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Q: does anyone have lyrics to songs are good quotes for AIM? just a list of titles and maybe the lyrics would be great!! thanks in advance

Aly and AJ songs like, rush, chemicals react, or on the ride.
RENT songs like no day but today.
I don't know the person who sings it but the song Be the girl is good.
Or girls just wanna have fun by Cyndi Lauper.
Or a fun song like jiggle it, I don't know who sings it though.

I hope that helped! IM me with any more help: xomtin33.

Q: This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

Personally, I would say hot.

Q: hi.
im going back to school shopping sunday, and I need some help.
im 5'1, 124 lbs and small in the chest area. What kind of clothes would look best on me? Im not exactly skinny and a little bit on the chunky side...

also, what stores sell clothes that arent too expensive? i live in staten island [new york] so stores that are in my area would be really helpful.

thanks

Most clothes will look fine on you as long as you get the right size. Like don't get a small if you know you are a medium. That's just common sence there though. If you don't want people staring at your stomach, don't wear layered shirts or shirts that have pockets ont eh stomach area, cause people will stare there.

Stores:
American Eagle
Hollister
Aeropostale
Gap
Old Navy
Abercrombie--- expensive but usually have a lot of sale items
Kohls--- great jeans!

Q: does anybody know any websites or stores that have like really cute pencil cases for school? i tried searching online but it came up with all ugly ones lol. thanks! :]

Office depot has a lot of round ones when I was there. You can try target and staples too.

Q: 13/f
i really want to start straightening my hair. i already know which straughtener im getting..my friend has it. its a conair ceramic one with 30 heat settings on it. is that a good one to get?? would that damage my hair if i use it every day?? and if it would, how can i make it not?

I'm not sure about your hair type, but conair's don't have the best reputation. I know people that have used them and they straighten the peoples hair for like an hour then it turns wavy and stuff. I don't recomend it. I recomend Rusk. It works for all types of hair. It makes my hair super super SUPER straight.

Your hair will damage if you use it everyday. So I suggest two products. They are both from a compony called Aquage. The first one is a shining spray and the other is an ultra straightening gel that you put in your hair when it is wet.

They both made me hair even more silkier and I highly recomend them!

Q: ok i need help i cant decide between 2 parties, both are this saturday & i know its my decision & all but i just need input

ok so Party A:: the girls whos throwin it i mean we both know each other but weve never talked to each other but shes 2 of my other friend's friend too. i kno a buncha people that are going to this, its gonna be like one of those big blow out my-super-sweet-16 kinda deals. i got invited to this one first. the down side is i need a semi-formal dress haha

Party B:: one of my friends from last semester is havin it. its a pool party and i only kno like 3 people that are goin. i wasnt invited to this one till i had pretty much already decided i was goin to the 1st one [although i hadnt RSVP'd or told anyone i was goin]. but the thing is this girl is actually one of my friends from last yr although i havent seen her at all this yr. i dont wanna upset them by goin to the 1st party esp. since a lotta ppl dont like the girl whos havin the 1st party [personally i dont have anything against her i dont see why a lotta ppl are like 'dont go to hers' and stuff]

so basically id kinda rather go to the 1st party but the thing is i dont wanna let my friends down, + id have to go buy a dress anyway.

what should i do?

I would go to the first party. You want to go there more and you would prob. have more fun.

As for your friend, tell her that you got invited to this other girls party first, and you already told her you oculd go (even if you didn't) Then tell her that you two should hang out one day after the party together. She will understand.

EDIT
And for the dress, I wouldn't worry about it. You can go to DEB, Dillards, Boscovs, there are so many places to grab one!

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl...and i was just wondering how far you think i should go with a boy (please dont say "whatever i'm comfortable with")

and how far did you go when you were 15??

THANKS

I would go no furthur then third base, maybe even no furthur then second, depending on the guy. don't have sex.

Q: well i really like these 2 guys but the one guy broke up with me and his life is really messed up but hes willing to take me back and the other guy is soo nice and sweet but i like the other guy more. im a 13 year old female.

pick the one you like more. give him another try, if he's a butt, try the other guy

Q: I've never been to a bloc party.
What exactly do you do there.
My boyfriend always goes to them. Do people hook up there or what?

