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I am a wife...a mother...a teacher...an artist...and a survivor of many of lifes pains, bumps and bruises. My advice is always well thought out but it's up to you as to which one of my personalities answers you. If you need that sweet mother love I got you. But if you're about to wreck your life over something stupid the StarChild may have to blast you. Either way, it's all from the bottom of my heart so I hope it helps.
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Location: Hampton, VA
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Age: 39
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hey guys! my mom always calls me and my sister bad words on a daily basis. im so sad and tired of it and it makes me feel like she doesnt want us. shes alwas saying how me and my sis make everything miserable and just a couple minutes ago, me and my sister were going to sleep in our playroom in the basement but we came upstairs cause we saw a centipede and got scared. next thing we knew, my mom came running down the stairs and started screaming at us that my dad was trying to sleep and she kept calling us "little f**kers", "f*ck a** b**ches" and a ton of other nasty names. me and my sister tried 2 get upstairs as quietly as possible but the door squeaks and we were scared. i dont know but i think my mom was overreacting just as she did a few days ago wen she verbally AND physically attacked me. please tell me. is this abuse or just dicipline. p.s. dont bother giving me hotline numbers because i wont call. im too scared and i know i wont be happy. so just forget about that. and dont tell me to talk it out with her cause she will just tell me to shut the f*ck up an then offer up the number to child protection services knowing i wont call. i have tried everything to get her to love me. i have even tried collapsing to the floor but she says im acting like an a** and ground me. nothing works. i have nobody to confide in or turn to. no trustworthy friends or family. nobody. so i just need 2 know, is this abuse or what? kisses! -C (link)
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No it's not discipline it is definitely abuse but you made it very clear in your question that you're not gonna call for help or go seek help, so that makes it very hard to help you...because those are the thing you need to do. Otherwise you will be miserable and afraid. You don't deserve to live like that. Look beyond your fear...do you really want to live with her and continue going through this? Abusers don't stop until someone in authority stops them.
Be safe Love.
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What does it feel like to have your period and have sex? or is that even possible? and would guys like that? (link)
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Wet and messy. Plus you don't feel that natural friction that makes sex so great. In short...he'd probably enjoy it waaaaaayy more that you would.
Hope this helps...
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21 female.
I have long labia. This is the only thing that I'm self conscious about when it comes to a guy.
It holds me back. I think mostly because the only guy that has even seen my vagina commented about how long they were which of course didn't make me feel good. Now i'm with this new guy. We're not having sex yet, and he hasn't fingered me or anything but I'm still nervous that when we do get to that point that he will be grossed out by my long labia.
I don't know what to do! Of course it's part of me, I can't change it but I can't seem to embrace it either. Has anyone else gone through this? (link)
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If you don't mind coming over to my advice column you can get an answer to this question. Another young lady had this same problem yesterday. I think the advice I gave her could help. Come on over...
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Hello,
i am a 17 year old female. I was reading about you and i think you are a suitable person to talk to about this. i am insecure about my vagina. My Labia is about an inch long and i have no idea WHY. I know its some what common and some guys like it, but i just cant see guys now adays truely likeing it even if they say they do. Generations have changed and guys are pigs. I am not loose so i dont understand why im so long. i absolutly hate it and i want surgery :( (link)
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You are absolutely NORMAL. Even though you feel self conscious, the truth is you are just fine. You'd be surprised how many females have labia just like yours. And far as the fellas are concerned, a great deal of them really DO NOT CARE. I know I shouldn't have to say this but if the guy is really into you he won't care either.
My doctor told me that my uterus is tilted backwards! I started asking all these silly questions. She told me to calm down. It's just like being right or left handed. Every womans body is different. And that is what I want to say to you...every womans body is different...beautifully different. You don't need surgery. You just need to love every part of you. ;)
Hope this helps...
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I had sex last night and used a condom and took plan b the next morning..or literally like 3-4 hours after we had sex. I'm just freaking out because I'm not on birth control and wondering what my chances of pregnancy are. (link)
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Good for you for being an intelligent female. You were smart enough to take the necessary precautions. So I sincerely believe you won't be buying any baby booties anytime soon. ;)
Hope this helps...
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I love smoking weed ..it makes me feel elated..n makes my brain feel to be the smartest guy ever...
i feel baked right now after a long time....but besides my red eyes and cotton mouth...i feel like my heart rate has also risen...is this paranoia or a natural feeling people are ashmed of admitting? (link)
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Weed isn't known to increase your heart rate. In fact it pretty much slows down a variety of your body's systems. Yes it does tend to make you feel smarter, like you can solve any problem, but at the same time you loose brain cells especially those that have to do with memory. And yes it makes you feel elated but it also has the tendency to make you feel ok with laying around doing nothing while everyone else is outside enjoying life.
Hope this helps...
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I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact.
-He comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other
-He'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home
-I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name
-He asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring)
-He asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students
-One time when I visited him it was during a practice with the kids so I sat there at his desk and saw how the kids were doing and then I went back again with my friend the following week and he didn't let us sit in but he let me sit in alone the week before
-The first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
-The following week, I went alone so he would let me sit in and listen and after every kid had left, he exited his office and was walking out the door to drive home when he saw me standing at the door, he acknowledged that I was still there and asked if I had a ride, if I didn't, he could drive me home. He never offers kids rides home, ever.
He's the only teacher that I still make an effort to see because he was a very important person in my life.
--what do you think about us? more than just student teacher?
I really need to know if you think we are "wrong" because I am going on an 11 day school field trip out of the country and he is the head of the arts, which is what I am going for, so I will be with him everyday. So, are you like everyone else and think we're together or something? (link)
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Well... I had teacher that I was close with in the same ways you spoke of and it was Junior High as well. Some years down the line he told me he was attracted to me and that he was just waiting until I was 18. I was disgusted.
