Hey everyone!
I'm usually that friend everyone goes to for advice. (I'm also the one who gives good advice but doesn't apply it to herself, lol.) Whether I've been in your shoes, or know little of your situation I'll answer honestly and truthfully. I'm here to help.
Some background info for you guys: My parents are divorced. My mother's remarried. I have two older sisters, one with two boys. I'm a Senior in High School.
So go ahead, ask away!
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okay so im 14 and there's a guy whos been sending me sexual texts like "heyy;)" and "are you in your room;)" and before it used to be "hey:)" also he has been getting more touchy feely with me. I'm kind of curious about all of the whole sexual relations and whatnot but i am thinking that id feel guilty afterwards and school would just be really awkward. i want to give in and see what its like but then again i dont... any advice? (link)
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Hon, I went through this. That's not exactly sexual, but when he starts asking "What are you wearing? ;)" You know you're in deep. I also wanted to know, and I fell for it. Then my family found out and the only thing I could think about is - I regret this so much. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with, or anything that you'll regret. I've lost my family's trust, and trust me, nothing is worst than looking at you're family and seeing that look of disgust and distrust in their eyes. Think about what could happen and what your family and friends might think. The "Yolo" only works in song lyrics, not life. You're only 14, you've got lots of time to do the nasty later. Focus on your studies and having a good, but safe, time. If other girls want to be you-know-whats, let them. You be the hard to get, no nonsense girl. Best of luck! {:
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So I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he's been getting really mean lately. He's never been physical with me just always putting me down for something and calling me names and just really hurting my feelings. Hell always yell at me just for any reason at all and I try to ignore it for the most part and ill ask him to stop and then hell tell me that I'm the one who's mad and I need to chill out. And I've been applying to about 6 or 7 jobs a week for the past month and I've had 1 interview and a couple odd cleaning jobs. So I'm trying. But he always tells me how lazy I am and how I useless I am since I don't have one yet. But the only reason he has a job is because he works for the company his dad works for. I really try my hardest. I clean the house, ill make him or get him anything he wants. But its still not enough for him to stop putting me down for everything. He's cheated on me before(which he later changed his story to saying that he just made it up to hurt me). I moved to a new state where I don't know anyone for him and he gets mad and acuses me of cheating on him if there's a guy looking at me, even if I never look at the guy. So I have absolutly no friends. My friends from home don't like him. And I've left him twice before but I let him talk me into coming back because he said that he would change. Things were good for a bout a week and got bad again. Its so hard for me to leave since I'm 700 miles away from anyone I know. also what's keeping me from leaving right now is we got a car and its in my name since his lisence is suspended but I haven't paid a cent for it so id feel bad taking it. But I legally can't move from the state while its in my name and payments are still being made. I just feel so stuck. I know its not a good relationship and his dad has had problems with getting physical with him and past relationships. So I'm worried if I stay longer that my bf would get physical with me. Someone please give me advise (link)
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Leave him. Please leave him, any way you can just leave him emotionally and physically. This relationship is in no way healthy, relationships are supposed to be about love, and caring and taking care of each other, not abusing and acting this immature and irresponsible. You can definitely get someone much, MUCH, MUCH better! Don't ever settle for someone who hurts you in ANY way! No human being deserves that. Use whatever you need to go, and don't go back if you want to live a healthy life. Don't feel bad because you want what's good for you, feel bad that you stayed there long enough. Stand up for yourself honey, you're worth millions and you should be treated like it. Best of luck! {:
