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What's it mean when you nut blood? (link)
This is certainly not normal, and requires medical attention as soon as possible.

Visit your doctor (as embarrassing as it may seem) and get it checked out.


Hi i am a sophmore in highschool and i play on My JV school team. i shouldnt say im not good because i know i am bubjust a lot of girls are better than me and its intimidating. I dont know how to get better because i love soccer with all my heart. i recently quit my intertown team because i want t join a travel team, ive wanted to for two years now but im not sure how to go about it and im scared the girls on the team im trying out for will be much better than me and i will embarrass myself. I feel stuck, i just want to improve. On JV towards the end i started my coach put me on stopper, even though i am an offender, i play my best up front and i just want to be on a team how do i go about this without chickening out and being intimidated? (link)
I think the only thing I can advise you to do, is to practice. Practice makes perfect, and so if you think that you could improve, try to.

When you have free time, take a ball to a park with a few friends and have a kick around. In this situation, winning is not so important because it's all about having fun. So this means you can practice without feeling that you've let other players down.

Good luck!


I didn't drink anything and I am peeing a lot. Is this a symptom of a period soon. Thanks! (link)
It could really be anything. May I suggest a doctors visit? This will help to clear up anything that may be wrong.


if i will do sex with girl and i will insert my cock into her vagina.. so will i face some problem. will my girl friend face some pain in her body...?? (link)
No.


Ladies...

Has anyone gotten stretch marks reduced? Like, the appearance?

I know it's physically impossible to remove them... but I know there are several options for getting them to look better.

And of course every place says their method is the best..... =/

What has worked for YOU or someone you know?

I had a growth spurt in my early teens and got them on my upper arms... and I'm tired of not being able to wear things I like now that my body is back to normal! (link)
There are some things you can do:

1. Exfoliate when washing, using a body polisher/loofah/exfoliating glove. This will get rid of the dead skin, and help new skin cells grow. This can reduce the appearance. Do it gently, in circular motions.

2. Moisturize. Palmers cocoa butter is great, because it contains vitamin E, which promotes skin cell growth. Any cocoa butter, however, will work great.

3. Bio-Oil is great. It's a pink-ish coloured oil. You only use a little, and you massage it in. It's made to help with stretch marks and scars. It's quite pricey, but like I said, you only use a little and so it lasts a while. And it totally works.

Good luck, and I hope I helped! :)


I have known my fiancé for about 4 years now, in that time he has become my other half, my light, love, and joy. Sadly he had to move away due to work and it has become harder and harder to even talk. I feel torn apart because I miss him so much and it doesn't feel like it used to anymore, dating and all. I trust him, and know he would never cheat. I'm not worried about that. I'm scared of the loneliness I feel every night without him. I don't think about other men, just him. But it tears my heart apart knowing I can't reach him as easily as before. I know I would rather be lonely then not have him at all but I also feel caged. What can I do to get over this sadness? I feel like I've been trying to avoid it but now it's bubbling up... (link)
Well, it really depends on how long he's been away. If he has moved away recently, these feelings are normal, and will eventually go away. If he's been gone a while, then it may be something else.

Either way, there is only one way to stop you feeling like this: keep yourself busy. Don't allow yourself to get bogged down with these thoughts alone. Spend time with, or make friends. Read a book, watch a movie, etc, etc. Eventually, these feelings will weaken. Of course you may always miss him until he returns - that's normal. All you can do is try to minimize this.

If it is harder to talk, try texting. You can't always have a telephone call all the time. But you can discreetly text. Don't over-do it though, because he will still have to work and may get in trouble for texting whilst at work.

Also put time aside everyday to talk to each other. This could be 30 minutes before bed. A simple telephone call will suffice, but Skype video calls are excellent to see each other. They are free to conduct, and easy to set up and use.

Finally, is it not an option for you to move closer? If not, regularly try to meet up during the weekend or so, to see each other.

