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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

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BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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bitterly sarcastic...how would you define that?

bitterly sarcastic means being nasty and having sarcasim. such as "OMG yeah.. you ARE the best" kinda like having sarcasim but also being really mean about it, too.

I hope I helped!
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i met this kid matt at the movies he was rilly cute and we gave eachother our numbers and screen names and we havent talked since. hes always online but i never talk to him because i dont know what to say!! I dont want to rush into a relationship yet i want to get to know him more. i want him to know im interested but i dont want it to seem like im obsessed.. what should i say and what should i talk about with matt when we talk online?

first say "hey, what's up?" just see what his mood is in right now. Then just talk about something simple such as whats your favorite movie or something along those lines. It's kinda like flirting on the computer, but he wont be able to see you. Being obsessed with him sounds like "omg your smile is soo cute! and i love your hair! in school i just really think you are amazing." now that is obsessed, but being like "what's your favorite movie? or what do you think of Mr. _______, the school teacher?" thats not obsessed, thats just starting a conversation. talk about normal life situations, and he will get the picture that you are interested in him.

I hope I helped and good luck!
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i want to cut my hair before school and my mom says i can get it cut tomorrow. but im not sure what cut i want. i would like layers or side bangs but i would like to keep the length of my hair. i have long brown hair, here is a picture of me.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/8fdb7fb2.jpg

i would like a cut like mary kate and ashley. (either one in this picture)
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/mka2003-10_jpg.jpg

Emma Roberts.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/img_unf_emm.gif

or Lauren Conrad. here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/LC.jpg

or here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/281x211.jpg

what do you think would be the best cut with my hair type(thick) hair color(brown) and how i style it. (needs to be cute so i can have it down for school but be able to put it in a bun for ballet.) thanks in advance!!!

I really think the last one is the best one. all of the others would be difficult to put in a bun for ballet.

I hope I helped!
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okay well basically i want to know if anyone knows any excersizes that can make your arms slimmer. thanks :]

push-ups, lift weights, use a huge exercising rubber band and put those under your feet, then move your arms if you were lifting weights. Drink water, eat healthy foods and stay out of the junk foods. Your arms should be slimmer in no time!

I hope I helped!
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Okay, I have a VERY important violin audition and I've been practicing my butt off all summer. I practiced for 2 hours yesterday and now my hand is cramping up (My right hand...which I need for bowing)

Any ideas on how to relieve the cramp...fast? I have the audition in 3hours! And no, I can't reschedule and this is very very important! Any suggestion will be a thanks =D and a 5 =]

The main thing is not to use it right now, massage it, and move it very slowly. spread your fingers out and then slowly make a fist, do that for a while, then make your hand really loose and then shake it. Keep massaging it with hot or cold water, remember dont play the violin right now, you can play until you audition starts

I hope I helped!
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hi, i bought a hamster, and was planning on releasing it in school and causing havoc, as immature as it sounds, it does sound funny! well i bought one and now i dont want to release it. my parents would DEFINITELY say no! i have one cockatiel, but they wil definitely, definitely say no! what do i do??

Listen to your parents, no means no. I would listen to them, because you just spent money on a hamster, now you're planning on letting it go in your school and risk losing it in the school... plus a detention if they found out it was you. Just look at the consequences and I hope you make the right decion.

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(SORRY IT MAYBE LONG, BUT PLEASE HELP)
so ive been friends with this girl since the beginning of this year. when we started being friends we always made these jokes that we call eachother ugly but it was a joke and it still is and yea. but like now she we are like really close friends and im friends with her friends and shes friends with my friends.

they get along fine but say we are hanging out with a group of 4-5 friends i always see this, she is always being so critical of what i say and do but not to the others. she always shuts me down and doesnt let me be happy. but for some reason i know for a fact she isnt doing this on purpose. i also told her 2 times that she is doing this to me and she never said anything to me.

idk what i should do. i know i should talk to her but i dont know what to say. please help me!!!

I think maybe this girl just wants to get attention from her other friends. Since she is your best friend and you both made jokes about each other, she might feel that the critizisem isn't that big of a deal for you. Because you might handle the jokes okay. What I think you should say to her is just talk to her and tell her, "why are you being so critcal to me and not your other friends?" If she doesnt answer... email her or write her a note. I also think this is a good plan, when you are with her and your friends around her and she starts critizicing ((cant spell that word)) you, say outloud "hey wait a minute, why are you critizing me but not any of your other friends?" then everybody will just think and say "yeah, why?"

