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He's going away to college and I'm devastated.... ='[
Well, Levi and I have been together 2 years. We're both 18. He's going away to College on the other side of the state. I'm really torn up about it because I'm not a strong person. We love eachother and want to make it work but whenever I've suggested something like, I move over there with him, and we rent an apartment or something like that, he says I'll be a distraction. He says I mean a lot to him, and I think I do, it's just that I'm so hurt and depressed over things like this. And I ask him to reassure me that everything will be okay. And he says he's not good at that kind of thing [[ which is true ]] he's an aquarius and isn't very vocal with his feelings. Whereas I'm a cancer and the polar opposite. We've made promises like no drinking and smoking in college, things like that... But I'm worried he might find someone over there. We fight like every other couple. I'm his first girlfriend and I'm worried maybe he's curious if there's someone better out there?
Though he's promised he wants to make our relationship work and he's fighting for us [[ which is true, he's made some real sacrifices]] but I just can't help but feel unimportant... Maybe I'm too needy? To make things worse, my best and only friend is moving to the other side of the country. I haven't got anyone and I kinda worry that Levi's taking the blunt of my emotions. But then again he doesn't help to make me feel better. So I guess I'm asking if I should say something to him about it? Or just be stronger?... I don't know... I just don't know what to do... I don't know if I can make it 4 years without just completely breaking down. I'm really insecure and have separation issues. And I just won't know what's going on when he's hundreds of miles away...
Thanks in advance, and sorry if I seemed like I was rambling... lol.
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Well, first moving away from anyone you love is going to be hard. However, you need to learn to survive without him around all the time. If your constantly depending on him to make you feel better, and such what happens if you two were to break up. You would essentially be unable to take care of yourself. So maybe the time away will allow you to learn somethings.
You shouldn't force yourself to move across an entire state to be with him. I know, it's the one you 'love' but, your life shouldn't revolve around anyone else. Long distance will not be easy, but for the times you two are able to see eachother, you will be so incredibly happy.
To anwser your question in short: Yes, you need to be stronger. Cherish the time you have now, and learn to look forward to upcoming times. That is honestly my personal best answer.
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Hmmm...
First of all, take a deep breath. Relax. Breathe in and out. There, much better.
I can understand your emotions. Who wouldn't be sad to have their boyfriend move away? The other side of the state? It might as well be the other side of the world. I get it sweetie, it's hard.
I know that you're worried and nervous about what might happen. And the last thing you want to hear is "Don't worry". Because you know you need to stop worrying, so you really don't need somebody to tell you.
He has promised you that he's trying to make it work. If you two are willing, I'm sure there won't be too many problems. But if you stay this anxious, just waiting for something bad to happen...well, I can tell you things might not work out the way you want. Anticipating certain doom will sort of cause you to be unwilling to let in good things. So, think positively.
You're very pessimistic at the moment. I can understand that, I'm a negative person too. But, you shouldn't let this sad news overwhelm you. In the long run, it really isn't that big a deal. If you just relax and think positive, you'll be more at ease.
I noticed you worried about sounding to needy to him. Again, relaxing will lessen that.
Just breathe. Let things play out the way they will. You're both going to try, which is very good. Trust in that. And if it ends up not working out, no biggie. You gave it a shot.
Just remember that college is a big step. It's one step away from the rest of your future. Maybe this is a chance for you guys to branch out and find yourselves. Sometimes it's good to be able to go your own way. Perhaps this space will be a good thing.
Good luck hun.
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