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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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I got a blister on the top gum of my mouth now i'm getting another blister at the bottom gum listerine don't help it get rid of it, it just stops hurting for awhile.. what could this be a sign of? and how do i get rid of it? thanks
Without seeing a Dr, it's hard to know what the blisters are caused from. There are several illnesses that cause this such as herpes, or hand-foot-and mouth disease. The best thing to do is go to the Dr.
erm hiya my friend told me the other day that she has a very thick smelly discharge and dosent want to go to a doctor is ther any home remodys? and im worried because people at school have been saying she smeel alot recentlly and i realised it could be down to this but i dont want to hurt her fealings or ruin are friendship ither!
thanks alot xxx
Hi,
Yes, you are right, the unpleasant odor could be caused by this. Of course you have to be careful of her feelings, but she told you about it so I think it's okay to offer your suggestions. If the discharge is "smelly" this is most likely caused by an infection. There are no home remedies to help this. You could offer to go to the Dr with her, or at least be with her when she talks to her Mom. The only way for her to get better is to see a Dr.
I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for; what kind of advice I need. I don't even know if I need advice.
I'm 13/f, btw.
Last year (2005), during the summer, I met with a guy I knew over the internet. He'd told me that he was 14, and lived about 30 miles from my house. I met up with him, and well, it turned out he wasn't exactly what I expected. Things happened, that, well, weren't exactly supposed to happen. I personally just don't like the term "rape" but sure, lets use it. Since, no matter how much I hate the word, it's what happened.
I've done a pretty good job at hiding it from everyone. Luckily, I have heavy periods, and so I was on the pill at the time to make my bleeding lighter, so I didn't get pregnant. I was 12 at the time. Should I be hiding it from everyone? I've told three people so far. One of them, it was on accident, but she ignored it as if I had never said it. I've also told a good guy friend of mine, let's call him Anthony, but I don't think I can really trust him with the information. And I've also told my boyfriend, let's call him Andrew. He thinks I should tell someone, the poliece, or something. But I refuse to. It's just a weird feeling. I don't really want people to know, I don't really want people to do anything about it. But I don't know, should I tell more people? Like my mom, or the poliece? The guy, well, he told me that if I ever told anyone about it he'd track me down and kill me. And I know some people would think it stupid to listen to a threat like that, but I don't know. I really just don't know what to do. It's like it keeps coming back to haunt me. I was doing a good job at ignoring it, forgeting about it, but lately, it just hasnt been working.
Sorry it's so long.
Hi,
Obviously you are scared to tell someone partially because of the threat that the guy made, and because you feel like you did something wrong too.
Well I'm here to tell you that you didn't do anything wrong!
Tell the police.
13yrs female
I get these horrible stomach aches ( with gas, diarreah, nausiea) all the time. I've been to specialists numerous times and they said theres nothing they can do; its just something I'll grow out of. ( My mom and brother both had these serious stomach aches until they were 17 or 18) But I can't take em; I hate to eat because of them, everytime I eat I get a stomach ache. And when I get them I have to stay nearby a bathroom and the stomach ache won't go away for about 3-4 hours. And thats 3-4 hours of horrible pain that I can barely stand!
Does anyone else have this problem; and is there anything yall might know to help me?
Keep a diary of the time and the foods that you eat. Then write down what happens to you afterwards. Rate the severity of your symptoms on a scale of 0-10 (zero is no pain, ten is the worst pain you've ever had).
I know you said you have seen several doctors for this, but this is not normal and you shouldn't have to feel this way.
I suggest going to a different "gastroenterolgist" specialist for the digestive system and take your diary with you!
Otherwise you may want to call a local hospital and ask if you can meet with a dietition--take your dairy with you.
Another alternative would be to ask your Mom if she can take you to see a homeopathic Dr. (who treats with a different kind of medicine)
If I were you I'd try anything and everything because obviously this is affecting your quality of life.
What is anemia? My friend said that when you get it you have it for the rest of your life or something? Is that true? What happens when you get it? Ill rate 5s.
It depends on the type of anemia and what is causing it. Before I can give you correct information I need to know what the entire diagnosis is. I think others answered as if the diagnosis is Iron Deficiency Anemia, but we don't know that yet....
I'm 17 years old and i dropped out of school and i dont have a job and i reallly want one i aplied every where and no one has CALLED ME!! All i do is sit here al day getting yelled at by my mom because i dont have a job!! But im trying!! im so depressed im just here all day and we need money so bad were almost evicted ive gained so much weight since ive been home ive been in the hospital before for trying to kill myself and i have cut marks all over my body im about to jump over the EDGE!! and i have a physicall comming up and if my doctor see's those marks im right back at the psych ward:( how do i cover those marks??
