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the way he makes me feel
okay here it goes.. when i was 11, i meet this boy... lets call him bob, and he was sorta a jackass to me, so then we went on for about 5 years not talking to eachother. but we did see each other around the town, we didnt even say hi to eachother, so then i move from the town i was living in with my dad, and attend another skool, on my second day of my new skool i see him again, and then me and him started talking and i figured out that he really changed in those 5 years,but i found out he has a girlfrand, so i flirt with him and write him letters explaining how much i like him, then i invited him over to my house, and he makes out with me, and he cheated on his gf twice be4 breaking up with her.. he exclaimes hes sorry for how hes treated me and that he fell in love with me.. so 5 months later hwere dating and he asks to marry me... my problem is i love him but i dont kno if im ready for the commitment yet..
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Are you sure that it's the commitment you're not ready for or is it that you're not sure you want to commit to him?
I say this because the fact you have raised up him cheating on his last girlfriend implies you may not trust him enough not to do the same thing to you. If you don't feel you can trust him and that is really the issue here, then you may be better off not marrying him. But it depends on whether or not you wish to allow him the benefit of the doubt.
Whatever your reasons for not being sure if you want to commit right now, marriage is one of the biggest commitments you can make. If you're not sure you're ready to do it but you do love this man, there's no shame in telling him that you love him and you don't want things to end but you're just not ready for marriage yet.
If he truly loves you then he will understand this. You're not turning him down, you're just delaying things and if you explain it like this, he should be reasonable about it.
On the other hand, you have to remember that being in love with someone doesn't always mean they are right for us. We can fall in love with bad boys who treat us like dirt but we know they are bad and won't treat us right in the long run. What I am saying is you need to look at this from a different perspective. Do you really want to be with this man for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, perhaps you are better off splitting and finding the man you are truly mean to be with and in so doing, allowing him to find the woman he is meant to be with also.
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You're 16. Marriage? No.
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well tell him that.be like you know i love you right and i would do nothing in the world to hurt you.but i cant marry you.im sorry i dont want to hurt you but i dont think i am ready for the commitment yet.i still love you and i want to be wiht you but i think it is to soon to be making that kind of promiss to eachother.be like ive only really known you for really 5 months give it some time.i love you.
and say that in the nicest wayafter tell him you love him with all your heart.
hope i helped
katie
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If you're not ready, or if you don't know if you're ready, then I say you should say no. Tell him that you love him, and that you want to continue dating, but is he ready to provide for you? My boyfriend recently gave me a promise ring. He told me that he wanted to marry me, but that it just wasn't the right time. I had school, he had school, we both had to graduate, focus on how the hell we're going to pay for college, not a wedding. If there's a feeling that he's "the one" you'll know. I've only been with my boyfriend for 2 months, and it's just a right feeling. You'll know it when you get it.
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ok right well marriage is for life not a day i think you are way to younge i don't know how old you are but from you talking about school you must be around about the age of secondary school education which in my opinion is way to younge. I know you love him in which case tell him so tell him you love him but you feel you are too younge and can you continue dating and being close and who knows if you stay together you may get married when you are at that correct age and that age is when you have the correct job that you want and everything is how you want it he also needs to think about his future.If he cheated on his gf whats to say he won't cheat on you he probably won't but think of that and make it clear to him you don't want any cheating.Remember when you are married you are commited to that one guy and it is very very difficult to get out off. I hope i helped. lv sweetcorn x
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Well here's something to think about how old are you? You have A LOT of life a head of you and you might not be ready for a commitment like that just yet ... i graduated with 2 friends of mine who ended up getting engaged and a month into their freshman year of college they called it off they couldn't stand being around each other 24/7. I'm not saying thats how it is in you case im just telling you from past experiences. My final answer is tell him that you do love him but you want to hold off for now and see how it goes!
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Tell him that, tell him that you love him. But your not sure that you want to make that much of a commitment. But don't tell him it's out of the question. Just say not right now, an explain yourself a little.
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