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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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Ok, here's the deal. I have this boyfriend I have been with since 7th grade. We know each other very well, and are really comfortable around each other. But last winter his parents split up and he got mixed up with the wrong crowd, started doing drugs, starting ruining his life in general, and not to mention ruining our relationship not only as a couple but as I see him. He started blowing me off, not calling, not keeping promises, point blank..doing drugs. So we broke up for awhile, and I met this really great other guy. We talked about everything, and it evetually lead into a relationship. He was really laid back and we had lots of good times together. But to be honest, i couldn't open up to this kid as much as the other one. I was very standoffish and I couldn't like him to the point where I wanted to be more than just friends. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me. He was the total opposite of what the other kid was, my old boyfriend is very protective of me and gets jealous and mad vey easily. so that was just what I needed. So, a few things happened, I cheated on this kid with my old boyfriend, and I needed to break up with him. I feel like such a bad person because he is such a good guy. After awhile, my old boyfriend went to Florida to figure out who he was and get more self respect for himself. While he was down there he would call me every single night. I was the only thing he had to hold onto. Now he's back up here, and I've hung out with him, but I'm not convinced he's changed and I don't want him to go back to his old ways. I am in love with this kid because we basically grew up together, but in some ways I feel like I made the wrong decision. Sometimes I feel like I should have gone with the other kid. I need some GOOD advise because I have been thinking about this for a long time.
PLEASE HELP, thank you*
Just because you've had feelings for him for a long time doesn't mean you still have them. You could be clinging to a bad habit, just like he is. To me, it doesn't sound like you're in love with this kid.
But because you've known him for a long time, you know he's been messing up his life, and is going to continue doing so. He messed up your relationship once, why won't he do it again? I'm sorry to put insecurities in your head, but seriously think about it. Do you want to be dragged down with him? When people close to someone get depressed, they have a tendency to get that way as well.
As for the other guy, if you didn't have those feelings for him, then don't worry about it. You did what you felt was right, and that's good enough. When you make a decision don't look back, or you'll regret it. Whatever the decision is.
hi, ive been going out wih my girlfriend for like 4 months now. we are in love. now i know what your gonna say, its only been four months. well, screw you. if your gonna say stuff like that please dont answer, because you dont know the whole story. anyway, im a virgin, and i want us to make love. i am waiting until i am sure who i want the first person to be, and ive found her. im not nervous of i or anything, but i want to know it is a good idea. I mean i love her, i really do, and i dont want things to get screwed up because of this. shes had sex before, so she warns me that you can take back your first time, and i know that. but im sure, i just want outside input... thanks
If you think you're ready, and you've found the one, then go for it.
Ummmmmm ok this is really weird. I have had these strange dreams for about a week about my friend Nick. The only problem is its like in my dream we are going out. I used to only see him as a friend but now I think I am starting to like him because of all these dreams. What should I do? What do these dreams mean?
Dreams are random parts of our subconcious thoughts thrown together.
AKA-- half the time, they don't mean anything.
You could be lonely. Your friend Nick is probably very close to you, am I right? You trust him, and are good friends with him, probably have a lot in common and you care about him. You would want all those qualities in a boyfriend.
That's probably why you place Nick in those scenarios.
15/f.
My bf pissed me off n really hurt my feelings w/o meaning to. now im not so sure and i want to take a break. but im afriad if i find out i do still want/need him he won't want me back... help...
A little more information about what he did would be good.. but, as far as I've heard... if he pissed you off, and you want to take a break, then take a break.
You don't need him! Besides, taking a break isn't exactly breaking up. It means that at some point you will probably get back together. And if he doesn't want to get back together, then that's his loss. There are other guys out there.
But if he did something seriously by accident, just remember he's only human. You can't blame him for a mistake. Remember, he didn't mean to hurt you.
I like this guy named Ben. He knows i like him b/c of my little brother. Well i volunteer with him alot. so all year i am going to be seeing him. i want to ask him out but i don't know what to do. by the way... i'm not one of those girls who waits for the guys to ask them out. too old fashioned for me.
Before you do something rash, I want to warn you. Ben knows you like him.. and he's not doing anything about it. That's not a good sign.
But if you still want to ask him out, just ask him. "Do you want to go see (insert name of movie here) with me on Friday?"
Make sure it's a movie he desperately wants to see. But if you want to ask him to be your boyfriend, I guess the best way is to come straight out with that, too. Write him a note, or tell him over the phone. It'll be easier that way.
WARNING: most guys show notes to thier friends
ok. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now. probably about 2 months. and it seems like we don't talk as much as we used to. its like we get all nervous around each other and we can't seem to start a conversation xcept when we're on aim. i know thats sad. does anyone have any advice on this one??
thx. x0x0
What do you talk about on AIM? Talk about that with him in person. Go see a movie together or something, then talk about that. Talk about things you have in common, or things you don't. Whatever you can think of.
Even though you're nervous, you're just going to have to get past that. Push the thoughts from your mind, and be as comfortable and confident as you can be. If you start to talk more, he'll follow.
