Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it..
There are a few things that could be going on with him. He might be wearing the necklace only when you're around to let you think he still cares. Guys usually do that to keep their options open, in case he can't find anyone else, he still has you to fall back on. There's a chance he could be a true jerk and even if you get back together, he'll end up hurting you again. Then there's the possibility that he really doesn't know what he wants from life and it could take him a long time to figure it out. If he's in the last category, don't waste your time waiting for him to decide what he wants. You could end up waiting around for him and he'll pick someone else to be with. You should never let a guy dictate your love life. Live out your life in a way that makes you happy. Find a guy that treats you the way you deserve to be treated and hopefully won't hurt you. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Sorry this is a weird question but I've heard stories about guys doing a girl so much at once that the spermies make her belly swell up. Could this happen?
Yeah...it's called being pregnant. Other than that...no. A typical male only produces about 2.5ml of sperm per session and the number goes down a little each time if done in the same day. I hope this helps.
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Okay, so I'm gonna keep it short. I'm 20 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been together steadily for six years. Our sex isn't all that I feel like it should be, and I'm wondering why not and how should I go about improving this. Even when the experience feels pretty good, I rarely EVER get my 'big finish", and he ALWAYS gets his, and he always thinks I've gotten mine. I don't know what to do! I want us to fix this problem asap! Please advise me! Thanks =)
Stop letting him think he's doing a great job when he's obviously not. Of course he'll keep doing the same thing if you never tell him that something is wrong. Take some of the things that you do while you masturbate to achive orgasm and use it during your sessions with him. Don't be afraid to stop him part way through to prolong his orgasm and give you a chance to get a little more worked up. Try spending a little more time kissing, touching and general foreplay. Women need to be stimulated mentally as well as physically. If these things don't work, sit down and have an honest discussion with him but make sure you don't sound like your attacking his manhood because he will get defensive. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My girlfriend and I have been best friends from a young age. After a few dating fiascos on both our parts, we realized that we wanted to be with each other. We are 6 months into our relationship and we both couldn’t be happier…except for one thing. She works at a job which keeps her extremely busy for about 5 months in the year. During this time she gets some evenings off every other week, and about one weekend off a month. I’m at the point where I love her so much that I want to spend every second I get with her, but my 40 hour a week schedule doesn’t match up with her 95 hour a week schedule. I find myself getting frustrated with the lack of time I spend with her, and the lack of physical and emotional connection I feel with her working constantly. We spend less time together, talk/text less, and our sex life is pretty infrequent. I can’t be in a relationship that is like this nearly 50% of the year.
With how hard she works, she has been getting praises from her bosses, saying she can go anywhere within the company. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for her and her career. But because of this, her talk of possibly finding something else has changed to talking about staying for several more years. What’s worse is the fact that this is very close to her dream job, and what she went to school for. The time I get to see her, my frustration goes away, but then when she’s away I hardly feel like I’m in a relationship.
How do I bring up just how dissatisfied I am with her schedule? This is literally the only thing wrong in our relationship. I feel like bringing it up at all would push her away from me. I will be the one telling her that she shouldn’t pursue her dream, and getting out would inhibit her career. How can I effectively talk to her about and maybe even fix the situation?
Is there some reason that you can't move in together? She may be gone all the time but at least you would get to sleep together every night. There are some things you can do for her that may free up a little time if you're living together also. The job situation probably won't last forever and I'm sure the payoff will be worth the wait for her. I wouldn't recommend having her choose between her job and you because that isn't fair for her but if you want to express your love for her and ask for an extra hour once in a while, you would be so grateful. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Well ok long story short im married, and both my husband and i are lookin to find another female partner to help us spice up the bedroom, im all for it and he says he is aswell but im just not convinced and am worried that if we go ahead with it a few months or years down the track he is going to turn around and throw it back in my face, we have talked and talked about it but i still feel since it was my idea in the first place he is just more or less going along with it so not to dissapoint me, is there any way that i can really be sure that he does want it as much as i do??? any advice would b great plz.
