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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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So I met this guy online that I really like and I've known him for about a year. We just started talking on the phone a couple days ago at around midnight for like 2 hours and just yesterday we IMed each other for like the entire day and talked about nothing. :P
Problem is, we live about 600 miles away from each other so we can't see each other.
I'm 15 and he's 15- what do you suggest? Does he feel the same way about me?
Corresponding with someone you met online is a dangerous thing. But I'm sure you know that already.
You've already given him your phone number, so there's no stopping that. But just remember that though you've "known" him for about a year, you don't actually know him. You know his voice and his words he's written, but I would keep it at that. Personally, I think it's a good thing that you guys live far away so you can't see each other.
I'm not saying that because I hold a grudge against you and just want this relationship to fail. How could I hold anything personal against you? I don't know you. I only know you through the Internet...just like this kid you are talking about.
He says he's fifteen, but you probably know that he could be a sixty-year-old pedophile. Like I said before, it's dangerous.
Of course, he could be telling the truth. There's always that chance. But even if he is, you should still be wary. You two could share with each other deep dark secrets that nobody else knows over the phone and computer, but that still doesn't mean much. He's a stranger sweetie. I personally consider anyone you haven't met face-to-face a stranger.
If you ever at some point want to meet this kid in person, please first tell your parents what you plan to do. That way, if something happens, they'll know and will be able to help you. Also, bring a group of friends and meet in a crowded place.
But again, I really don't suggest meeting him. Perhaps you should keep this relationship strictly on the computer.
Safety first hun. Good luck.
i work at a resturaunt so im on my feet all day, wat can i do after work to make them stop hurting and wat can i do to get used to it
Here's a link to a few foot massagers from Brookstone:
http://www.brookstone.com/store/thumbnail.asp?wid=17&cid=1702&sid=170202
I highly recommend the "iSqueez Calf and Foot Massager". It's a little pricey but totally worth the price in my opinion.
Treat yourself after a long day. Remember that you're worth it. =]
I been losing alot of sleep lately, at sometimes i would find myself just laying there all night and never get any sleep, im afraid i wont have my sleep back in time for school and could it be depression related? if so, how do i stop it? thanks lots
It could be depression related yes. Stress could also be a factor.
I also think it could be diet. Are you drinking/eating a lot of caffeine (ie soda, coffee, chocolate) right before you go to bed?
Worrying about not sleeping could cause you to not be able to sleep...because you are worrying. ;]
Just relax and don't concern yourself with the fact that you aren't sleeping. If that doesn't work, talk to your doctor. He/she could answer better than any of us I'm sure. You could tell them what your diet is, as well as what may be causing you stress in your life.
15/f
ok well iv known my best friend for three years and since i met her i really like her alot and well i think i really like her like as in love that i want to be with her. i dont know wether i like girls or not caz i think im straight but not sure caz of my best friend but i dont know wether to tell her i might love her or not caz i dont want to lose her as a friend
should i tell her i love her and would like to be with her even tho shes not bi? can u help
Well, you're just trying to figure things out. That's okay at our age.
What I would do is just think about this. Determine if this is an intense sisterly love, or something more.
If you come to find that you have strong feelings for her, then I suggest sitting down with her and telling her that you might be a lesbian or bisexual. I wouldn't bring up your feelings for her until this news has sunk in. Give her a little time before you tell her that you have a crush on her.
If she is truly your friend, then there is no reason for her to freak out if you decide to let her know. If she doesn't share your feelings, that's okay. She's still a great friend right? I know it might hurt a little, but just keep her there. You have a great friendship here, and if things don't turn out the way you wanted (ie she just wants to stay friends), that's fine. It won't be the end of the world, I promise.
Good luck! Let me know how things work out. I'm here if you need me.
ok i recently got the ipod shuffle and i was wondering if there is any way to make it repeat a song without clicking back? thanks :)
http://www.apple.com/ipodshuffle/features.html
From there:
"Shuffle switch
Embrace your inner rebel: Flip the shuffle switch to mix up iPod shuffle’s contents. Flip it again to play your handpicked playlists and albums in the order you synced them from iTunes."
