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im only 13
okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do
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Hi!!!
Well I'll tell you the truth, I don't believe in sex before mariagge beacuse that would be fornication. Im a christian. anyways my advice would be not to do it. and even if you were going to do it before mariagge considering that everyone is different and I will not expect you to think the same as me, 13 is waaaay to young.
Imagine you getting pregnant? even if he does use a condom it could slip of, even if you could take the pill it's only 99% effective so there is a chance you could get pregnant. But in the end you are going to make your own decision so you could do whatever you want and face the consequences or be safe, he will understand. believe me you also wouldn't like having to come here after, asking if you have pregnancy symptons like millions of girls who come here scared. so it's up to you girl.
If you have any other question just ask me ok???
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Aly~
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If you have to ask what to do you
are not ready.
I know everyone treats sex like it
some sort of right of passage. It
is not. It is a very big risk to
take with your future.
It comes with many responsibility's
that most teens, if they took a minute
to think about it, would not be ready
to take.
You can get pregnant at any time.
Is your boyfriend or yourself
ready and able to provide for a
child without the help of your
parents?
Do you have jobs and insurance to
pay for hospital bills and doctors
visits? Any pregnant female under
the age of 20 is considered a high
risk pregnancy. That means you are
charged more. Most parents insurance
company's will not pay for pregnancy
of a minor child.
That is only one very big possible
consequence of having sex while still
a child. There is also AIDS which can
kill you after a long illness. Other
STDs can also scar you for life.
If you can handle all that then you
are ready. Go for it.
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I'm 13 too...and yea my boyfriend says we should do it...but I dint do it cause like were both too young and yea your ready for sex cause your having period.....but at age 9-11 your not ready cause you dont have period but it depends if you had very early that means your ready for sex but your too young to do it with a guy its hard to say no!but just say it,he'll understand it if he can't wait then he's not right for you....U can get pregnant anytime....
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there are two ways i could go about giving you advice for this. one is telling you "you're way too young! don't do it!" the other would be telling you to think about it and make sure you're ready. so i'm going to do both.
one:
honestly, i think you're a little young. i know of a few girls who had sex at 13/14 years old, and i know very many people don't think too highly of them.
two:
it's not anyone's decision what age is right, because it's not about age. it's about when you think you are ready and when you are ready to take on the responsibilities of having sex. are you capable of giving birth to and raising a child (or taking on the mental trials of having an abortion?)? are you ready for the lifelong struggle of contracting an std? if you can't say yes to both of those questions, you really shouldn't be having sex.
it's never going to be about "you're too young, you can't be ready!" it's going to be about being able to handle what comes with sex.
-collin
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If you're asking what you should do, then basically, you aren't 100% ready. You might think you are, but I bet there are so many factors you haven't even thought about. Yes, you probably know about pregnancy and hopefully about STI's and STD's etc, but there are the emotional sides to it too. Not to mention you aren't even of legal age to be doing it.
You're only 13, almost 14. So tell me - what on Earth is the rush to get yourself into something so big? If you love your boyfriend and you think he's "the one", then why can't you just wait?
So many people lose their virginity because they THINK it's right at the time. Only to find later on, they regret it so much for different reasons. Don't fall in to that trap.
It's not all fun and games. Remember that.
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If you feel 100% that you're ready, then maybe you are.
Legally, you shouldn't have sex until you've passed the age of consent in your state/country.
Morally, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, or based on when you feel you're morally ready.
Emotionally, you shouldn't have sex until ready to face the consequences of sexual relationships. That is, possible pregnancy, having a child, etc.
Financially, you shouldn't have sex until you're old enough and have enough money to support a possible child.
To me, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, though obviously not everyone lives up to that standard. But definitely DON'T have sex until you're ready, and I mean absolutely ready to face the consequences.
I think if you wait until you're married or at least with the person you will marry and will be with your entire life, it will mean something really special, rather than something to just throw around.
--Jack
(16/m)
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Well, nobody on this website can make a decision for you. The point of this site is for people looking for advice, and guidence. It's difficult for one person to suggest to you whether or not you should lose your virginity.
My advice.. is to really think about it. For yourself, not for anybody else. That includes him to. I'm 21, and I still haven't had sex. Not because I haven't been given oppertunities.. I just want to make sure that when I do it, I'm ready. Physcially, emotional, and responsibly.
If you believe that you are ready to have sex, think of ways you can protect yourself. It may sound ridiculous to you, but considering the pill, wouldn't be a bad idea. Condoms, and trips to the gyno would be in your best interest, too.
There are other things to do besides sex.. and definitely ways to show that you really care for him. So if in doubt-- you could always try those, and decide from there if you're ready-- if you have't decided yet.
Good luck. And for the record-- when people learn that I'm a virgin... whether that's a guy interested, a new friend, or anyone really.. they always seem to say the same thing, and it does make me thankful that I never gave it up so easily. That they wish they had waited until they knew they were ready.
Keep that in mind.. =)
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What should you do?
Sweetie if you have to ask, you aren't ready. Besides, you are very young. I'm not going to sit here preaching to you about how you should wait, because that's really your own personal decision. But please think long and hard about this before going through with it.
Judging by your question, I'm assuming this is your first time. Are you aware of the risks involved? There's pregnancy for one thing, then there's the possibility of getting an STD. Are you prepared to accept the consequences?
There's a big difference between thinking about having sex and having it. Just remember that and please keep yourself safe.
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Are you ready to have a baby of your own?
Are you ready to contract a potentially life threatening STD?
Didn't think so. Don't do it. You're still you and you've got plenty of time for sex, kid. Don't screw your entire life up now. The fact you're questioning it at all shows that you aren't ready.
-Laura. (16-f)
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