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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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Uh, I have asked this question numerous times to try and get answers for my problem. So, here it is again. I am fifteen and female.
This goes back to Jr high when I was in 7th (12 yrs.), 8th (13 yrs.), and 9th grade (14 yrs). I am in band and this is relating to my relationship with my Jr high band director. He was and still is an amazing guy. People, my peers and some of his other students really questioned the relationship we had. I always just saw it as him being a father figure to me. I trusted him and he was always there for me. Always. To help you decide, I will name a few things about our relationship and you tell me what you think..
-In the beginning of school I didn't really care about my looks and when I started getting older and caring more about my appearance, he notices immediately and he commented that my hair looks different and that he likes it.
-I would be in a lesson with him and he would allow me to stay after and miss a little bit of my next period to help him set up seats and stands for practice with the whole band.
-If you teach band or orchestra, you also teach a music class, he would let me sit in on his music classes and listen to what he has to say or if I didn't have anything to do in study hall, he would let me sit in on his classes and play on his computer.
-At the end of ninth grade, all of the ninth graders got a trophy for completing band and we hugged when I gave him mine.
-One time in practice I got excited because I got the hardest piece down and I put my hand on his thigh in excitement, not to make move or anything, I was just so happy. He didn't move my hand, he listened to what I had to say.
-He would always call me by my first and last name so I told him one time I was going to call him by his first name and I started doing it and he didn't mind. But when my friend tried doing it he would tell her that she can get in trouble for doing it.
-If I didn't like a class, he would write me a pass to get out of gym or something to go down and practice.
-I would intentionally be late for classes by stopping in bathrooms and checking my hair and stuff, the bell would ring and I would walk down to his office and he would just look at me at his desk and say "(first and last name) late again?" and I would shake my head yea and he would write me a late pass. Always.
-I don't live far from school, so after Sr high band practice, I would walk home and hear the Jr high band practicing, so I would walk in and listen to them and he'd introduce me and let me sit in and listen to them and help the young'ins out if they need it.
-If my clarinet had a problem, he would let me go into his office and into his desk to look for the tool I needed to fix it. He also let me take reeds without paying, when he made the rest of the students pay a dollar for each one they took.
-His office is right smack dab in the music hall suite and he always kept his door shut to keep the practicing instruments out and I would go in and talk to him about random things when I was bored and the door would always be shut and kids would walk by making kissy faces.
-He had since become a father when I left for the Sr high, while I was still a student of his, he and I would joke around that whenever the special day comes that he would be blessed with a bundle of joy that he is going to have a girl, they're going to name it after me and she was going to grow up exactly like me. He always joked back that he would put her up for adoption if that were to happen.
-Sometimes when band would let out, I would be sitting on the sidewalk waiting for a ride and he would always always always made sure I had a ride before he left.
-My mom said that if I ever had this kind of relationship with any other teacher, she would be worried.
-Lastly, this might just be me but I feel like every time he made a joke, he would look over at me to see if I was laughing.
I am sorry it is so long, it's just, since the show Pretty Little Liars, people from Jr high have been texting me "wow, Aria and Fitz are a lot like you and.. who? (;" Please tell me what you think of our relationship. Don't tell me to put it behind me, that he isn't my teacher anymore so I shouldn't worry about it because I still see him when I go to help out the Jr high kids. I need answers, I don't care how long. Thanks!
I've seen you ask this question before, I can't recAll if I answered it before.
I completely agree with the people below me.
You know why I think you keep askingthis question, is because you don't like what your hearing. I think you want so badly for soneone to say "yes he is inlove with you go abd tell him how you feel!"
I'm sorry, but I'm pretty sure nobody is going to tell you that. I've had the same experience that you had. But, I knew not to think anything of it. Teachers have favorites. Plenty of teachers act like this.
