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Did Miley Cyrus (aka Hannah Montana on the Disney channel) do nude photos? I heard she was doing some naked photoshoots and got in a lot of trouble. A while back I saw that she missed a Disney red carpet event since she did a sort-of revealing photo shot (racy photos) for Vanity Fair that was topless. Was Miley Cyrus really topless in Vanity Fair photos or is that a rumor too?

If she did take some naked/nude pictures...WHY?! Why would she do this sort of thing?! I mean, it's going to ruin her career! I don't understand!

Yes, she did. You heard correctly, and it wasn't only for Vanity Fair (There are a few other "racy" photos of her being thrown around the internets. Google search and you will find them.

Why? Nobody can really say, aside from her, but I would say it saved her career more than it ruined it. She can only be an Disney pop-star idol to 11 year olds for so long. In this way, she helps expand her "fanbase", albeit in an unconventional matter. Face it. If she didn't, she'd be a pimple on history's ass in a few years. Where is Lee Thompson Young (From The Famous Jett Jackson) now? He probably would have stayed relevant longer if he took some topless photos.

Beyond that, some girls have a natural desire to expose themselves. That would account for the staggering amount of unpaid, amatuer pornography availible on the internet. It's possible the esteemed Miley Cyrus is just one of those girls.

Is there a way to ignore certain text messages (like spam) that you receive on your cell phone? I have a verizon Samsung Glyde if that helps. I like wanna stop this as soon as possible because my mom is getting pretty annoyed with the bill =/

Don't open them. If my understanding of cell phone charges is correct, you don't get billed for recieving a text message until you actually open it.

If it's the same number, and you know it's from a company or something, text "STOP" to that number. If it's one of your friends forwarding you idiotic chain-texts (Like mine like to), have a word with them about it.

i want a scene name my names lacie
some ideas please!?

I'm no good with "Scene names", but my suggestion would be "LacieCanHazNaemPl0x".

There is a song called "Status Quo" in High School Muscle and I was thinking--does it encourage stereotypes and cliques in school? I mean there is a solution to the problem in High School Musical, but I think it's a bad base for a kids movie really. Don't get me wrong I'm not some weird overprotective parent that is against the "NOW" things (like High School Musical, Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus, or even the Jonas Brothers) I just think their is a deeper meaning in the movie which encourages groups and things that make children/teens not want to interact with people who are different.
Am I just reading too much into the High School Musical movie?

Could you tell me your opinion about High School Musical in this regard?

Anything Disney touches promotes stereotypes. High School Musical is no exception, but nor is it any more noticiable or special because of it.

I've been looking for a cute, across-body purse for a long while and I need help. I'm looking for a mid-sized one, that could hang pretty low on my body, like waist level or lower. Styles I like are Roxy, Delia's, American Eagle, Fossil, or anything along those lines. Nothing too "fashionable" please, or too small- I'd like it to be pretty mid-sized. Preferably around $30, because I don't want to spend very much. But whatever you find is welcomed! (:

NYPA.

Although my girlfriend got a pretty good looking purse free from American Eagle (Plain white, with a green eagle on one side). I forgot what she had to do to get it for free, and chances are the promotion or whatever ended a long time ago, but I'm sure it's availible out there somewhere.

Keep in mind you can find anything you care to dream up on eBay, or elsewhere on the internet.

hey

well I'm going to go see scary kids scaring kids in the city on the 3rd & i have no idea what to wear.
i know its not that big of a deal, but i never been to a show so i have no clue. also since its stand up, i have no idea what shoes to wear.
the problem is i'm 5 feet tall & i'm sure i wont be able to see a thing so me and my friend were thinking about wearing heels, but idk. it sounds a little foolish to wear heels to a show.
do you think that would be stupid?

thanks

No heels. The few inches you gain won't be enough to make it worth the hell it's going to be on your legs. Plus, standing tends to get crowded very quickly. You need to wear something where you won't be tasting the floor if someone bumps you slightly.

Sneakers. Comfortable sneakers. An old, well-worn pair would be perfect.

As for clothes, again, something comfortable. I've never seen scarykidsscaringkids, but I'd assume if it's like most other shows, nobody is going to be paying attention to you, they'll be too busy with the band.

So again, comfort should be your main concern. It can get very hot in pits, so if you're going to be bringing a jacket, be sure you're wearing something under that you wouldn't mind being seen in (If that sort of thing matters to you), in case you have to take it off.