Good luck! :)


Okay, so. I've just started having intercourse with a guy with a slightly shorter than average penis. I'm not very experienced when it comes to sex personally, so I am sort of clueless about this stuff. I love him and his penis, but I feel like he would maybe be more happy with his performance if we could work out some positions that work better than missionary.

So, which positions are advantageous for smaller guys? (link)
Doggy style and Cowgirl (girl on top, guy laying down on his back) are two of the best for less endowed gentlemen. Google more, or pick up a sex positions book.

Enjoy!


Hey guys! Wondering if any twitter users on here wanna follow me ;) https://twitter.com/SineadGuidera i follow back! cheers guys!! (link)
You are not asking for advice.

Using Advicenators for self promotion for your ego is vulgar, at best.

What do you think having more twitter followers will get you?

Stop worrying about getting followers, and just tweet quality, genuine stuff. That way, you will naturally build followers who are interested in what you have to say.


Is property business down in London/ UK and can I know the reason's behind it? I've a few plans in the future so I just want to know the current situation before getting into it.
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London is one of the places that is immune from the property bubble bursting. When I say immune, I don't mean totally.

Like most of the world, when the financial crises hit, house prices went down. The UK is not as bad as say, Ireland or Portugal. But London is the best for property prices. When I say best, I mean it has the highest prices, and they're constantly rising.

Just this year, London prices increased by over 6%. In Northern Ireland however, they dropped by more than 12%.

The reason for property being so expensive in London, is because of various reasons:

1. It's the capital of the United Kingdom
2. It's the financial hub of the world. Loads of people work and live here.
3. Most importantly, there is a shortage of housing. Supply and demand is the reason for this. There is a high demand for housing here, and so prices are high. If more houses are created, then property values fall because the consumer has a choice.

So yes, there it is. Hope I helped :)


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I just bought the fish less than a week ago from a pet store. It was in a tiny container, and then I moved it to my 1 gallon sized tank. I know it's better if the tank is bigger but tanks are expensive and I wouldn't have enough room in my dorm room. I've never owned a fish before, much less any animal, so I worry about my fish a lot.

The purple rocks are hermit crab gravel (which is anti ammonia), if that makes any difference. When I first bought the fish, the fins in the front (the reddest ones) were red, and the rest of the fish was blue, white, and purple. Then slowly I've noticed it develop the red on the fins and I'm starting to freak out. I've already changed the water once, and my friend told me that her fish is okay and she only changes the water once every 2 weeks, But I read online that when you have a smaller tank you have to change it more often.

I feed it 3 beta pellets a day and it's always enthusiastic to eat. and I would say it's moderately active, and it moves all around the fish tank, or stays in one spot (when it's sleeping, I guess?)

Could this color change be normal, or should I be worried? I checked the pH balance and it's at a normal range. I even used that water conditioner for my tap water, and even though I don't have a filter or heater, the temperature is in the 70s-80s where I live. At lowest it's in the 60s, but that's only at night, and my fish isn't near my window

I really hope I'm just overreacting, but if there are any problems, like ammonia poisoning, what could I do to fix it? Thanks so much, I'm already attached to my fish. If it died so quickly I don't know if I'd be able to have another fish again. Or do you think this fish is a goner and I should return my fish to the pet store? I have a 1 week store refund (link)
I'm certainly no expert, but according to online resources, it's perfectly normal for betta fish to change colour. They often turn red, or bright colours as they mature or when comfortable. They sometimes even instantly change colour.

But if you are worried, take it to the store you bought it from for advice. They are of course trained.

But have a read, to make sure it's nothing serious. I googled "Betta fish colour change" and loads of websites popped up with useful information.

Good luck!


Hi!
I'm 25, and a girl - woman? Something. Because this may matter, I'm also 5'3" and about 117lbs. I'm a runner. I have essentially zero experience with dogs, as I've been afraid of them my whole life. A couple of years ago, I found something scarier, and my fear of dogs just... disappeared.
So, I know this dog. He belongs to my boyfriend, and I've taken him on walks and stuff. He listens to me, for the most part, but he's 2 years old, and VERY high energy for such a big dog.

