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Met this guy online that I really like
So I met this guy online that I really like and I've known him for about a year. We just started talking on the phone a couple days ago at around midnight for like 2 hours and just yesterday we IMed each other for like the entire day and talked about nothing. :P
Problem is, we live about 600 miles away from each other so we can't see each other.
I'm 15 and he's 15- what do you suggest? Does he feel the same way about me?
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It sounds like you guys are pretty into each other, considering you're talking over the internet and all. Spending so much time speaking like that is good and all, but like the others said: Take precautions, be wary, and think this over.
Like they said, you can never be 100% sure with who you're talking to on the internet. I've known one of my best friends for three or four years now, we write letters and talk on the phone and stuff, but my parents are STILL wary. I'd suggest that if you don't feel comfortable telling your parents, or a responsible adult about this, at least tell a friend -- Just in case (God forbid) something should ever happen.
Not only that, but it's also always that you can't tell how a person REALLY feels over the comptuer/phone. People are always a little different, and can adjust themselves to how the other person seems over the computer, while when in person, it's not quite so easy.
However, if you're very interested in persuing something other than friendship, it's going to be difficult. It'll be difficult to talk much once school starts up (if it hasn't for you yet), flirting won't be the same, meeting will be difficult, cheating is a ton more convenient, etc.. Personally, I'd recommend that ya'll stay friends. It's much easier, and lets you have the chance to get a boyfriend a bit closer to home.. If you still felt the same about this guy after a while, when you can drive, I'd say go for it, but it'd be very difficult now.
That's not saying it wouldn't work at all. You'd just have to make sure you're VERY patient if you did decide to go with it.
I can't say whether or not he likes you back -- It sounds like he does. Most guys wouldn't invest so much time on a girl, nonetheless one he met on the internet. You'd have to talk to him about it, I suppose. (;
Just try to give it time, and see how things work. (:
XOXO
KAT.
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I agree with Jack, [who answered below] for various reasons ;]
Anywho...
My personal opinion on the subject isn't much different. Just because you met a friend on the Internet doesn't make it different from any other friendship. I mean, obviously, you can't just call him up and ask to go see a movie, but you can still have a healthy relationship.
If you want to know if he likes you, just ASK him about it. You'll feel so much better if you do. We can't tell you what HE'S feeling, he's the only one who knows. My only suggestion is to talk to him about it.
Good luck =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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I have a friend I met on here that actually has become one of my good friends. But the thing is, we've been talking to each other for a year and a few months now. She has my phone number, and I have hers, but I've only called her once and left a voicemail. We text occasionally, but not often. Normally we just talk on here, AIM, or Myspace/Facebook.
Yes, we have plans to meet in the future, and yes, that may seem like a stupid idea, but sometimes the people you meet on the internet are some of the best.
The reason I'm telling you this is because yes, I don't really see a problem with meeting him in person when you're OLDER. Like when you're an adult. And by that I mean in your 20s at least. That's about the time I plan to meet my friend.
Meeting someone you met online as a teenager, who claims to be a teenager, is not always the best thing to do. I've heard too many stories of people meeting people they met online, and it never ended well.
If your friendship is good enough, it should be able to last until you guys are a bit older.
And just to stop my lecture [sorry about that], he could like you. If you wanted to know for sure, just ask him.
--Jack
(16/m)
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Keep it safe. I once did that and when I told him i coulnd't talk anymore he freaked out and threatened me. I told my parents and they got new internet and so now he cant find me. The scariest part was he lived 40 mn away, I learned this because I searched his email and name, but he said he lived in Kenya. It's always dangerous to talk to people online. Don't try to meet in person. If you really feel that way and still want to talk to him just be very careful. Don't give out anymore information. Talk to a parent about it get their opinion. Your parents can only help on things like this. BE CAREFUL!
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Corresponding with someone you met online is a dangerous thing. But I'm sure you know that already.
You've already given him your phone number, so there's no stopping that. But just remember that though you've "known" him for about a year, you don't actually know him. You know his voice and his words he's written, but I would keep it at that. Personally, I think it's a good thing that you guys live far away so you can't see each other.
I'm not saying that because I hold a grudge against you and just want this relationship to fail. How could I hold anything personal against you? I don't know you. I only know you through the Internet...just like this kid you are talking about.
He says he's fifteen, but you probably know that he could be a sixty-year-old pedophile. Like I said before, it's dangerous.
Of course, he could be telling the truth. There's always that chance. But even if he is, you should still be wary. You two could share with each other deep dark secrets that nobody else knows over the phone and computer, but that still doesn't mean much. He's a stranger sweetie. I personally consider anyone you haven't met face-to-face a stranger.
If you ever at some point want to meet this kid in person, please first tell your parents what you plan to do. That way, if something happens, they'll know and will be able to help you. Also, bring a group of friends and meet in a crowded place.
But again, I really don't suggest meeting him. Perhaps you should keep this relationship strictly on the computer.
Safety first hun. Good luck.
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