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ok i kno everyone's tired of christmas but i don't know what to get my gf!

help!

she's 14/f

thanks!

Giftcards, bath sets, flowers, a hand written note, something you baked, jewelry (bracelet, necklace, earrings), jewelry box or something along those lines.

Ask her, her friends or her parents what she would like. Or walk into a store and ask what they sell that a 14 year old girl would like.

Try wrapping the gift in a nice box with a bow on top. Make it special and take time and care to make it look good. She will love the little details!

Hopefully that helps! :)

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whenever i wear a belt or even when i just wear jeans i get a mark on my stomach from it and it itches like crazy. does anyone know what i can use to help stop this or treat it?

If you're like me, you're allergic to metal. Many many people are allegeric to nickel (a type of metal) and therefore, you are reacting with the metal buckle of the belt. Or the metal button the jeans. You can paint over it with 3 coats of clear nailpolish, but you have to do that everytime before you wear the jeans. Or you could sew a patch over the button, tuck a shirt into your pants or something along those lines.

Even if you aren't allergic to nickel (or another type of metal) the nailpolish or fabric patch should help you.

You should see a doctor to treat the itchy area. He/she will prescribed a cream from the drugstore which will help you deal with outbreaks.

Good luck! :)

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Do you lose weight from masterbating?

Hardly. It won't compare to going for a run, but you will burn calories. I would try to give you a figure but it depends on the intensity and time it's done for. Since you aren't using many muscle groups I wouldn't expect to be seeing any significant weight loss from it.

Hope I helped :)

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How does one just accept the final answer on a question that they asked someone. I have a friend that dwells on what was said to them a week ago, a month ago or years ago. ANy suggestions

Everytime that happens change the subject. Or try talking to her about it. Or let her talk about it until she feels okay.

Good luck

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Whats the best way to lose weight? I'm 13, 5'0 and 135 lbs.

Go for a fast paced walk for an hour a day.

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I have a female, seven year old dog that is a rat terrier. For almost four months, she has had a bump on her right side. It's about half the size of a nickel. What could this be?

It could be anything, serious or not. It could be a bug bite or something worse such as a cancer. You should really take your dog to the vet, because they will be able to indentify it.

You could also try giving it a few days (about 3-5) and see if the bump gets smaller. If not it may be something serious.

Good luck :)

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i am 15 and for the past 3 weeks i've been straightening my hair and i've got mixed responses
to it and i just wanted to know should i keep straightening my hair?

It's the new trend. Guys can do anything girls can do such as style their hair and wearing makeup. Some styles (eyeliner for example?) are a little more over-the-top than other in my opinion. If you think your hair looks better straightened, it probably does. In the near future many guys will start to try it. Don't worry, it's a good thing. :)

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Everybody knows that if you touch something static like one of those slides at the playground and somebody else you'll get shocked. However, this is NOT THE CASE.

I have this sort of blanket at home that I use to get warm on the couch when it's cold and I have been getting shocked by it! The tag which says what it's made of is ripped off but for instance, when I throw it around my back my hands get the smallest shocks and I can hear it too. Sometimes I can just hear something thats sounds like pops/shocks on the blacket itself when I move it. Also outside I have just been getting shocked a lot, by touching other people(nonintencially) or getting out of the car. What could this be? I haven't had any surgery and no foreign objects have been put into my body. I'm only 14.

The same thing happens to me. If it's cold where you live or you are wearing synthetic fabrics (not cotton or a natural material) I heard that can cause it. The cold causes it because the air is dryer than in the summer (the summer is more humid).

To learn more about static electricity you can search it on google. You will find many useful sites.

Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about it except wait out the cold weather.

Hopefully I helped :)

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ok i've been trying to cut back for the past 2 weeks. i wouldn't really say it was an actual DIET per say, but i guess it is. for breakfast i've been having a bowl of special k & for lunch i've been having a mix of things. usually gram crackers carrots dole peaches apple/apple sauce & yoplay yogurt. i mix those things up each day. i have a bottle of water with it also. for dinner, i try cutting back. i eat whatever my parents make, because i don't want to waste food. so lets say they make steak & potatos. i'll have a small piece of steak and 1 sweet potato. stuff like that. even if they have bbq and fries. ill take the bbq without the roll and a few fries. i've cut out my snacks & have not aten past 7 pm. also, i'm on an ankle injury so i can't play sports. i've been running/walking/jogging about 30 minutes 5 days a week. will this do it!? or will i have to work harder. also, how do i avoid talking about it at lunch. we sit at 1 big table & they always make comments like "oh yeah shes dieting again". it really bothers me because i don't want anyone to talk about it. also-i am a female [obviously] im 5'9 & i weigh around 140. am i being ridiculous?? i just want to lose stomach weight. any help is appreciated.

thanks!!

