exactly hateful. The person who wrote it was obviously upset, and directed that towards me, even though I obviously put a great deal of effort into my response.

Now I'm seriously thinking of leaving the site. Honestly, I'm only here to help (just like everyone else here) and if people aren't grateful, what's the point in wasting my time?

Rant's over. My actual question is, how do you guys keep from getting upset over hurtful feedback? I'd try not to take it personally, but it is personal. My feelings are hurt :(

I used to get a lot of this back when I first started over three years ago. I learned to ignore it, simply because, I know that when I answer a question, I put my best effort in. If someone doesn't agree with me, sure, I'm upset, but, ultimately, I will probably NEVER have to deal with them EVER again. Just think about that. =]

I'm sure you're a great columnist, so I wouldn't worry about people giving you bad feedback. If it's all the time, then, maybe it's you. If this is like a once or twice kind of thing- then don't listen to it. You probably just caught someone on a bad day.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok so just last night i dyed my hair like a dark brown color its almost black cause of how dark it is. well i wanted to go swimming today and the pool is clorigne. what will happen if i go swimming after dying my hair last night. will it turn green or something. if it helps anything the dye is from the dollar store. cause it actually really does work on my hair. and stays there longer then other ones ive had. well my question is if i go swimming in clorigne water will it turn my hair green or anything. please help me asap! i need to know before i get everyone to go to the pool thankyou in advance

I don't know the case for ALL hair-dye, but I know if you dye your hair blond, and you run it ALL under tap water before you go in the pool, it should be fine.

If you have to go in the pool, do this, and put your hair up and tell everyone that they need to not splash around you because you just dyed your hair.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Me and my boyfriend met online. Our anniversary is coming up so I thought it would be cute to get him some kind of weird mouse to commemorate. I found this one that can be engraved. http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TRproduct_10001_9951_999603410_

However, I am having trouble thinking of something to have engraved on it. I want it to be something sweet but maybe kind of quirky and fun.

Please fill me in with any ideas. Thanks!

I love the song lyrics or the inside jokes idea.

And I definitely think the "I wish I had known love was only a click away" could work.

Do that! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I dont really want to post it on here so if you are good at giving relationship advice, then message me on AIM: xxdont4get143xx


Thanks!

Post an inbox question to me, I hate giving out my AIM to random people.

--Jack
(17/m)

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