At my block party, it's when you block of a street and my neighborhood gets together and eat and play games and hang. We don't hook up there.

Q: My boyfriend left my friend a picture comment on myspace that said "your so sexy shortii." I'm really jealous. Should I be jealous? I don't want to seem so clingy but I'm kinda jealous.

Yeah it's fine to be jealous. I would be too. I would talk to him about it and say like, "Why did you tell her she was sexy?" And go from there, but act cool about it.

Q: Me and my best girl freind have been really close for a while. Over the summer we went on vacation together and we ended up hooking up a lot of times, and I kind of liked it, but i still like guys. What does that mean?

The question is, do you have intimate feelings for her? Like do you like-like her? If you do, then you are bi-sexual which is liking girls and guys. If you don't have intimate feelings for her, it's still normal. It's like experimenting or something. It doesn't really mean anything you guys just had urges to do it. I wouldn't worry a whole bunch.

Q: ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes

It's def. more of a risk. I would use protection even if he says it's ok not to. You don't want to wind up pregnant, and this way you won't have to worry about it as much.

Q: My boyfriends wants me to send him a picture of my pussy to his phone. I don't really want to. How can I tell him I'm not going to without making it seem like I don't love him?

Just tell him you don't feel comfortable doing that and tell him you love him.

Q: so this guy asked me out today i didnt kiss him goodbye but i hugged him should i feel bad?
and also this one girl is always ALL over him..
help?

No, it's fine that you didn't kiss him. It was probably good that you didn't because you guys just started going out today.

As for the girl, I would wait to like talk to the girl or him about it since you guys haven't been together very long. I would wait like a week or something and see how she acts. And if she is all over him, go up to her and say, "i'm going out with this guy and I like him. so could you please stop being all over him?" and if she doesn't stop go to your boyfriend and talk to him and say that you don't like it when she's all over you and ask him to tell her to back off a little.

hope that helped

Q: i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice]

Hey. Losing your virginity is supposed to be one of the most special moments in your life. It's not just to be like "hey guess what! i'm not a virgin." To make it special, you do it with someone you love and who loves you back. Not just some one who wants to get in your pants. I hope that helped and good luck!

Q: im gunna be a freshmen in highschool nd i need a WHOLE NEW WARDROBE! i wanna be known as the hottest freshmen in school, the hottest girl in school for that matter. what clothes and make-up should i buy? idc how much it is, give me the most expensive thing you can find for all i care. haha well anything reasonable actually that will look hott and will make my ex's think 'damn i shouldn't have let her go' somehting that will turn heads -- BREAK NECKS for that matter. =] thanks!

Try Abercrombie and Fitch first. They have the nicest clothes. Hollister and American Eagle also have really cool things. Vicotoria Secret has cute sweatshirts and stuff also. Look in Seventeen and CosmoGIRL! magazine because they have really good clothes in there and stuff. As for make-up, it depends on your skin color and eye color so look in the magazines again for that. Good luck!

Q: When your pregnant, do you still have periods? What about if you breastfeed?

No, you don't get your period when you are pregnant.

Q: ahh i seriously have like 10 or more mosquito bites and they are driving me crazyy!!!!! is there any way to make them go away quicker? i have this lotion stuff but it doesn't help that much and only lasts for a little period of time. please help they itch so bad!! =[ thank youuu.

Benadryl (i think that's how you spell it) it goes away soooooo fast!

Q: i change my braces every 6 weeks what color should i have only 2 colors or 1?
=]
14/f

I think one is better. People don't notice them as much.

EDIITTT******

i always liked navy blue cause they didn't show up as much as bright colors like pink or sky blue. make sure you don't get red or yellow though.

Q: I really like this boy...and when ever i talk to him i dont know what to talk about it always ends up in an akward silence. i need help on things to talk about cause i really like this guy. thankss a lot.

Find out things he is interested in and ask questions. Or, if you know that he is playing soccer ask him, so when is your next game or something like that. Talk to him about music, other sports, food, whatever.

Be yourself and you will be fine! Just don't stress it too much! :]

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Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts