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Room for improvements in sex life
Okay, so I'm gonna keep it short. I'm 20 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been together steadily for six years. Our sex isn't all that I feel like it should be, and I'm wondering why not and how should I go about improving this. Even when the experience feels pretty good, I rarely EVER get my 'big finish", and he ALWAYS gets his, and he always thinks I've gotten mine. I don't know what to do! I want us to fix this problem asap! Please advise me! Thanks =)
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Well my solution is kind of wild but it just might work. To spice up your sex life, when you are having sex talk dirty to him and tell him hes the best and then he'll start talkin to you dirty. THAT SHOULD WORK. IF IT DOESNT YOU MIGHT HAVE TO BRING TOYS TO THE BEDROOM LIKE CHAINS AND WHIPS.
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First, most women cannot achieve the big finish through man-on-top intercourse until they are at least 27. I don't know why, but it's true.
Also, if he thinks you've gotten off, you must be faking, which is the all-time biggest mistake a girl can make, cuz we all fake when he's going at it like a speed racer (mostly because we think he's ready to finish, and we want to give him a little encouragement), and really that's not what does it for us. Of course, it's gonna be difficult for you to stop faking now without giving him a terrible complex--he's gonna wonder what the heck he's doing wrong when all of a sudden he can't please you anymore. You could even tell the truth, that you've never really gotten off, and that it's your fault, not his, because you have been misleading him to believe something was working when it wasn't. I'm sure he'll be willing to figure out what makes you tick if you give him a chance.
A couple things to remember...
for women, the sex act starts long before the penis enters the vagina. Enjoy foreplay together, and don't be afraid to speak up and tell him what does it for you and what doesn't.
Try getting on top.
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Stop letting him think he's doing a great job when he's obviously not. Of course he'll keep doing the same thing if you never tell him that something is wrong. Take some of the things that you do while you masturbate to achive orgasm and use it during your sessions with him. Don't be afraid to stop him part way through to prolong his orgasm and give you a chance to get a little more worked up. Try spending a little more time kissing, touching and general foreplay. Women need to be stimulated mentally as well as physically. If these things don't work, sit down and have an honest discussion with him but make sure you don't sound like your attacking his manhood because he will get defensive. I hope this helps and good luck.
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COMMUNICATION is the key to everything in life including a good sex life. You need to talk to your boyfriend, tell him what you need and what you like.
The great thing about sex is your not sitting in the living room your in the bedroom. Your naked and should be able to be totally open with each other. After all everything else is out in the open, isn't it? Why can't you communicate openly?
This is not a conversation that is had over a bottle of wine on the sofa. It starts in the bedroom with something to the effect of you saying; "BF I want you to just lie there while I explore your body. While I'm doing this I want you to do two things for me. First tell me of your sexual fantasies. I also want to if you like or dislike what I'm doing to you. Then you can do the same to me and I will tell you of my sexual fantasies."
This should elicit the question of why? Which gives you the opening you need to tell him what is lacking in you sex life without deflating his male ego. Remember, and this is coming from a male, the male ego especially in the area of sex is very fragile. We all feel that in the bedroom we are super sex men. When told we are not we become sexually dysfunctional, as in not rising to the occasion again.
As I said communication is one of the two main considerations in a happy sex life. The other is consent. Both parties in sex have to consent in a particular sex act for it to be mutually consenting. If either party is not consenting then it is rape. If either party is coerced or in any way forced it could be considered rape at worst and definitely not pleasurable for the non consenting partner.
If you guide your sex life by those two rule, they are equally important, then you can expect to have a long and happy sex life.
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Oh the big finish..... what every girl wants and needs and very few men know how to help us achieve... try bringing sex toys or vibrators into the mix... you can help him get you to that "big finish using one of those... or help him out guide him tell him what it is that you want .... good luck :)
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