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My brother THINKS that he's an awesome brother, father, son, and everything else when the truth is that he's done everyone in our family wrong. I won't go into it all, but it's all because his wife hates us and keeps him from us and he's such a wuss, he can't stand up to her. He's a car dealer and was supposed to help my sister get her daughter a car. Her daughter is looking forward to it SO much. Her mom almost bought her a car from a dealer closer to their town, but when my brother heard, he said he had found a car for her and was going to bring it down in a couple days. It's been months since then and he's been making excuse after excuse for why he can't come and they can't go get it. I've just found out that he gave the car to his wife's kids and won't tell my sister because he's too much of a coward. He said he'll find her another car, but why would anyone trust him? My niece really likes him and I don't want her to be hurt, but I'm sick of him disappointing her. What should I do? (link)
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I think you should have a talk with him. Tell him everything you feel and don't hold back, when you're done you'll feel a thousand times better. Don't insult him or disrespect him but tell him what you have to say, in a mature responsible way but say everything. If he can't open his eyes to the truth, maybe you can help him. Best of luck! {:
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My boyfriend and I met in 8th grade and we're both going to be seniors in high school last night. We never worked out in 8th or 9th grade, we were always on and off. We never offically dated but we are now. We started going out June 6th. He means everything to me. He takes words very seriously. Last night he came over and he saw on my phone that a guy cause love u and i said it back. He took it so seriously and broke up with me. I don't know what to do. He ended up forgiving me but then today he told me I broke his heart. I'm even looking at colleges in philly because that's where he wants to go to school. Upenn. Idk what to do anymore. Im 16 but i believe in forever and i believe in highschool love. He's never hurt me. I just want to make it last. he's everything to me. How can you hurt someone you love so much (link)
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Alright. Well first off, why the heck did you say "I love you" to someone? Is that dude a best friend, family, something important? If not, then reserve your I love you's to people who deserve it. If this guy is as good as you say, why all the drama? Why all the off and on again. When you break up, it's for good. If you want something to be forever, you have to understand it, take very good care of it, dedicate time to it and love it. You can't just break up over misunderstandings and arguments, you'll break up everyday then. Everyone's different, everyone has opinions and it's nice to talk to someone who, although doesn't have you're same beliefs or opinions, respects what you have to say. Try not to be the on and off girl, it causes stress and a lot of issues that you don't truly need. Make sure to put yourself in his shoes, that way you'll understand a little better what he wants and what you can do to achieve his and your happiness. Best of luck!{:
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I've recently found myself starting to develop very strong feelings for a friend of mine...trouble is, he has a girlfriend already...however, I get very strong vibes of a mutual attraction, and all the signs that guys show when they like a girl...I've always been a very good judge of whether or not a guy likes me or not, and my heart tells me he does...and that's not just wishful thinking on my part because I like him.
And let me just say, he knows that I like him, BUT, he also knows, because I adamantly told him, that I will NOT try to break them up, and that is nowhere near what my intentions are. I do NOT want to be "that girl"...and I can't stand the thought of being responsible for someone's misery in that type of situation...
Anyways...so back to his girlfriend...I don't know her all that well, but I like her, and regardless of whether or not I liked her or not, I still do NOT want her to get hurt...but I've gotten hints of the relationship going through some bumps...
That...and I got an anonymous letter from someone telling me that even though they are with someone, they feel a stronger connection to me, and that if they were single, they would find themselves falling in love with me...
There is NO one else that feels that way about me, and it's too much of a coincidence for me to not believe it's him...
Now...I'm not getting my hopes up...mainly because, again, I don't want his girlfriend to get hurt...that and I am afraid of letting myself completely trust him if he could leave her that easily for me...
But all that aside...suppose it just isn't working out between them? If he's truly not happy with her, and he does decide to leave her...I'll obviously play it cool...he may not be leaving her for ME, but at the same time, I still feel like he feels for me...
