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am i right to be annoyed
My best friend, has another group of friends she hangs out with, without me, which is FINE. But, what I don't like, is if one of them is like alone/not doing anything, she will be like "can so and so join us" and i want to be like no. she can't. you don't include me, why should i be nice enough to include her?
what do you think? should i say something? pretty soon she'll be going to college at the end of summer. but its just irriatating, and all my other friends HATE her.
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that is annoying. If you dont want the other girl to join i'd at first say stuff like "ohh i thought itd just be you and me, or these people." if she persists, the eyeroll at the girls name always works well.
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I had a similar problem. That really annoyed me too, so I understand how you are hurt. I asked my friend about it and she said she was trying to make new friends and include other people and meet other people, too. Her whole answer made me even more mad, but I realized that in her mind she was just trying to be nice and didn't realize what she was doing. We didn't stay very close after that because we didn't think the same way. She couldn't really understand how that upset me, and so it was hard for me to deal with it. You might not be able to make her understand if you tell her, so be prepared to have to back off.
As to what your other friends think about her, their opinions on her don't matter so much in the situation. Sometimes the best people are judged or misunderstood. Stick to your own judgement.
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Tell her how you feel... if she really cares for you and is a good friend she would want to know... she shouldnt make you feel unwanted or not included in anything good luck and best wishes
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If she is truly your best friend you should feel free to tell her how you feel. When I want to be with my best friend minus her irritating other friends, I let her know that I just want some "us time" and she understands.
You don't want to miss out on spending time with her especially since she's going to college. Not saying that it will definitely happen, but sometimes even best friends drift apart once college enters the picture. Tell her how you feel and spend some quality time together.
Hope this helps.
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One word communication! Use it and you will go far in life. Just tell her how you really feel. Be nice about it though. Tell her you feel left out when she is with her other group of friends. That you never are invited to their plans. It doesn't really matter that all your other friends hate her. If you have a good time with her continue it. Just make sure the relationship is a healthy one. Also since she is going to go to college remember things are going to change. That is just how life is. You lose some and you gain some. That's the power in life. Hope I helped you some :)
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