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I'm a 13/f and my bday is coming up soon. My parents asked me what I want but i honestly dont know! lol What are things ($150 and under) that I could ask for?!?!

If you don't know, just tell them to give the gifts to other children. Or maybe just say "All I want is good will on Earth." You can kill two birds with one stone, and tell them to give the gifts to Toys for Tots, since the holidays are coming up and all.

Today I went to see my counselor. Please note its nine weeks into the school year. I just realized I failed Algebra 1 last year, and at the beginning of the year, he put me in Geometry. So, Ive been taking Geometry & getting excellent grades in there (: But, today I went to see him because my mother wanted to find out if I could take summer / night school. He dropped my Geometry class & placed me into an Algebra 1 class. Which I wasn't too pleased about. I went to my new class & I really don't fit in AT ALL. I don't know anybody in there, and all of the people were black. [I'm really not trying to be racist or ANYTHING like that, I just felt out of place, I'm white.] & They just STARED at me, like wtf is she doin here! I was so scared no joke.

Tomorrow, I'm going to see my counselor again to find out if I can do anything to get back into my regular Geometry class, because I was doing so well & actually had friends in there. Do you think it'll be possible for me to get back into Geometry, without taking Algebra 1 first?

Please no stupid responses, for Algebra last year I had a really bad teacher & didn't learn stuff well. Thanks a lot. I'm a sophmore, 15/f

Tell your mom and have her bitch to the guidance counselor about it!! That always works for me! That guy should have listened to you, what an idiot for doing exactly what you didn't want. If he can't listen to you, he should be able to listen to your mom. Seriously, that's gotten me out of detentions and all sorts of things (mind you, they were detentions I truly did not deserve!) It may seem immature but if the school isn't going to treat you like an adult, then get your mother to back you up. That stupid counselor should know better.

My aunt passed 8 months ago. Her and I just so happen to wear the same size clothing. About 4 weeks ago, my uncle brought over some of my aunt's clothes for me to go through and pick out what I would like to keep. He gave the clothes to us, so I'm not pressed for time to decide because we don't have to return them or anything like that, but my Mom has been rushing me to look through them so she can clear them out of the basement. Thing is, I don't want the clothes. It's not that they're unappealing to me. It's that it would just be too emotionally upsetting to have them. I really don't want them, and I'm firm in my decision. My mom views it as, "perfectly good clothes", and since they're free, she might be a tad bit mad if I didn't accept them. Don't get me wrong, I've very thankful for the offer. But I just don't want to look like a total jerkface to my unlce's family. *Do you think it would be rude of me to refuse the clothing?

No, I don't think it's rude. It's perfectly understandable. Just explain it to your mom, and I'm sure she'll understand as well.

ok! Well this summer I was on a very intence swim team, and volleyball team! I weighd about 84 pounds! Then after summer when volleyball and swim team stopped, i started to eat more and i just stopped exercising what so ever! And i dont have gym in school! Now i weight about 112 pounds! I really want my body shape back i've tried to hold back my eating but i cant! Please help me what should i do?

Well, 112 isn't really that bad. I wish I weighed that much. In my opinion, you were underweight and now you're normal.

Sorry this is long...

I found this on an advice column. It was posted by a well know columnist, and read the following:

Rules For Kids This list is the work of Charles J. Sykes, author of the book Dumbing Down Our Kids: Why American Children Feel Good About Themselves But Can't Read, Write, Or Add. Rule No. 1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teenager uses the phrase "It's not fair" 8.6 times a day. You got it from your parents, who said it so often you decided they must be the most idealistic generation ever. When they started hearing it from their own kids, they realized Rule No. 1. Rule No. 2: The real world won't care as much about your self-esteem as much as your school does. It'll expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated self-esteem meets reality, kids complain that it's not fair. (See Rule No. 1) Rule No. 3: Sorry, you won't make $40,000 a year right out of high school. And you won't be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even have to wear a uniform that doesn't have a Gap label. Rule No. 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait 'til you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he's not going to ask you how you feel about it. Rule No. 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping. They called it opportunity. They weren't embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend. Rule No. 6: It's not your parents' fault. If you screw up, you are responsible. This is the flip side of "It's my life," and "You're not the boss of me," and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you turn 18, it's on your dime. Don't whine about it, or you'll sound like a baby boomer. Rule No. 7: Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way paying your bills, cleaning up your room and listening to you tell them how idealistic you are. And by the way, before you save the rain forest from the blood-sucking parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your bedroom. Rule No. 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life hasn't. In some schools, they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone's feelings be hurt. Effort is as important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance to anything in real life. (See Rule No. 1, Rule No. 2 and Rule No. 4.) Rule No. 9: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don't get summers off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day for eight hours. And you don't get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on. While we're at it, very few jobs are interested in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to self-realization. (See Rule No. 1 and Rule No. 2.) Rule No. 10: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs. Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston. Rule No. 11: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could. Rule No. 12: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic. Next time you're out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his mouth. That's what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for "expressing yourself" with purple hair and/or pierced body parts. Rule No. 13: You are not immortal. (See Rule No. 12.) If you are under the impression that living fast, dying young, and leaving a beautiful corpse is romantic, you obviously haven't seen one of your peers at room temperature lately. Rule No. 14: Enjoy this while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school's a bother, and life is depressing. But someday you'll realize how wonderful it was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now.