Also think of it this way, how old are you right now? 16? There is like an 11 year age difference between you and the teacher. Would you ever consider dating a 5 year old? I hope not. Could you like the five year old like a brother or son? Sure. But not as a lover. That is the way he feels towards you. Don't try to say it's tottally different, it's not. There is a huge maturity level between a 24 year old And a 13 year old. Even you have to admit, you've changed A lot since you were 13. Imagine how much you'll change in maturity when you reach age 24. Sure, it slows down. Butthere is still a big difference between an adult and a teenager.
I'm sorry but I don't think he feels the way you wished he feels. And I'm pretty sure a bunch of middle schoolers aren't good people to rely on.
I would just continue to act the way you always do.
Find a boy in your age range. Good luck:)
What does it mean for a guy to say you are naive when it comes to relationships?
You don't have much experience when It comes to relationships.
Hello, I'm 15. My boyfriends 17. >.< We both reached an older age, this July. .< thanks.
First of all, I heard there is no such thing as a permanent record. So, don't worry about that. If you are worried about schools seeing you gave PDA in school, it's not going to affect your chance of getting into any college. The only reason you probably got in trouble for kissing is either a) you guys were like groping eachother or b) they saw the age difference and didn't like it.
In my high school, you don't really get in trouble for
kissing. You will if you go beyond that..you will get in serious trouble. Things in my school that are ok is holding hands, a hug, and a small peck. Anything besides that, if the teachers don't yell at you, students will. Nobody likes to see kids making out in the hall way. It also may give you a bad reputation if you two are like on top of eachother.
Have fun in high school it goes by so fast!
heres the deal, its been like 2 years i like this guy, but he always told me he didnt like me , it was very clear, so i turned for another guy who liked me before, and now dosent ,but i do..the thing is, he knows i love him, its not a young childish thing. So we became ''fuckfriends'' so i could get close to him , thinking it could help me, we did things that couples did, he used to hold my hand when i was sad, always be there when i wasnt feeling right, always cheering me up, saying he cared, saying i was beautiful, anyways the perfect thing...then when i told him i loved him more and more, he told me we couldnt do stuff no more, it hurted me so bad, more the fact that i think he dosnet really wanna see me no more. Hes the kind of guy who just wants sex, but still..i told him we were like a couple and he said no, and when i said why he cared so much, he said well were friends...but it dosent make sense..how can u be so close to a person, without loving him...(her, me) i try to go to other guys , i try to go back to the other one, i try to date, or do ''stuff' i just cant..i just have him in my head..i cant do nothing. and i already had eating disorders and stress problems, and i feel like there coming back cause im loosing him, he used to help me alot, anyways im going on and on..the story cant stop:P, i dont know what to do no more, moving on? tried...keeping my feelings to myself , tried, being a bitch to him so he could get it, tried...i tried everything! someone do somethoing;...!!:( im not dumb and young , 17 and being a girl...is really important...(it said to put our gender!:)
What you need is confidence and self respect. You need to believe in yourself and believe your beautiful. If you don't believe it, nobody will. Also, getting a boy to like you, especially horny little teenage boys, you def don't want to sleep with them. That makes them think you are easy, and once they get what they want, they lose interest. You need to walk away from this guy who used you. He isn't a good
person, and you should find someone who loves you and respects you. If you have an eating disorder, you need to get help. My friend almost died. I was with her and had to rush her to the hospital. She is still very sick and has a lot of health problems, but improving.
I hope everything works out for you, good luck
My boyfriend and I are going to Cedar Point in a bout a week. We are going to try and get through the park in one day. I believe the hours are 10 am to 10 pm, (we're going on a Monday), and I was wondering if anyone had any good tips on things like how to make sure you get through all the rides/which rides to go on first/any rides that arent worth the wait, and even stuff like good places to eat. Thanks!!
