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girlfriends guy friend hurts her
So my girlfriend has this guy friend, and they've been friends for awhile. Not as long as I've known her, but they're still pretty close I guess. I don't like the kid. We just don't hang out or talk much... We're very different guys. He bothers me though, not just for what the title says either. He just acts like a tool. But what bothers me the most, is how he treats my girlfriend sometimes. He gets handsy with her, and a little rough at that. They'll "fight" over the remote and he'll pin her down to get it. When really. She's 5'4 and 100 pounds. Not necessary. Or she'll call shot gun and he'll scoop her up and phsically put her in the back seat. She does complain about this sometimes but it doesn't bother her that much, she says they have a brother-sister like relationship, it doesn't bother her that he'll leave her with a bruise every once in a while. But it DOES bother me. And I've talked to her about it. She says he doesn't do it in a flirty way, that again, its like sibling fights, but I'm mostly just upset that he hurts her... I'm not okay with it. It doesn't bother me that he touches her, even if he is doing it in a flirty way because I trust her and I know she doesn't see it that way. I just wish he'd be a little more gentle with MY girl. So do I talk to him or do I try to get it across to her more... and either way... how?? I'm 17/M shes 16/F.
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I think you should talk to both of them. Let her know that you don't mind him touching her, as long as she doesn't get any bruises or scars. And also you need to talk to him and let him know that you don't like him playing rough with your girl. Tell him he needs to have a litle bit more respect for women.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Well talking to her about it didn't seem very helpful so I'd suggest you talk to him, tell him to take it easy, you don't want to have people think you're abusing her (say it jokingly, make sure she's around so she sees it's not 'nothing' to you) If that doesn't help, ask her to tone down the play fights, explain that the bruises make you uncomfortable and you'd like for it to stop, I'm sure it will. Best of luck! [:
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I would be honest and open with him,. Just say you don't like the fact that your baby is getting hurt or has bruises. say it nicely and explain it's not a problem of the two of them hanging out. and just ask himm if he could be more gentler with her.
Hope this helps
~Jasmine*
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