Being in the field of psychology, I'm very aware at all times of what kind of energy I'm giving off. This dog picks up on vibes like crazy. If I calm down, so does the dog. If I get riled up, he does, too. If I'm upset, he noses my arm until I smile and pet him. What the heck is he gonna do when I'm giving off running energy?

Does anyone have any tips as far as getting him to keep pace next to me and not run after things like squirrels? He's just so spazzy, it worries me a little. I don't want to lose my hold on him and have him get hurt, or worse, someone else! He's a sweet dog, he's just... big and bouncy.

Thanks! (link)
My advice would be to keep the dog on a retractable lead. That way, if he is running too fast for you, you can retract. Otherwise, you can keep him on a long lead.

But generally, the key is to start off slow and see how he does. If he gets too crazy, take a rest. See how he is, and then start again.

Good luck :)


Last year, my mother took my grandmother from her apartment, and made her live with her in her.. I don't even know what to have called this house at the time. There was no heat, no running water, no anything. My grandmother ended up getting hypothermia, as well as third degree burns on her feet. As a result, my grandmother was no longer allowed to live with my mother, as the APS *adult protective services* told her. Recently, I found out that my mother and grandmother are again living together, albeit, not in the same house, but regardless. I honestly fear for my grandmother's well-being. I only know the town and state they live in, but NOT their address. Is there something I am capable of doing? Do I just call them and let them know what is going on, and that I fear for her safety, and give them the town and state, or what do I do? I am genuinely worried that my grandmother may end up being taken advantage of, and may not be getting the proper care that she needs for a woman her age. My mother is irresponsible, and gambles ALL the time. She has no job, and I feel that she is blowing my grandmother's money, and they may end up in the same situation that they were previously in. Do I call APS, and fill them in on what is going on, or what? I don't know what to do. Any suggestions, advice, help anything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time. (link)
I would call APS. Like you say, it sounds like you are genuinely worried. Keep in mind that they may have removed this restriction on their living together - there is no way of fully telling.

But in short, yes, do call them. Give them as much information as possible, and hopefully they will be able to do something.

Good luck!


hi i am from India i am a Muslim girl my boy friend belong to schdual caste we love each other and want to marry but problem is our caste so we can do court marriage? is it fine? (link)
Yes, in the courts, it is fine.

India banned caste related discrimination many years ago. So a court marriage will be okay.


ERMAHGERD hi guys. So I just heard that the Rolling Stones are touring again and they'll be in New Jersey. Is this true??? Thanks (link)
You do realise that you can easily Google this?

According to the Rolling Stones website:

"...the rock icons will play to thousands of fans at London’s O2 Arena on November 25 and 29, and then across the ocean to perform at the Prudential Center, Newark, near New York, on December 13 and 15."

Here is the link, where you can book tickets:

http://www.rollingstones.com/2012/10/15/we-are-back/


I'm always tired and have been getting sleepy so alot earlier than i used to. I used to be able to stay out until 2 or 3 in the morning and now I can't really go past 10. What can I do to make myself less tired? I'm only 20. (link)
You should see a doctor if you worried. It may be diabetes, or something. But it worth getting checked out.


Can somebody please tell me about an legit online job that you know about I'm 18 and I want one so bad so please help! Thanks in advance! (link)
I'm afraid there aren't many.

Normal jobs online include things like doing surveys, etc. The thing is though, you get paid $0.00016 per survey. It is impossible to make anything big. That time spent can be used to look for an actual job.

What you can do, is write articles for blogs. Even this is not well paid, but it's something. Find something you enjoy, e.g. fashion. Start your own blog, and write a lot. Then look for bigger blogs that are hiring writers. Sometimes, they may pay you. When I say pay you, I mean around $20-40 MAX per blog entry that they use.

You could also start a twitter account that attracts loads of followers. After you have thousands, you could do sponsored tweets. You get paid to do advertisements by twitter. Again, this depends on the number of followers, whether they are real, and what kind of account you have. You could get paid anywhere from $5 to $500 per tweet.