I said that to say after reading your question it screams possible inappropriate behavior. Being the teachers pet has it advantages but I would question his motives...and yours for that matter. And please don't say "he wouldn't do anything like that" because you REALLY don't know.
Hope that helps...
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Me and this guy have been getting really close and we were hanging out the other day and he said he wanted to talk to me so i followed him and he started kissing me and i was so nervous i couldnt talk and he sat with me and i could even say anything i was speechless i have liked this guy for a while and now hes calling me and calling me and im too scared hes gonna say that he doesnt like me like that and so i havnt been calling him what should i do? (link)
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Wait a minute...HE kissed you...now HE'S "calling and calling" you. So I'm confused as to why you are scared especially since you already said you've like him for a while. Why would he kiss you and proceed to call and call if he wasn't interested? Girl, let go of the fear. It's unnecessary. Pick up that phone the next time he calls or heck...call him! He already gave you the first kiss now go make some more memories!
Hope this helps.
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im 15 almost 16 and ive never gotten kissed before, and im scared and not sure what to do. what if we bump noses or something. any suggestions? thanks. and same with making out. thanks!
melissa
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When the right person comes along to give you that first kiss I can almost guaranty you won't be as scared then as you are now. In the heat of the moment a bumped nose won't matter unless you're knocking blood out of it. :) So smile and don't be afraid. Everything will be fine.
Furthermore I commend you on being almost 16 and not having kissed half the boys in your school. With all the "hot girls" running around you are a diamond in the rough Sweetie.
Hope that helps...
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My mom and I have always had a friend relationship and she has always left me for someother guy and doesn't ask to see me that much and she alway text me about her life and hardly asks about mine and just a few days ago me and her got in a fight and she cused at me calling me a B**** and that I was a spoild little brat and all I said is that I was made cus she left and has non of her kids and she still calls herself a mom and she always lied to me and tryed to play it off and i am feed up with it is it ok to hate your mom for all the shit she has put me in? Please help the more help I get the better.
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In this life you only get one mom. Other people can try to fill that role but the heart will always ache for the real thing. Do you have the right to hate her...yes. But because of who she is you have to respect her. Should she be calling you a bitch or anything else other than your name...hell no. She sounds like she has a lot to work out within HERSELF. And it's not your position to try to fix a grown @ss woman. Maybe she's dealing with some esteem issues of her own especially since so many men seem to be in and out of her life.
What kind of upbringing did your mom have? Was your grandmother there for her or did she have a good female roll model to show her how to be a parent? I didn't and because of that my kids suffered to some extinct.
Love her and respect her but it sounds like until she grows up herself, she can't give you what you need and deserve.
Hope that helps...
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category for Sexual Health and Reproduction.
So I am 15, and a male, thinking about having sexual intercourse for my first time.
I don't really have a private place to do anything sexual, and my girlfriend suggested a movie theater but I am not sure what could happen if we were to get caught. What would happen if we got caught? I told her i wasn't to sure about being in a movie theater. She said she would atleast give me head, but i still am not sure if we should even do that there because it is still a public place. What would happen if we were caught while she was giving me head? What are your thoughts about this? (link)
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Think about this...do you really want your FIRST time to be in a dirty movie theater or the back seat of some car?? You want to enjoy it and I would assume you want your girl to enjoy it. Obviously you feel like you two are ready. Ok so would it really hurt to wait till you guys have some privacy so you can take your time and enjoy what you're about to experience?
Another thought...how would you guys explain to your parents that you were thrown out of the movies because you were screwing or getting head? Think about it...
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My best friend, has another group of friends she hangs out with, without me, which is FINE. But, what I don't like, is if one of them is like alone/not doing anything, she will be like "can so and so join us" and i want to be like no. she can't. you don't include me, why should i be nice enough to include her?
what do you think? should i say something? pretty soon she'll be going to college at the end of summer. but its just irriatating, and all my other friends HATE her. (link)
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If she is truly your best friend you should feel free to tell her how you feel. When I want to be with my best friend minus her irritating other friends, I let her know that I just want some "us time" and she understands.
You don't want to miss out on spending time with her especially since she's going to college. Not saying that it will definitely happen, but sometimes even best friends drift apart once college enters the picture. Tell her how you feel and spend some quality time together.
Hope this helps.
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I'm 15 right now and I'm really into the Emo look...I love screamo bands and i like to wear black a lot I also like to put a lot of dark makeup on my face not to much but enough. But my parents and my friends hate it..Should I change? I really enjoy it and I'm happy with how it looks, but my parents want me to change. and none of my friends are into that kinda stuff. What should I do? or How could I help my parent change there mind? (link)
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First you should explore why you like these things. After you do that have a heart to heart talk with your parents and let them know what you have discovered about yourself. You deserve to be able to express yourself, that is part of how we grow. Moderation is the key. Now if you're into these things to irritate your parents you know that's not cool. Otherwise do you and ask your parents to respect your choice.
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so i hadnt really noticed it until the past two weeks. but i have been having to go to the bathroom/pee every hour to two hours. during the day night everything. i stopped drinking coffee. stopped drinking so much water. but it doesnt seem to help.my blood sugar was tested a month or 2 ago for another reason. i dont think it would have change this quickly would it? should i be worried? should i make a doctor appointment? anyone have any idea what could be wrong? (link)
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You should talk to your doctor about what's happening right away. You may have a urinary tract infection (UTI). Cranberry juice and the over the counter pills called AZO help as well but they don't heal it. A UTI can turn ugly fairly quickly so take care of yourself.
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