My boyfriend's away in Europe right now & he will be for another week. I'm missing him like crazy & I can only talk to him online because longdistance is expensive. What can I do to get through this time? Any ideas how to get my mind off missing him?
OK.... it's only a week... don't be one of those needy clingy girls. It will scare him off, I promise.
At least he's online, so you can talk to him on there. He'll get back, so don't dwell on it. (I should know, my ex-boyfriend spent his summer in Canada, and I mean the whole summer. He didn't even have the internet.)
In the mean time, hang out with your friends, and do stuff you enjoy. This week will be over before you know it.
First of all..the guy that i am TOTALLY in love with lives in freakin CALIFORNIA while i live in new england. We live more than 3000 miles away! i got to know him because he is my dad's best friend's son.we can't go out to visit them for
2 and 1/2 years beacuse we cant afford it.i'm really bumming out because i think that he likes me too, but i'll never get the chance to tell him face to face! i'm dying here..advice please?
You could always talk to him over the internet...
If I were you, I probably would give up... you wouldn't be able to see him for over 2 years, and it would kind of be wasting your time. There's so many other guys out there that live.. well, not 3000 miles away.
It sounds harsh, but long distance relationships almost never work. Usually, you want to see the person you're dating. So why waste your time wishing for a guy who's not there?
im going to sleep over my friends house today..but the thing is i havent seen her in a yr and we were really friends b4 but weve been talking on the internet alot, the problem isnt lik im scared shes a creep its just that im scared it will be awkward! i can get really shy sometimes and the number 1 thing i hate is awkward silences!! is there any thing to do to make sure we'll both have fun???
p.s. i sweat alot too so is there anything i can do for that?
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Try playing video games or watching a movie. Go to the mall, or go bowling. If you both do something together, you'll have something to talk about. If you start to feel embarassed, remember that this is your friend-- she's not going to make fun of you, or anything. Be stupid, or be crazy... she'll most likely do the same, and you both will have a really.. interesting.. time.
As for the sweating thing, use a strong deoderant. Try using baby powder on your skin.
Inbox me if you need anything else.
There's this one guy & him & I are pretty good friends. I like him as more than a friend & he feels the same way about me... i think. He told me he was considering asking me out. It didn't sound like a for-sure thing though. Basically, he didn't jus come out & admit his feelings, he said he doesn't know. I want him to ask me out but I'm not sure what to do. Also, he doesn't know I like him. Should I just come straight out and admit it?
Thanx,
Nathalie
If he's considering asking you out, then yes, I believe this would be a good time to tell him how you feel. Not knowing could be the reason he's not asking you out.
Ok, so my hair is really REALLY dark brown and i was wondering -- do yall think if i got like, auburn highlights -- would it look good?
i need suggestions -- because i dont like how dark my hair is now -- its almost black! and i want to change it up a lil bit
if you need pix go to my myspace:
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thanks -- & i rate high 4 GOOD answers..
Get thin all-over highlights-- make it look natural... as long as it's not a bright auburn color, you should be fine.
i live around chicago IL, and were having a drought, so its really hot around here. it gets really humid - and my hair is naturally wavy. if i scrunch it and wear it curly, it gets frizzy, and if i straighten it and wear it straight, it doesnt stay striaght, it puffs up etc. i have to go to summer school every day from 8-12, and i have very thick and quite long hair, what are some easy hair styles that i could do quick in the morning that doent look sloppy?
Keep your conditioner in your hair for 3-5 minutes.. it reduces frizz and makes your hair softer...(I suggest any kind of shampoo or conditioner from Garnier!). If you blow dry it, use products. Keep a small brush around to continue to keep frizz down.
As for styles.. you could use a bun, or a pony tail, or braid.. I can't think of anymore, but they're all pretty easy.
I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?
15/f
That's a sweet idea... for your boyfriend. If you give this to a guy who's 'just a friend' it would probably freak him out, unless he liked you. Make sure he's feeling what you're feeling... and even then, be careful about your choices. You don't want him to think that you're obsessed with him- it'll probably scare him off.
Hello all!
I started a relationship with a man that I'm mentally fascinated with. He is well educated and very articulate, which is what attracted me to him. We were together for about a month when I busted him cheating. Now, two months later, I have told him I forgive him and still want a relationship with him but he is lukewarm. He "says" that he doesn't know what to do/say to make things better between us, but I've told him countless times that I'm not worried about him cheating on me again. His response, "Nothing is certain but death and taxes." My brain tells me that if he could say that to me, he doesn't care about making things right. My heart tells me that he's a good man and he won't do it again. Am I dilusional??? The Bible teaches us to forgive 70 times 70, but that doesn't mean I have to be with him still right? I'm in love with this man but I don't know if I can ever trust him again. Please help!
You forgave him. That should make things right between the two of you-- he shouldn't have to really do or say anything. The bible says you have to forgive, not date.
