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Friend Going Through Tough Time
One of my best friends is having a really tough time right now. Her boyfriend dumped her, her best friend is moving,and she's having an overall rough time. Now, I have a girlfriend who I deeply care about, but this matter with my other friend is deeply upsetting. She cannot see how I see her. I think she is amazing, and beautiful and just all around great. She trusts me so much and she has told me quite recently the story of her life. She cuts, she is starving herself, and she told me her darkest secret. She had been raped as a child. She refers to herself as a damaged, broken, useless whore. I love my girlfriend, but... I need to show my friend that she is important to me too. I cannot hurt either one of them. But I think I'm begining to fall for my other friend as well. I am so confused on what to do. Any help would be great. :)
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Well I am going to be blunt
Your friend sounds like a real home wrecker. Anyone who spills out there problems in a way to say it and also get a little sympathy out of someone is just drama.
Anyway, If you want to help her then I agree with Annie, You should inform your gf about it. Perhaps you both can help this friend as a couple. However, Do not allow her problems to become your problems. Help her from a distance and support her
We can help friends but don't make it a priority.
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You should tell your girlfriend about what is going on with your best friend an let your gf know that you need to help her during this time. This way your girlfriend will support you and might even be able to show support in her own way. The best way to help your best friend is to be there for her. Let her know you're there if she needs to talk. Also you should distract her. Get her some of her favorite movies and watch them. If you can help her smile or make her laugh even for a moment then you're doing the best you can for her. Let her know she's a wonderful person.
Also I would like to point out, this is just my opinion, that you should not worry about if you're falling for her or not. She just broke up with her boyfriend and the last thing she probably needs is to be with someone else. I feel like right now she needs a friend to help her get through this and you should be that friend.
I hope that helps. :)
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