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Hihi. My first name is Sofia. But no one calls me that. It's either Natasha, Chantal, Chantilly, Chantilly Lace, Sophie, Alex, or Lexi. Sometimes Sexi Lexi, but whatever. I love music, writing, acting, and photography. ♥ I have alot of experience with things; sex, anorexia, guys, bisexualism/lesbianism, ect. Mostly things that have happened this past year. Alot of my friends have started coming to me for advice, and so I think I might have a good shot at giving advice to some other people besides them.

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okay here it goes.. when i was 11, i meet this boy... lets call him bob, and he was sorta a jackass to me, so then we went on for about 5 years not talking to eachother. but we did see each other around the town, we didnt even say hi to eachother, so then i move from the town i was living in with my dad, and attend another skool, on my second day of my new skool i see him again, and then me and him started talking and i figured out that he really changed in those 5 years,but i found out he has a girlfrand, so i flirt with him and write him letters explaining how much i like him, then i invited him over to my house, and he makes out with me, and he cheated on his gf twice be4 breaking up with her.. he exclaimes hes sorry for how hes treated me and that he fell in love with me.. so 5 months later hwere dating and he asks to marry me... my problem is i love him but i dont kno if im ready for the commitment yet..

If you're not ready, or if you don't know if you're ready, then I say you should say no. Tell him that you love him, and that you want to continue dating, but is he ready to provide for you? My boyfriend recently gave me a promise ring. He told me that he wanted to marry me, but that it just wasn't the right time. I had school, he had school, we both had to graduate, focus on how the hell we're going to pay for college, not a wedding. If there's a feeling that he's "the one" you'll know. I've only been with my boyfriend for 2 months, and it's just a right feeling. You'll know it when you get it.

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how do you know if ur bi my friend thinks she might be

14/f (shes already gone through puberty)

Well, a few months ago I found myself thinking about the exact same thing. I'm still not exactly sure, as some people said before me, it's not something you can just decide over night.

I've already gone through puberty myself, and I started feeling a slight attraction to the same sex, and the opposite sex at the same time.

Just remember, her having feelings for one person of the same sex doesn't truly make her a bisexual. What you don't want to do is put pressure on her, or make her feel excluded. I know the feeling, and it's not a nice one. You'll want to be supportive, if you can, so that she'll feel comfortable with telling you after she's made the decision herself.

I'm not exactly sure how this helps, but it might be useful either way.
//chantal

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i want to lose wieght ..mostly in the stomach and thigh region. so what kinds of foods should i definetly stay away from? and foods i should try to eat more? but i want foods that will help me lose some weight


You shouldn't cut off all sugar entirely. Especially if you go to school and read on a daily basis. By doing that you burn off all the sugar in your brain, and in order to stay all up-and-at-it ect. you need to eat some sugar from time to time.

I suggest fruits and vegetables, and exercising. It's definitely a must. Just try not to tire yourself out; you need some of that energy you'll be burning off.

Ahem. I have carefully done some research on this. -stacks papers in a nice pile- :]

I'd say you definitely need to stay away from pastas, rich sauces; starches, like potatoes. Those are things that will weigh you down and undoubtedly cause the scale to add a few pounds. A really good thing is salad with fish [ignoring the fact that i hate fish] if you like it, then salad with fish is wonderful.

If you don't want to eat as much, then drinking water throughout the day will keep you hydrated and your stomach full. And if you start to get tied of just plain old water, Crystal Light recently put on this cool-new-product for a calorie-free drink mix. (It's called Crystal Light On The Go, incase you were wondering.) It's very cheap. You can buy it at gas stations and stuff. You just open the little package, pour it into your water bottle, and then shake it up. (just be sure to put the cap back on. heh.)

Oh, and if you want to start running, I suggest you use an mp3 player while you're doing it, and put on some loud up-and-at-it dancey music. It'll take away the pain of running.

Just remember, it's nice to do stretches before exercising. You don't want to pull a muscle or anything. Then do some simple stuff, like jump roping, jumping jacks, running, knee-hoping. There's stair climbs, swimming, kick-boxing, and yoga.

Now, to get some fat off your thigh region, I quote,

"Starting Position: Standing up with feet together and arms at sides.

Lunge one leg forward making sure that the back knee almost touches the ground but never actually does. Now lunge back leg in front of the other and repeat this "walking" motion across the room. Don't pull ant muscles by moving too quickly; the slower the better and the more you will feel the exercise working. Use a long hallway for this or go back and forth a few times in a room. Do 25 lunges per leg.


*Hold hand weights if you are up for it."

And for your abbs and your stomach, and just want to keep it simple, do about 25-100 situps every other day -- Just don't forget to give your muscles a rest every once in a while. Otherwise all of this work will be for no good. Also, if you're exercising, don't follow what the scale says. Really. Just don't. Muscle weighs more than fat, but if you're comfortable with the way you look in the mirror, that's all that really counts, now is it?

I apologize for the long-ness, but I do take a lot of time to think out my advice. Hope this helps.
//Chantal

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