Unlike what the other people have said, I think you are taking a huge step in the right direction. I suggest eating a little more at breakfast (try a piece of fruit extra or a slice of toast).

If you can, add 15 minutes of situps, crunches, jumping jacks or pushups if your ankle and body allows it. It will help to build muscle tone.

During the day I also suggest walking quickly (through the halls for example) to bring your heart rate up and help you burn calories all day long.

If you are craving healthy foods, eat them. If you're craving junk food it is most likely eating for emotional reasons. Everyone does it.

For now just ignore your friends. In the future when you start losing weight and looking healthy, they will want to know your secrets. If you can, try to find another friend who will help you stay with this healthy lifestyle. If the both of you can go into this together, you will have better chances of success.

Make sure you are drinking water whenever you are thirsty and that you are getting 8 to 10 hours of sleep per night.

Good luck :) !

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What are some signs (big signs and also just the little ones) to tell that your ex boyfriend likes you again?

Please help :)

It varies a lot but here is a good list

- looking at you constantly
- being jealous when you are with other guys
- calling you or talking to you often
- acting differently in any way to you

But do remember, they are your ex for a reason. If this is a case where you may like them again do consider why you broke up in the first place.

Good luck :)

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Okay so my school is putting on a play and I tried out Wednesday. Well today my teacher/director asked me if I wanted to be the assistant director. I immediately thought I bombed the audition but she said she could tell I wanted to learn and thought it would be good to learn about it from someone she thought could teach me well (her). Incase you don’t know what an assistant director does; they help the director out with things to help the play go over smoothly and what not. And that's where my problem comes in. I really would like to help her out, but I fear that the cast members won’t take me seriously or they'll hate me or take advantage of me (because I can’t be very mean). I don’t exactly get respect from other cast members. And I feel stupid when I "lecture" them. I also don’t want to disappoint my teacher. I don’t want to accept the role and then not come through for her or screw up and embarrass myself in front of everyone. So what do ya'll think? Should I tell my teacher yes or no?

Also: Any other advice you may have about how to handle any of the situations or if you have a comment about anything I mentioned, please don’t hold back. I'm open to ANYTHING.

Personally, I think it would be good experience for you. Most likely the cast will be cooperating because they all auditioned to be there, they weren't forced.

If there are any large problems that is the job of the director and you can let them handle it. Anything minor will help build your confidence with dealing with people. I suggest getting to know all of the cast and create a level of friendship because it will help the production run more smoothly.

Finally, I think you should be honoured that they would like you to be the assistant director. They must see that you are organized and responsible, two great qualities.

Hopefully that helps you make a decision

Good luck :)

And just remember, if you accept but run into a big problem you can ask for advice on advicenators again to help you out.

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I bought my first digital camera last January (Polaroid iZone 300 with 3.2 megapixels). In my opinion, it's a horrible camera. The pictures don't come out very clear and the battery dies extremely fast no matter how long I charge it for. Plus, it can record videos, but it doesn't record sound. What good is that?

So basically what I'm trying to say is that I'm not very good at picking out a digital camera and I need someone's help. I'm getting one for xmas and I get to pick it out.

My "requirements": no more than $250, able to record videos with sound.

Definately go for a Sony Cybershot or a Canon. They are great cameras for low prices. Try to get at least 4.0 megapixels for good quality pictures.

Btw, the rechargable batteries for a Sony Cybershot (which cost extra) last for hours and hours and don't take too long to recharge. I take about 400-500 pictures with flash everytime I'm out and the battery lasts the entire time.

Good luck :)

You could also try going to your local camera store, drugstore or other place that sells camera to find the one for you. The sales people tend to be helpful but make sure if you see one you like that you look it up on the internet first. Just google the name.

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i think i like this guy but i dont know, how are you sure if u like something?
13/f
ill rate. thanks

Hey

At your age and for the next few years you will find that you like someone when you get butterflies when you see them or hear their voice. If you can't stop glancing at them or they make you nervous, chances are you like them. If you want to hold hands, hug or kiss them you like them.

After the next few years you may develop wanting to share you secrets with them and have them tell you theirs as a clue that you like them. If they treat you well and you make eachother happy that is another sign.

Overall, if you enjoy being around them and want to be closer (talk to eachother more and spend more time together) you like them.

Good luck with the guy :)

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idiot! i just talked to my old-crush online, and i have this weird feeling now. like i hate him. im bitter, i think. ugh! i wrote him an email a while ago, and now i asked him howcome he never answered? (it was just a polite email, like "hey its been a while, how's life?") and he was really rude about it!! and then we kept talking, and got into a discussion.. nd after a while he said "you know what, im not in the mood to talk to you to be honest" and he was just.. a complete jerk. so i was like "whatever dude, bye" and he said "bye bye now" and now we're both online, not talking to eachother, and im staring at his screenname with.. anger, i think. im not sure what it is i feel but i dont like it. i hate him, i hate myself. i feel so inferior now, just help me please! what do i do?

