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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.
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Laura!
--Jack
advice
basically a few months back,
I had 2 auditions to get into 2 different performing schools
I remember on the opening day, there was this really goregous guy ( I am not usually like this)
and he wore a hoodie which said dance on the back of it, :) So I was happy, because Iove to dance too....
That was about december.
Then in February...When I Had My Audition, He Turned Up - He had his on the same day!! :)
I am a very confident person, so during our audtion there were about 30 people with us. I spoke to everybody, so did he. Apart from eachother. I never usually judge a guy by his image, but he was soo nicee :) Maybe I was excited at the fact he was attractive and shared the same interests as me.
During the auditions...we kept making eye contact and smiling..haha sounds pathetic
And when everybody was given a chance to interact with eachother...we did we everybody.
Then I went over to stand next to him because I wanted to see if he spoke to me.
Both of us looked at eachother, leaned against the wall in silence. Didn't say anything.
At the end, I went up to tell him I thought he was an amazing ballet dancer..but I couldnt find him...I never usually like someine, especially when I dont even know him...But I dont know..I liked him...I kind of forgot about him
Then In March, at my second audtion, I walked through the hall way...and he was there. OMG.
I was like wooowww :) Destiny or what? I mean same time, and everything - different town!
When he saw me, he came over and waved at me, smiling meekly. I thought he didnt even really notice me that much. We made small talk..you know..and it was really good. There were a few people along with us..I asked for everyones number, excpet his. Because he was called to do his dance piece so I was gutted - even his parents and mine were getting on.
He was just such a lovley person. He said out of the 2 schools (A AND B) he's go to A. Same as me. But unforutnatly I didnt get in..so I am going to B. I said to him, I knew I wouldnt get into A so I KNOW I was going B.....
Well a friend of mine got into A...I love her to bits - but she isnt that amazing(sounds kind of unfair..I'm just weighing up the facts)..but he was - so my guess is he got into A...
So I'm in B..but I am sure he is in A.
It's june now...and I still think about him- because I know there is a small chance that he will be there in september...
Also my friend that got into A said you are allowed to bring someone on campus every week - so even if he doesnt go to my school, I can come over with her...and he could be there...
I'm really attracted to him,
and I dont know what to do. Its pathetic of me really to be sort of like this..but I just dont knw?
Is it ok to think about someone I only knew for 2 days?
If he doesnt go to my school, he'll be at the one my friend is at - i know..I could see him if I visited one day. If you want something..you need to go out and get it - and I could get it.
There is a chance, but I look at myself and I think its a little obessive isnt it?
Maybe I am overwhelmed we have so many interests.
What should I do, what are your views?
I am never usually like this...never.
What happens if he didn't make either school? What do you do then?
I'm teasing, though it is a possibility.
If you think it's worth it, why not go for it?
You only live once! =]
--Jack
(17/m)
13/m
so as i said in the title what are some creative and fun things to do on dates with my girlfriend, and sometimes a few other people that come with us?
btw i only get about 15 dollars a week(aus)
also what are the like... dos and donts of dating? like what i should and shouldn't do
thanks
Go to the park. Go bowling. See a movie. Have a bonfire. Make s'mores.
There's lots of stuff you can do.
Dos:
1. Look her straight in the eye.
2. Smile.
3. Compliment her.
4. Talk and communicate with her often.
5. Make things for her.
Don'ts:
1. Yell/argue.
2. Buy her expensive things when you can easily make something by hand.
3. Lie.
--Jack
(17/m)
well im still in love with my ex and i think he is too,but the problem is my boyfriend is in love me and i just just don't really feel for him. im 13
If you don't like your boyfriend right now, it isn't fair to him that you're still in the relationship.
So, whether you are going to date your ex or not, you need to get out of your current relationship, because he doesn't deserve to be in the relationship any longer.
If you're going to date your ex, that's fine, but just realize that you're going to get crap about it, and probably from your current boyfriend.
So, wait a few weeks or a few months if you want to date your ex.
--Jack
(17/m)
http://littlebutterfy09.weebly.com/
I know I posted it before and I upgraded my webpage.. let me know what you think and ideas :) thanks
I like your additions =].