But none of these really give you anything substantial. You could of course start your own online business, or sell stuff. But this is really hard, especially if you have other things going on.

But yes, generally, it's not really possible to make enough money online.


Tanning beds don't even really close anymore, let alone lock lol.
And used properly with the right cream, indoor tanning isn't any more harmful than walking to the store in the sun. I have had skin cancer. I should know.I did lots of research I the matter. (link)
I don't understand this. What is going on?

Where is the question?


can you work any where over the age of 50 (link)
You can work wherever you are able to. It's illegal pretty much everywhere in the developed world to discriminate against someone because of their age.

But of course if a job required heavy manual labor and your body is unable to handle that, then it wouldn't be worth applying and it would be reasonable for an employer to ask if you would be okay with that.

But yes, you are able to do any job, at any age.


Hi.. I'm from France, so Iive in a place where there are many, many skinny girls.

I'm 12 years old and I don't like the way I look.. I don't know what to do anymore. I want to get into excersizing, but nobody will help me by telling me like the routines and stuff.. I just want to lose the fat in my face SO SO SO SO much. People keep telling me it's "baby fat", but come on... I'm 12. Why would I still have baby fat if i'm 12?

I just hate the way I look. I'm thinking about starting to starve myself like I used to and count every single calorie I actually eat. If I can't seem to find excersize and a loss of weight, it'll have to come to that :(

I just hate the way I look... Can someone help me? (link)
Baby fat doesn't mean fat that is kept by the body for only as long as you are a baby. It is a general term to refer to the natural fat you hold until you hit puberty, which is when your body will drastically change. Puberty fat just doesn't roll off the tongue as well, and so it's called baby fat.

The fact is, you will probably lose this fat as soon as you hit puberty. Your body will be growing, and changing. It will need a lot of energy, and the fat will help it.

I held on to my 'baby fat' until about 15ish. That's when I shot up to 6feet1.

In regards to exercise, just use common sense. It's common sense to keep active by playing games and sports. No one will give you some sort of crazy hardcore workout plan, because your body will get messed up if you were to do that. You are too young to deprive your body of energy by burning it all off.

So what can you do? Move your body (stay active) for at least 30 minutes a day. Go jogging, walk the dog, play tennis, etc etc. This is not too strenuous, and will help you stay healthy.

But the fact is, you shouldn't even be worried about your body at this age. You're so young, and you have a lot of developing to do. So what if other girls are skinny? As long as you're happy (and I mean, really happy. Not factoring in any comparison to other peoples' bodies) that's all that matters. You should love your body, whatever you look like.

So don't get too worked up about the way you look, and just use common sense.

Good luck.


My daughter is in middle school and she really wants to become a fashion designer. She loves matching stuff together and things like that. I try things to help her develop what she likes to do. So far all I've tried putting her in a sewing class for the summer but it was so expensive I could only pay for 3 classes. I would love for her to countinue following her dream. But i know nothing about this catagorie. I want something cheap and not so expensive. Or maybe a little program or game on the computer to help her learn how to sketch or how to do whatever other things she needs to learn about fashion desighing. So if you could please help me with this problem that would be fantastic. Thanks! (link)
Becoming a fashion designer is extremely difficult. I'm not saying that she should forget her dream, but I'm just suggesting that it's best not to get your hopes up too high. There is very little space at the top rung, i.e. the odds are against you if your only aim is to be the next Stella McCartney or Vivienne Westwood.

There are plenty of resources online, if you simply google "how to become a fashion designer".

There are some other things you can do. Do you or any friends/family know to sew? You can buy her some fabric, and she can start off by making t-shirts, etc.

If she has old t-shirts or pants, she can cut them on the seam. Then use that as a template. to cut and create another item.

Then, she can draw out simple items that she doesn't have, and then try to make the item.

There are loads of videos online that teach you how to do fashion sketches. It's all down to practice though!

Good luck!




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