Sarah Darling
I am an 18 year old girl in college. I have a neighbor, we'll call him "B". B and I hooked up within the first few days of college, and continued to be together for the first two months of school. However, it was on and off, and then finally culminated when we both decided just to be friends. However, one night when we were both really drunk, I was really hurt by something he said and decided to just be like "maybe we shouldn't be friends anymore, B".
Now, in this one second statement, I had broken a promise to him, turned my back on him, etc. He will not give me a second chance, I have hurt him very badly with everything that I have said (and since that incident happened, there have been other occasions where I really said some nasty stuff to him) Do you think that there is any hope for us to be friends anymore? I don't want to hook up with him anymore (although I truly love this guy), I just want my friend back.
Thanks Babe
~S
hey sweetie! sounds like you are in a tough spot because this kid lives right next door to you. i dunno if this is the answer you want to hear, but what it sounds like to me is that he needs his space. He's obviously not being rational because he's hurt and upset. Guys get ANGRY when they are SCARED because they don't know how else to deal with it. B is obviously scared and hurt-it takes time to heal those things but they will eventually heal. As for your part in this, you gotta keep reassuring him that you are there for him even if he doesn't wanna hear it. Be there for him, give him his space but never ever ever stop trying because im positive one day he will come around. i hope i helped please just trust me on this one-see you in 3 weeks :)
xoxoxoxo
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Hey sarah it Beccers_boo's.
My ex and i wer pretty good friends... but i keep hearing about all these lies he told me. He tells other people everything about our relationship i dont know. When my friend told me (they ALL knew) i got really upset and they just got upset at me... liek i had done something wrong!! LAter they said they thought i was mad at them... btu thats not hte point.
He also told me he broke up with me becuase he felt guilty becuase we wasnt allowed to dat eyet. well that turnd out to be a lie and THEN he told me that He wasnt goign to date anyone until he was 18. Well about 1month latr he is dating my good friend. (she asked me AFTER they had started dating !!!)
Well anyways... he had also dated this girl that he always flirted with when WE were dating. He is a jerk!!!! He totaly like flirts with his new girlfriend ( my friend ) in front of me. I think to make me jealous. Its ticks me off.
This wsa the SHORT version. Now he says he is gooing to turn himself in to his parents and will have to go to military school in virginia. He is way over dramatic. I cnt stand him!!!!! When ever i try to explain this to my friend who is dating him she just says "i know already he read your MSN conversations to me. He told me eveerything that went on in your realtion ship!!" that just makes me want to punch her!!!! She acts as if everythign he did was my fault!! Like i am so stupid and i dont know anything.
i dont know what ot do about any of this. please help me sarah!! Your good at helping people!
-beccers_boo
hey babe! im sorry bout ur situation-sounds like there's a reason this guy is your ex. Honestly from what you told me it sounds like you are better off without him. I wouldn't want to be with someone who 1) lies to me 2) uses my friends to make me jealous. Since im assuming you love your friend just suck it up grin it and bear it for her sake. Tell her you understand that he is her new boyfriend but you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't talk about him around you. You need to get over this guy so you can move on with your life and find a guy who is better deserving of YOU. As for his lying, its probably his way of covering up his own issues and if he lied to you i have no doubt in my mind that he will lie to his new gf too. Just be patient with her because i bet he will screw things up with her too and just be there for your friend. Keep me updated on the situation and let me know how things go-if anything comes up, u know how to reach me-xoxoxox sar
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sry if this is gross but i'm constipated and i have no way of getting any medicine for it and its soooooooo painful! does anyone kno what i can do? thanx i'll rate ya!
drink lotsa water and eat tons of veggies-constipation is caused by dehydration and not enough veggies in ur system pushing that shit (no pun intended) out. GO EAT AND DRINK NOW!!! hope you feel better sweetie :)
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Okay, its like this..
I really like this guy (Mike)- & well..he likes me too. Theres this party coming up in a couple of days and its like a huge party.. he told me he wants to get with me there - but thats just the good news.
