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Q: Is there anything bad for you in Diet Sodas? I know they say regular sodas are bad for you because they have so much sugar, but since diet sodas have none, does that mean they're fine for you? Is it okay if you have one or more a day? Or is there other bad stuff for you in there?

in diet sodas there is fake sugar. diet sodas arent and better than regular soda, i would say stick w/ regular
**Marielle**

Q: how can I stop being so SHY!?! Guys only go out for me because of my looks and not my personality because I sorta freeze up around people I don't know well or aren't friends with.

hey gurly! thats the same w/ me! i just go up to them, and introduce myself to people if i dont know them and if i do know them i just start up a convo even tho im like scared to death on what they are going to say. Just be yourself like the person you are w/ your best friends! hope i helped a little! *Marielle*

Q: I'm going to high school next year, and I am super shy, and I found out that I not one person I know is in any of my classes. I am so worried, because I am TOTALLY going to be alone all the time!!!!!!!!
HELP!

you can try and make some new friends on the first day! then u'll have some friends! :) hope i helped! *Marielle*

Q: My sister is leaving for college soon, and I'm going to miss her so much. I do not want her to leave!!!! She is like another best friend to me...what can I do for her that will show her how much I will miss her at college?

Sincerely,
Confused

i would say, make her something, like if you have a picture of you two together, put it in a frame, and give it to her before she goes. hope i helped! *Marielle*

Q: O.K. well i think that if shes going through problems, tell her that you are there for her like all the time, and if it is very bad, tell your parents they WILL help!

This was your answer to my last advice question.

I asked my parents to help, and so this morning, they talked to her, and I was listening to the whole conversation, and my mom told her everything she thought and was worried like me, but she won't listen to them.

Now what?

do her parents know? if they dont you should have her parents and their parents sit down and have a talk about it.

Q: hey can anyone help me? i just gave myself an abortion yesterday with a close hanger and im really sore. can anyone help? like medicine wise, or will sex help the pain?

omg!!!!!!!!!! GO TO A DOCTOR!!!!!

*Marielle*

Q: One of my really good friends is going through a really hard time and is having a lot of problems. Whenever, I try to help her, she just immediately contradicts me, and tells me that if I was in her place I would feel the same way. Which I know I would, but I totally think she is handling this all wrong. My question is: How do I get through to her?! I'm so stuck, because we have been best friends forever! I'm also afraid that she's going to go and change and make bad choices...because we're both going to hs next year, and she's not going to my school. How do I help her?!

O.K. well i think that if shes going through problems, tell her that you are there for her like all the time, and if it is very bad, tell your parents they WILL help!

Q: My best friend invited me to this great waterpark in the Dells, but she made me promise I wouldn't tell anyone. My other friend asked me if I was going somewhere with her, because we were leaving school at the same time early, so I said no, because I made a promise to my best friend. Then that friend gets all mad at me because later, she finds out I really DID go on a trip with my best friend, so she won't talk to me because I lied to her. Then my best friend gets all mad at me because I told her, even though I really didn't- I don't even know how she found out! I've tried to talk to both of them, but now both of them won't even talk to me...it's hopeless...and it's weird because these two friends have like totally been trying to pull me their way, like fighting over me, and I'm ALWAYS stuck in the middle of their fights. I've tried talking to them, but it won't work...what do I do?
Thanks,
Sick of all these fights

Dear Sick of all thesse fights,
I think that you should get them both together, like ask them to go over to your house and if they dont tlak to you say im serious! i NEED to talk to you! then when they get there or wherever, tell them that you hate being in the middle of their fights, and tell the friend who you lied to tell her that you are so sorry but you couldnt tell anyone. then if your other friend thinks you told her about it say you didnt, i know that you already have but keep trying! I hope i helped a little! *Marielle*

Q: Have any ideas for how to stop biting your nails??? I've tried soooooooooooo hard, but I just can't stop!

you could try, putting nail polish remover on you finger nails. or you coluld put pepper on you fingers. well i hope i helped! *Marielle*

Q: How can i get a job baby sitting? i already am sertified by the red cross im 12 and i love kids and i need money!!

you can make a poster about you and post it around and if you know a family that has kids younger than you you can send it to them in the mail. well i hope i helped a little. *marielle*

Q: Hey, I feel really stupid asking this question..But I have been having a hard time trying not to cut myself. I've been trying to find other ways to cop with it and I picked a bad way to to it by taking pills. Does anyone out there know any ways to deal with it? Is there somthing I can do to take it off my mind?? I'm already seeing a theripst and it doesnt help it all. If there is any advice u can give me I would really appreicate it! -Jenny

you could try cutting some paper or if your parents know try and have them hide all the sharp objects around the house. or talk to your friends, friends are always there to talk about your problems, if you fell safe talking about it. i hope i helped! *marielle*