I hope I helped!
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hi everyone im looking for a brown plaid bermuda capris wiht a pink linning does anyone know where i can find this online, stores, etc

i would really appreciate it
thank you

sorry! I couldnt find anything... but heres a website that shows more things like that
http://www.wetseal.com/product.asp?soc=&sos=&page=all&mi=1210&source=gg&kw=plaid_bermudas

I hope I helped!
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My friends and I are having a photo shoot type thing where we dress up like a celebrity we look like and I am Alyson Michalka. Well I recently cut my hair so now it is a couple inches above the shoulders. I can't find a picture to pose like. I play guitar so it would be cool to have a guitar in the picture. But I might want a picture with the hair pulled back so that you can't notice how short it is. Does anyone have any ideas or pictures? Thanks!

Theres one picture that i could find with Alyson Michalka and her guitar, but her hair is down. Heres the link to it- http://www.studentsoftheworld.info/sites/music/989.php

I hope I helped!
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how do i convince my mom to let me die my hair black . i have medium brown hair with old blonde messed up highlights. i don't like it casue it doesn't go with my style and one solid is what i like and dark.i have put hightlights in 3 times and dyed it before. i want to do it before school starts in 3 days

tell your mom that you'll do extra chores and other things. Tell her you think you are a responsible adult and you want this badly. If she doesnt let you, just keep convincing her how bad your hair looks now. but be careful, you dont want to end up annoying her about this situation

I hope I helped!
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I dance (jazz, ballet, moder, hip-hop) and whenever i do pleas (bending my knees) they get realllllly sore pretty quickly. also, my knees are hyperextended...what should i do...do you know what this is???
thanks in advanced

it could be growing pains, or theres something wrong with your knees. I really dont know what to tell you other than go get it checked out at your doctors office. Try massaging your knees with lotion and try not to bend your knees too much. My best opinion is get it checked out, there could be something wrong!

I hope I helped!
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14/f.whenever i try to fall asleep, it takes me FOREVER to fall asleep. even if i'm tired i still can't seem to fall asleep. i always remember all of the things that i forgot to do at night. i just can't seem to turn my mind off. i also can never seem to get comfortable. help! this is driving me crazy!

This happens to me all the time too! What helps me is I listen to really really calming music such as ocean waves, or rain and thunder, or birds. It makes me soo relaxed. Then what you can do is put your arms back behind your head, stretched out, while you are laying down. then take deep breaths in and out. then bring your arms down to your side. take deep breaths in and out. to get comfortable, just lay in a spot and just force yourself to stay that way for at least 10 minutes. Pretty soon you'll start to fall asleep and forget about everything.

I hope I helped!
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14/f. i have this problem where i can't do anything by myself. like i can't go into a store by myself, because i feel so uncomfortalbe and like everyone is staring at me and watching me. i always have to have my mom come in the store with me. but then i feel embarrassed to be with my mom! help! i'm going crazy because what ever i do i feel uncomfortable.

its not that i don't love my mom, because i do! i love being with her, but then i get embarrassed shopping with my mom. so what can i do?

hmm...this one is a toughy, but i'll give it a try. Instead of shopping with your mom, go shopping with a friend. If you dont have a friend, just go alone and when you feel uncomfortable and everyones staring at you, just ignore them and just get on with your life. Its no big deal if everyone is staring at you. Just dont look back at them and just go shopping.

I hope I helped!
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My friend just told me she smoked weed. She is 14, and I don't know what to do. I can't get her in troble. She said she only smoked half a bowl. What can I do to get her to quit? I don't want her to fool up her life

Well if she's your friend, and you're her friend... Friends gotta help friends!!! Talk to her and tell her "this is going to ruin your life!!! You're my friend and i'm not going to stand here and just let you do this to yourself!" tell her what weed does to you, tell her all of the concequences. If she doesnt listen to you, or doesnt stop, talk to her parents. tell them you're very concerned about her and you want her to stop. If you dont tell somebody, she'll keep on doing this and will never stop! You HAVE to tell somebody. If its the police, or your parents, then so be it.

I hope I helped!
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ive felt kind of lost lately. I love my friends to death, but i dont know, its like every single day we seem to have less and less in common. ive got alot of different groups of friends and my main one ive just seem to be falling out of. 3 of my best friends are in there and i just dont really like hanging with them anymore. they dont do anything wrong we just dont have anything in common anymore and i feel really bad about it because theres like nothing i can do. lately ive been more friends with everyone im in choir with and theyre like my best friends, but i dont want to leave everyone behind. i know they say people change over time but i dont want to change. i feel like if i stay with the friends i have ill be suffocating. like this is gonna sound really lame but u know that part in titanic in the beginning when rose is talking about how shes supposed to fit in with the rich people but she secretly hates it so much and she feels like shes dying inside, thats what i feel like! i just dont know what to do, any help would be fantastic, thanks so much.