One of my best friends (Laura) likes him..shes liked him for a long time..but shes the type that likes almost like everybody. Well, she told me that she doesnt like him that much anymore..but I just KNOW she still likes him. I really want to go out with him but I know she'll probably never forgive me. but shes not really a good friend but i know that ill feel horrible if i go out with him..i also wanna get with him but i dont want her to find out..
so can someone help me by giving me ideas of how to go out with him/get with him with out makin my friend mad?
(sorry its so long)
xoxoo
haha wow this sounds familiar and go figure the guy's name in my situation was mike also. to prevent drama id just stay away from him-lord knows u don't want it to turn out like my situation did. if you really want him tho, go for it-if your friend is "the type who likes everybody" like you said then she will get over it eventually. just be careful cuz you never quite know what you are getting into...
"always know if the juice is worth the squeeze"
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I'm sure this question has been asked before.. but never have I found someone that gives a useful answer!! So here goes again!
EVERYTIME I try to upload a picture.. no matter how small the pic.. I get the SAME message!
Settings changed successfully!
You tried to upload a picture, but it was greater than 15K in filesize so it wasn't uploaded.
How can I make sure my picture is under 15K?! I keep trying to make it smaller.. but I still cant get it!! Please help me upload my picture!!
i hope this helps. save the picture to your computer. then go to www.tinypic.com find the picture under the browse key and then click the button. It will give you 3 different url's to use and choose the one that is compatible with the advicenators one. and copy and paste it into your prof. hope this helps
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I am looking in to losing about 50 pounds. I'm not one of those people who we wants to lose it all in a week or a month or anything, but i need some tips. I know i need to eat healthy and in moderation and excersize regularly but is there anything else i can do????
Please help me, i have tried atkins, weightwatchers, and southbeach and none have worked!!!
anything anyone could give would help!!!!
I rate if you want!!!
Hey there is a healthy diet out there that i think everyone should try its called the Zone diet! With this diet you are getting all the nutrients you need without depriving yourself of vital parts of a meal. Also drinking a lot of water helps to curb your appetite. I hope these were some good suggestions! Let me know how it works out and if your able to reach ur goal!
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i really like this guy. we're friends with generally the same people and ive been seeing more and more of him at weekend parties. im always drunk at these parties, hoping that'll make it easier for him to come up and talk to me or me to him, but it doesnt seem to be working. he refuses to do anything with me because im drunk. i really really like him and im not giving up.
Well if you really like him and if you're not gonna give up you might have to initiate something. The first idea that comes to mind is asking a mutual friend of yours to hang out so all 3 of you can hang out together in a different context other than partying. It'll allow him to get to know you on a more everday level instead of JUST seeing you at parties. I think he's smart for not doing anything with you when your drunk-itll make the relationship stronger if it's not based on a hook up while you are drunk. If you are really outgoing you could always approach him yourself at one of these parties, sober. Start talking to him and ask if he'd like to hang out sometime. Personally, i'm more the type of person who would want to hang out with him through a mutual friend cuz itd make me feel less akward. Anyways I really hope you do end up getting what you want and props to you for not giving up. Good luck and let me know how it goes :)
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ok, theres this guy, mmk? and i know he likes me, cuz he told me like a bajillion times. but i dont like him AT ALL..and he keeps like hangin all over me and stuff. he calls me, i dont answer, he writes me notes, i throw them away and dont answer them, he emails me, i delete them, and i have him blocked on AOL..why wont he take the hint???? am i being too subtle? do i just need to like go up to him and make a huge scene or sumthin? please help, cuz he's really startin to bug me!!! thanks!
~*wants nothing to do with him*~
You don't need to make a huge scene. What you need to do is be assertive. Pull him aside and let him know you aren't interested in him or his attention but be nice about it-think about how you'd feel if you were head over heels about some guy. So be gentle but firm-let him know it makes you uncomfortable. I hope this helps but if not be careful...he could potentially become a stalker!!! Best of luck lemme know how it turns out
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dose any one know how to get a pic into ur advice column
i took a picture i had on my computer and went to www.tinypic.com opened the file and then used the result to paste into my profile setting! Lemme know if you got it to work!
