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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I hate you Americans.I am a Pakistani 12 years old girl.Why...Why are you killing Muslims.You all will go to Hell.Why are you killing innocent people.My question is that why are you killing innocent children.Someday,I will kill you all.If not me,than god will sent you to hell.
Hello
Not all americans believe in violence. I am american and I do not believe in war. To me muslims are just people like us. Unfortunately, We cannot decide to kill or stop war.
I guess I don't know what to say... I just want you to understand we are not all bad people. I wish for world peace too
I'm a seventeen year old girl and two years ago I began to develop feelings for my step-brother (though in hindsight there were signs before hand). He is nearly nineteen and we used to see each other every weekend (I'll elaborate on that more in a moment). We have known each other for roughly ten years and we've always had a sort of love/hate relationship. We would annoy the hell out of each other and he would insult me/hurt my feelings, but when we hit the eight year mark and my other siblings (the ones I am related to by blood) stopped visiting my dad on weekends, things began to change. Before we would wrestle and be determined to win/injure the other, we wouldn't talk a lot unless we were insulting each other or disagreeing on one thing or another, but then things changed. Things became more, playful. We would still physically fight but there was no intent to hurt the other. We'd straddle each other a lot more often than before and just sit in that position and talk/have banter. Or when we got tired I'd lie on his chest and he'd wrap his arms around me, and we'd just stay that way for ages. We would still insult each other but it was not as intense as when we were younger. When I was fifteen, he got a girlfriend. His first serious girlfriend. That hurt a lot, but it was okay because I knew things would never work out between us anyway. In February 2012 during one of our more serious conversations, I confessed to my step-brother that I had feelings for him. Feelings that were not necessarily sisterly. He took it well and assured me that he would 'still do anything for me', 'nothing would change' and 'he didn't hate me'. And he was right, until my best friend stuck her big nose in and called his girlfriend a 'dog', and warned him that if he didn't leave her he would catch 'rabies'. After this my step-brother and I didn't talk a lot. In fact it wasn't until January 2013 that we really caught up again, and even then it was only a brief conversation at work but it was nice to see him. By this point I had moved on and any romantic feelings I'd previously had for him were long gone, however I did still miss the closeness and companionship we once shared. In February 2013 he and his girlfriend got engaged, but the engagement was incredibly short as they broke up two weeks later. One week after dumping his girlfriend of 18 months, my step-brother and I reconnected via Facebook chat, only things were somewhat different. Whilst the insults and banter were still there, he often commented about how I 'wanted' him, and argued that if he were to kiss me, that I would kiss back. I thought nothing of it and laughed it off. That is until I saw him whilst visiting my Dad on 3/3/13. The two of us soon found our common ground wrestling and hugging in his room like we used to. It was fun and exciting, and made me realise exactly how much I had missed the boy. Things slowed down and flipped between us hugging whilst I played with his hair and he listened to my heartbeat, or the two of us occasionally slapping the other. Whilst sitting in a half hug we somehow ended up back at our previous argument from Facebook about how I 'wanted him'. I went off on a rant about how I clearly didn't want him, and then he kissed me, mid-sentence. It was my first kissed so I was pretty stunned, but I kissed back nonetheless. Then we kissed a lot more after that until it was time for me to leave. My step-brother later told me that he only kissed me to 'prove a point' (that I wanted him) and it was only a one time thing. Worst of all is that he was acting totally weird with me over Facebook two days after we kissed. So now I'm confused, and hoping that someone on this site could offer me some much needed advice since I have no idea what to make of this situation, how to react and what to do. Thanks for reading this incredibly long question by the way... :)
You need to back off
He is your step brother and it is highly inappropriate to engage in more theb sibling relations. Although you are not blood related you both are family. Dating family is often sorely frowned up in society. It cannot happen, It is very inappropriate and you need to know your boundaries.