I'm there all the time. It's so much fun. I'd just start from the back entrance. (by the water park) if your a dare devil two
must rides are dragster, millenium, magnum. All
near the front. Some medium fun rides are Gemini, blue streak, cork screw(jerks you around a lot though), mean streak, there is one in the way back that is inside a building and it's all dark, pretty fun. The big green one by the blue stream is ok, I didn't realy like that one, but you might see it and like that kind. Don't go on the mine ride, it breaks down ALOT. Really annoying, got stuck on it once was on it for an hour and a half. Oh the wild cat breaks down a lot, so I'd skip that one.but the one across from it is a great starter ride. The food is really pricy, but there is a chik fil a towards the back that is reasonable. If you need a break from walking around take a train ride or boat ride, both are free I believe and give you a great tour of the park. Also the cars on the
lines are nice too. Hmm I can't really think of s
anything else to mention. Have fun!
where can i buy tickets to see ryan sheckler skate?
Probably at the x games. Or try his offical website to see when he'll be in a town near you (ryansheckler.com) I just met him this summer, at back yard barbeque thing.
when i was 15, i had the babybug. it was almost aching, i wanted to have a baby so bad. it lasted for about 4 months and then disappeared for a while. now i'm 17 and its back, but its much worse. i have a boyfriend and we're active. we use protection sometimes, but most of the time we don't. everytime we dont, i have this instant spark of hope that maybe this might be the time that i finally get pregnant. i know, i'm young. i'm almost in my senior year of highschool and i know it'd completely ruin my life if i had a kid now, but i don't care at all. i'd be a great mother. i'm at the point right now where i don't even want to live anymore unless i have something to live for, and in this case, that something would be a baby. i keep having urges to trick my boyfriend into thinking i'm on the pill, but i love him too much to do that to him. he doesnt want a kid.
why am i like this? any why so young? my friends are all scared for me, my boyfriend, too. i'm starting to worry a little, myself.
I've had that feeling before. In my school we have a class called exploring childhood. You learn all about babies and then you even get a fake baby. You have to feed it (for like a half hour) change it's diaper, and hold it. It cries in the middle of the night. You should see if your school had this class, do you can see how much work babies are. Or try baby sitting. Try baby sitting young kids. From ages 1-4. Try to do it for a long period of time. Once you see how much work kids are, you won't want one right now. I still can't wait to have kids, but it put things in perspective. What about a puppy? I just got a puppy and even though it's not exactly the same as having a baby, it's close. Don't have a baby right now, you will regret it. You have all your life to be a grown up. You can only be a kid for so long.
I live in the country on a farm and just got a year old german shepherd dog and have had her for just oover a month. Although she is very bright she is also extremely energetic at times.
When i first got her she would always be either tied up with a chain or with us on a leash so she can get used to the place. (she is an outside dog) I would walk her around her boundary lines each day which is what was suggested to me as there is no fence around my yard. She has been off her chain but lately this passed week she will cross the road (especially if she sees a bird or another animal) to my neighbors house. This is NOT ok as we live on a fairly busy road. When we bring her back we chain her up and give her no treats for the rest of the day. But she will still do it the next day. What can i do? A fence or a shock is NOT an option.
You need to train him better. I had a little westie a few years ago, whigot hit by a car. It was the most devasting thing that ever happened to me. Especially since it was all my fault. When I got my next dog, I was extremely strict when she went outside. I had my dog for three years, and we hardly ever put a leash on her. My family thought she was well trained and would know not to run towards the street, but obviously not. When I got my new puppy this is what I do, whenever we go outside, she always has a leash on. When were in the front yard, she is only allowed so far in the yard. (never close to the street) when we go on walks, when I get to the point in my yard that she is not allowed to walk past, I pick her up and carry her till we are on the sidewalk. I know you can't do that, so mny just have her/him walk very close to you. If he goes towards the street (past the point you allow) scold him/her. But don't punish him/her after that, it won't understand. Also, when you tie him up outside, make sure you stay out there with him/her. So if he tries to chase birds or something you can scold him. That will prevent him from chasing animals and he will understand that males you upset. Dogs want to pleasE you. One time, my brother let the door open ad I was across the street, my dog ran right up to the point and stayed there and did not move until I got to the point where she was and I picked her up got the leash and brought her back out. Also, teach your dog commands like stay and come here. Maybe an obedience class is necessary for your dog? Do what you need to keep your dog safe. Oh and electric fences, don't have to cover your whole yard. It can be as small or big as you want, if cost is a problem. Just something to consider! Good luck and remember dogs learn fastly when you praise them!
what are the solution of obesity
Diet and exercise.