Q: what culd/can you use around the house to practice kissing(like if havent kissed eny1/few and you just want to make sure or something)...??

i read in a book to kiss your hand when you wake up in the morning. hope i helped! *marielle*

Q: hey tomorrow nite im goin to the movies wit my bf what should i c???any suggetions???

the village, spiderman, or the notebook is a good movie to see w/ ur bf! hope i helped! *Marielle*

Q: what are some good ways to loose a few?

you could start a jogging routine every day or you could join a couple of sports! well i hope i helped *Marielle*

Q: alright, i'm hoping to start tennis this fall (its my first of high school). the only problem is that i know i'm going to have a physical to play on the team. well this is super babyish, but i am scared to DEATH of shots. so i was wondering what do they do during a physical? i know they weigh you and measure your height but is that all? i'm almost positive i'm going to need a tetnis shot :( , but do they have to prick my finger or anything? and one more thing, is there any way to get around getting the shot?

thank you so much!
Lana

there is no way of getting out of the shots, sometimes its on your finger sometimes its on your arm. i just had mine awile ago, i had to get a tetnis shot its not that bad, just look away and close your eyes, ITS JUST A COUPLE OF SECONDS! hope i helped a little! *marielle*

Q: i have a problem of keeping a thought during class, i often daydream and get off task, and im always forgettin himework, is there anything i can do to fix this?

that is the same with me, sometimes i write on my hand to remember, or i stick postit notes in my books and locker. i hope i helped a little! *Marielle*

Q: I hate basketball. well i don't hate it i just dont like it very much. Everyonr says I should play even our school's coach but i don't know. im 5'7 so they say ill be a good rebounder or defender??? but i cant shot! i miss everything! should i play?

hey i really dont like how people do that! im in the same situation. i think that if you really hate it you shouldnt play. when i started and now still i cant even make a basket durring the game, im so annoyed by that, but everyone says im a good defender. i think its your choise, if you want to try it or not, you might be good at one thing or you could end up the best on the team. i hope i helped out a little! *Marielle*

Q: hey.im going to florida for a whole month without my boyfriend.im gonna miss him sooo much..but i really wanna bring him back something good and special..its so hard to shop for guys what should i get him..anything please i need some suggetions..thanx soo much..

i would get my bf like a seashell necklace. but thats just me. lol i hope i helped a little *marielle*

Q: I have dark arm hair and I want to get rid of it b4 school starts(August 16)So plz does anyone know any ways to make my arm hair lighter like blonde? And do you know any ways to do it without going out and buying kits? Like is there anything at home I can use that you know will work? Plz help, my whole life ppl make fun of me and a couple other dark haired girls I know And I am Not just doing it for them its for myself b/c I am so embarrassed that I never wear short sleeve shirts which makes me hot... HELP ASAP!!! If possible answer b4 tomorrow plz and Thx!

you can try a hair remover. it works good, and it takes less than 10 minutes! hope i helped *marielle*

Q: i need help..i really feel like im fat..my friends say that im not but i really think i m. i am 13 years old nd i weigh 120 pounds..my sister is 14 nd she weighs like 90 pounds...nd shes super skinny..she eats so much more than me nd shes still skinnier!! sumtimes i cry at night cuz i feel so fat...ive tried exercisin nd dietin..i even went on a starvation diet for two days but then i stopped cuz it wasnt healthy..even tho i lost 10 pounds...i hav a pool nd i go swimmin alot but i dont like to be seen in a bathin suit..i always go swimmin alone..i really need help..can sumone please help me!!
xOxO unc0mf0rtable xOxO

Dear Unconfortabe,
you arent fat, your sister has a higher matabalizm, which means her food digests faster. you can try a diet that doesnt harm you, that might make you feel a little better about yourself. my friend is going through the same thing. i think that you should try going swimming in your pool with your friends and try one piece swimsuit to start with. then when you feel comfortable with them around, try going to a YMCA or a public pool. and then when you feel more comfortable about yourself you can move into a two piece. i hope i helped! *Marielle*

bio

*xo*I tear my heart open.
I sew my self shut.
My weakness is that I care to much.
And our scars remind us that the past is real.
I tear my heart open just to feel.*xo*

O.K. well to start off..
I'm a 13 year old girl, I'm in 8th grade, I have blond hair, blue eyes, 5'6, and 105 lbs.

*WHAT I LIKE TO DO*
-taking pictures
-listning to music
-watch movies
-Hang out w/ my friends
-shopping
-dancing (even tho I suck at it)
-play volleyball
-play softball
-run track (BEST SPORT EVER!!)
-play basketball & soccer even tho I suck at them
-watch football
-snowboard
-water ski
-and mostly.. giving advice!!