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Coming out?
If you're gay or bisexual, and have come out, how long was it from the time you started seriously questioning your sexuality to the time you started coming out to people?
Just out of curiosity.
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I'm not gay or anything, but from what I see most people can keep this a secret for years the longest ive known, he kept it for 19 years, got a bf and then told people
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It took me a year because people tell me it could be a fase but they said after a year or two they said if you still have those feelings more then likly you are and i relized i was and i said this is who i am and if people dont like it they dont have to like me so just come out when you feel ok beause if you are worried about what others will think thats the perfect time to find out who your true friends are
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Julie75 gave you an excellent answer. I will back up her answer this way.
If you are still a teenager or under 21 I would not suggest you be in a hurry to put a label on your sexuality. There are two reasons for this. First all teens experiment with their sexuality. It is just part of growing up. Call it a right of passage if you will. Also parents think nothing of two same sex teenager being behind closed doors together or sleeping together in the same room. Sometimes in the same bed.
When we go off to college we also find that sex with another of our own sex is easier to have and for women safer. I have known women who all through college who primarily had sex with other women. They did not see themselves as gay or even bi. Just sex with other women relieved the sexual tension and was easier to get. Once school was over they generally never had sex with another same sex partner again.
Putting a label, any label on yourself is never a good thing as they have a tendency to stick long after you may want the label. A sexual label at a young age when you are still trying to figure out your sexuality is not a good thing.
Since you have not somewhere between 18 and 21 I would not say you are questioning your sexuality as you are more trying to figure out your sexuality. So stay away from labels or even declaring your sexuality.
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I was experimenting with girls starting around 14. I didn't make it well known while I was in school because the girls I fooled around with wanted to keep things secret as well. I lost my virginity at 16 but I didn't really come out as bisexual until after high school. I never really questioned my sexuality but I just thought I was a horny teenager that wanted sex from anyone. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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