I've been seeing this guy for a while now. For eight months we were just friends with benefits, during these months he became my best friend, and then I realized I liked him. I admitted my feelings for him, he said he liked me too (but I already knew that because of his actions). A few weeks later I mentioned a relationship. He said no, he doesn't want one, because it might ruin our friendship, and he doesn't want one, but he still likes me and cares about me, and still wants to be exclusive.
Okay I said, I can understand that, I don't exactly agree with it, but I'll deal with it. But now my feelings for him are just steadily growing, and I want him to be an official couple with him.
I don't want to be wasting my time, and I know I'll only get hurt in the end. It hurts because my feelings are at a point where I am ready to take the next step, but I don't think he is. But its confusing because I know he cares about me. I just don't understand.
What do I do? I'm kind of at the point where I have to give him two options: I'm in his life as his girlfriend, or I'm not in his life at all.
I'm 19, he's 23. And we had this relationship conversation about two months ago, so I don't know if his feelings about that have changed, yet if they have, I would think he'd take the initiative and ask me.
A couple years ago, I had this exact problem. I realize now I should have never agreed to friends with benefits. I liked him way more then he liked me. And he said the same kind of thing to me as that guy said to you. I think he just likes using you. If he really liked you, he would want to have a relationship with you. The point of doing sexual things with someone, is to show them how much you love and care about them. That's the problem with friends with benefits it always causes confusing feelings. You told him what you wanted, and he said no. I think you should just walk away. It's not worth your time, and even if you gave hm an ultimatun, even if you do that though, he could say yes because he still wants to get some from you and then he might cheat on you because he felt obligated to be in a relationship with you. Date someone who respects you.
Our family was staying overnight at friends, and we all just crashed in the livingroom. I ended up between my teen daughter and son. During the night she kept really snuggling up to me and holding me tight. I would push her away and turn her around, and then she took my hand and placed it on her boob. I pull my arm away, and put it out far. This kept happening over and over. At one point I awoke to feel her body quivering and she is rubbing her legs together on me/beside me, and she had put my hand on her boob again. I pushed her legs away from me to get her to stop and placed her hands on her belly. I got up and went outside, had a smoke to try and figure out wtf was happening. Came back in and fell asleep for couple of hours on the floor with my son. after we were all up, and finished eating she was jumping on me, in my lap, ticckling and clinging to me. Calmed her down, and she sat on my legs. She placed her hand under my nose, and asked me to smell. It was sex smell. I said "what is that?", " nothing" she says.
How old is she exactly? Sometimes, I do things in my sleep without realizing it. One time, my friend slept over and she was sleeping next to me and I kept moving close to her & that sort of thing. But, when I woke up and she told me about it, I was dreaming about a boy. She might not realize she is even doing it. Were you not around when she was growing up or something? Maybe she doesn't understand the difference between a father and another male..? I don't know, I think it depends on how old she is too. If she is 13 & under, I'd just watch her behavior towards you & make sure she is aware that you are the father. If she is 14& over, I'd consider taking her into seeing someone. That isn't proper behavior, and she should know better. Also, maybe she doesn't get a lot of attention & feels the need to get you to pay attention to her in some way.
I hope everything works out for you.
i havent been well for a week now. first i got a badcold and then a inflammation of the middle ear (which is almost gone now)
and I didnt eat much cause i felt to weak to do anything. yesterday i only ate a cookie. this morning i ate two slices of toast, one with cheese and the other one with salami.
and a few minutes after i ate i began having a terrible stomach ache & i had to take a poop.
(this is a bit ambaressing) it was quite painful and when i whiped my butt i saw a bit of blood on the toiletpaper.
now im really scared. it stopped and my stomach ache is almost gone but im scared that its smth serious. i dont think i have hemroids & i dont have any other symtoms that cause anal cancer.
im just a bit worried. can it be smth else?