Being 15 years old, and going through enough to make me mature enough not to waste my life, I found that all of that is true. With the few people that would be willing to listen to me, I actually have tried to tell them all those things, and show them what life is really like [which is actually not like shows shot on a set and aired on MTV monday nights at 10.] My question is this: how can I further help those around my age to become...better? I have been trying to help people along with their troubled lives one at a time, but is that enough to actually pay off in the long run? Would there be anything I could do or say to maybe...get this process going a bit quicker before its too late? Thanks - will rate.

Eh. Even if it seems like they're all immature, they're probably not. They're just being normal kids, and that's what kids do. They've been doing it for generations. It's not your responsibility to make they other kids "better". They'll be fine. Take care of yourself. =)

16/m. A guy in front of me in one of my classes drew an X on the back of his hands and said something about 'straight edge'. I was too much of an idiot to ask him, so can anyone help me out on what exactly that might mean? Is it bad or no?

Is it bad? Hm. Depends on what your definition of bad is. Basically "straight edge" people don't drink, do any drugs, or have sex. All fine things, of course, but I find it a little creepy that they have to make such a big deal about it with the X's and all. Plus, I think they have a reputation for being violent, though I can't really tell because it's not like all my friends are straight edge. But just because you are straight edge doesn't mean you're a saint, so it's up to you to judge whether or not it's good. They leave me alone, I leave them alone, and we get along just fine.

anyone know any mental pick-me-ups for someone who feels really depressed? (foods, activities, etc. don't tell me to "count my blessings" or "see a therapist" or "love myself" or something.)

Avatar: The Last Airbender.

Unfortunately, it's not on very often. =(

The guy I'm seeing now does not use his tongue when kissing or... anything else for that matter. Ever! He finds it disgusting! His mouth is always sealed. I on the other hand, love french kisses! I didn't even know there were people out there like him. Is this normal? It's sort of hard to get passionate with someone like this, lol.

It depends on how you define normal. I think it would be normal, but I'd still be a little weirded out by it. Not that I like things to go super-fast, but I don't like people who are really prudish either. If you're very disappointed with it, maybe he is not the right guy for you.

What does it mean when bands/singers in their songs say that there is no room left oh thier backs? I've heard it in a few songs and never got what it meant.

I guess they're saying that they are carrying the world on their shoulders, much like the mythical Atlas, and they can't carry anything else. Mostly they mean that they are stressed out.

Ugh, you have no idea how fed up I am with periods.. I get depressed because I get them. Basically my question is, is there any chance that I can make the flow a little less and is there any way I get rid of periods by surgery?? By like removing the eggs or something.. Please help!! I just want to die.. grr

Birth control pills will do it, but they also increase risk of heart attack. Try taking ibuprofen when you're on your period. Hot tea is also nice. Once I had it really bad and wet a cloth with hot water, then put that on my belly. It made me feel better.

I was shaving this morning and used a new razor. I didn't pay attention to it but the blades were chipped. So, it cut me while I was shaving and it was pretty bad. Not too deep but not your normal shaving cut. I cleaned it up and wrapped the cuts and everything and at school it felt fine. Now, my leg is hot and red and the cuts kind of burn. I don't think that that shoudl be happening. My mom said it isn't anything to go to the doctors for but she'd take me if I really needed to. Should I go or do you think it will go away on it's own?

YES, go to the doctor!! Infections can be very serious. But until you get an appointment, there is this stuff called Bag Balm that you should use it works for everything that needs healing. Except, of course, a broken heart but then again I haven't tried that. Hope you're okay!! -tasuki

I want to be something slutty for Halloween cause thats what all my friends are being... But they all wear JR's clothes I wear a large in kids sizes. I needa find a costume for Halloween thats cute and a tad bit slutty but I can't cause I'm small. Maybe you can help me.
I'LL RATE 5'S!!!!!!!!

