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Anal Sex Questions
So my boyfriend lost his virginity to me and we've been together for two years. For some reason he spiked up the urge to have anal sex and kind of rushed me into it. i don't mind anal sex too much, it's just i dont want all of my 'nastiness' to be on him or fall when he pulls it out. how do i prevent that?
also, i know that the anus is tighter but i asked him why he wants to do it all of a sudden and he said just to spice it up. do you think that could be true or would there be a most likely underlying truth ?
also, how can i , as a girl get orgasmic pleasure from anal sex? sure it felt OKAY the second time and it didn't bother me too much but how can i get myself to find pleasure in it?
how do i keep him from wanting anal sex all the time and turn him back on to my vagina? i feel like it's being totally rejected.
i know i asked a lot of questions but im really curious. thanks :)
oh and one more...does the anus self lubricate? -male and female
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I love anal sex and get my strongest orgasms from it. Of course, I do need to be worked up to it a little. Let's start with the preparatio. Go to to the drugstore and buy an enema kit and something to put warm water in to flush out your bowels. This should help to prevent anything getting on him. Have him go down on you and slowly finger your ass while he's licking your clit. Have him work up to three fingers, as that will help when he's ready to put in his penis. It's fine to have him start inside the vagina but once he goes for the anus, he shouldn't go back to prevent contamination of the vagina. I would highly recommend a strong vibrator or using your fingers to stimulte the clit. Have him place the head in and slowly ease it in a little at a time. If you really can't get enjoyment out of it, don't be afraid to tell him. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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The anus does not self lubricate which is why its recommended to use a decent a mount of lube to help with penetration so it doesn't hurt so much, easier to go in and out and obviously no tearing.
There are taboos surrounding the various types of anal sex – and particularly anal intercourse.
These may arouse strong feelings of moral indignation, guilt and anxiety.
It is important to remember that while some people find these activities repugnant, others may find them stimulating, exciting, and a normal part of their sexual intimacy.
Research shows that, whether we like it or not, the anal area is equipped with many erotic nerve endings – in both men and women. So it is not surprising that many couples (including a lot of heterosexual ones) derive pleasure from some form of ‘bottom stimulation'.
How to have anal intercourse safely
Anal intercourse involves the penetration of the anus and rectum with the erect penis for the purpose of sexual stimulation. It is possible for both men and women to ‘receive’ it, although care is needed for it to be safe and comfortable.
Ensure the anal area is clean and the bowel is empty. This is important both aesthetically and practically. If the bowel is empty, there is no risk of the receptive partner passing faeces.
The 'receptive' partner must be able to relax the anal sphincter in order to accommodate the erect penis. The anal sphincter is a ring of muscle that can be contracted or relaxed under voluntary control. Forced penetration may result in tearing of the sensitive skin around the anus or the sphincter itself. This may result in severe anal pain or even faecal incontinence.
Try gently inserting a lubricated finger, perhaps covered by a condom or glove into the anus first. This will enable the receiving partner to find out whether penetration is comfortable and enjoyable. Having managed to accommodate one finger, you can run the finger around the anal canal - gently stretching it. This must be done delicately so as not to cause pain or injury.
Next, you can, if you wish, try and insert two fingers. If this is successfully achieved, the couple may agree to try with a well-lubricated penis or with a butt plug (a broad-based anal dilator), dildo or vibrator (see below about the risks of sex aids and anal sex).
Gentleness, care, adequate lubrication and anal relaxation are required, not the insertive partner pushing harder! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use a water-based lubricant. The insertive partner must control any thrusting, so as to give the receptive partner time to allow the sphincter to relax. With time and practice, this may become easier
As to get him to go back to vaginal sex rather than anal that involves you talking to him. You need to tell him that it's not as stimulating for you and you can't climax that way. If you are willing to have anal sex with him then you could say that your willing to have it but not every time because you prefer vaginal sex. There are plenty of other positions to help spice up your sex life however if you've only just started having sex there's no need to rush to 'spice it up'. You need to tell him that you wanna climax as well as have him climax but always going anal sex isn't all that pleasurable to you as it is to him. You've been together for two years so having a talk about this shouldn't be awkward or too bad. He should be understanding about this if your both willing to co-operate with each other and listen to each others needs. I hope this helps and if you need any more help feel free to inbox me, good luck!!xx
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