Actually, I think that's hemroids. Seek a doctor. They'll give you some medicine.
What is worse for you; throwing up or taking laxactives? I was just wondering which form of bulimia is worse on your body.
K3857 or whatever said exactly what I was thinking, however my friend died from bulima. Eating disorders really screw you up.
Sorry, "mental health" was the closest category i could find, haha :D
AH so this is an odd question, i'll try to make it sound serious though...
So, it's never really bothered me before...
But I realized lately that i find WEIRD things...attractive. like, sexy, whatever you want to call it.
Like, I don't know how to describe it really. I just find things that people normally dont care for, really sexy. only with guys, by the way, and its a bunch of different, random things...its always the little tiny details i focus on, though.
haha this question sounds so stupid...it's very frusturating that i can't explain it.
ok so here are a few examples off the top of my head...
-when guys adjust their ties(or look nervous in general, really)
-the way the joker slowly turns around/slowly lifts his head up... (in the dark knight)
-little facial twitches guys make (again, being nervous, also being suprised or angry)
-small, quick noises some singers make while..singing. cant describe that too well.
-aang the avatar when hes ...powerfully bending...HAHA wow...im a loser...on the other hand...PRINCE ZUKO when hes really pissed and/or...powerfully bending fire. haha what is WRONG with me
-on tv shows/movies, when a guy will say something really little, like one word, where they'll say it in a husky tone, or their voice will waver or something like that...and i just replay that one second of them saying the little thing over and over because i love how it sounds...
-im 15, and it seems as though i tend to find older men attractive...like, much older men. i usually, ahem, CRUSH, on guys anywhere from their late twenties (such as heath ledger) to their early 50s (such as alec baldwin). i really never like teenage celebrities or guys in their earlier 20s...i would prefer Michael C. Hall to taylor laughtner ANY DAY! ;)
-i dont really find guys' bodies that attractive...i mean...DONT get me wrong, a tan guy with a sixpack is great, but i dont seem to obsess over them as much as a lot of my friends...for example, most of the conversations between us while talking about guys go like:
friend- OH MY GOD he has such a gorgeous BODY!!!!!!
me- yeah i guess...he has a weird face though...
hahaha wow this is really pathetic..but dont worry people, i can laugh at myself.
but..ultimately, i was just wondering if anyone else finds themself doing anything similar to this? or am i just a complete freak? haha.
oh, this isnt some weird fetish or something, right? that would suck...
thanks!
It's ok, I think everyone finds little stuff like that attractive. My friends all like guys similiar to what your friends like (tan, muscles)while I prefer, lanky and pale. I really live artsy shy boys. I used to like this one boy, he was really quiet, didn't have any friends, and use to have a little paitbrush like behind his ear. I thought that was so cute. So, yea you are not alone. Everyone likes stuff like that!:) the only thing I can say that might be a little different is how you like such older
men. Be careful with that!
But yeah, I hope I helped:)
i started taking new medication and one of the normal side effects is nausea so i started feeling nauseous and because of that i got a headache and lost my appetite last night so i didnt eat, instead i went to bed, now its morning and i have an empty stomach and i feel nauseous because of it but i feel like if i eat i'll vomit. what should i do?
You need to eat. I had this problem too, but when you eat it will take away that feeling.
I switched to being a vegetarian about a week ago. I ate too many fatty, fried foods (mostly meat) and have been trying to eat healthier. I've been making sure to get all the vitamins and minerals I need throughout the day and I did tons of research before I decided to go through with this.
The first two days I was grumpy and then I started to feel good and not as tired as I did when I ate meat. I changed to being a vegetarian for health reasons mostly. Is it normal to go through the "grumpies" at first? Has anyone else had this experience?
Yes. You need more protein. When I first became vegetarian I was very tired and in a bad mood, I thought I was eating right but was not. When you feel tired, you need some protein. Eat some nuts or cheese. I'm not sure exactly why I was in a bad mood, but I think it also might be lack of protein.