I like the music idea, and maybe you could post youtube videos with your favorite songs? =]
--Jack
(17/m)
what can I do to lose weight and how many calories do I need to eat a day?
To lose weight, you have to consume less calories than your calories needed per day.
http://www.shapefit.com/dailycalorie-calc.html
That helps you figure out how many calories your body requires per day.
So, if you eat less than that [not too much- please don't starve yourself], you may start to lose weight.
But losing weight is not only through dieting, but also exercise.
So, figure out a light exercise program. Maybe do a few push-ups a day. Walk a mile everyday. Do something, just get active.
--Jack
(17/m)
17/f
ok, so had sex with my boyfriend and after that i went to the toilet, to urinate.. and while i was and after, i think, i was like discharging a lot, it kinda get coming, lol. it was clear-ish white-ish (don't really remember), think mainly clear, and it was kinda sticky and a little thick. what is it? later on, after a couple more rounds of sex, we realised one of the condoms broke, don't worry.. i took the plan b thing, and my period came like two days later, even though we had sex a day after my period finished, hope you get what i mean.
but anyway, my question mainly is, what was that discharge after the sex? could air have gotten into my vagina during the sex that made that happen or what? im so confused. and thanks a bunch!!
I agree with Andrea below- that's probably what it is, because it was clear and white.
--Jack
(17/m)
I think my mom is cheating on my dad
I recently went down stairs to put my friends bathing suit outside
My mom was on the phone, talking quitely, giggling
I went downstairs again cause I saw my Dad come home with food (doritos, soup, ect)
So I'm wondering whats going on, so I test my mom
As I pass her, I say 'Dads home' in a nonemotional, dull voice
The moment I said so, she says to the phone "Oh. I gotta go. Kay -giggle- bye"
She hangs up and goes to lay on the couch, pretending nothing happened
My dad walks in, shes dull and slightly bitching towards him
Somethings going on. I noticed yesterday
How can I ask my mom if she's cheating on my dad?
This was long; oh well.
How can you ask your mom if she's cheating on your dad?
Well.. ask your mom is she's cheating on your dad.
Don't just go up to her and ask her flat out- ease into it.
Maybe here's a hypothetical conversation you could have:
You: "Hey Mom, can we talk about something?"
Mom: "Sure, honey, what's up?"
Y: "I've noticed something and it's kind of freaking me out."
M: "What do you mean?"
Y: "Well, it's about you and Dad."
M: "Ok...?"
Y: "A few days ago, you were on the phone, and you were acting really quiet and really flirty."
M: "Yeah..?"
Y: "And, then I told you Dad was home, and you quickly hung up the phone and acted like it never happened..?"
M: "And...?"
Y: "Well I was wondering what it was about.."
M: "Why?"
Y: "Because it was kind of.. shady and mysterious."
M: "What's your point?"
Y: "The truth is, I think you're... cheating on Dad. And before you interrupt me, let me speak. Here's my reasons why I think this: [insert reasons]. So.. are you?"
I hope maybe that helps a little. Planning out a conversation, as geeky as it sounds, can actually help you out when you go to talk to your mom.
Good luck.
--Jack
(17/m)
I have to create a slideshow for a student convention. What would be some good songs to use throughout the slideshow of pictures of students from all over the country?
I looked at my friend Laura's answer to "what are some good love songs?" and I thought a lot of these are more than just love songs, but uplifting songs.
1,2,3,4: Plain White T's.
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
*Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
*Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Gravity: Sara Bareilles.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hey Jealousy: Hit the Lights.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Wanna: All-American Rejects.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
*Love Story: Taylor Swift.
Lucky: Jason Mraz & Colbie Calliat.
Maps: Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Must've Done Something Right: Relient k.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Oxygen: Colbie Calliat.
Realize: School Boy Humor.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
You Found Me: The Fray.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.
The * means they were her favorites. =]
Hopefully those help you!
--Jack
(17/m)
So, I got a 75 litre backpack today, and I was just wondering, how do you attach a sleeping bag to the bottom? Putting it inside the backpack is not an option.
In the middle front(in the bottom) there's two stretchy ropes that are circles.
So yeah, can anyone help me?