I really need some advice thanx
Don't cover the marks. Just come right out and tell your Dr that you are still depressed. Hiding from the problems will not make them go away.Once you start to feel better focus on the job and your GED. One day at a time!
ok lets just say my dad is an immature f'n retard.. i don't hate him i just really don't like him.. well anyways I got to go to a ball tournment friday-sunday it's like 4 hours away from here and my dad is won't let me go nowhere on sundays or he'll call the cops and tell them that iw on't come.. Then have my mom put in court for not making me come then try to get me.. how could i get him not to call the cops or anything like that..?
You probably can't make your Dad do or not do anything. You'll just have to talk with him and find out his reasons for acting the way he does.
If your Mom gave you permission to go somewhere, what grounds does he have for a court case? Sounds like he is just making threats to scare you.
I am a 30 year old, married woman with 3 kids. My husband is very great to me and other than the usual bickering & disagreements, we don't have any major problems in our relationship. MY problem is...I keep developing crushes on other men! Whenever I start talking to an attractive guy for a period of time, either from work, my husbands friends or my friends' husbands, I start to "feel" something for them! I just don't understand why I am so prone to doing this. Any input would be greatly appriciated.
Some people say that by nature humans weren't really designed to be monogamous. So if this is true it would be perfectly natural to be attracted to others.
You may be craving something that you do not get from your husband now that you have settled into a comfortable routine.
It may be the potential adventure of the unknown, or the fact that these other men give you a type of attention that he does not. (He probably did in the beginning) Keep in mind that most relationships start with that burning "crush" and most move to the stage where you are now with your husband. :-)
A few weeks ago I told my friend Amy that I would go to a concert with her. It's a battle of the bands and the winner gets a spot on warped tour, and I'm friends with several of the bands who are going to be there. Then today I got an Invitation to my other friend's [Rachel] 16th Birthday party.
When I told Amy that I was planning to go to Rachel's 16th birthday party She got really upset. She wasn't invited and is mad that I would rather go to the party then to the concert.
But Here is my reasoning for going to rachels party:
-She is only going to be 16 once! and I can see these bands anytime
-I didn't even buy the tickets for the concert yet
-I always hang out with amy and I really don't get to see Rachel that much
What should I do? Should I go to the party or the concert?
You already made the commitment to your friend Amy, and especially since she wasn't invited to the party it just wouldn't seem right to ditch her. Invite Rachel to spend time with you the night before or the night after the party.
I have diabetes so i dont drink regular sugared soda. I mean i can but i dunno i just dont really even like it. But anyways ever since i got it i have been drinking diet coke. I know its not as good as drinking water but is diet soda bad for you???
Don't believe the nutri-sweet scare, the email that went around several years ago couldn't even be verified. You can find more information on the FDA website. Anyway compare diet soda to regular soda and the for you the diet soda is the lesser of the two evils! You of course probably already know all about eating the right way for your diabetes. "all things in moderation--you'll be fine"
Um, does anyone know how to get rid of a tooth ache? My teeth are perfect, but really sensitive. I have told the dentist, but they are stumped. But yeah I have a major tooth ache!
If you have an on going toothache you may wish to see a different dentist. For sensitive teeth
try ....
http://us.sensodyne.com/
It works great!
I am 40/f and own my own home. Because he's just never got his act together I've had my brother and fiancee living with me since june 2005. They are paying rent, but i really want my space back! I've lived alone for almost 12 years (after being widowed at 29). They are getting married tomorrow.... how can i gracefully ask when they will be moving on? I've kinda put my mom up to saying... so, are you two planning on buying a house or what? but she's been ill and hasn't had the opportunity. Appreciate your advice!
You sure are a nice person for helping your brother, but you have every right to feel the way you do. When you ask them if they are moving on, this may give them an opportunity to say "No" or "Later" and then you will still be in the same boat. If you have been wanting to be alone for quite some time you have probably been dropping hints already, and they aren't picking up on them or they realize they have it easy where they are.
You can be direct, but graceful at the same time. Tell them you respect their marriage enough to understand that they need their privacy. Tell them that you got used to being alone and would really enjoy that once again. Since you are a nice person tell them of course you are not going to kick them out on the street, but that they need to be out in 30 or 60 days...whatever you decide.
15f
I'm 4"10 very petite but I have 34D boobs. They dnt look as big as they sound but they sure feel like it. I hate them! They hurt me sooo much. My back has been hurting a lot lately and I just don't know what to do about them. My mom doesn't want me to get breast reduction because even though its done at my age she says that it hurts and they've gotten smaller. But they havnt any suggestions?