Anyways, I'm just asking...if this were a situation where he WAS going to leave her for me...how do I respond? What if his girlfriend was emotionally destroyed? What about her family? I don't want anyone to get hurt...I know sometimes it's not unavoidable...I've never quite been in a situation like this before... (link)
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I think it's nice on your part that you don't want to her to get hurt, but if she can't make him happy she should let him go. Sooner or later she'll see that it just didn't work out. If he chooses you though, wait. I advise you take it slowly and express how you feel. Even if you do like this girl, if you don't take good care of what you have, someone else will. If you feel that maybe you and this guy can work out, take it slow and think about it. Look at all the bad things and good things, don't lie to yourself. If he has more bad things than good things, then I advise you talk to him about it. Some things you can work on, or compromise. Take your time and don't rush anything! Best of luck! {:
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this guy, everyone said he liked me and we would be cute together. I think it was messing with my head because i started to form feelings for him. i quickly brushed them away because i didn't really think i was attracted to him that much. it's been a few months and now my best friend and roommate likes him and he likes her. i feel crushed. but no one knew that i actually had feelings for him in the end. how can i cope with this?! (link)
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I went through this. Almost exactly like you described, except he had a twin and my best friend liked his brother. Anyways, you don't cope with it. Luckily, after all the drama had happened with me I went on vacation with my family which I had not seen in a year. I tried forgetting it, we went to the pool and other places where there were other people. Try not to think about it, it'll just bring more stress that you do not need. I don't talk to him, I mean not like ignore him but if he doesn't talk to you, don't talk to him. If you're best friend knew you had feelings for him, I advise you get better friends. Do other things, go out and play with you're other friends. Anything, just don't sit and cry with a bucket of chocolate ice cream. It doesn't help. You're probably a beautiful girl, with an amazing personality who can get someone even better down the road. Best of luck! {:
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hope someone can help-
this guy we were friends like way back.. then lost contact for ages.. suddenly has been getting close and really giving me all the attention thru texts and dinners... i know for a fact he can be busy... but he does have time to text me like 100 times a day (exaggeration) but u get it, a certain good morning to start the day and definitely a good night to end it...and lots in between...
OUT OF NOWHERE this all disappeared.
fine.. we never discussed what we were or what that was about. we were just nice and sweet.
BUT NOW I MISS IT
and i have no idea what ever happened!!
he sometimes says hello been busy ... then i reply then NOTHING EVER anymore...
so i kinda told him, "should i even reply because youre too busy to text back" and of course NOTHING.
where was the "friendship"?
why did this guy act this way???
i am so confused, disappointed and here i go again- confirming my fear of committment and trust issues are really getting the better of me.
why cant he open up or what?!?!
at least i thought i was a friend he can open up to .. :(
am 34... (link)
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Sometimes, when you're busy you are busy. Nothing you can do about it, just like his mobile phone might have gotten some complications? A lot of things to consider. If you ever do get in touch with him again, try to keep things a little more in person then on the phone. People are one way through text and phone calls and a whole different story in person. You never know. He might just have been thinking of you like a friend, guys flirt as do girls. When we talk to a cute guy we flirt just like a guy would if he saw a cute girl. We fight about it because we're the same. Try to get into his shoes and I'm pretty sure you'll find the answer. If you liked him a little more than for friends, I'm sorry but he doesn't sound like the dependable type. You're choice I guess. Best of luck! {:
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I'm 13/F and well, there's this guy I really like and he likes me back (13/M). He asked me out 4 times already and I said no to all of them. I mean, he didn't sound desperate, in fact he wasn't desperate at all. When he aked me out the 4th time I told him the real reason rather than saying, "because I'm done dating." I told him I couldn't because I didn't want to get in trouble with my family. The catch is, is that he understands, but says "I love you, I miss you," all those gushy things. I say it back to him of course, but it feels weird saying it back because of what my family would think, like they'd think I'm breaking the promise. I don't know how to say it to my mom without me probably getting in trouble. Will I get in trouble? Can anbody help me? please? (link)
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Alright, first of all you won't get in trouble. This is absolutely normal at you're age, what you're mom doesn't want is an older guy who probably would only want one thing and we all know what that is. No parent want their child to be tricked. So instead, be honest with this guy and if you're saying I love you, you better mean it. Saying "I like you" in a situation like this is probably even better than saying "I love you", know why? Because you're being truthful and guys usually like when you say things from your heart, not your head. When you find some alone time with your mother, sit down and explain how you like this guy. No don't ask, "Mom can I be his girlfriend?" Just say, "Hey mom, I really like this guy, can I invite him over so he can meet you?" If she says no, don't fret. Give it some time, and try again. Worst thing she can do is say no. Don't be afraid to open up, and always be truthful to your family, doesn't matter if you will "get in trouble". Best of luck! [:
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k i met my bestfriend this year in 7th grade, were gong onto 8th now and she is popular.she told me that her and her friend ( friend thats a girl) kissed each other on the lips " just for fun" . on facebook her friend admitted that shes her "kiss buddy " so i think theyv not only kissed once. well she never got her first kiss yet so idk what do you guys think ? (link)
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Are you comfortable with it? If you are, you should let her know and distance yourself a little. If not, continue your friendship. I always advise to go around a little, meet other people! Say 'hi' to people who you normally wouldn't even bother to give a second thought about. Sometimes you'll find people you'll like, people who you won't like but you have nothing to lose. By talking to other people you gain confidence, and you're known a little better. Don't close yourself to this girl if you're not comfortable with her. Let her know what you feel about that. This is usually the age where we start expressing our sexual likings, whether it's through crushes, kisses or whatever else, we express it. If she's bisexual, lesbian or heterosexual you may need to think if you want to continue the friendship. My best friend is a bisexual girl, I love her for it but I'm heterosexual and we've set the limits. I'm not very comfortable with her touching me beyond hugs. Some people are seriously bothered by it, others are not. Either way, best of luck! [:
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thank you so much !! well he tells me that he loves me and also the baby. we being together since 2007, on and off. thats just life, in a way i do believe he does loves me because he did showed it but then he stopped because i used to bother him a lot and he didnt like it. now that im having a baby hes there but he loves to be with his friends. i have 4 days without seeing him. im not going to tell him "oh i wanna see you" hes the guy and i deserve to be treated like a princess. he can at least be like "babe ima go pick you up to see you" i dont know i just dont understand this kid. :( (link)
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You're very welcome [: Well maybe he's independent? Some guys don't like the whole tied down and whipped thing. Just make sure to make him feel comfortable with you. We all want the prince charming who'll be very spontaneous and sweet but truth is, he doesn't exist. You have to accept him as he is, even if he is a little cold or not affectionate. Best of luck! {:
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Saturday night I was at my younger cousin's birthday party and after most everybody had left, some of my family were sitting out on the back patio on a couch. One of my uncles was sitting next to me and all of a sudden while he was drinking, he put his legs in my lap. I moved away a little and he ended up just resting his feet against my leg. I didn't think too much of it until he started rubbing his foot against my leg and started to pull my dress back a little. But I couldn't tell if it was done subconsciously or not. And then later, more people came out so we all had to squeeze together on the couch. He had his hand out behind my neck and kind of stroked my neck a little. Is this normal? I mean, I'm not really close to any of my uncles and none of them are as "hands on" (like putting arm in a hug) like he is. I feel kinda uncomfortable around him sometimes, even though I know that he loves my aunt and wouldn't do anything stupid or inappropriate to me. But I still have that weird little feeling in the back of my head. I honestly can't tell if it's bad or if I'm just being paranoid. (link)
