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when giving someone a hickey, do you actually bite their neck with your teeth? WHAT DO YOU DO!

You suck enough to leave a mark. Do it on your arm or something to get an idea.
Don't bite.. it hurts. It's okay to graze your teeth over the skin as long as you're not causing pain.. Unless they're into that. Ha!

i really wanna give this guy a bj and even have sex with him but i just cant get myself around to do it. like the fact just scares me n hes asked me to do it a few times n he sed he'd eat me out too which i wanna do. i want to but im too scared to. how do i cure my scaredness?

You can't "cure" it, because you're simply not ready. Stop fooling yourself, because by your question, it's obvious you are.

How likely is it to lose a money order in the mail? I bought something off Etsy.com and the person said she didn't receive it after two weeks. So I sent out another one last week, couple days after she said she has yet to get that one. I checked the address several times and she also sent to me in email so I know I didn't send it off somewhere else. So I don't know what to do. I don't have a credit card, paypal, that sort of thing so can't pay that way. I don't really want to send out another one but it seems rude to just cancel the transaction now. She loses money for the listing, right?

Once, maybe.
but twice? I highly doubt it.
Don't be a fool and send any more and just cancel the transaction - let's just say it truly did get lost - it's not your fault anyway.

Alright well Im 15 and I drink and smoke. Well I have had sex with 12 people already. A few of them I really liked and most of them I was drunk. And I know thats not an excuse. But Ive been fucked over so many times by guys. Like I dont have any emotions anymore. But I can like name all of tthe people I did have sex with. But I still feel like im a slut and I dont want to be a slut or feel like one. Most of the time when im in a relationship I feel like I have to have sex with them. Or they keep bugging/begging me and I cave in sometimes. So Idk what to do.

In short:
If you don't want to be a slut then stop acting like one.
Anyone who pressures you for sex should basically be told to piss off.

Im a freshman in college and my boyfriend is a junior in high school. should we be together??

I don't understand why not....?
Age? Who cares?
If you like each other, then remain in your relationship - you can work it out if you try.

Well, this may be a bit embarrassing, but here goes. I'm 17/f Lately I have had this weird feeling when I pee. It is similar to burning, but it's a bit sharper. It comes on right after I'm finished peeing and it feels like it goes all the way from my urethra up to behind my clitoris. Since this started, I have been feeling like I really need to pee more often than is normal, but when I go to the bathroom, not very much urine actually comes out.

I'm a virgin, so I know it's not an STD. I have been taking birth control pills though (for hormonal issues, not birth control.) for about the past month.

I know that you guys aren't doctors, but I was wondering if anyone has ever experienced this or has an idea of why it's happening and how I can treat it. Thank you so much.

The symptoms you've described sounds like the beginning of a UTI.
If you don't know what a UTI is, use the search below:

If it is one, it's wise to go to the doctor, incase it spreads (to your kidneys for example) which will make you quite ill.
If it is a UTI, you'll be given antibiotics. Simple and easy to treat. :)

okay so i started texting my ex patrick again. and well we talk about sex allt he time thats y we broke up bc i wouldnt but now im ready to. oh im 14/f and hes 15/m okay well he gets me like all hyped up. and excited when we talk last night we were talking about what we would do if we were laying in bed together. he satrted and then i went and we had this big sex secne like thing. it was really hott. and he said the things that he rembered about me like how i like when guys play with my hair and kissing my neck. well i think i had my 1st big O! and he said i was getting him hard. and welll should i ask him if we should date again? we dated for 3 months and broke up then got back together and stayed together for 2. if that helps any. is he just useing me or is he for real?

Re-read your question and give an example why he's NOT using you.. because I am struggling to find one.

when people say how far have you gone, whats it mean as in what all is there? kissing.. sex.. what else??

You can refer to the "bases" for guidance.
1st - kissing
2nd - hand jobs
3rd - oral
Homerun - Sex
Or if you've done something which isn't an actual base, like groping for example, then that would be your answer... IF you want to tell anyone how far you've gone anyway. What business is it of theirs? :P

Okay I wasnt really sure what category to put this question in, but whatever. I want to get my ear pierced like at the top of my ear, where raven symone has hers, but Im afraid it's going to hurt, but what I want to know is: Will it hurt, and for how long

Everyone has a different pain tolerance..
Getting my ear pierced around there was about a 2.
It was quick and simple and hasn't caused me pain since.
However!... on my other ear (right), it hurt more and didn't seem to settle down after 2 months - so I removed it.

so about 2 weeks ago my bf finger banged me for like the first time and im kinda nervous that he had cum on his hand or something and i got my period on the right day this month but its inside of me and it just wont come out i need help pleasee

If you want help with this question, you're going to have to explain it better.
You have your period but it won't come out.. that's impossible....?

hey does anyone know a website where i can find episodes of old nickelodeon shows? i tried youtube, and they were all spoofs. do they ever come on TV anymore? im talking about shows like
hey arnold,doug funny,cousin skeeter etc..
and also, i remember a long time ago seeing a show called tiana or something, does anyone remember it?? please let me know, i miss those shows! thanks(:

The show was called Taina. It's not as old as the others (read about it here):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taina_(TV_series)
I don't know where you are in the world, but I know where I am (England), these shows can sometimes be seen later on in the day.
If not though, if you type in "watch __________" into Google, if usually brings up a bunch of sites with decent enough links for you to watch the actual programs.
In the mean time, have a nose at alluc.org
I did a Hey Arnold search already as an example:
http://www15.alluc.org/alluc/no_cache/results.html?tx_ansearchit_resOverview[section]=3.&tx_ansearchit_resOverview[sWord]=hey%20arnold
They have lots more if you use the search option.

