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idk what to do anymore
okay so first things first, don't preach to me about how i shouldn't be doing bad things blahh blahh, just answer the question. so about a month ago i got caught with a lighter, and a shot glass, kcool. everything was back to normal with my family in a matter of hours. then, like a week after my mom found my pipe and rolling papers, everything was back to normal and i was allowed to go out again that weekend. but, the day i went out, i got brought home by the police at like 4am. my family's acting normal again like nothing happened, but i'm afraid to ask to go out anymore, do you think they'll let me do stuff anytime soon?
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To answer your question, if they've been lenient in the past, I don't see why they wouldn't be now. Maybe they let you go out all the time because the still trust you. I guess that's a good thing, but I would talk to them about it all, and see how they feel about your behavior. If they approve of it, well then that's their decision; if they are disappointed but are just afraid to punish you for it, well then that's when you should start cleaning up your act, that is, IF that's what you want. I'm not telling you what to do, because I think you already know it's wrong.
--Jack
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1st you are so lucky if that happend to me i would be locked in my room for the rest of my life!
2ed the fact that your family is still letting your go out is a miricale! and that there acting normal is crazy!
3ed your sould kiss your lucky stars that your not in jail!!
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EDIT: Okay, but addiction starts somewhere.
I'm guessing you are still a teenager considering that you live with your parents under their rules. You aren't allowed out, and going places is definitely a privilege. Most teens get this privilege, it's whole part of getting more responsibility as you grow up. You've lost this privilege for now. There's one part of being a teenager gone. You use drugs and drink alcohol, which could possibly cause problems for you down the road. There's another part gone.
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The fact of the matter is you messed up. Big time. They already had forgiven you, then you went out again and messed up again. Second chances don't just keep coming. I can't speak for you parents because I don't honestly know whether or not they will let you out anytime soon. I don't know them. I just know that if it were me in their shoes, I wouldn't let you go out. It's not even that you did something wrong...it's that you did something really bad three times. Three times. You were given three chances and you blew all of them. That's why I don't think you should be off the hook. Because we all know that drugs and alcohol are bad yes, but the fact that as soon as you were off the hook you went out and did something wrong again...that's not good.
I suggest not bringing up the subject of going out anymore. Let them come to you with that. Show maturity in not whining or complaining or sneaking out.
And I know you don't want to hear this but I have to say it: Please don't screw up your life by using and abusing drugs and/or alcohol. It's not worth it. You'll look back ten years down the road and wonder why on earth you ever decided to do them. And by telling us that you don't want to hear us preach to you about how you shouldn't be doing bad things, then you know that they're bad and you know someone is going to say it. Use your common sense.
Good luck.
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Are they usually leniant with you about things like that, or is this something new? Because if it seems like out of nowhere they're not caring about what you do then they might just be letting you make your own mistakes letting you learn on your own. You've already been in trouble with the police -- what more could they do or say? Maybe they're hoping that if you get in serious enough trouble with the law then you'll learn your lesson.
I know you said not to "preach" about how you shouldn't be doing bad things, but if you're concerned about being "afraid" to ask to go out then maybe you should clean your act up. What you're doing is probably hurting them, even if you don't realize it.
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