I have had this happen to me. You really should block and delete him. He isn't worth your time. This guy will never change and he must be a jerk. No one deserves to be treated like that. No matter what his reason, there's no way he should be so rude.

Are you sure you want to like a guy who makes you feel bad? I think you know the answer. You deserve better.

Good luck, though :)

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I use to always get A's! Now i keep getting very grades on test even though i study. My friends don't even study and they get great grades! How can I improve my grade?

You really need to know your downfall. Do you do badly on tests? Do you do badly on homework? Do you pay attention? Do you participate?

You may wish to speak with your teachers about where you are losing marks.

Make sure you are always paying attention during classes as well.

Try study groups with your friends and taking extra time on homework, assignments and studying.

When you are in class doing a test, take your time and check every answer.

Once you have figured out what is, I suggest reasking your question for more detailed advice.

Also, try getting extra assignments or retaking tests, if your teacher allows it.

Good luck

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id like opinions on this... just what does this say to you, like whats it about? --


head spinning and i go numb
you used to be the only place i could turn
everything that once was, brought down by a lie
inside, a burning feeling like my heart has bled and died

i could feel it every touch, every smile, every kiss
perfect memories now feel like false bliss
its still what i want and i want nothing more
see the light, dry my tears, and pick me off this floor

my breath is frozen in me as my heart turns cold
locked in this feeling forever while the world grows old
if i could see it in your eyes would it make it more clear?
was this for real or just the happening reality of my fears?

how could something so perfect just be ripped from my hands?
you beg me to believe but i question how i can
my perfected dream turned into a chilling nightmare
now watch as my heart breaks open and tears freefall in the air

ive lost sense of direction and i dont know where to go
was she right and is this just false hope?
well now its my turn to beg
i want to live again and i want to fly high
so save me please and dont let this die.




To me it says a broken heart. Someone who has lost their wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend.

They possibly grew apart, cheated or something along those lines.

Very emotional & touching in my opinion.

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i got this friend he is bi but he dont wont to come out the closet what should my friend do

No matter what you do, make sure you take into account his feelings. He is probably unsure about his sexuality and it is an unstable topic for him.

Do not force him to tell anyone, when he is ready he will do it on his own.

For now just accept him for who he is.

:)

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what are some good ways to destroy jeans at home?

thanks so much in advance!!

Put bleach on them

Use scissors to cut holes

Use a knife to rip threads

Rub them against something such as cement

Use a (cheese) grater on them


You will be able to fad, rip, snag and much more with those few techniques. Happy distressing! :)

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ok so i got my first period in the end of august and ges wat now its november 20th and i still havent gotton another period! im very confused should i be worried? is there something wrong with me?!? should i tell my mom i havent gotton another period since then? please help i totaly dont kno wat to do?

Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. :)

Your period will probably be irregular (meaning you may miss it all together or it can be early/late) for about the next two years.

Many women also miss their period if they heavily exercise, are under stress or are sick.

If it concerns you, speak with your mom or a doctor but I assure you it's perfectly normal, healthy and fine.

If you have other questions I'll be happy to ask

- Emilyy :)

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okay so for halloween, i was having a few friends over and we were going to go to six flags. but one of them couldnt go because she was already "going with her family" and 2 other ones bailed out the last minute to go with her. before we left to leave, i asked my friend why she invited the other 2 since we could've all gone together, and she flat out told me off and called me a b**** for not hanging out with them! now i admit that since high school started (we're freshman!) i've been busy. im in choir, dance, the school vb team, and soccer.. and well these 3, but mostly the 1st girl, really have nothing to do as far as extra-curricular. she's fat and often gives me trouble about how thin i am. i was very upset because we used to be real close, but i got over it and left ready to have fun. when we saw them there, they waved to the other girls and shot me dirty looks. now at school the main girl is getting people mad at me, but if i run into them or something, they ask me why im mad at them! i've found out that at least 6 people were mad at me, because this girl told them i was mad at them!! do you think she's just jealous or something? shes trying to make my life a living hell.. and it's only worked a tiny bit. she even told my boyfriend / bestfriend that im a slut, a b****, and possibly cheating on him!? well, i need advice on what to do, im trying to ignore it but i think i might be too shy to tell her off or anything! HELP!!!

Wow, I've had this happen to me. Honestly, you need to stop talking to them because this isn't going to stop. The longer you keep trying to be friends with them, the more you'll be hurt in the end. Highschool is the place where you can make friends will all sorts of people, so be nice to everyone. Don't try to take revenge on the girls. In the future, when you have friends and they dont (people catch on really fast when people are so rude) they will be very jealous of you.

It worked for me, so just keep your head up and try to make new friends. You won't regret it.

Good luck :) - Emilyy

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