Hi! im a 15 year old freshman and im about 5'3 and 120 lbs. im not a bi girl at all im literally all muscle from cheer. me and my friends are the popular girls and all around the same size. we have never drank before and wanted to know some alcoholic drinks that arent to strong and will get us tipsy and kinda drunk but not to the point where we are puking and hungover after. things that have lower alcohol content and any new drinking tips in general! thanks! :)
We cannot give you advice, You are to young and it's illegal
Nuff said
I feel like a man. Every time i like a guy (which isn't very often because im picky) im super interested and excited for about a month or two but once we start to get closer i start to push away. And its not that they suffocate me, its just I get bored and eventually disgusted by them . Our conversations start to bore me and he seems to become boring.
Its ruined a lot of good relationships for me and i think its beginning to ruin one right now..what is wrong with me?
We cannot tell you what's wrong
It sounds like you have a fear of commitment. You become used to the relationship and the excitement tones down. Are you afraid of becoming close with someone? Most people who fear beong rejected tend to run for the hills.
okay so im almost 14 and in my underwear I have seen greenish whitish clumpy stuff I have told my mom but I want to know exactly what it is WHAT IS IT!!!!!
Discharge
Discharge basically means your body is cleaning itself out. Completely normal
Discharge can be thick, thin, clear or even white etc.
A period usually brown, pink or red.
I visited a cancer patient and was wondering. I wasn't wearing a mask or anything.
Cancer is not contagious
13/F
Hi so today I got asked by this guy I've been to school with for about 4 years if I had a ...... You know. I just didn't answer him.
But do people really think I'm a boy? I don't really look like one in my opinion. I have a deep voice and not really big.. You know.. But still. I know this is a dumb question.
This is what my hair looks like, only I have bangs that go down (Not side bangs):
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ma3numHueJ1re6kmco1_500.jpg
I don't dress like a guy. I wear jeans, but not baggy jeans. I wear cute shirts and stuff, if you know what I mean and I wear a lot of jewelry. I do play video games, but I don't say I do. Do I sound like a boy to you?
Does it really matter what people think?
The whole point of individualality is too be yourself. You should never ever change because of what people think of you.
I will tell you this
My hair is extremely short, I have a bunch of tattoos and peircings. I wear skater shoes, baggy jeans and hoodies. I don't wear makeup...
And I am a female, Yes I know, You probably thought I was a dude and that is exactly my point.
We are not meant to be the same, Each of us is different.
Be proud
I'm hoping an outside perspective will help me figure this out. Sorry that this will be long.
So I met a guy at work and he asked me out. I'm 22, he's 19. He's shy, has never had a girlfriend, so I thought I could trust him.
Our first date was amazing and it got really intense really fast...we ended up seeing each other every day (even on days when he was busy, he'd still come by to kiss me goodnight). I slept with him, which worried me but it didn't seem to ruin things. He treated me like a princess and we were both so happy.
Then after almost two weeks he all of the sudden got weird on me...stopping wanting to see me every day...in four days I only saw him once and it was so different, he was way less affectionate and just seemed zoned out. Finally he dumped me, saying that I "wasn't his type". I kept asking him to explain more and he would just say "I can't" and avoid eye contact.
The next day we talked and all he would say was that I "wasn't right for him".
I was really confused and hurt, I texted him asking if he could be a little more specific. He never replied. When I saw him at work he was way more friendly and flirty with more than usual...he tried to get them to move him to the register next to me and followed me around a lot.
I'm just confused...did I do something wrong? Did he just totally use me? I can't get an answer from him. I'd love to just forget him and move on, but I have to see him every day at work and it makes me really unhappy. What do I do?
He used you, he's an asshole
So I was answering questions on this site, and there was a question on how to get their hair like this girl's. So I clicked the url of a pic, and I came across this website called "eppleblogs". What is it? I didn't want to look through the website because I didn't want to look through it. Have you guys heard of this site? What is it?
Do you think I was just being paranoid? I saw "Victoria Secret Hotties" and I left. I don't know.. I just don't want a hack on my phone or anything.
I can't say for sure
But what I can say is you might want to be cautious with what questions you choose to answer. There have in the past been questions linked to porn sites etc.
