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Guys answer only,unless your a girl that knows what your talking about. lol
Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it.. <3 thank you.
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Your ex is a pussy. He is so needy and thinks so little of himself that he doesn't believe he can get anyone else. So he is going through an extended mourning period and he hopes that you will find the necklace gesture so romantic that you will get back together with him.
Do not enable him. If anything you can tell him you have him on the dreaded "friend list," which means no chance of him ever seeing you naked again. Or you could just ignore him. The latter would be kinda humiliating, though.
By the way, guys do not feel the same about things as girls. You have made the same mistake as your friends, projecting your own thoughts on them. Women are more about the journey and men about the destination. Women are about the process and men about the end result. Women bond through a lot of self disclosure and men through doing stuff together. Men do not discuss their deepest feelings with each other. Men are not raised to be verbal or emotionally sensitive and are economic objects to women while women are raised to be verbal and emotionally sensitive and are sex objects to men. Need I go on?
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Well you said he is in a confused phase so he might want to be with you but just not be sure about it yet. I think you should kinda let him have his space and let him figure out what he wants. He will probably figure out soon what he wants. Oh and the necklace thing I still wear jewelry my es gave me. Sometimes it means something sometimes it doesn't you never know.
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Because guys are human beings, with feelings and all the complex thoughts of any other human being - we can't tell you what is going through his brain about the necklace.
You want to know what a human being is thinking, you have to ask them. You know he was/is confused, he might not be entirely sure of his reasons, but whatever they are, you'll need to ask if it's important to you to find out.
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He may be wearing it because he still cares about you and loves you... maybe its not a desparite "here take me im yours" kind of signal but he might wear it because he misses you and he wants to feel the "connection" again. Maybe try talking to him... he might be afraid that you want him to leave you alone... good luck and best wishes
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My friend was/is going through the same thing as you. Her boyfriend was "confused". They are clearly made for each other and they both love each other but they both screwed up. They broke up but never lost contact. They gave each other time and space to figure out what they wanted. Right now she's dating someone else and he still loves her vise versa. Give him some time but don't wait forever. My friend is still waiting for him but is so close to giving up. If he can't appreciate you Now he never will. Good luck:) my motto is never give up on something that once made you smile:) but sometimes people change and moving on is the best thing. I hope I helped and didn't just Confuse you more lol.
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There are a few things that could be going on with him. He might be wearing the necklace only when you're around to let you think he still cares. Guys usually do that to keep their options open, in case he can't find anyone else, he still has you to fall back on. There's a chance he could be a true jerk and even if you get back together, he'll end up hurting you again. Then there's the possibility that he really doesn't know what he wants from life and it could take him a long time to figure it out. If he's in the last category, don't waste your time waiting for him to decide what he wants. You could end up waiting around for him and he'll pick someone else to be with. You should never let a guy dictate your love life. Live out your life in a way that makes you happy. Find a guy that treats you the way you deserve to be treated and hopefully won't hurt you. I hope this helps and good luck.
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