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The pulling back your dress- not normal. My uncles, when they sit next to me on a couch or something, they do stroke my neck, or hair. It's normal, they've done it since I was a baby and no one treats it as alien or anything. But I think you should stay away from that touchy feely uncle, you never know. Always trust your instinct! Best of luck{:
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Im a month pregnant. Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. well before me being pregnant he was with another girl. then he broke up with her to be with me. the problem is that he hardly text's me, on Saturday he goes to his party's and don even sends me a text. when i complain to him he tel;ls me "You should of had texted me" He dosnt look to have time for me. But if it were his friends and his girls i know 100% that he will be there. I been stressing so much and he knows im pregnant and only asks for the baby once in the conversation. he tells me he's very happy that im going to have his kid. In person hes a different story hes always hugging and kissing me. On Facebook their friends are always tagging him "in the lake having fun with so and so" this bothers me a lot. He asked me what i was doing for july 4th and he told me he was going to the lake and DIDN'T even invited me :( I don't know what to do anymore , im tired of talking to him. What do you think i should do ? i don't want my baby to feel the stress. (link)
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Alrighty. Well I can imagine how difficult this may be for you. Take a deep breath and calm yourself down before taking any decision. Now from what I've read, he may just be with you for the baby. Just because he says he's happy you're having his baby doesn't mean he's being sincere about it, or that he wants to be with you. Maybe he's saying it just to make you happy. He's probably saying what you want to hear, not what he feels. Going out with his friends may be his way of taking a break, but he should know this is when you most need it. Talk to him about it. Also, try not to be a pain in the ass. Yes it's hard, and yes sometimes you want to cry for no reason and fight for stupid things but if you want him to include you in more of his life, you have to make him feel like he wants you there. Be happy, smile around him, tell him how much you care and don't make him go through tough shit. Now the previous advice is if you want him to be by your side, now if you're more worried about your baby and yourself, I advise you leave him be and take care of your baby. A lot of women stay with their lovers just for the baby's sake, when in reality they hurt not only themselves but also the baby. If there is no connection with your boyfriend, don't force it. The baby will feel it, you'll feel it and he will too. Taking a break, and resuming with your life may be the best thing to do. If he misses you, he'll come after you but if he continues doing this, then he probably didn't care from the begining. Tell him how you feel, every little detail of it, but don't scream it out when he's drunk. No, instead take a time where your both together, no one else around and you know you can make the point without coming off as offensive. Make sure he understands your point, and let him defend himself as well. Who knows? he may have a valid point. Best of luck, and health for your future baby! [:
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So my girlfriend has this guy friend, and they've been friends for awhile. Not as long as I've known her, but they're still pretty close I guess. I don't like the kid. We just don't hang out or talk much... We're very different guys. He bothers me though, not just for what the title says either. He just acts like a tool. But what bothers me the most, is how he treats my girlfriend sometimes. He gets handsy with her, and a little rough at that. They'll "fight" over the remote and he'll pin her down to get it. When really. She's 5'4 and 100 pounds. Not necessary. Or she'll call shot gun and he'll scoop her up and phsically put her in the back seat. She does complain about this sometimes but it doesn't bother her that much, she says they have a brother-sister like relationship, it doesn't bother her that he'll leave her with a bruise every once in a while. But it DOES bother me. And I've talked to her about it. She says he doesn't do it in a flirty way, that again, its like sibling fights, but I'm mostly just upset that he hurts her... I'm not okay with it. It doesn't bother me that he touches her, even if he is doing it in a flirty way because I trust her and I know she doesn't see it that way. I just wish he'd be a little more gentle with MY girl. So do I talk to him or do I try to get it across to her more... and either way... how?? I'm 17/M shes 16/F. (link)
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Well talking to her about it didn't seem very helpful so I'd suggest you talk to him, tell him to take it easy, you don't want to have people think you're abusing her (say it jokingly, make sure she's around so she sees it's not 'nothing' to you) If that doesn't help, ask her to tone down the play fights, explain that the bruises make you uncomfortable and you'd like for it to stop, I'm sure it will. Best of luck! [:
