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Soooooo stressed
I'm 17 years old and i dropped out of school and i dont have a job and i reallly want one i aplied every where and no one has CALLED ME!! All i do is sit here al day getting yelled at by my mom because i dont have a job!! But im trying!! im so depressed im just here all day and we need money so bad were almost evicted ive gained so much weight since ive been home ive been in the hospital before for trying to kill myself and i have cut marks all over my body im about to jump over the EDGE!! and i have a physicall comming up and if my doctor see's those marks im right back at the psych ward:( how do i cover those marks??
I really need some advice thanx
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Dear Soooo Stressed,
Right now, the last thing you need to focus on is finding a job. Due to the fact that you are gaining weight and cutting yourself says that you are in need of help.
Yes, I understand that your mom's financial situation is not good either, but turth be told this is not your responsibility! It sounds like your mother may also needs help with things going on in her life too.
At any rate, when you see your doctor don't hide your cut marks. Instead, tell him/her how stressed you are. Let's face it, if you don't find out why you are hurting yourself, you won't be able to move forward in your life. Holding down a job, going to school, and having a social life are all things that will only add more stress if you don't start being honest with yourself about what is happening to you right now.
The answers are inside of you, but you'll have to be open to getting help to better understand this. You mentioned a "psych ward," and as much as you might hate that environment, ask yourself if you really took to heart what they were teaching you, would your life be better? How will you know unless you try another way?
Help is out there, but nothing will ever be any different unless you are willing to do your part. Can you change the way you look at your life, and take responsibility for your part? Sometimes to do this we all need a little help, and this doesn't mean that you are sick, or a bad person, or crazy. It means you are human.
You've come into this life for a reason. It is no mistake that you are here. Reach out and ask for help. If you make the decision to go for broke and seek help, life will provide you with the necessary people to guide you to a new way of being.
Find your truth, it's deep inside. Your life is NOT a mistake. We are blessed to have you with us. Go forward, and do your part dear one.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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Don't cover the marks. Just come right out and tell your Dr that you are still depressed. Hiding from the problems will not make them go away.Once you start to feel better focus on the job and your GED. One day at a time!
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you shouldnt have dropped out of school. it would have made it alot easier for you to get a job. and depending on how dark the scars are.
you can cover them with foundation like you do hickeys. if they are scars.
if not wear a long sleeve shirt. and pants.
THIS WAS NOT A DAMN LECTURE.
ARE YOU SHiTTiN ME! I SAID ONE THiNG ABOUT DROPPiNG OUT OF SCHOOL! YOU STUPiD PEiCE OF SHiT AND THEN i GAVE YOU SOMETHiNG THAT REALLY WORKS! STOP BEiNG SO DAMNED DEPRESSED ABOUT THE WRONG DECiSiONS THAT YOUYOUYOU MADE iN LiFE AND STOP TAKiNG THE SHIT OUT ON PEOPLE THAT ARE TRYiNG FUCKiN' HELP. LEARN TO BE FUCKiN' RESPONSiBLE AND TAKE RESPONSiBiLiTY FOR THE DUMBASS DECISiONS THAT YOU'VE MADE AND ARE STiLL MAKiNG. damn go up. NOBODY iS GONNA HiRE SOMEONE WITH AN ATTiTUDE LiKE THAT. SO NOW U KNOW WHY YOU HAVENT HEARD ANYTHiNG BACK. BEAUSE THEY DONT WANT SOME DUMBASS LIKE YOU WORKING FOR THEM.
get the piture now bitch.
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Well, don't take this in a mean way, but you shouldn't have dropped out. That's like saying "I quit..& I'm a quitter." Or that you just flat out give up. And I'm guessing you live in the US. If so, you should know how hard it is to get a job without a high school diploma. No one will hire if you don't have it. There are barely any jobs who do, and if you find one, you're insanely lucky. As for gaining weight. Eat healthier, and exercise. Go out running, or go to a indoor pool & swim. Hell, if you can, join the YMCA! Also, for your marks, use cocoa butter. It fades them & makes them less noticable. But please, get back in school, or you'll never get a real job.
&TiNA;
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Ok, first of all, you have to figure out which problem is the most important and attack that one first. You can't do everything at once-- it takes time. Just take a day to go out and apply to tons of random jobs that you could work at. To get a good job, you have to present yourself well. If you don't like yourself, what makes you think the companies hiring you will. You have to walk in with confidence. This will get you out of the house and away from your mom who is yelling. Keep going out and looking for jobs until you get one. Once you get one, everything will start coming together. You will then be able to attack the other problems: with a job, you are doing stuff all the time so you will lose the weight. You won't be sitting around like a fat fuck and eating all day. A job can solve most everything. About the cuts-- I, too used to cut and still am prone to it (yeah, i know you prolly are like, why the hell would SHE be depressed, but yeah...it happens, youre not alone)...What I did was just stopped cutting and put Mederma cream (you can get it at any drug store) on the scars. They went away and faded. Now they look really old and some have compltely gone away. You need to just calm down and take things slowly. Things won't be perfect right away, trust me, I've been there, but they will get better as time goes by.
Hope to have helped and God bless! ♥
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calm down first, lose the weght then, apply for 6 jobs at once one will answer[no comment on those marks]
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Right it's hard to hide those marks especially from a doctor. A wise man once said "the scars reminds us that the past is real"
If you cut yourself before... do you still do? If you do you might need to get some help to let you realize whats going on isn't your fault.
A lot of jobs won't hire anyone if they don't have a high school diploma anymore -- including McDonalds.
You might need to go back to school to be able to get a full or even part time job. Until then you could always babysit and do jobs for other people to make money.
Just remember that the key to life is falling on your ass and being to get back up like nothing happened.
Hope I helped
Rae <3
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Right im 17 too so i may be able to help you, First things first and that means to do exercise run around the block to relise stress, listen to music that makes you feel happy,You need to start getting out there and going places eg to get your job i know its very hard i tryed once and i had no success either go to hairdressers and maybe start by asking if they want anyone to wash hair i know it sounds rubbish but it could earn some money. Just do not get stressed about it i know this is easy to say but theres no need to turn to harming yourself it never helps it always makes things worse. I know you will eventually get a job this sounds so snobby but make sure you talk as posh as possible when applying for jobs this world has snobs who turn people down for the way they talk so its very important to come accros as well spocken I bet you that will help try it and see.Theres not much else i can say but i really hope i helped you.x x x
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I suggest finishing school.
After that, try kickboxing. It's exercise and it helps relieve stress.
Then, I suggest seeing a counselor and possibly taking antidepressants.
Don't cover up the marks. It won't help anybody.
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