Hi,
No one should have to live with pain that can be treated. Some insurance plans, if not most would pay for a breast reduction if the person has chronic back pain. Perhaps your Mom will agree to at least a consultation with a plastic surgeon so she can get the right information. If she does not agree to the surgery, you'll have to wait until you are at the age of majority and can consent on your own. There are exercises that can strengthen your shoulders and upper back and bras that can help a great deal. Be sure to choose a bra with soft cotton wide straps and good support.
I have tried this site already and no one has helped me!!!
Please iff you know anything I beg of you to help me...pleAseee!
Someone close to me has a stroke and it's hard for us, her family to keep up all the time.
Some times she says how she wants to go to 'home' wen this is her home. I don't want her to get a next stroke with depression or hypertension so I need some tips or help from ne one who knows about these things....help me please....
Hi,
I read your question earlier, and planned to answer. Since some brain damage can occur with a stroke, the person could have some residual dementia. This means that her cognitive or reasoning abilities may have been affected. Most people that have this may remember things from a long time ago, but can't remember some things that happened recently. The harder you try to get her to think clearly, the more confused she will be and it will only cause agitation. They can't always control the impulse to say bad things or show innappropiate emotions. It's not your fault or her fault, it just happens.
The best thing to do is tell her things that she wants to hear, and try to agree with her no matter what. If she is considering doing something dangerous you will have to redirect--like change the subject or keep her busy in another way.
For example:If she says "I am going home" say "I know you want to go home" but today is not the day that you are supposed to go....will you help me fold this basket of laundry? You can also use excuses, like "it's cold out" "Your car is in the shop" "I will tell my mom that you want to go home" etc. By the time you get her busy doing something else she may forget about going home.
If she tries to leave, then you have another problem on your hands. Sometimes putting stop signs on the door, or even loud door alarms can help with this behavior.
As far as long term prevention of another stroke, she probably will need to be on medication to control hypertension, and usually something to prevent blood clots such as aspirin, plavix or coumadin. Her Dr will take care of those needs, but you are correct in thinking it is a concern.
A good resource for dealing with the unusual behaviors is the Alzheimer's association. Look in the phone book or do a search on the internet. I am not saying this person has Alzhiemers, but they help with dementia (forgetfulness) of all types.
Being a caregiver at home is a very difficult. Please remember to get some support for this.
I have this habit of overeating when I am sad. I have been having some friend & boyfriend problems lately and it makes me eat all this food, especially ice cream. Its not like I'm fat or anything, but I just want to know how I can get over this habit. I can't just stop eating when i'm sad.....or else i just can't get over it. What can i do?? Please help! I'll rate high if you give a logical answer...instead of calling me a stupid name or something.
A lot of people eat more when they are depressed. Try subsituting the ice cream for healthy snacks like raw veggies, if you do this than the overeating won't be much of a concern.
Otherwise you could subsitute an activity that keeps your hands busy. Try writing down all the reasons you feel sad--like in a journal or a diary. When you are done writing tear the pages out of the book and put them in a special box. Pretend like you are putting all your problems away at the same time.
would it be safe for a kid to go on the low carb diet?
It would depend on the diet. I think a lot of kids get way too many carbs, so in essence it would not hurt to cut some of those out. Many foods that contain carbohydrates are empty calories anyway. Cutting out things such as sugared cereal, potato chips, cookies, candy, soft drinks and deep fried breaded foods would not hurt any of us.
Instead only eat the good carbs which would be whole grain breads, fiber rich (unsweetened cereal) enriched pasta, juice, fruits, some potatoes such as baked.
By the way dieting is not a sign of laziness. Follow the recommendations on the food pyramid and you'll be fine.
I wasnt sure were this belonged but anywho:
I want to know what are some things that cause premature birth and what disroders or health problems can they develop if they survived.
The reason I'm asking is because I was born premature && I've developed Anorexia.I didnt' know it until I just noticed.And I want to know if being premature has anything to do with me developing Anorexia.
And well I've just recently found out that my mother use to be Bulimic. Could it also be that its genetic., Or because of my premature birth. or both?
My question are :
What kinds of health problems can premature people who survive develope as they grow old?
Is it possible that because of my premature birth, Ive developed ANorexia or is it because My mother had Bulimia when she was my age (13)?
and anything else.
Please Help!!! I'm getting a bit worried & I really want to know. Ill rate 5's & recommend you.
Hello,
As far as long term problems from being born premature it would depend. Most problems would have been detected by now. The common problems would be vision, hearing, lower IQ compared to peers and Cerebral Palsy. I have read that premie babies sometimes have more social difficulty as teens due to somewhat of a delayed development, but by the time they are adults they overcome those problems.