The switch is on the top of the iPod I believe. Flip the switch to the symbol that looks like two arrows crossed. The arrows that form a circle repeats your playlist.
See the picture on the top right. =]
Well, Levi and I have been together 2 years. We're both 18. He's going away to College on the other side of the state. I'm really torn up about it because I'm not a strong person. We love eachother and want to make it work but whenever I've suggested something like, I move over there with him, and we rent an apartment or something like that, he says I'll be a distraction. He says I mean a lot to him, and I think I do, it's just that I'm so hurt and depressed over things like this. And I ask him to reassure me that everything will be okay. And he says he's not good at that kind of thing [[ which is true ]] he's an aquarius and isn't very vocal with his feelings. Whereas I'm a cancer and the polar opposite. We've made promises like no drinking and smoking in college, things like that... But I'm worried he might find someone over there. We fight like every other couple. I'm his first girlfriend and I'm worried maybe he's curious if there's someone better out there?
Though he's promised he wants to make our relationship work and he's fighting for us [[ which is true, he's made some real sacrifices]] but I just can't help but feel unimportant... Maybe I'm too needy? To make things worse, my best and only friend is moving to the other side of the country. I haven't got anyone and I kinda worry that Levi's taking the blunt of my emotions. But then again he doesn't help to make me feel better. So I guess I'm asking if I should say something to him about it? Or just be stronger?... I don't know... I just don't know what to do... I don't know if I can make it 4 years without just completely breaking down. I'm really insecure and have separation issues. And I just won't know what's going on when he's hundreds of miles away...
Thanks in advance, and sorry if I seemed like I was rambling... lol.
Hmmm...
First of all, take a deep breath. Relax. Breathe in and out. There, much better.
I can understand your emotions. Who wouldn't be sad to have their boyfriend move away? The other side of the state? It might as well be the other side of the world. I get it sweetie, it's hard.
I know that you're worried and nervous about what might happen. And the last thing you want to hear is "Don't worry". Because you know you need to stop worrying, so you really don't need somebody to tell you.
He has promised you that he's trying to make it work. If you two are willing, I'm sure there won't be too many problems. But if you stay this anxious, just waiting for something bad to happen...well, I can tell you things might not work out the way you want. Anticipating certain doom will sort of cause you to be unwilling to let in good things. So, think positively.
You're very pessimistic at the moment. I can understand that, I'm a negative person too. But, you shouldn't let this sad news overwhelm you. In the long run, it really isn't that big a deal. If you just relax and think positive, you'll be more at ease.
I noticed you worried about sounding to needy to him. Again, relaxing will lessen that.
Just breathe. Let things play out the way they will. You're both going to try, which is very good. Trust in that. And if it ends up not working out, no biggie. You gave it a shot.
Just remember that college is a big step. It's one step away from the rest of your future. Maybe this is a chance for you guys to branch out and find yourselves. Sometimes it's good to be able to go your own way. Perhaps this space will be a good thing.
Good luck hun.
lawlz. okay, I met this guy when I was like 12 and playing an MMORPG FFXI, well ive known him for awhile now, and we just really talking talking in depth lately (as in the past month)...
Im 17 now, and im pretty positive that I am in love with this guy he's all I think about anymore.
but yea... he's 5 years older than me, and lives 8 hours away (in a different state) we might meet up at youmacon, ill have friends with me and all that but im just really nervous, im not a touchy person and he said hes gonna be all lovey dovey... Im a shy person, and as much as ill wanna open up, i think ill freak out when I meet him XD...and is this even a good idea?
Okay I'm just going to say this:
He says he's five years older than you, which could be true...or not. He could really be some fifty-year-old pedophile. But of course, I am sure you've taken that into consideration...?
You say that you've known him for awhile now. I'm sorry to say however that you don't know him. It is so very easy to lie about yourself on the Internet. Even while gaming. But of course, I am sure you've also taken this into consideration...?
If you absolutely feel you must meet him in person, though I STRONGLY advise against it, then yes bring friends with you and meet in a crowded place with lots of people around.