I missed my period, so at first i thought i was pregnant, but i took a pregnacy test last night. The result was negative. Are there other reasons that i could have missed my period? Or was the test just wrong?
I've looked up early signs of preganancy, and the only symptom i have, is not getting my period, so i really have no idea.
anything advice would be great.
thanks.

Firstly, always test twice, just to be sure.

Secondly, your period will fluctuate wildly until you hit your early-mid 20s (And in some cases, not even then). You won't be completely "regular" with your periods for a while.

If you re-test and it comes out negative, you have nothing to worry about.

What are some really awesome games for the Nintendo Wii? I really want to buy some more Nintendo Wii games but need some good recommendations please! A list of Nintendo Wii top games are okay too but personal choices are extra nice!

Also, I can order at online stores or go to game stores like GameStop to pick up the game so if it's a hard game to find don't worry! Any recommendation is good to me!

Thanks!

The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess is fantastic. It took me right back to the glory days of the series (Ocarina of Time) stylistically and in terms of graphics. Pretty much any Zelda game is a a safe bet to be pretty good, but this one doesn't have the cheesey cell-shading that was used for Wind Waker.

The new Mario Kart is pretty awesome, although part of me still prefers the older Double Dash for the GC.

I hear good things about the new Super Smash Bros.

whats monologue

second question: what can i do to be an extra on a show or music video or movie etc?

i really wanna be a future actress

A monologue is a scene in which one character speaks for an extended period of time without any significant interuption, and other characters on stage (If any are present) more or less fade into the background. In a sense, they're pretty much those "spotlight moments".

Being an extra is a very poor way to start a career in acting, as it won't help you get "noticed" at all. That said, bands typically give open calls for extras in their music videos. Weezer had one recently, and Story Of The Year did one back for their shoot for Anthem Of Our Dying Day.

does anyone know any scene/emo stores? i'm not a poser i'm just tired of having the same shirt as everyone else

If you're concerned that you have the same clothes as other people, the sollution isn't the find another store. Especially a store geared for a fairly popular youth subculture.

Try shopping for clothes on the internet. Not many people do it, and you can usually find things there you can't find anywhere else.

I like the sweaters from american eagle and pacsun. They're not form fitting and when my little sister saw I was wearing one she basically told me I looked like a grandma or an old lady or something to that effect.

http://shop.pacsun.com/girls/sweaters-vests/Check-It-Out-Cardigan/index.pro

This is the one I have. I personally like the sweaters, but do they look old to you? I'm keeping it either way, haha. Just wanted an opinion.

paired with jeans, flats, and a long necklace

I know next to nothing about fashion, but no, that doesn't look like anything I would call a "Grandma Sweater".

On youtube, people edit their videos and you can tell. How do you do this?

It's a pretty safe assumption to make that all videos on YouTube are edited, unless it's painfully obvious they haven't been. Usually the editing is nothing major, perhaps a little bit of cropping or something to that extent.

There are several video-editing programs that can accomplish this, but I'm having a bit of a brainfart at the moment and I can't remember any. Sorry. :/

17 f..
usually whenever i was with a bf.. making out would make me extremely excited.. making me real lubricated.. and i found this a big problem.. it started fading and now its to the point where we makeout and im still not lubricated but yes excited.. whats the deal? any tips on how TO take it to the lubrication point? thanks in advance!

If making out alone isn't cutting it for you, try adding something new. Find out what gets you to that point, as it varys from person to person. Then go ahead and do it.

i really like my boyfriend and whenever we make out i get really wet...like we're not even doing anything sexual but i get so wet and i dont really like it lol im afraid if we actually do do something i'll like squirt (ew) is it normal for this? oh and we've only been together for a few weeks so is it because its a new relationship? thanks

Completely normal.

Okay, this is sort of awkward, but here goes.
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now and he used to go pretty fast and hard and I loved it. Lately though, he tends to go slower and deeper, which is also great to an extent, but I prefer it when along with that he finishes off going faster and harder. But, I'm too shy to flat out say it to him.
So, my question is how can a subtly get him to start doing it faster like he used to, without flat out saying it?