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She is very good girl ,kind and she always has stood with me (help me when I had troubles with teachers and classmates.On wed I called her just to say hello and she was very happy because of that.Then I asked her witch school she will move to.Her answer was just like a shock .She said the name of my new school.That mean we will study at the same school again.She has been wanting to go with her best friends (that are not me) but her parents refuse. I am shy and scared of moving to a high school and how to be a friend with her plz any tips and thanks you very much =) (link)
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Aw, you sound very sweet! To answer your question, be there for her. If no one offers to accompany her to the cafeteria, go with her. Make sure she feels welcome, accepted and relaxed. Be yourself around her, introduce her to your friends, let her want to be around you, for her to do this you have to give her space and let her miss you. Just make her comfortable and don't ignore her. Trust me, it won't work. Give her some pace and everything will flow from there. Best of luck! [:
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Ok so I am a well known author and I will not tell you who I am obviously, but I need some amateur writers ideas. Im about to write a new novel and I need a good topic. Ive been thinking about writing about either a tragedy/ natural disaster or I could write about finding true love. I love either topic but Im at a loss for words. I do not know how to start or what should be my plot and setting and stuff like that. So, I would love some ideas from great amateur writers and in return if I like the ideas I will mention your name in my book so if you give me a reply please state your first name and your age. Thank you all alot and I will enjoy reading your suggestions. (link)
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Well, if you're such a good writer how is it that you can't find a good idea yourself? We all have our writers block, instead of asking for idea's, I suggest you keep in mind two things...Number 1, write about something YOU want to read. Number 2, write about something you haven't read about or at least a topic that haven't been very elaborated so you can build something new with it. For example, maybe you can build a story with the whole finding true love thing, but give it a twist. Make the guy bisexual, and with a boyfriend. Things like these make the story more interesting to read and more entertaining to write. When I write I picture it all as a movie inside my head. Anyways, best of luck and lots of success! [: btw my name's Sally and I'm 15 [:
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My crush told my best friend that he was going to ask me out to be his girlfriend and he got me a ring, he is going to ask me out saturday. What do I say im fourteen and not allowed to date, and we date secretly my parrents might find out i live in small town people know everything quickly. I really like him and i know him well and if I tell him to just be friends i know he is not going to. Im going to be a freshman im a girl by the way and its going to be hard, besides Im still in love with another guy. (link)
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Alrighty. Well first of all if you're in love with another guy, why do you even consider being with this 'crush'? If he doesn't want to be your friend, his loss. If he likes you he should be willing to wait until your ready. If you really do want to date him, talk to your parents. He might not be able to be your boyfriend, but your parents might be generous and let him be your special friend. Either way, be careful. Think this through! Best of luck [:
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Okay so the guy im dating now is pretty awesome, but we have awkward conversations all the time and hes a boring texter weve been dating for three weeks now and all i hear is either eww cant believe you like him she dated him to,im thinking what the hell or im hearing im so glad I told him to start liking you if i never told him to like you,you guys wouldnt be together at first i didnt believe her but two nights ago i found a note beteen them sayding hes not over his ex and she isnt to happy were together either so on the note she says why dont ask angie out and he says oh i dont know if she likes me so ya its annoying me like ya i asked him before why does he like me he said he like me the year before ever since then a little and that he doesnt like being single and something else but i forgot. we already kissed three time too and ever since the first kiss he says i love you alot. is he like using me or something. matter of fact im not even sure i like him that way cus when i text him i dont get excited that much,but when i text these other guys i get all happy and blush like crazy and those guys i can actually talk with its not awkward at all. they also always say stuff like you and your boyfriend arent going to end out well and that they think im beautiful,they said those things before i dated my boyfriend so okay im asking should i dump him cus heck hes just dating me so he isnt single, honestly i dont care cus i like being single myself.also how do i stop the other guys from flirting with me, and to deal with my bestfriend saying that stuff????thanks so much-angie!!!!!!!! (link)