And tell your parents. If you cannot tell your parents that you are planning to meet him, then do not meet him. Your parents need to know in case something goes wrong. If you can't tell them, then that's your inner voice telling you this isn't a good idea.
Good luck and be safe.
is it normal for a 13 year old guy(me) to have never been in a fight, be really sensitive(cry when im angry and when im pissed off/annoyed) and just weird things like that
Everybody's different.
Not all guys fight you know. And to be honest, from a girl's point of view, I don't see guys who fight a lot as tough. I see them as immature.
And about the being really sensitive part, well you're thirteen. You're just starting to go through puberty. Everybody's a little more sensitive when they go through puberty. Even guys.
I have a younger brother who's around thirteen and he shows emotion when he's angry. It's okay.
It's normal to occasionally be so angry you cry. It doesn't mean you're a wimp.
;]
HI, stupid question, but im 16 and im 6 foot 3, i dont want to get any taller coz im afraid ill look like a freak, can someone please tell me if there is a chance ill stop growing, or tips on how to stop growing...or add me on wonderkid09@hotmail.co.uk, id really apprecaite it as im feeling insecure atm.
If you are a girl: Girls stop growing usually around the age of thirteen-fourteen.
If you are a boy: Boys usually stop growing around the age of sixteen-seventeen.
So of course you'll stop growing. Nobody grows forever hun. =]
Sorry to say that there is no magical cure to stop you from growing though. It's all up to your body and genetics.
Being tall isn't the end of the world though. It can actually come in handy. I'm on the short side so I often can't reach the upper shelves at stores. I'm always having to ask taller people if they could help me. So thank God for people your height! =]
Honestly, I doubt anyone really thinks you're a freak for being so tall. You're the only one who's judging you. So don't stress, be happy and secure with yourself.
Be proud to be tall ;]
is a makeup good quality if it is tested on animals?
yes its cruel but answer the question please and thank yoooo
The fact that a brand of makeup is tested on animals doesn't automatically mean it's good quality. Just like it doesn't necessarily mean it's bad quality either.
Animals react differently on some occasions to the products than we do.
So, basically don't just assume when you pick up some eyeliner that it's bad quality if it hasn't been tested on animals first. ;]
okay so first things first, don't preach to me about how i shouldn't be doing bad things blahh blahh, just answer the question. so about a month ago i got caught with a lighter, and a shot glass, kcool. everything was back to normal with my family in a matter of hours. then, like a week after my mom found my pipe and rolling papers, everything was back to normal and i was allowed to go out again that weekend. but, the day i went out, i got brought home by the police at like 4am. my family's acting normal again like nothing happened, but i'm afraid to ask to go out anymore, do you think they'll let me do stuff anytime soon?
EDIT: Okay, but addiction starts somewhere.
I'm guessing you are still a teenager considering that you live with your parents under their rules. You aren't allowed out, and going places is definitely a privilege. Most teens get this privilege, it's whole part of getting more responsibility as you grow up. You've lost this privilege for now. There's one part of being a teenager gone. You use drugs and drink alcohol, which could possibly cause problems for you down the road. There's another part gone.
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The fact of the matter is you messed up. Big time. They already had forgiven you, then you went out again and messed up again. Second chances don't just keep coming. I can't speak for you parents because I don't honestly know whether or not they will let you out anytime soon. I don't know them. I just know that if it were me in their shoes, I wouldn't let you go out. It's not even that you did something wrong...it's that you did something really bad three times. Three times. You were given three chances and you blew all of them. That's why I don't think you should be off the hook. Because we all know that drugs and alcohol are bad yes, but the fact that as soon as you were off the hook you went out and did something wrong again...that's not good.
I suggest not bringing up the subject of going out anymore. Let them come to you with that. Show maturity in not whining or complaining or sneaking out.
And I know you don't want to hear this but I have to say it: Please don't screw up your life by using and abusing drugs and/or alcohol. It's not worth it. You'll look back ten years down the road and wonder why on earth you ever decided to do them. And by telling us that you don't want to hear us preach to you about how you shouldn't be doing bad things, then you know that they're bad and you know someone is going to say it. Use your common sense.