Flat out say it. Shy or not, he'll apriciate it. It would be easiest on you to say it in the moment. Just say "Faster!". He'll know what to do.

i've gotten to become a little bit ocd lately. i have lost a lot of weight and recently reduced my calorie intake to 1000 calories per day. if i go past that, i get frenetic. even if its like 1025, i will start crying.i know it's not a good thing, but i can't help it. it's just how i feel. but, i also work out six times a week. for three days out of the week i do spinning, and the other three i just work out at the gym for two hours.

for this past week, i had a little trouble going to the bathroom. and it's been driving me crazy!! my stomach really hurts. today, i went a little bit, but it's just that i'm going crazy with this. this week, i got a cold. my throat has been killing me. so, i'm trying to take care of both of these things at once. today, i took a break from the gym because my throat was killing me and i ate a little bit of pasta, because they told me that vitamin c and carbs will help me get better a little bit. and, since i'm sick i figured what the hell? u lose weight when your sick anyway, so i might as well have a little bit of something i enjoy.... but i feel sooooooooo bad about it. it's not even normal. it's like i can't eat a piece of cake or i'll start crying! i count all my calories during the day... each and every little thing... even fruits and vegetables....

i feel pretty terrible with my throat that i cant really handle going to the gym today. its like my throat and my ears are stinging... but yet i feel sooo bad because i feel all swollen because of the bathroom issue...

is there anything anyone can tell me that will make me feel better?

When you say "make me feel better", I'm assuming you mean your OCD/eating disorder issues, not your short term throat pain/constipation. If that's what you meant, please specify, and I'll help with that too.

Firstly, you have to stop telling yourself "I can't help it" and "It's just how I feel". YOU are in control above all else, and it's well within your power to eat 1001 (Or preferabley many more) calories and not burst into tears.

What the issue boils down to is controling yourself instead of letting your OCD control you. By no means is this an easy task, and it may not be something you can accomplish alone (Although if you can, congrats! You're uber!). Tell a parent or someone else you can trust. If you feel it would be nessessary, get in contact with a therapist. If you're in Eastern Los Angeles/Northern Orange County (California) area, I can recommend a fantastic therapist for you.

You have to realize that eating only 1000 calories a day isn't healthy at all, and leads to things like the stomach problems you have now. From there, it's "only" an issue of willpower.

I'm the shortest girl in my grade im 4'8 and people make fun of me because i need to be in a booster seat i really need some tips on ways top grow fast

No tips. What you're asking for can't be done.

Learn to love being short. People will grow out of making fun of you.

I don't know how it happened but I just discovered today that it wasn't on my desktop anymore and I was sure that it was there before. How can I get it back and do you know how that might have happened in the first place?

Theymos has it covered, as usual. However, if you don't feel comfortable fiddling around in the regestry, go ahead and skip straight to the workaround. For all intents and purposes, it restores your recycle bin icon will be back.

I like this guy, i know i do. But like sometimes i sit and think to myselp "why"...I can never answer it. All i get is he makes me feel...and thats it. I dont know i just cant explain it. And i dont know why. All i got is He makes me feel...
I cant debate my feelings, i have so many times there is nothing left. Matter of fact thats how i got "he makes me feel..."

well like he has told people before he likes me, and like i said i know i like him i just cant figure out why. Like he isnt cute nd he can be a real jerk sometimes, but its so cute how he gets jealous and how he smiles everytime he sees me. And how he tries to make me happy if im sad. And he kissed my neck before and i thought i was going to i dont know what :) and he acts like hes going to bite me playfully to get me laughing, he defends me. But i cant tell WHY i like him. Lke if someone says why do you like him? i just stand there like a retard because i fully cannot answer the question because it is like hard to explain. I want you to help me figure out why i like him.

And i have another question, i dont know how true this is because i have never heard it...
Someone told me that if a guy kisses your neck and you enjoy it, that its love...

Firstly, in a majority of cases (especially at your age), you won't be able to give solid "reasons" about the way you feel. In reality, they aren't that important.

The neck kissing thing is rather untrue. If a guy kisses your neck and you enjoy it, it's lust or it's physical attraction. It COULD be love, but it's foolish and dangerous to assume that the first two automatically mean the third.

Sooo, I can't help you figure out why you like him. You just do. Love is emotional business, a far cry from structure and logic. You really don't need to concern yourself with the "Why". If you like him, you like him. It needs no further justification than that.

do you believe love happens more than once in your life??

Yes.

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