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please help me. possible verbally abusive mom
hey guys! my mom always calls me and my sister bad words on a daily basis. im so sad and tired of it and it makes me feel like she doesnt want us. shes alwas saying how me and my sis make everything miserable and just a couple minutes ago, me and my sister were going to sleep in our playroom in the basement but we came upstairs cause we saw a centipede and got scared. next thing we knew, my mom came running down the stairs and started screaming at us that my dad was trying to sleep and she kept calling us "little f**kers", "f*ck a** b**ches" and a ton of other nasty names. me and my sister tried 2 get upstairs as quietly as possible but the door squeaks and we were scared. i dont know but i think my mom was overreacting just as she did a few days ago wen she verbally AND physically attacked me. please tell me. is this abuse or just dicipline. p.s. dont bother giving me hotline numbers because i wont call. im too scared and i know i wont be happy. so just forget about that. and dont tell me to talk it out with her cause she will just tell me to shut the f*ck up an then offer up the number to child protection services knowing i wont call. i have tried everything to get her to love me. i have even tried collapsing to the floor but she says im acting like an a** and ground me. nothing works. i have nobody to confide in or turn to. no trustworthy friends or family. nobody. so i just need 2 know, is this abuse or what? kisses! -C
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Yes you are being abused, at least by what you have written. There is help out there for you you can't be helped if you won't take the help that is out there for you. It is your mother that needs help and you can get her that help but you first have to ask for it. Having no one else to turn to then you could or should do one of the following.
If you live in the United States you can go to your local fire station. Fire Stations in this country are safe havens for battered and abuse women and children.
There is an organization called RAINN which stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hotline staffed by trained volunteers who help you find the help you need right in your own home town. their number is 1-800-656-HELP.
I don't believe you or your sister are the problem here. I believe the problem is with your mother. Your mother needs help. Something is bothering her. It could be almost anything from problems at work to problems with menopause. Whatever the problem is it won't go away by itself and she is not going to ask for help.
I'm sure your mother loves you and your sister. She may not be showing much love at this time. By asking for help for you and your sister; by trying one of the two suggestions I have made, you will also be helping mom.
If I am correct in what I am thinking mom may not truly be aware of her actions. I know that is hard to believe but it can happen. If you don't want to help yourself, then help her. The only way to do that is to call and ask for help for you and your sister.
One last thing. Is dad aware of what is going on between you two and your mother. If he is not then you need to talk to him first. If he is and has done nothing to correct the situation then try one of my suggestions.
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No it's not discipline it is definitely abuse but you made it very clear in your question that you're not gonna call for help or go seek help, so that makes it very hard to help you...because those are the thing you need to do. Otherwise you will be miserable and afraid. You don't deserve to live like that. Look beyond your fear...do you really want to live with her and continue going through this? Abusers don't stop until someone in authority stops them.
Be safe Love.
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