For the first time, I would strongly recommend a total stranger. Someone you can meet at a bar or somewhere safe and get to know casually but neither one of you knows personally. If things don't go well with him after the first time, don't force him into it, as he will probably resent you and could cause some major problems. But from what I'm reading in your message, I think you'd like to have a little tryst with another woman. That is something you may want to discuss with your husband and see if he would accept it if you could sleep with another woman occassionally. My husband is fine when I meet a woman and decide to have sex with her and he really loves it when I surprise him with a threesome. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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20/f
I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old. I married him when I was 16. I know that I was too young to make a choice like that, but we were so In love. Everything was great until we got married after that he changed. It was like he had decided that he already had me so there was no reaso to try anymore. this june 22 was our 4 year wedding anniversary, we have two children our son is 3 and our daughter is 1. We both love our children very much, but I feel like our love for each other is slipping away. I have not been happy for a long time. He makes me feel so ugly and unwanted. But I am afraid to leave him. I have been with him since I was 15. I went from living with my mom to living with him. I have never lived on my own before. I am afraid that I cant do it on my own. I dont have a license to drive, I never had a job before, and I dont have a place to go. So I feel traped. I love him but like you would love a family member I dont think I love him romanticly anymore. He always puts me down like for instance we have not had sex in a very long time I dont even know when we had sex last, and I always come on to him and try to turn him on but he never wants it. So the other day I asked him why he doesnt want to have sex anymore and he said that sometimes he does get in the mood but then the thought of having sex with me turns him off and he doesnt know why. That hurt me so much. How pathetic and ugly am I if my own husband doesnt want me. I feel so alone all the time. I want to stay because I am afraid I cant make it on my own and I am afraid to be alone. But I want to leave because I feel unloved and he makes me feel ugly and He is very mean and aggressive with me. What should I do? Can anyone help me?
You didn't mention how old he is. If he was your age, he could be feeling like he missed out on a lot of his youth. I know you did too but men are a lot different when it comes to relationships and age. Having 2 children is a heavy burden to bear for someone younger. The first few things you need to do, no matter what happens in your marriage, is to get a license, get a job and start saving a little bit of cash. If you don't have many family members to help, there are plenty of welfare babysitters that you can get to watch the kids while you work. That way, you will have options if things don't work out. Now, if you want to work on the marriage, I would suggest getting a babysitter every other Saturday for an overnight watch. Even if you can't afford to go anywhere, spend the evening watching a movie, having some popcorn, sitting on the couch and just talking. Offer him a nice relaxing massage with a happy ending afterwards...lol. Let him have one night out with his friends but he needs to show you the same courtesy and let you go out with a girlfriend. Even if you go out for coffee or a late night snack, it sounds like you both need a little break from the kids and each other. If some of these things don't work, try going to a professional psychiatrist because he may have some underlying problems that he just can't talk to you about. I really hope things work out for you and good luck.
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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?
Then it's time to dump that loser because he obviously only cares about what he can get out of you. When a boy can't be seen with you when he's around his friends or family then he really doesn't care about your feelings or what you want. He may lie and tell you how much he cares but there's always a problem or some excuse as to why he can't bring you around. There's also the possibility that he has another girlfriend and doesn't want anyone else to know about it. I hope you can find someone that's proud to be seen with you in public and will treat you the way you deserve to be. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I don't prefer to put my name so long story shirt I don't know if I am a lesbian but that's not my topic , I have a close friend I guess I like and I feel something in my heart when I am with her but the thing is I think she is straight but the thing is she treats me differrently she hugs me and let me out my hands around her but I don't know if she takes it friendly or she is a lesbian but she likes a guy who she faught with and stopes talking the thing is aim never jealous of her loving a guy and sometime I feel gross of the concept being a lesbian so am I or no and does my fringe likes me and scared to tellnme or what ?