So my ex wants to be friends with benefits and i don't want to be at all i want to be the opposite actually but because i cant say no i agreed and so we were fighting for a bit but he started acting really sweet telling me not to be so hard on myself and that he really cared about me and that the only reason he broke up with me was because i didn't talk to him then asked me if when i get back from Thailand for 3 weeks if we could try again I once again said yes he was being so sweet and amazing i just couldn't help it but now he wants to go for a walk and do "stuff" if you know what I mean but that's really not what i want but once again me not being able to say no i agreed but the problem is that i really like this other guy and we've been getting really close he's amazing i'm not gonna get into details about him but he's exactly what i'm looking for and I think he's gonna ask me out soon (hopefully) but if we end up doing stuff it will wreck everything :'( anyways how the **** do i get out of this btw I've already ditched him twice and i have social anxiety which makes this all so much more difficult because well i have trouble talking ect. what do i do!? :( how do i get out of this?? :(
Forget him
He only wants you back so he can have someone to fool around with. He left YOU, You need to put your foot down and say no! Sounds like he only wants to take advantage if you. Think about it...
You are just sinking into his trap, He knows his kind words and actions will lure you in. Stop allowing him to use you
One of my best friends is having a really tough time right now. Her boyfriend dumped her, her best friend is moving,and she's having an overall rough time. Now, I have a girlfriend who I deeply care about, but this matter with my other friend is deeply upsetting. She cannot see how I see her. I think she is amazing, and beautiful and just all around great. She trusts me so much and she has told me quite recently the story of her life. She cuts, she is starving herself, and she told me her darkest secret. She had been raped as a child. She refers to herself as a damaged, broken, useless whore. I love my girlfriend, but... I need to show my friend that she is important to me too. I cannot hurt either one of them. But I think I'm begining to fall for my other friend as well. I am so confused on what to do. Any help would be great. :)
Well I am going to be blunt
Your friend sounds like a real home wrecker. Anyone who spills out there problems in a way to say it and also get a little sympathy out of someone is just drama.
Anyway, If you want to help her then I agree with Annie, You should inform your gf about it. Perhaps you both can help this friend as a couple. However, Do not allow her problems to become your problems. Help her from a distance and support her
We can help friends but don't make it a priority.
My ex has recently decided to start telling everyone that I'm pregnant with his child (I'm a virgin, by the way. It's not true at all). I'd just avoid him, but he and all of his evil friends are always everywhere I go. They glare at me when I walk within a fifty-foot radius of them, and many of my friends have said that they all talk about how I'm apparently "spreading **** around everywhere" and about how terrible I am whenever I'm not around as well. I haven't done anything to them to deserve the level of hatred that they have for me. A lot the people that used to come up and talk to me are now starting to subtly avoid me now, too. They don't say anything, but I'm pretty sure that it's because of that stupid rumor.
I'm afraid to do anything in retaliation to him because he's suicidal, and I would never be able to forgive myself if I were to cause his death.
I'm lonely, scared, and I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to go back to school because that entire group of people just lurks around the entryway during the morning, and it is impossible to enter the building without encountering them.
Help, please!
Sweetie,
You know where people get when they lie? Nowhere.
If he is spreading rumors you are pregnant who exactly is going too look loke the fool when this rumor goes on for months? Him. There is no reason to retaliate, He is being very immature. The only one making a fool out of it all is himself.
To be honest be the bigger person. Walk away and ignore it
This rumor started for two reasons, 1. He is looking for attention and 2. He is trying to get a reaction out of you. So if you don't give him a reaction then again, He's the fool.
my name is Rachel and I was checking out this dating site and the guy gave me his number and i gave him mine I had no idea that he was only 17 and i am 23 is it illegal in the state of Georgia for a 23 year old woman to date a 17 year old kid because if it is i am not going to prison for a 17 year old kid.
Find someone your own age. If you are referring yto him as s kid then he is obviously too young for you.
To be honest, If you are looking for serious commitment you should be looking around your age anyway. You are not going to find that in someone who is only 17 years old. Be realistic
My boyfriend and i have been together for a year &1 month i really he has anger management issues and he agrees but he doesnt like talking about it so he takes it out on me but at the same time i deserve happiness to i really want to keep him he IS the one i know it how can i be a dream girlfriend?
When someone has anger issues it is not you, It's them.