It gets better as you go on. When I first started I was confused, I thought vegetarians ate much differently then everyone else. I found that completely untrue. Eat everything you normally eat, and if it contains meat (like chicken) this brand called morning star makes excellent fillers and it has protein in it. Morning star really helped me stick with this life style. There stuff is really good. Way better then boca and any other brand I've tried. Also, I just found this stuff called amys. It's all organic and tastes great. A lot of there stuff is vegan which is cool too. But don't get it at your grocery store it's kind of pricy. If you have like a "super"? Wal mart they have it and it's cheaper. Some of their meals also have tofu in it, which is full of protein.
I also learned that when first going vegetarian, cut out all
meat you really don't like. (for me that was all beef) after you cut that out, if you really love chicken, still eat it, but when you do, cut it down to smaller and smaller portions. Eventually, it won't taste that good to you anymore and you will stop eating it. Also, meat is technically ok. It's not horrible for you, it's just Americans ( assuming your American) make meat the biggest portion of meals. Look at other cultures and most don't use meat as such a large amount. There main dish is like vegetables or pasta.
I think I gave you more information then you asked, but I just wish someone would have told me all this when I first started it makes things so much easier. Good luck!:)
I heard that if you work out and exercise a lot that your periods are shorter and you don't get as many cramps. I just started to exercise last week but my period is the same this month. Well, I'm just curious if the stuff I read is true and if I should expect my periods to get better in a month or two.
Does exercising regularly cause you periods to be shorter and go by quicker? And is it safe to exercise while I'm on my period too?
Workig out whil on your period is perfectly safe. I do know that working out does help cramps because it is good to have your body moving and working out the muscles, I think. However, I'm not sure if it makes it lighter. I work out regularly, and my periods are light.. Soo maybe? On that one.
Hope I helped :)
15/f
so i want to make a little extra money. im getting a job shortly but we are in the process of moving so in the meantime i would like to make some money. well i was wondering if i could trust online survey websites. i didnt sign up for any because a lot of them you have to be 18 or older. . . are there any i could take and please send a link for them that i can trust.
thanks
Online surveys are such a joke. First of all, you have to like sit at your computer All day waiting for them to email you and be able to take it immediately. If you don't, they tell you they got enough people and don't need you. Also, a lit say they will give money, but really don't. They'll give you "points" and you can enter contests with it. Oh, and the very few who do give you money, they won't send you the money till you get like 10 dollars worth. Mist surveys take 30-60ish minutes and you only get like a dollar. So not worth it. Try babysitting (while you live there), cuttig peoples grass, little jobs like that.
I met my friend Raymond when we started our freshman year of college. We instantly clicked and the first year of our friendship was awesome. We went from being great friends, to his behavior getting worse and worse our sophomore year. Here are the main things that are driving me nuts:
- He demands all of my time. It went from us seeing each other in class all day and hanging out once a week to seeing each other in class all day, him wanting to eat lunch together, him waiting us to do homework together, him wanting us to work out together, him wanting to watch a movie after we work out, him wanting us to walk to our morning classes together, rinse and repeat. I’m one of those people that needs some me time during the week, so this has been driving me up the wall.
- He won’t take no for an answer. If I have the gall to refuse to hang out with him for whatever reason, he treats me like dirt. There was one time I had the flu and was trying to rest. When he wanted me to come watch a movie and I said no, he flipped out on me and then acted like he never said the nasty things he said to me the next day. This doesn't happen every time, but it happens often enough to where it's really frustrating.