Here's a picture:
http://i39.tinypic.com/2hn9cup.jpg
Thanks!
I've been backpacking many a time, and was/am in Boy Scouts for many years...
Anyway. You might have to buy a few bungee cords. The small ones, not the large ones.
Make sure you can wrap the bungee cords around your sleeping bag. If you do that, you can run the cords through the two stretchy ropes, and it should suspend from the bottom.
Hopefully that works, that's what I did for mine back when I hiked part of the Appalachian Trail like four years ago.
--Jack
(17/m)
i'm 16 and she is 14 we're best friends and have been for a long time how do i know if she likes me?
My best friend Laura has a good answer to this I think will help:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578
From there:
I'm going to start off by saying this: if a girl smiles A LOT when she's around you, she probably likes you as more than a friend.
The Top 5 other things to look for:
1. She laughs at your jokes.
- No matter how many times she's heard them, or how totally lame they are, she'll laugh at them. End of story.
2. She touches you (not sexually, get your head outta the gutter!)
- She plays with your hair, or fixes your shirt or something. Maybe she even holds your hand, that's a pretty good sign that she likes you.
3. She includes you in things.
- She talks to you even when she's with her friends. She makes an effort to include you, like by asking you things. Even lame questions like, 'What color should I paint my nails?' might be her way of trying to include you.
4. She makes an effort to talk to you/see you.
- She texts you just to say hello, she's late to class just because she wanted to hug you good bye, or she calls you just to see what you're doing.
5. She trusts you, and talks to you seriously.
- She tells you things that she might not normally tell others. Like, if she's in a bad mood and tells others she's fine, she'll actually tell you that she failed that geometry test, or her friends aren't including her lately. She opens up to you and isn't afraid to be herself.
Even though every girl is different, these are the top 5 things girls do when they like a guy. So, chances are, if she's holding your hand and texting you saying :" Hey whatcha up to? :)", chances are she's doing it all for a reason.
--Jack
(17/m)
a couple weeks ago i was showing my boyfriend my back dimples. (you know those little dots on your lower back) and i lifted up his shirt a little to see if he had them. and he had hair on his lower back. i didnt really pull up his shirt to see how far his hair goes up or how much exaclty i was kind of grossed out. because idk how often it is that 17 year old bois have hairy backs. or if its attractive. how many of you girls have bfs with hairy back and how many of you guys have hairy backs? how common is it. and is it that bad? or should it be no big deal. please help this has been bugging me. thankyou in advance.
It's genetics, and most guys just have it.
At 17, not all have it yet, but by 20, they should all start getting it, at least if that's what their DNA says ;]
I would just not worry about it- it's not like he has it on purpose; he cannot control what his body does regarding that.
--Jack
(17/m)
I have a problem...im 14/f and my boyfriend is 17/m. We have been together awhile and we do a lot of foreplay but we have talke and he knows im not ready for sex and wont be for awhile. I hvae given him bjs though. The problem is....HE WONT CUM! I think he enjoys it because he moans a lot and his toes curl and he looks like hes into it but tonight i tried and i went at it for 50 MINUTES. My jaw is aching and he wouldnt come. eventually he just pulled me up and started kissing me. I don't undrestand. Is it me or do some guys just not cum? Thank you.. :(
Maybe he just.. didn't want to?
None of us here will ever know, but ask him. If you talk to him about it, you won't wonder anymore, and the question might be answered.
--Jack
(17/m)
17/m. me and my girlfriend's one month anniversary is in a weeks time. Alot of websites say "dont get a one month present" or "theres no such thing as a one month anniversary", but she asked me what i wanted. And for some reason, around here, one month anniversary's are a big thing?
She told me that none of her relationships have lasted longer than three weeks (she's only had three boyfriends, me being 4th). I like her ALOT, so what can i get her? Jewelery is probabaly too much yes?
thanks a lot :D
Here's what I did for my "one month" with my girlfriend last Saturday.
I took her to the park, and we acted like little kids. I pushed her on the tire swing, we swung on the swings for awhile, and we played in the sand and we sat on a bench and just talked.
It's that kind of stuff that a girl appreciates, not things you can buy.
Maybe make her a picnic and go to the park?
Write her a poem? Write her a song?