If he cares enough then HE should fix his problem. You could be the best girlfriend in the world but again HE needs to fix himself. Trying to be a "dream" girlfriend is not going to fix him or your relationship.
You need to stop blaming yourself for his problems. I believe a person with anger issues cannot truly ever be happy in a relationship unless they are happy with themselves.
Fact is many people with anger issues are suspects if abuse in relationships. The only way to save this relationship if he wants too help himself.
I'm 21/f and I've been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, we're both very happy. Where I work there is one guy who I've been having dreams about every other night for the past 2 months. These dreams get more and more steamy to the point where I wake up feeling as if I've already cheated. Me and the guy at work are friends, and to make matters worse he has a fiance. I don't plan on pursuing these feelings but every time we stand even remotely close to each other at work my hormones go into overdrive and memories from past dreams almost push me into doing something stupid. What should I do before I completely lose it?
Thanks for any advice,
StupidHormones
You are taken, He is taken
You need to understand this. This man is engaged and to be married and yes, It would be wrong to pursue these feelings, very wrong.
It is okay to be attracted to others but to allow it to get in the middle of a relationship is not okay. My advice is to try and keep it professional and again, acknowledge that it cannot work. Imagine for a second your boyfriend allowing his feelings to control him for another woman? You would be very hurt. These dreams are just a dream and will fade as soon as you accept that it is what it is.
ok, so I'm 11 and a girl (seventh grade)
and a few months ago, earlier in the school year, I got in a HUGE physical fight with my best-friend. Needless to say, my parents hate her. But now we have made amends and ae best-friends again... in secret. How do I tell my mother and when?? I'm afraid my mother will get mad at me and resrict me from talking to my friend. :(
Thank you.
You can't hide a friendship
There must be a valid reason for your parents to dislike this girl. You see, Friends do not get into physical alternations with one another.When we come to disagreements we talk about it.
The best thing you can do is to be honest with your mom. Tell her you made amends and are taking it slow with your friendship. You get more with honey then you do with vinegar. Be honest
My current GF did not inform me of them speaking I had suspicion because it was becoming a routine of the texts curiosity is going to kill the cat so I read texts yes it was bad on my part but she should had told me aswell my GF dosent find anything wrong with this because the EX is having family tradigies but the EX has confessed her feeling to my GF, what do I do?????
It's this simple;
Unless there are children involved between the two, There should be no reason to be in contact with an ex. Family tragedies or not they are no longer together and it should not be her problem.
I would be questioning whether she is even over him to be honest with you. Whether or not she will admit it....sounds like she never moved on. You need to find yourself someone who is into you and wants to be with you, Not hung up on an ex.
what can i say to people talk behind my back?
You say nothing and be the bigger person and walk away.
I recently bought myself my first brown mascara-I thought brown would be sort of cool since I didn't see any other girls wearing brown mascara, so I got Maybelline's Glam Black mascara plus a new brown-ish eye liner, New York Color's Taupe. Now I'm wondering if I made a bad choice back at the store and to just go back to the black mascara thing. What color eye shadows would go with this? Would this match with dark hazel-brown eyes and my dark-medium brown hair? It can't be anything too extreme or anything if you know what I mean, since I'm still young. So no lip stick since I don't do lip stick or lip liner yet, but lip gloss is perfect, plus eye shadow and some blushes. I like the natural look, so nothing too wild either like some purple or green or blue. So would it?
I would think it'd be over doing the brown.
Black eyeliner looks good on brown and a plum or bronze eyeshadow.
Green is usually for blue eyes.
I'm sick and tired of them both! my best friend is sexting my ex! she lies to my face about EVERYTHING! i wanna kill myself! i already hate my life and we have been fighting more this yr than ever! Idk what 2 do.. someone please help...
P.S. there is A LOT more drama but i didnt feel like putting it.. 2 upset..
so please help me know what 2 do!
If your best friend lies about everything then she is not much of a friend to begin with.
Also, As hurtful as it is you are no longer with your ex. Meaning, He does not have to obey by the rules. Your friend betrayed you yes, and I think you need to forget them both.
Focus on you and find real friends.