Good luck :)

What is a good program for converting m4a and wma to mp3?

I needed help with this a while back and Theymos gave me a great website.
www.zamzar.com

i don't know if this is in the right subject. hahaha.
but i saw a question on here about seances.
and i searched it on google to read experiences with it.
i eventually got to reading about ouija board experiences.
if you've ever had an experience or have a friend whos had an experience with one i'd LOVE to hear about it.
i think they are very cool!

I used to be really into this stuff when I was younger.
I did them alot with my friend until my Art teacher at the time gave me a right grilling for it! He was deadly serious when he told me his friends did one and bad things happened to all of them - and they eventually died.
Needless to say, I never did it again!
We only had one experience of it moving though. and the freaky thing was, the light came ON at the same time.
Still don't know whether to shrug it off and believe there's another explanation... ;)

I died my hair (this is not the first time) and after about 2 or 3 weeks my friends say its already fading. My hair was light brown and i died it dark brown. I normally use Loreal or Revlon hair dyes and i use Dove Intense Damage Therapy shampoo and conditioner. can anyone help me figure out why my hair dye is fading and how i can resolve it? I could go to the salon but that takes too much time and costs too much and i dont have the time or the money. thanks!

I know what you mean. I used to dye mine every 2/3 months til I just gave up.
All hair dye fades. Even permanent. Annoying, yes, but it's just how it goes.
Use a shampoo for colour treated hair. It's all you really can do apart from not washing it as much - and I doubt you want to do that.

Just wondering what some peoples goals are. some things you would like to do before you die.Your dreams.

Mine was to meet my hero, Bryce Avary.
I completed it a few months ago. :)

Okay, my boyfriend has quit smoking for 2 months now. He keeps saying that if he only has one, he wont be addicted again, but I think that if he has one, he's going to be right back where he was.

If he has a cigarette, will he be addicted? Please help!

If he quit (key word being "QUIT"!!!!), he certainly does NOT need one.
That "one" will lead to a second. and a third. and so on.

ok i fingered my girl friend..... problem is i might have had semon or pre cum on my fingers.... is there a chance she could be pregnant because she is a week and a half late starting her period.

If semen came into contact with her vagina, then yes, she COULD be pregnant.
There's ALWAYS a chance of becoming pregnant - even if you have sex WITH protection. Scary huh? So if you're not ready to deal with kids, why don't you refrain from this stuff until you know enough about it/are mature enough to do it safely :)
Also, her period might be late for another reason, such as stress, change in diet, etc.
Have her take a pregnancy test.

When a couple goes to the movies, how would be best to sit if u wanted to finger or to feel up or makeout?

Why do some couples insist on doing sexual stuff at the cinema?
I'm sorry, but it's totally disrespectful to everyone there.
Save it for other places and just enjoy the film.

P.S..
Sitting at the back like the other person suggested is quite obvious, dontcha think?
If you still want to do it (and probably get caught), sit away from people and hide yourselves with coats on your laps. Use your brain, it's not hard to think up ways.

ok so i want a myspace really bad cause like very one i know has one and there always talking bout itand it makes me fell left out. i had one but my mom found out bout it( i didnt know i wasnt allowed to have one) and made me erase it and i really want to ask her if i can make one but i dont know what i should say and how to bring it up( i am 13).

You can try to negotiate with her, but she still has a perfectly good reason to say no. The internet is just not safe.
Anyway, here's a few good points you can make:

**Your profile will be PRIVATE. Therefore, only YOUR approved friends can see it.

**Tell her you won't approve any friends you don't know.

**If you have a mobile phone, say you can message on MySpace instead of running up a huge bill!

**You won't use it to message/comment people you don't know.

**You like it because you can listen to your favourite artists (?) and saves a bit of hassle from downloading the songs and paying money.

**You will under no circumstances put any pictures up she does not approve of.

I hope this helps.
and if it doesn't, I wouldn't sweat it, MySpace gets boring SO quickly!

Whenever I have sex over a long period of time, say two hours, there always comes a point when the guy spreads my legs apart, and I make a horrible, loud farting noise. But I'm not actually farting... it's coming from my vagina. Like there's trapped air or something... I would really appreciate it if somebody could tell me why this happens, and if there is anything that I could do to prevent it. It gets a bit embarrasing after a while to say the least...

Thank you in advance

A xxx

When a penis is repeatedly being pushed in and out, air obviously gets trapped in the vagina.
So yes, you're right.
It can happen to anyone and you should just ignore it.
Different positions make it happen more, so try other ways.

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