Do something from the heart; jewelry really isn't as special as some of the things I said.
--Jack
(17/m)
14/F
So I'm confused. I've heard that when a boy says you're "cute" it means that he doesn't really think you're that good looking but he would still hook up with you. Well I've been called cute a lot, but I'm not sure if its the same or not. After I say something funny/ditzy or if I have a blonde moment he will say "Ha, youre cute". Or when i come into school a boy will say "Well don't you look cute today?" and I'm just confused cuz I've heard them say to girls that they look hot so I don't know. Oh yeah I get a lot of "youre so adorable"s too. Maybe this is because I'm quite a bit younger than most of my grade? I don't know, what exactly does "cute" mean???
Cute means... wait for it... CUTE.
It doesn't secretly mean anything. It doesn't mean "Wow, you're kind of good looking, but I'd still tap that," it means you're CUTE.
Guys don't play the silly mind games girls play.
So don't read too much into what guys say. It's not worth your time.
By the way, "adorable" and "cute" are much better compliments than "hot", in case you were wondering.
--Jack
(17/m)
16/f
I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months, he's my age. I really do love and trust him. he never pressures me into anything. We got on the topic of having sex. I feel like i'm emotionally ready, but i don't know if i'm physically ready. I haven't seen a gynecologist, get birth control, or get vaccination for cervical cancer. I don't want to take any chances, cause a condom isn't enough. so i want to wait, but how do i approach the whole situation? on top of that, how do i tell my mom?
First of all, thank you SO MUCH for not jumping into having sex with your boyfriend, and then coming on here after the fact to ask what to do to prevent STDs and whatnot.
That is very responsible of you.
See a gynecologist. Ask about birth control. Get a vaccination. Do all those things you talked about.
And, you should confront your mother and tell her that you think you're ready to start having sex, but you want to make sure you take precautions. Make sure you let her see that you're trying to be responsible. She might be able to help you take these precautions.
I think approaching your mom is really responsible, rather than going behind her back, and then later coming to her telling her you already HAD sex and that you're pregnant or have an STD.
--Jack
(17/m)
ok. so im super excited bc my really great guy friend who i have a crush on is going to ask me to dance at formal!! the thing is i never danced with a guy before so im kinda nervous. does anyone have any tips?
If you're slow dancing, that usually means that you just rest your head on his shoulder and you just rock back and forth.
Just go with the flow. Guys are supposed to lead when you dance, so just follow his lead. =]
--Jack
(17/m)
My friend is 16. The guy is 18. They have been talking quiet a bit. The guy will start the conversation, but then he won't talk much. He doesn't text her back till hours later now. And she wants to figure out what to do because this is really getting to her. I told her that I think that he might be one of those guys that is not very sociable...or maybe he is just trying to drive her crazy and that she should turn the tables around and say something that will get him all worried and crazy....do you guys have any ideas of something that she could say to him? or just what you think about the situation
He's most likely just the type of guy that isn't very sociable.
Honestly, she probably shouldn't look much into it.
--Jack
(17/m)
What does the phrase, "Thats what she said" means?
It's a stupid on-going joke that girls and guys both use, taking someone not dirty at all and making it REALLY dirty.
The other columnists gave good examples, and here's one of my own:
Person 1: "That was the most painful thing in my life and I never want to do that again."
Person 2: "That's what she said!"
*laughter ensues*
Get it? =]
--Jack
(17/m)
is it illegal for a 16 year old to be dating an 18 year old?
To date, no.
But, some judges may see kissing or holding hands or even hugging as too much, and charge the 18 year old with Statutory Rape.
But, as long as you keep it PG, and don't have sex, you should be good.
--Jack
(17/m)
i dont really know if this question will go through or not..but it's worth a shot..and i dont really know how many people will..but hopefully some.
me and my mom just learned today that here next month..we'll be loosing our house. i know it's kinda weird asking this..but i need as much help as i can..
if anyone is willing to pray for me and my mom..i would greatly appreciate it..just pray that our loan get's accepted.
our family name is walker..we live in a small town in arkansas.
i know it dosent sound like much..but it's really important.
please and thank you. (:
I will most definitely do this for you. =]
--Jack
(17/m)