You're more than likely just curious when you're younger. It may be that you will be bisexual or even eventually become a lesbian if you're having these feelings now but you shouldn't worry about labels and live your life in a way that makes you happy. You're friend could be bisexual or she just really loves spending time with you. If you're truly interested in having a casual relationship with her, you should go out on some friend dates with her. Like go to the mall or have coffee or even the movies and see how she reacts to you when you're alone. If she seems to be into you, try having a sleep over and play a little truth or dare. That should give you the final sign if she's into you more than just friends. I hope this helps and good luck.
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what's the right age to use vibrator ..?
My older sister got me a vibrator when I was 16 but if given the chance, I would've tried it at 14. They sell hand held massagers at walmart, target, bed bath & beyond and places like that. Those work just as well as a vibrator but you don't have to be 18 to purchase them. If you do have a cousin or close friend that's older and has a credit card, you can discreetly order a vibrator through amazon. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Is it bad to finger daily?? and does it harm you if you use objects instead of fingers??
It's totally fine. I would reccomend you keep your fingernails short with no snags. If you're going to use something else, like a long candle or whatever, make sure it's smooth and you wash it well afterward to prevent contamination the next time you use it. I hope this helps and good luck.
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i had sex with the person my best friend liked and she found out about it a few days later. she is pissed / upset and she keeps ignoring my calls and texts. i work with her sunday morning, so it's gonna be really awkward. what should i do and what should i say to her? :\
If you're truly sorry, you'll let her know that you'll never do anything like that again. Let her know that you were an idiot and let your hormones get the best of you and you really didn't mean to hurt her. Tell her you won't bother her for a while and when she's ready to forgive you, you'll still be waiting to be her friend again. After that, don't send anymore texts or try to call her, until she reaches out to you. I hope this helps and good luck.
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If you're gay or bisexual, and have come out, how long was it from the time you started seriously questioning your sexuality to the time you started coming out to people?
Just out of curiosity.
I was experimenting with girls starting around 14. I didn't make it well known while I was in school because the girls I fooled around with wanted to keep things secret as well. I lost my virginity at 16 but I didn't really come out as bisexual until after high school. I never really questioned my sexuality but I just thought I was a horny teenager that wanted sex from anyone. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category for Sexual Health and Reproduction.
So I am 15, and a male, thinking about having sexual intercourse for my first time.
I don't really have a private place to do anything sexual, and my girlfriend suggested a movie theater but I am not sure what could happen if we were to get caught. What would happen if we got caught? I told her i wasn't to sure about being in a movie theater. She said she would atleast give me head, but i still am not sure if we should even do that there because it is still a public place. What would happen if we were caught while she was giving me head? What are your thoughts about this?
A lot of theaters have hidden cameras to prevent people from video taping the movie, so even if nobody sees you, the camera will. Try to sneak a couple of blankets out and head to the park after dark. Find a dark spot away from the road and you can probably get away with a quickie before anyone comes along. My only other suggestion would be at your parents house in the basement. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My girlfriend whenever were alone and were getting into it like making out and stuff she grabs my hands and puts it almost down her pants...i end up kind of trying to change the subject and just emsphsizing on making out so she forgets about it because its both of our first times and i dont know how to finger a girl or even where to start. i dont want it to hurt her either so i ruin my chances in the future. what should i do that will actually make her like it? i heard u rub her clit at first in circles but i just need answers.
Try to make sure her pants are not to tight. Take your middle finger and index finger and with a little pressure but lightly rub circles over her clit. Don't spend to much time there as it will cause her to become sore. After a minute or so, you can slowly slip your middle finger inside. If go back and forth from the vagina to the clit and she should enjoy it much more. I hope this helps and good luck.
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How can you tell if a girl is bi/gay? Apparently I heard something about intuition.. But what are the signs or something?