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Okay first of all, you need to re-think you're choice of best friend.Second, either he has to step up his game, or you have to realize that there other people out there who can treat you better and say I love you when they actually mean it. Not just because it's the right thing to say at the moment, when 'I love you' is not right, an 'I like you' is never unwelcome. Be true and straight up about your feelings. If I were you, I'd drop him and keep single until I'm very sure about what I want. The fact that he dated your 'best friend' should have been enough for you to keep away. She may see its okay with her, but if you put yourself in her shoes, you'd understand her point a little better. It's usually the breaking point in a lot of friendships, and also (at least for me) Knowing that this guy has been with my best friend, kissed her, told her he loves her, it's truly a turn off. It makes me not like him. Anyways, best of luck [:
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Why is it so hard too kill yourself?.... I've tried it soo much . I can never do it! Ive puttin soo much knives to my throat i even asked people if they would do me the favor. I offered a couple grand. Just im sooo depressed ! The love of my life is in mexico visiting family! Im just soo sad cause out of no were she calls me and i barely wake up and she says i cant deal with your bullshit anymore, soo i say what ?? Whos this ? She says yesenia and i was like wasup babe?? She says she doesnt wana talk toe anymore. She clicks and i call her aunt and says she doesnt want to talk to me ever again! Soo i gave her time to think a couple of days and i call her again and she dont answer her aunt says shes busy or do something! You know what i think is she found somebody else over there in mexico and probably did something with him and she doesnt want to feel guility so she broke up with me..... I would still take her back thats how madly in love i am with her ! Shes my life ! I live for her ! I want to get married with her , i want to have kids , have a great family, have tons blessings, and be very healthy , the most important thing is to be with my wife! I know she wont take me back sooo im giving up! Its the easiest way! I know what im going to do. Im going to make her CD and leave my girlfriend yesenia a letter say i want her to be happy amd how much i love her! And her to have tons of kids and have a great husband cause i cant! Im a mess up. I know i dont make her happy at all. Im the most horrible person! Being heart broken is sooo painful ! Ive lost 15 pounds in 9 days i never want to eat. i just wish we together and she was laying on me shoulder just telling me how much she loves me! But i know thats never happeningg! Im 15 and im going to kill my self ! The best way listening to our songs and staring at pictures we took and just get hammered and just cuting my wrist. Doesnt sound painfull at all. I want yesenia to have a great life and just to be happy! I wish i would of gaven that to you babe! I love you! I love you soo much more then love! Te amo mamita chula mi princesa! Love you babe!! Us way past forever te la promento ! I more then promise and swear maybe well be together after life who knows!! I love you my queen! Bye. (link)
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Good lord. I'm fifteen too, and I get that it must be painful but suicide is just never the answer. So many people have been where you are, and they've moved forward. Will you really end your life for this? What about your family? Your friends? Your future? You're talking about having kids and getting married when you're 15! Just calm down and tell what you're feeling to someone you trust! If she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you and I'm sure you can find another girl. Please re-think what you are doing. You have a whole life before you, full of new people, new friends, new experiences, don't end it over someone who doesn't appreciate you. Just keep calm and realize that you have so much potential. I think it's sweet that you want Yesenia to have a great life, that's really good, but I'm sure she wants you to have one too. For you to have a great life, you have to be alive. So please re-think. Dios te ayude! Best of luck [:
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ok, so last week my friend "R" got a second piercing in her ear. (my mom DID NOT know) then about a few days ago my momsurprized me and took me to get my ears pierced. when I told my other friend, "D" that, she said,, oh you copied R , good for you.