Good luck.
I really need babysitting jobs but i don't know anyone who has little kids. how should i get more people to ask me to babysit? i have red cross training. help me please! 14/f
One of my friends printed up a bunch of fliers advertising her services and posted them up in the local coffee shop. She also put them around her neighborhood too. It was a great way for her to let people know she was available.
For example:
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Need a Babysitter?
Call (555)-555-5555 or email (insert email here)
I can babysit any day, any night!
Just call and ask for (insert name here)!
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If you use this idea, just please don't give out your last name on these fliers, as well as your street address and such. It's easy to block a number or email address. Blocking a stalker outside your door is a little bit more challenging ;]
Have fun babysitting!
hello; i'm 13/f.
k, so i hate how young i look. like im 13 & i could pass for like 11 & it gets superr annoying cause people are like UR 13?!?!? like i like my looks, i think im pretty and stuff. its not like i think my ugly at alll. but the other day a girl asked me how old i am & i told her and she was like realllly?!? im like yeah, im pretty small for my age. so im not really wanting to hear the whole well "looks dont matter" "its the inside that counts" i wanted to see if u have any suggestions to look older [this sounds rlly stupid] & btw make up is outta the question. b/c my mom doesnt allow it until freshman year. =\ k, well thnks a lot
Sweetie I know exactly how you feel. I was small for my age too. I still am a little on the small side, but that's a good thing now! Up until just this year, I had to go through the whole "Oh my god! You're so tiny! Can I pick you up?" and "Aww your so cute and little! It's adorable!" Believe me, I know how annoying it is. ;]
Let me just tell you one thing: Make up really doesn't necessarily make you look older. I started wearing make up just before seventh grade (I was twelve). At first I would wear neutral shades and whatnot. But by the time eighth grade rolled around (when I was thirteen), I would wear black eyeliner and dark blue eyeshadow. Not a good look. But I'd figured that it would make me look older. Now, looking back on pictures of myself, all I see is a silly little girl trying to pass herself off as an adult. Not exactly what I was going for. ;] So trust me, you're okay by not wearing make up. It's also a pain to put on everyday.
Besides, what really makes you appear older and mature is confidence. This means confidence in all things. Being confident enough to show your natural beauty (i.e. no make up), confidence shown in your attitude (in other words, don't care about when people make comments on how small you are), etc.
I don't have any magic remedies that will make you look older. I wondered the same thing all the time. What you really need is to accept the fact that you are small for your age and love it =] This is you. And you are a pretty cool person to be.
In a few years, I promise you your body will catch up to your age. You probably have yet to hit puberty to be perfectly honest. Like, you may have started..but aren't done yet. One day, you are seriously going to blossom and wonder why you ever worried in the first place. =]
And just think , if your body never does catch up to your age: When your forty and look thirty-two, everyone will be completely jealous, not shocked or horrified ;]
so i am a sixteen year old incoming senior. I have a good group of close friends and a large group of acquaintances. I get along with basically everyone. I can be shy in certain circustsnces but for the most part I'm outgoing and like being around people. For this summer I'm hostessing at a restaurunt at the beach, three hours away from home. I'm living with my older brother. My boss always compliments me and is in disbelief that I'm only sixteen. A group of friends also live and work here for the summer aswell.
I am pretty normal when it comes to my looks. I'm quite skinny, have naturally straight blonde hair, blue/green eyes. My friends say I have a cute butt, and that it makes up for my lack of breast-age. My skin is pretty good and I dont wear make up, glasses or braces. I'm average in height aswell and my style is preppy skater esque. I probably look like I walked straight out of a pacsun magazine.
So basically I'm cute and fun to be around, yet still mature for my age. Sounds like I have no problem right? Wellllll, I do. When it comes to guys and/or a love life, its non-existent. At home, all of my friends are in relationshops. And whenever I would have a crush on a guy a friend would hang out with him and they would start dating, or he would at least like her and forget about me. Its happened 4 times with my friends from home. Now I'm at a beach with my beach friends. Its kinda the same deal just worse. Its like I'm invisible to the guys here. My four best girlfriends from here hang out withthe lifeguards and the guardshave falling in love with them. I've met themand they kinda just brushed me off.