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im a columnist... and it is way easier to give advice to other ppl then to urself..so can u guys help me out wit this one!! i have been friends with this guy for 3 years.. and the entire three years i have been in love with him... but now im confused b/c i think he is starting to like me again.. but the thing is is im moving on the day after turkey day... and im really gonna miss him.. more then he knows.. i just wish could figure out a way to tell him i love him before i leave.. but wait there is more... he talks to me and tries to get advice on this gurl and i get all shy and stuff cuz i dont wanna help him get a date w/ anuther girl... today he thought it was gonna be the last time he was gonna see me for a while so he hugged me and it was a really long hug.. like the one u give ur b/f when he is leaving for a week.. i started crying and he just gave me a kiss on the cheek and i went home.. now do u think he likes me...
p.s he told my friend last summer..sometimes he does and sometimes he dont... any help on what that might mean...
what it sounds like to me is that he's torn between liking you and not liking you. After all you are moving-i personally think he likes you but this is from an outsiders opinion so i don't know a whole lot about the situation. Maybe sometime this week you can make it a point to get together with him, for dinner, for lunch, or just to say good-bye. And be honest. Let him know what you are feeling for him and just pour it out-what have you got to lose? you're moving. At least now you can move without any regrets! And who knows-if he's really your perfect match you may run into him later in life when you least expect it-so savor the memories you have with him and move on for now. Stay strong-im so sorry you have to move when you finally find someone you like :0( Best of luck!!!
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well..okay. i like this guy and he has a gf..oh wait. it gets better..haha well he's always leading me on and hinting that he likes me.. well i talked to his gf and she said she isn't really interested in him anymore. well what do you guys think? should i tell his gf(my friend) that i have feelings for him and if she doesnt have feelings for him then she should let go? or whatever else you guys think! please help!
I think you need to talk to the guy. Let him know you have feelings for him but that you don't want to do anything to hurt his relationship with his gf. Make sure he talks it over with his gf-you don't want to be the "other" girl. You could also just wait until they break up because if she isn't interested in him it probably won't last. The 2nd option is probably your best bet only because if she finds out you like him she might mysteriously start likign him again. Hope i helped!!!
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omg i have tried ban, teen spirit, secret, and dove deodarants and none work for me! does anyone have any that work for them that may work for me? cuz i am tired of my shirt be wet from sweat underneath my armpits, and being afraid that someone is gonna see it...plz help!
If you've tried a bunch that don't work, you may have overactive sweat glands which is a common (and most of the time temporary) problem. You may want to see your doctor and ask if he/she can prescribe you a stronger deodorant. Prescription deodorants work real well and stop the sweat! Also make sure you are using an anti-perspirant/deodorant and not just a deodorant! Hope i helped
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What should I wear to a dance? It's not formal. I am a blonde with green/blue eyes and pale skin. I'll rate high. :-)
hey sweetie! if i were you id wear black pants, black pin-stripe pants are also in and a cute top maybe a tube top, a halter, or a really cute tank. At Forever 21 they have corsette tops that look great too! Where ur hair down and straight-wear matching chandelier earrings (those are very in) or giant studs to match your top. Hope i helped!!! Lemme know how the dance goes!
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ok, Me and my friend have been BEST friends since 5th grade....and now I am going out with this guy....I love him sososo much!! and I think that she is getting jealous over him b/c I dunno....but she like plays childish games with me...like (sry, this is long) on friday night, i was talking to my b/f and hse was over at my house and we were in the same room and she calls me on her cellphone to tell me that she has to pee....WTF?!?! and I love her to death...I would never choose him over her....how do i let her know that without actually telling her....
hm! That's a tough one. I think communication is key for friendship. But a good idea would be to set aside some quality 2 on 2 time (you and her) at least once a week where you guys get together and catch up on gossip and talk or just hang out. Let her know shes important to you and that you wouldn't trade her friendship for anything in the world ....even a boyfriend (hint hint) Maybe you could invite her to hang out with your boyfriend a few times just so she gets to know him and doesn't think of him as a threatening figure! Hope this helps! keep me updated!!!
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Hi well like u know i lost prety much the friends that i was really close to before and well laitly i have had hard times of making new friends and well usually i'm really good about talking to people and introdusing my self to them but i just dont know what to do anymore.....what do you think is wrong with me..? and well i hope this site will help me to make some new girls/guy friends that i can talk to when i need some one to hear me out!
hey hun-im sorry you feel like making friends is hard-for some people it is very very difficult. I was in a similar situation earlier this year. A lot of my my friends are a year older than me and they left for college at the beginning of this year. It was very difficult for me in the beginning because i felt i had already found my true friends-i so didn't wanna start over because making friends takes ENERGY! and a lot of WORK! Anyways, there is NOTHING wrong with you! People move at their own pace and maybe it takes you longer to open up to people or to really get to know them. If you want to make new friends, you're gonna have to put yourself out there, be friendly, be open, try to find people with similar interests as yourself and then make the first move. And you have a friend in me! Good luck and keep me updated!
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Letely one of my very good friend has been acting a little strange... i dont know if she is mad at me or not. I already asked her if she was like 2 weeks ago so i cant ask again really. your goodwith advice
-beccers_boo
hey sweetie! im sorry your friend has been acting strange. And to be honest with you it could be 1 of 2 things! 1) it could have absolutely nothing to do with you and she just needs time and space to go through problems shes having. 2) It could have something to do with you.
If i were you, i would approach her (one last time) and just lay it all out. You could say something like "Hey i feel like you've been acting a little different lately and i was wondering if something was wrong or if you are upset about something. I don't know if i did anything wrong but if i did please let me know. If there is anything i can do to help you also i would be glad to talk it out with you." You might also want to add that you are happy to give space when your friend needs it.
Sometimes the hardest part of being a friend is just being there even when you can't help. I hope this helps and please keep me updated!!! Good luck!
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My long distance relationship bf just broke uo with me. Any advide on how to get him back/ And do long distance relationships work?
Hey! I'm really sorry break ups definitely suck. I've gone through a long distance relationship twice and believe me, it was the death of me. In addition to having a lot of trust issues it was also really hard on me. I have to be honest with you MOST long distance relationships do not work. It's just so much stress for the relationship-however in rare instance where 2 people are really in love i believe that it can work. In regards to getting him back, i don't think that would be a wise investment of your energy. I remember wanting to get my ex bf back and day dreaming of ways i could do it. If you live far away from each other it will be very very very difficult to get him back cuz you are competing with people who live closer and can be there for him. If you're unhappy about how the relationship ended tho i suggest calling him and talking to him-next time you are in his area make it a point to see him and make sure you look FABULOUS :) That way he'll know he made a mistake in letting you go and you can move on to bigger and better things! Good luck! Please keep me updated
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HEy uh i love this girl but im afraid to tell her.I told her once that i liked her but she seemed to dislike me even more and all her freinds hate me.What should i do?
Well that all depends. Are you dating her? Or do you just know her? If you aren't dating her and you tell her you love her, she might feel threatened especially if you aren't romantically involved. If i were you i'd initiate a get together with her. Maybe a lunch or dinner date? Anyways i wish i could give you better advice but i don't know if you're dating the girl or just know her. Best of luck and message me if you want more advice!
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how hard is to get pregnate at the age of 37? ia there any helpful method to make pregnancy happen? my husband and I want to have a baby and we are afraid because , as i said, I am 37 and he is 41. Thanks, ceci
Not very but that depends on the person. Our family friends just recently got pregnant with the woman's 4th child and she is 41. However being 37 there are certain health risks that your doctor should inform you of. Most woman your age who are trying to get pregnant for the first time may also use fertility drugs to help conception. Best of luck!
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MJy stepdad is a real jerk, and my mom always chooses him over me, is that right:?
No. It really isn't. Your mom has an obligation to you. You came first not your stepdad. Be strong, maybe you need to discuss this with your mom. Best of luck-please keep me updated
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