it made me cry so hard because everyone (d and r) is always telling me im a copy cat since i got ALMOST. BARELY the same haircut as D even though it was lterally months after and she didnt have it anymore. so I kinda over reacted and blew up. then she got mad and told me that even after school starts she and R wont be my friends. I have my other friend, A. but she always follows R. but they're my only friends and im scared what if i have to become friends with the new kid but they are weird? anyway what should I do because im crying as i type this :(
ps: i have a problem where if someone insults (even a little bit) me i start crying or i feel horrible but nobody knows. (link)
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Alrighty. Well, it seems that you've become the unwanted in your group of friends. If you've always been together, it may just be that you need some time apart. Same people, same fights, same arguments, same conversations get boring. Maybe they're just tired of you, as mean as it sounds and you'd be very surprised at what talking to new people may do to you. You might find people who like you, respect you and actually stick around for you. I personally take a week off from my friends, I hang around with different people and talk to people who I'd normally wouldn't talk with, this gives me a little more confidence, and being more known is never bad! Just try to get out there, start with a simple, "Hello." Keep the convo relax and natural and you'll see what your current friends are doing wrong. If you like to copy, then there's no shame in that. If you like it, you can try doing it but as the saying goes, "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" They shouldn't get so mad that you have the same hairstyle, or a similar piercing or even some mutual music or whatever else. It's just normal, your friends so you're bound to like some things that they like. Just don't be afraid to be yourself, you are perfect, and your worth more than you think! You don't need to have the sluts hair to have more boy attention, you don't need to have the bad-ass's piercing to be a little more accepted and you do not need to have the same shirt as that cute girl to be more noticed. You are you, you should have your own style and start focusing on figuring out who you are, and putting together what you want for yourself! It's hard but not impossible! Best of luck [:
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My boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for 2 yrs. We loved each other a lot but often had fights over little things & he would temporary break up with me (like me refusing to eat fish-which is a very imp part of his culture). It was a Saturday and my last exam was over, i couldn't wait to spend the evening with him. We were having a very nice evening when i passed a comment about his family having no property of their own and staying in a rented apartment. This upset him a lot and he broke up with me. We had no contact for a week and i missed him. The following Saturday evening, he stopped by to collect his stuff from my place when i cried & apologized but he stuck to his decision. He was going to a pub with his friends (two guys). I felt sad and depressed that night and requested him to let me come along too to which he agreed. i tried getting his attention the whole time there but he ignored me & spoke to his friends about another girl he found hot and how she'd be a perfect fit in the family. I was heart broken & i allowed myself to get absolutely drunk and while they were dropping me back home, my boyfriend sat in front with one of his friends who was driving while i sat behind with the other..now i dont remember anything in the car but he saw me give his frnd a peck on his lips from the rear view mirror.The next day he calls me all sorts of names, tells his parents too..he said he would've gotten back if i hadn't done this..he says i cheated on him and i must be his bitch and get out of my skin to get him back. Its been 2 months now and he hasn't gotten back but treats me like his bitch. I have quit drinking out of my own will. i really love the guy, what must i do? (link)
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First of all, who the heck breaks up because you don't eat fish? I'm sorry, but if you're one of those girls who enjoys being the on again off again girlfriend, you need help. So if you say no to giving him a glass of water, will he break up with you? That's completely immature and you should open your eyes and see you deserve better. Anyways, if he doesn't want to get back, forget him. It may sound difficult, but will you get to the point of begging him to get back when he breaks up with you for not eating fish? (I'm sorry, I don't think I can get over that fact.) Anyways, it may be an important part of his culture but when you're in a relationship you have to accept the person as he or she is, that's why you're with them right? If he's arrogant, nice, dorky, weird, bipolar or whatever else, you're with him, you need to accept that. I'm Spanish, we're very independent people but if my boyfriend were 'white' and he lived with his parents, I'd have to accept that. Because that's the whole point of being in a relationship, loving and accepting that person as he or she is. The fact that he dared to call some other girl hot in front of you is just, stupid and immature if he did it to make you jealous. It sounds like a case of low self-esteem. They're still a few good guys on this planet, be smart and see that you could be treated A LOT better. Please don't settle for this guy, he sounds arrogant and if you stay with him, you'll most likely become distrusting. Why? Because if you do something wrong, he'll break up with you. Every couple has their differences, and arguments even but to break up every time? Ridiculous. Open your eyes and see you deserve SO MUCH BETTER! Best of luck [:
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