So I met this boy named andrew because he works at the icecream shop with two of my friends. Hes 17 and also a senior. My friends were all into getting him and I together. So we met and hung out and I got a crush on him. Now he likes one of the girls who was tryin to set me up with him, and she kinda likes him too. So basically I just cant figure out why guys arenot interested in me. My friends are better then me or it seems that way. Also, I always seem to develop crushes on guys, never is it a guy has a crush on me. And with my friends its always boy likes girl, and then girl is like okay! Does that make sense?
so idk, maybe some advice about getting boys to notice and/or like me...maybe thoughts about why they dont...idk. I'd talk about it toy friends but they'd just be like but we love you! And basically it does really suck and hurt and down goes my self esteem...thanks! :/
Btw I'm on my itouch so sorry for any spelling mistakes.
In my experiences with guys and such, I've found that if you walk around with a negative attitude about how guys aren't interested in you, that will be projected into the world. What I mean is, if you walk into a situation already thinking you're going to fail, the chances of success aren't very high.
So basically, you've been let down on many occasions. But just because you have doesn't mean you should carry that with you. The next time you meet a guy you want to date, don't worry about him liking you. Just be confident (but not arrogant) and act as though you really don't care whether he likes you or not. If you're stuck worrying, that's portrayed in your attitude as low self-esteem. Trust me on this one, I know it's hard especially when it seems every other time you've failed. But all those other times don't matter. This is now, that was then. See?
Unrequited love sucks I know. But the thing is, one day you are going to find that person. You just have to relax and it will happen.
I want to start tanning in a tanning bed..Im 15 years old and my mom is fine with it..I don't want any answers like "you can get skin cancer" or "you can die" BECAUSE there are so many things you can die from and i already know that..i just want to know how dark would you get going tanning 4 days a week? and i would be using a lotion to deepen your tan.. and how much does it cost monthly? please answer quickly
Okay, there are a lot of things you can die from yes. But sweetie, skin cancer is completely preventable, especially in your case. You're taking for granted the fact that you don't have it. And you know what? If you go to a tanning salon, you're bound to get it. I know that this isn't what you wanted to hear, but somebody had to say it.
I'll try to actually answer your question though...
These might be of use to you:
http://www.zimbio.com/Sun+Safety/articles/28/Want+Tanning+Salon
http://www.yestheyrefake.net/indoor_tanning.html
Might I suggest using a self tanner instead? It's a lot better for you than exposing yourself to unnecessary UV rays.
But anyways, the cost of the appointments really all depends on which place you are going to. If you absolutely must go, check with them first. As for how dark you would get, that all depends on your complexion, the amount of exposure (i.e. how long your appointment is), and how 'powerful' the tanning beds are. So honestly, if you want answers, check with the salon your going to.
I know this isn't what you want to hear but I'll say this in closing: You only have one body. Why destroy it?
okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do
What should you do?
Sweetie if you have to ask, you aren't ready. Besides, you are very young. I'm not going to sit here preaching to you about how you should wait, because that's really your own personal decision. But please think long and hard about this before going through with it.
Judging by your question, I'm assuming this is your first time. Are you aware of the risks involved? There's pregnancy for one thing, then there's the possibility of getting an STD. Are you prepared to accept the consequences?
There's a big difference between thinking about having sex and having it. Just remember that and please keep yourself safe.
okay so in the bar where you type in the website...is there a way you can delete the websites???
thanks.
1. At the top of your browser, click "Tools".
2. Select "Options" from the "Tools" Menu
3. Click on the tab that says something to the effect of "Privacy"
4. Uncheck the box marked "Remember entries typed in search bar and form" (or something like that)
There ya go =]
what do you do when someone breaks your heart?:(
You could...