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does anyone know any good sites to get qoutes?? thanks soooo much!!!

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quotes.com

ok i have this really weid bump on my face. It is on my forehead right near my eyebrow. It is really big and red and hurts realy bad...its also really hard. My mom siad its just an ingrown pimple but it is really big...what could it be??

It's an ingrown pimple.

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=)

okay does ANYONE know any good military songs? my dad is in the air force, and enjoys listening to them. i wanna make him a cd with all military/war sogns for his birthday. (his favorite music is country, but any kind is cool)

someone pleas help?please?

kthanx!

"Still In Saigon" by Charlie Daniels Band.

Some friends and I are in a group project and it's on the holocaust. We're making a movie, but we wanted a song that would really show the sadness of the holocaust, or that would in some way relate to the holocaust, to play in the background of the movie.

If you get what I mean and know any sad songs that relate to the holocaust, or just any songs that relate, PLEASE answer. We're editing the movie now, and it's due friday, so if you can PLEASE help!! Thanks!

Go to http://www.angelfire.com/ny/dianaclaire/midis.html and scroll down to where the S songs are. There is one called "Starman's Theme". You might not have the same reaction that I had, but I'm pretty sure it's from this very scary video game I once played. There was a crib, and blood on the walls, and when you walked into the room there was crying and that song (or one like it) was playing. So I get a very sad, morbid feeling when I listen to it. It sort of sounds like ghosts...maybe it would be a bit too creepy, maybe it would be just right.

Also, 99 Luftballoons is a German song by Nena. Even though it has a catchy beat, it's actually about, I think, a soldier who fired on some harmless balloons thinking they were missiles and ended up causing the end of the world. That might to be hard to find, though.

Ok. 13/m. I don't know if this question goes under Families or Work/School Relationships. Sorry it's so long. I'm really worried for my sister (14/f). She just found her first date at school this year. They went to the movies and all. My sister was just sitting there waiting for him to do something. She had her arm on the armrest the whole time waiting for him to hold it or something. She bought Junior Mints "just in case"---didn't use a single one. She could've talked to me. I've been asking and answering Advicenator questions for months now. I pretty much know what's going to happen and the pains she's going to feel. But no. She doesn't like to tell me stuff. Instead, she tells our cousin, who has serious boy problems. Boys rule her life. Her Bat Mitzvah was ruined because her newest ex was there. She couldn't enjoy Avenue Q because one of her exes liked it. She has serious issues. I know that. My parents know that. My sister just doesn't seem to get it, so she talks to her for advice.

My cousin is saying things like "Well, if he doesn't want to hold your hand, he must not be right. Dump him." or "Try rushing him, that usually works for me." I eavesdrop on their conversations because I'm concerned. I want her to listen to me. I've gotten chances to talk to her which I of course took advantage of, but she refuses to understand. She doesn't believe that she'll face hate, jealousy, rejection, etc. I felt most of it first-hand, but as for the parts actually IN the dating, I couldn't get that far. She doesn't think I know enough. Just because I'm younger and haven't actually dated doesn't mean that I haven't felt jealousy and rejection, I haven't been extremely depressed, etc.
How can I get her to listen to me? Thanks.

By the way, don't say to write in a diary. I'm already doing that, but my parents confiscated it last night for writing after dark.

Even if you think you understand completely, truth is there are some things you will never get. These are just girl things, that she needs to talk to other girls about. I think you are stressing over nothing, hon. Everything you described is normal girl behavior! Trust me on that. Help her if she asks for it, otherwise, try to let it go. Tis her life, and you need to concentrate on yours =)

i have a toothache and is there anyway i can get it to stop hurting before i get to the dentist?

Well, you are going to the dentist to find out why it's hurting aren't you? And then the dentist will figure it out and help you. So I don't know why you would want to make it stop hurting and then go to the dentist...because then there would be no point in going to the dentist. Besides that, there are several kinds of toothaches. You might have food between your teeth or you might have a cavity. You won't be able to know for sure until you go to the dentist.

Hey you know those little hairs you get on your face, and like when you put powder foundation on, you can tell..well yeah i have them ALL over my face, like when i wash my face you can tell i have hair..even though its blonde..do i shave it off??? Thanks Will rate!!!

You can shave it if you want to. =) Oh and what that person said about them growing back the way that leg hair grows back...that's not true.

is it normal to get really down during the winter time as opposed to summer?

just curious.

Yup! I think it's called Winter Depression! It's quite common, especially in places where it's COLD.

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