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Is this relationship working out...?
16/F
I finally got a great boyfriend! He's so nice, he talks to me when he can, and he even came out to eat with me for my birthday. I was so happy that I cried when I met him because he was just so perfect. At first. Now I'm kind of confused because we don't cuddle as much and whenever he even just hugs me or holds my hand, his face turns a bright red and he looks extremely uncomfortable so I feel kind of hurt... And when we talk, he acts like he's not all that interested in the conversation or he's just way too nervous to talk. I mean, he says he loves me all the time and I say it back, but I don't know if he means it and I don't know if I mean it because... I dunno if it's weird, but I don't know what love is exactly. Romantic love anyway and when I asked my mom about it, she just said she feels sorry for my boyfriend that he has to date a heartless person like me, so I was like whaaat? I mean, I guess there's just not enough passion in this relationship? I'm not talking about sex, I mean, the least he can do is kiss me back like he means it? He just pecks me on the lips real quick, then takes off looking all nervous and relieved that it was over... What do I do about this whole situation? I mean, we've been dating for almost four months now...
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If he blushes that brightly when you kiss or touch him, he obviously isn't indifferent toward you. You might be his first serious girlfriend, or he may not be used to contact with girls in general. When people aren't used to physical contact or expressing their feelings, it makes them uncomfortable to do so. Talk about this with him, and try to be understanding about it. He obviously cares about you; don't let his nervousness/shyness fool you into thinking he's losing his feelings for you.
As for knowing what love is...you're 16! It would be pretty shocking if you had love figured out by now. But this is the age where you start to figure it out, through experience. :) Don't analyze things so much and don't worry about being unsure. Nobody is sure of much at the age of 16 and the two of you are still trying to figure out who you are.
Really, like I said before, the best thing you can do is talk to him about it. Don't be accusing or judging; just tell him that you aren't sure what to make of his actions and it's making you insecure. Once you both discuss what's making him uncomfortable, you can begin move past it. Good luck!
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He isnt trying to hurt you in anyway ... by the way you explained this it seems like he is just a little afraid he doesnt want to do the wrong thing and lose you... tell him how you are feeling and talk to him about what he is feeling to me it just sounds like he is trying really hard to be perfect for you and he might be pulling back because he thinks he may smother you or you might not like what he is doing
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