1. Hang out with friends
2. Have a sleepover marathon
3. Go to the mall
4. Write an angry letter to the heartbreaker, then rip it up
5. Paint a picture depicting your sadness
6. Paint a picture depicting happiness as to get over sadness
Everybody gets their heart broken at some point in their life. And I know that it's really hard right now, but you just have to pick yourself up and move on. Distracting yourself helps a lot. For the first few hours, sulk a little. But after that, go out and enjoy life. Trust me, being happy is a lot more fun than being sad. =]
One thing I don't recommend doing would be gorging on cookies and ice cream. You'll just end up feeling worse after eating all that junk. =P
Feel better!
okay, so i reallly like this kid mike, and the other night we were hanging out with a group of people but me & him flirted like a lottt, and went away from everyone else a few times. i thought it went well..then my friend talked to him and he like said i acted really shyy and that i was quiet//not really into himm but that he liked me..now i'm mad at myself and i dont know what to do. i've hooked up w. guys before i just get really nervous around him. i feel like i've just ruined everything :( should i do anything or just try to act better the next time we hang out?
First off, don't be mad at yourself. Everybody gets shy at some point. That's probably a sign that you really like him.
With that said, don't stress about it. The next time you see him, talk with him as you normally would. Be yourself. A guy friend of mine gave me some really good advice once: If you change yourself so a guy will notice you, when you do finally get together, he won't really know the real you.
Makes sense right? So if you get shy around him, so be it. That's you. If he doesn't like it, that's his loss. Because if you force yourself on him or change your demeanor on purpose to get noticed, he'll be in for a real shock when you two get together and you're different.
Let him know though that you are into him. Just be like "You know, I really do like you. I just get shy sometimes but whatever" You want to be a confident you...but the keyword is "you".
Good luck!
first of all, i want to apologize for having such a long problem.
second, i am 13/f
i have this guyfriend and i used to think he was my best friend because he just understands me unlike anyone else. i have this other friend, who has a similar name to mine, in most of my classes, people confuse us CONSTANTLY. i didn't really mind it until he did it because i thought he liked me more than her.
i got my friend to ask him who his best friend that was a girl was (not to make it obvious by asking him if he liked me or her better) and he said that SHE was his best friend that's a girl!
i was extremely upset because i've been through a lot in the last two months such as losing several good friends because of extremely unnecessary fights and i've just been very sensitive and not really listening to anyone. i thought that maybe he was the only person that i could truly count on. i've been REALLY hurt these past two months, and it's like i just added to that.
also, he is definitely not her best guyfriend. but we would always talk i am just so surprised that he said that i couldnt even explain the shock. we got in a fight a few months ago but we are currently (good?) friends. to tell you the truth, i dont like any of my friends. he was the only one that i actually had real friend qualities.
he is constantly flirting and talking with her but everyone knows that he is just extremely nice to everyone so i am not sure if it's flirting or not.
thanks beyond much ♥
I wouldn't take this too hard.
You are one of his friends whose a girl. You and him talk about stuff all the time right? Well, that should be good enough. You don't have to be his number one for you two to still be friends.
So what if he feels a little closer to your other friend? That shouldn't matter at all. He's still your good friend and the fact he didn't name you as his favorite doesn't mean anything. Maybe he secretly likes your friend (as more than a friend) and that's why he said he liked her best. I don't know though.
Regardless, I really don't think he was playing favorites. I mean seriously, this shouldn't shock you into not being his friend anymore. Just because he didn't say you were his best friend doesn't mean he doesn't like you at all. You say he "was" the only one that you actually had real friend qualities with? Guess what, he still his.
You don't have to be "best friends" with someone to be close to them. Besides, I find that the term "best friends" is overrated. What does it even mean? In the end it just causes tears if someone doesn't feel included because they're not referred to as a "best friend". Like, for instance, in your case. Therefore, don't be jealous. Be a friend to him, just like he's a friend to you. There's no reason to be mad.
I'm also sorry about the rough few months you've had. I can totally understand how that might have something to do with your jealousy. But you can't assume that just because you had problems with other friends that you're going to have problems with this guy friend. Trust me on this one because I've been there: You can't let the past ruin your future. Corny I know lol. But it's true.
Good luck sweetie.