It sounds like he doesn't want a relationship. That means you should move on. Even if you think you're in love, or you know you're in love, if he doesn't feel the same then don't persist in making a relationship based on your own feelings. Find another guy. Because there are always other guys.
ok so i really want to know if this guy likes me.i swim and he is on my swim team, and like when we go underwater he always smiles at me and waves, and when we do drylands he always pats me on the back or playfully hits my arm, and when we kick and stuff like that we always talk the whole way. i mean he is great, he is nice to me and everyone else, he is actualy my height and everyone likes him. whenever we go to swim meets he tells me to cheer for him because he wont do well unless i do. and he asks me to hold stuff and he just goofs around w/ me and he talks to my friends a lot. does he like me?
thnx! 5's for everyone!
I don't know. It sounds more like he's treating you as a friend... which means he probably doesn't like you (sorry, but honesty is the best policy)
You can change the fact that he doesn't think of you in a more than a friend way. If you want to. I think it sounds like you like him.
Flirt. Laugh. Smile. Ask him to go places with you. Hint that you like him. Treat him differently than everyone else. Pay more attention to him. Every chance you get, talk to him.
So, good luck.
I've never been in a relationship before & I'm 13 years old. I've liked guys & they've liked me back but I've never really gone the extra step. Well now, my guy friend likes me & I like him too. We want to be more than friends but what should I expect from a relationship? Will things be weird at first?
Things are usually weird at first when you go from being friends to being boyfriend and girlfriend. You can't really know what to expect.. it's different with every relationship. Sometimes it's more like 'just friends' and other times it's more like all over each other (of course there's an in between of those, which is where you probably want to be)
Just go with the flow. Go out with him a few times as more than just friends. If he doesn't make a move, you make one. It'll be nerve-wracking, but worth it.
i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months on wednesday...i told him we were taking a break and then when the time is right we would get back together. then yesterday, this guy asked me out and now we're together (we liked each other even when i was in the relationship but i wasnt going to cheat on my ex) but were keeping it low because it was definatly rushing into things. we were basically "together" for a while anyway it just wasnt offical. but anyway, today my friend is having a party at his house aand he asked my if it was ok if he invited my ex and i said sure, obviously not thinking. So both my ex and my current bf are going to be there. my bf is gonna wanna cuddle or something to watch fireworks and my ex doesnt know were together yet because were tryin to lay low. how do i prevent a big mess from become a HUGE one? please- anything will help!!
You might want to tell your ex-boyfriend before then, so at least he won't be suprised if he sees you with your new boyfriend...
If you don't want to tell him yet, keep keeping it low... don't do anything in front of him that could make him think that you were dating this guy. Or just avoid him the whole time. Sparing his feelings could save him a lot of grief, and possibly an overly dramatic scene. If he finds out that you've been keeping it from him, he'll probably get pissed off (to let you know)... suprisingly though, guys aren't as sensitive as girls are about breaking up and going out with someone else. They could be hurt, but there's a good chance they won't show it.
my boyfriend i havent seen for a week and a day and i havent talked to in three days! im constantly talking and thinking about him! i miss him like CRAZY!!!!! ive been calling his house for the past 2 days but hes not answering! his friend said he was in new york but doesnt know when hes going to be back. why wouldnt he tell me that? and i just miss him sooooooooooo bad! i love him and i want to see or at least talk to him! how can i get over this since i dont know when ill be able to talk/see him again!?
Tip... If you're crazy about your boyfriend, but don't want to lose him, don't let him know you're crazy. Clinginess scares people. (sorry but I thought I'd just give you a heads up...)
Now that I've gotten that out of the way... you can't really get over it. Focus your attention on something else, like work or just hanging out with your friends. Your world shouldn't revolve around your boyfriend... and chances are, he'll be back in a couple of days anyway.
I have a boyfriend and hes nice but when we go to the movies like with him me and my friends he doesnt talk to them or at least say hi all he does in concentrate on me and my friends absolutely hate him for that. whenever i mention his name my friends will be like eww i hate him so much or they will tell every 1 that hes gay! Yah i think it is mean to not talk to my friends cause they are my best friends but hes not there for my friends hes there for me! But i dnt noe how to make my friends understand and to make them like him. Thanks
My friend had a boyfriend like that. He was a huge jerk... except he would talk to us, he'd just be really really mean. And we'd end up flipping him off, or something. Anyhow...
Relationships aren't going to work if your friends don't approve. They'll do everything in thier power to stop it, because they'll believe they're helping you. And sometimes, they actually are.
As for your boyfriend, explain to him that your friends ARE important to you. And if he really cared for you, he'd at least be nice to them, for your sake. If he refuses, well, that's his problem... be warned.. unless your friends at least sort of accept him.. you might have to choose between them and your boyfriend...
im going to dump this guy today. i cant get him on the phone tho. he isnt online, so i dont know what to do. tonight i have a date with another guy but i dont like cheating so i wanted to dump the other guy first. please help!
You can go over his house and tell him, get one of your friends to tell him (if they'd be able to get him on the phone or whatever) or you could write him a note, and get someone to put it in his mailbox.
The only way you're going to get through to this guy if not by IM or the phone, is to see him in person. Good luck... I'm rooting for you-- you have morals.