Anorexia can be caused by medical reasons because basically it just means "loss of appetite". Typically though it is a psychological illness which I think in that case it could be tied to social difficulites that was caused by prematurity. Of course this doesn't mean in all cases that is true. A psychologist would have to determine if those things are tied together for you.
Eating disorders are not genetic in a medical sense, but it could be what I call "environmental". Meaning if you would have been raised in a different environment you may not have developed anorexia.
You sound like a very smart 13 year old. Could be that you are an over acheiver and a perfectionist?
I do want to give you encouragement and hope that with the right help you can overcome your illness.
Never give up!
Here's some information for you.
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/medicalnews.php?newsid=6865
http://www.drgreene.com/21_905.html
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anorexia_signs_symptoms_causes_treatment.htm
I need help. My fish, Snowflake looks hurt and stuff. I think another fish might've damaged him, but that doesn't matter, becuase I think he is dieing. He sits at the top of the fish bowl, not dead, but almost as if he was. He has small darkish red stains at the top of his scales, as if he was bleeding, and a very small part of his top fin looks somewhat like it was bitten or something. I went to Neopets for help, and a nice girl was nice enough to help me. She said that he might have a type of illness called "Ick", but I want to know if it is true. She said that there is also a medicine for it, but I just want to make sure that it is "Ick", so that I won't waste my money on something worthless. Please help me.
Is the fish still alive today? Just wondering. As another reader said ick is tiny white spots usually noted first on the fins. When a fish is sick it's fins sometimes look dull--and as you described, but thats not ick.
If you don't have a separate tank buy a breeder tank and place the sick fish inside of that (inside the main tank).
Check online or at the pet store to see if the breeds you have or the amount of fish you have are compatible. (some should be in schools of 3-5).
If the fish has expired take some water from the tank to the pet store and have them check ph and ammonia levels so you can correct this before the other fish get sick or before adding new fish.
My dogs tend to attack one of our dogs named angeline. We arent sure why or how to stop it. I think it might be because she has had seisures in the past and she is really sick. Maybe the can sense if somethings wrong with her? Im not sure
what can we do to stop it
and why are they doing it?
Your dog(s) are trying to be the pack leader. Angeline is obviously not a pack leader. It's not because something is wrong with her, it's just the nature of dogs. If humans in the household are not assuming the leadership roll a dog will.
I can almost guarentee if you have more than one dog attaching angeline--only one of them is the main instigator. Most dogs want to be followers, but as a matter of survival in the wild one in the pack will assume the leadership roll. They show this leadership by dominance (or bossiness).
You and your family need to take over that roll which will send the other dogs the message it's not okay to attack. Until you are sure poor angeline is safe, make sure you supervise all interactions between them. Put angeline in a kennel--where the attacking dog cannot get to her. When that dog comes near her..if his tail is straight up and his ears are back..immediatly correct him. Move him back and make him lay down and stay until he is calm. Once all the dogs are relaxed, let him approach her again. If he starts to stand tall, tail up, ears pricked up and alert...point and tell him to get back. If he does not, repeat the first process until he gets it right. Be firm but yet emotionally relaxed, stand tall with your head up and shoulders back. Let your dog know you are in charge! If you cannot do this alone please contact a dog behavior expert.
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ok my dog eats absoloutley anything he can get his paws on-napkins, rocks, rubberbands, twist ties, you name it he'll eat it. Is this abnormal for dogs? is there a way we can train him not to do this? Does he even know what hes eating could be harmful to him? thanks ♥
No, your dog does not know the dangers of what he is ingesting. Not all dogs do this, although I would not call this abnormal behavior. However, until this is resolved your dog should not be left unsupervised. Use a kennel or a room with baby gates to confine your dog to a small area without these dangers. When you see your dog pick up something immediatly say "drop it" and of course he probably won't, so remove it from his mouth at the time you give the command. Immediatly reward him with petting and a lot of praise when you do retrieve the object.
Eventually he will learn the "drop it" command if you are consistant.
Some experts in canine behavior think this problem stems from frustration..he is probably a high energy dog without enough exercise. Exercise your dog by taking him for a 45 minute walk daily.
I know it seems logical to give him free access to safe toys and treats to chew on, but it's not the best thing to do. Give him the appropiate things when you decide he can have them, not when ever he wants. You don't want to give him the idea that he should be able to automatically take anything that is availabe into his mouth.
Best of luck..and if it makes you feel any better I am going through the same thing with a dog I am training. He has finally learned the drop it command, and with the exercise he is getting much better.