- He wants to be involved with everything in my life. The only thing Raymond and I have in common is that we're music majors. I don't mind trying new things, but it's a struggle for Raymond. I've tried getting him involved in some of the things I do with no luck, so when he still insists on inviting himself to absolutely everything I do, it's really frustrating. For example, I like going out dancing every once in a while, and I invited Raymond out with me once. He refused to dance, sat at the table the whole time and had a fit when I refused to stop having fun and sit with him. Come to find out, he hates dancing and the club environment, so I knew from then on not to invite him next time I wanted to go dancing. Since then, whenever I tell him I’m going out dancing with my other friends, he insists on coming along. I remind him that he doesn’t enjoy dancing, but he insists that thing will be different, and they never are. When I say he wants to get involved with everything, I mean EVERYTHING, even if he knows he’s going to have a bad time. I mention my mom and I are taking salsa lessons; he wants to come, even though he doesn’t like to dance. I try out for a play, he wants to as well, even though he has crippling stage fright. It would be a different story if he legitimately wanted to try something new, but he never wants to and always whines and pouts whenever we do something he doesn't like.
- He doesn’t take me seriously. Remember the flu story from earlier? Well I wasn’t going to let him talk down to me just because I was sick, so I pulled him aside the next day, told him what he told me was messed up, and the reason I didn’t want to hang out was because I’ve been sick for the last week. Instead of understanding where I was coming from or an apology, all he had to say was “If you’re so sick, why have you been in class for the past week?” It seems like whenever I try to have a serious talk with him, he either blows it off as a joke or throws what I say back in my face. It seems like he doesn’t respect my feelings at all.
I’m seriously sick and tired of going through this all the time. Hanging out with Raymond is now a chore to me, because if I don’t hang out with him enough, he gets upset. This sucks because we used to be great friends, but now he’s overstepping his boundaries and blowing me off whenever I try to explain this to him. I would like to salvage the friendship, but I’m not opposed to breaking it off if nothing changes. So in conclusion, my question is: What can I do to get Raymond to stop clinging to me so much? How can I get him to actually shut up and listen for once in his life?
Quite honestly, his behavior kind of frightens me. I mean he seems obbsessive of you. I can't say I've ever personally had this problem, but a close friend of mine has. It was her boyfriend and he was very controlling. That's the impression you've given me about Raymond to. He's always picking what to do and pouting when he doesn't get his way. That is very childish. My friends boyfriend basically cut her off from all her friends. He always wanted to hang out with just her and would boss her aroud and be mean to her. You said he wasn't like this when you first new him, right? My friends boyfriend was not either. He seemed so nice. He'd buy her flowers, take her to all these fancy restaurants and was so charming. But when he got more serious with her.. It all changed. He'd yell at her in public. He would call her all these mean names. She was scared of him and didn't know how o get out. Eventually, he beat her and it wad all taken care of.
I'm not tryin to say this will happen to you or your friend is like that. I'm just saying this reminded me very much of my friends old situation.
Anyway, I personally think you should get out while you can.
I suppose you should do it slowly, so you don't get him too angry and he freaks out on you. When he wants to walk with you to morning classes, say your not ready and will just see him there and that sort of thing.. He'll get the hint sooner or later and your friendship will fall apart naturally.
Or if you really want to keep the friendship, because it is hard moving on from close friends, I would sit him down and really explain your feelings. If he yells at you, or takes it as a joke or blows it off, tell him you can't continue this friendship if he is going to keep treating you like that. But dot forget to tell him how much you value the freindship you share.
I don't know, from what you said, I just don't get a good vibe from this guy. Have you asked your family And friends about this as well? If not, ask them what the think, since they are there and see how he acts towards you on a daily basis.
Hope I helped!
Good luck
this might sound weird. but is it okay to make out with your best guy friend? because i read a lot of stories on yahoo answers about people that make out with their best friends but they arent going out. I want to do that with my best guy friend. so maybe if we do that. we might become bf/gf. unless it is wrong to do. but if its okay how would i start it?
please help. than you in advance.
Thaw not a good idea. I've done that before and I
lost my beat friend from it. The problem was was I was just wanting to fool around with him and did not want a relationship at all. He did. It just sends a lot of mixed feelings and stuff. If you really want to do that then you should ask him if he wants to have a friends with benefits relationship but no strings attached. Or if you like him more then a friend and want to have a real relationship you should tell him you like him.
Hope I helped:)