There is no solid way of knowing. I've been fooled before and hit on a girl that I thought went both ways and was turned down. If you flirt and want to go out on a date with her and she reciprocates, then she may be into girls. I hope this helps and good luck,
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16/f/India
Okay so I am in senior year. Here 12th grade is VERY important..My admissions into a good college will be only on the basis of the marks I score in my "board examination" which is held at the end of the year. The papers are not checked by my teachers but by some other teachers who don't know me and are teaching in some other school. This is done to make the examination fair. The cutoffs for any college where i live (new delhi) are CRAZZY. I mean nothing below a 475/500 is acceptable.
I have Physics, Chemistry, Computer science, English and Maths as my subjects.
Im telling you all of this just so that you know there is a lot of pressure to perform well.. and I have to in order to get a good college.
Ive just been real distracted for a while. I don't know how to concentrate on my studies. I dont feel like sitting with my books. It is freaking me out because every day matters to me. Please help!!!!!
I understand that you're in a tough situation but the world will not come to an end if you don't score high on those tests. You can still excel in your studies if you're in a mediocre college and get to the top of your class there. Being distracted is normal in life and can sometimes be healthy to balance out school and your social life. I'ts great to study hard but make a little time to give your brain a break and do something fun. Your path will take a course that I'm sure you'll bape able to handle when the time is right. I hope this helps and good luck.
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What to do to have a great orgasm?
You should repost this and let us know if you're a guy or a girl.
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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
There's a lot of things to consider. How close of friends are you, how long have you known him, do you find him attractive, does any of your friends like him and could you see yourself dating him? If something does come up right now, you can play it off like....yeah we were playing truth or dare and I kissed him but that was all. Lots of people have rebound relationships and I think that's what happened. You were feeling hurt and alone and this guy was there and convenient, so you kissed him. It made you feel attractve and a little less hurt...which most people do in your situation. I wouldn't worry about it right now but if he does try to date you, then you should sit down and have a talk with him. I hope this helps and good luck.
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So my boyfriend lost his virginity to me and we've been together for two years. For some reason he spiked up the urge to have anal sex and kind of rushed me into it. i don't mind anal sex too much, it's just i dont want all of my 'nastiness' to be on him or fall when he pulls it out. how do i prevent that?
also, i know that the anus is tighter but i asked him why he wants to do it all of a sudden and he said just to spice it up. do you think that could be true or would there be a most likely underlying truth ?
also, how can i , as a girl get orgasmic pleasure from anal sex? sure it felt OKAY the second time and it didn't bother me too much but how can i get myself to find pleasure in it?
how do i keep him from wanting anal sex all the time and turn him back on to my vagina? i feel like it's being totally rejected.
i know i asked a lot of questions but im really curious. thanks :)
oh and one more...does the anus self lubricate? -male and female
I love anal sex and get my strongest orgasms from it. Of course, I do need to be worked up to it a little. Let's start with the preparatio. Go to to the drugstore and buy an enema kit and something to put warm water in to flush out your bowels. This should help to prevent anything getting on him. Have him go down on you and slowly finger your ass while he's licking your clit. Have him work up to three fingers, as that will help when he's ready to put in his penis. It's fine to have him start inside the vagina but once he goes for the anus, he shouldn't go back to prevent contamination of the vagina. I would highly recommend a strong vibrator or using your fingers to stimulte the clit. Have him place the head in and slowly ease it in a little at a time. If you really can't get enjoyment out of it, don't be afraid to tell him. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I'm a 13 yearold girl and I hear about people just a year older than me sucking guys dicks and having sex and stuff but I think that oral sex is disgusting. is that normal? I'm not a lesbian I just think that's gross. and should girls shave there down there hair? you all probably think "what is she talking about, she's 13?" but I want to no if I should. It would help if I got advice from girls and guys. and how old were you guys when you lost your virginity? any advice helps. Thanks (:
It's probably a good thing you think that's disgusting because you'll want to wait a little longer to lose your virginity. The longer you wait means you'll gain more life experience and you'll make smarter choices when it comes to guys. I fooled around and did stuff with other girls when I was 14 but I didn't lose my virginity to a guy until I was 16. If you want to keep your pubic hair trimmed, that's a personal choice. It's one you should make on your own and not let anyone else decide for you. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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