Well if you and your so called "best friends" dont have anything in commen, I think you're hanging out with the wrong group. If its the Choir people that you have more in commen with, just be Best Friends with the choir group. If you really really dont want to lose your best friends in that group, talk to them and say "whats going on?" talk to them and say " I really need to know why arn't we becoming friends anymore. I dont understand why we are becoming different groups now." If they wont listen to you, write them a note, email them. If they STILL won't listen to you, I would just say forget them!!! They are different people than you and you dont want to hang around them. People change, yes that's true, but you change too. Its okay to change best friends, as long as you both are okay with that, its fine.

I hope I helped!
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im a 14 year old female and i was wondering what i can do to help my community. i want to work with animals or habitat for humanity i just want to do something and feel like i am making a difference.. i just dont know how or where to get started. if you could, would you please give me a list of things i can do to help out and how to get started. thanks in advance :]

If you like working with animals, go to the animal shelter or the zoo. To apply, just go to your city hall and ask them how you can apply. Sometimes you can help out the community with out applying anything, such as just go outside wearing clothes you dont care that get dirty, then pick up all of the trash and liter. That helps the community big time! I cant think of anymore things, but you can go to your city hall and ask them what you should do to help out the community.

I hope I helped!
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for my 15th birthday i'm getting a treadmill from my parents. i know that it kinda seems like a waste of a present, but i really want one. i have always tried eating healthy and try to stay in shape. i eat healthy on weekdays but then allow myself to have some snacks on the weeksends so i don't completely deprive myself of junk food. i'm doing fine with eating healthy, but i've always wanted to get a flatter stomach. everyday i do 170 crunches, 100 bicycles, and then stretch out my ab muscles. i also walk 2-3 miles a couple of days a week.

my question is: will running on the treadmill help me get a flatter stomach? if so how much will i have to run? or for how long? and how fast? i would run on the treadmill about 5 times a week along with doing my regular 170 crunches & 100 bicycles everynight. basically the treadmill would replace the walking 2-3 miles a couple of days a week.

thanks so much!

well in my opinion I think treadmills really work out your legs the most. I think it can work out your abs unless you move your abs while you're running. I know it sounds really weird but I think it works. It like if you're running, move your shoulders with your legs. So then your shoulders move, but your abs and stomach are moving too. The question about how long/fast really depends on how good you are. Try starting out at a slow speed, then gain speed. Once you start feeling all tired, STOP. If you continue going on, you'll get really tired and very dehydrated, and dizzy feeling. Drink lots of water while you're doing this. I think for your work-out, you should maybe run at the max. 30 minutes.

I hope I helped!
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i've always wanted to curl my hair. i've always liked girls who curled their hair. the problem is that my hair doesn't easily curl, and it doesn't hold curls well. i've tried using a curling iron and curling first the bottom layer of hair and then the top, but it never looks good.

does anybody have any tips to help me curl my hair better/easier? like can you give me step-by-step instructions on how to curl my hair?

here is a picture of curls that i like:

http://www.ashleytisdale.com/images_pub/pat718.jpg


and what size curling iron would i need to use?

and here is a picture of me, can you please tell me if i will look good with curls, and if you think my hair can curl like that:

http://img224.imageshack.us/img224/4615/aug2506003mc0.jpg

thanks so much! and sorry this was kinda long.

Well, I would say you might have to grow your hair out a little bit longer. In Ashley Tisdales picture, it looks like she sorta curled/waved her hair, but only on the bottom. The way to curl/wave your hair is LOOSELY curl your hair. You hair type is exactly like mine, and I also have troubles curling my hair. So heres what I think, you should go to a department store where you buy curling irons, ask the helpers there and talk to them, ask them what type of curling iron would look best on you.

http://www.ehow.com/how_2831_curl-hair-with.html
thats a website that will teach you how to curl your hair.

I hope I helped!
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PS: Vannessas picture doesnt work!

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OK... Well My my friend Alyssa (name change) we sorta met this past year!!! Well me and her made plans to go see Barnyard together for the first time since we both collect cows!!! Well when it came out I was at camp!!! So apparently she went with another person!! Well you would be mad too wouldn't you? Well I asked her who she went with and she just got all snotty, and I think that maybe it was this girl that I don't like!!! But the thing is she doesn't seem to get it that I care if she like this girl or not!! Cause I'm not going to try to tell her to ditch her!! I just want her to be honest with me! But all through the summer she hasn't been making any effort to see me!!! Is this friendship about to end or what? PLEASE HELP!

It seems like your friend Alyssa doesnt trust you. A friend that trusts you wouldn't get all snotty and not tell you the truth. If you REALLY want her to be your friend and REALLY care about her, talk to her. Tell her "HEY! I know your mad at me, but i'm not sure what I did wrong. I really care about you and you're my friend. Can you please tell me whats going on between us. I really want this friendship to work." If she wont listen, write her a note, email, or best- talk to her mom. I was mad at my best friend for a month, I got soo sick of it I talked to her mom, her mom talked to her, and we got back together again. You have to tell her that it doesnt matter if she went with another person. ((I wouldn't be mad at her if she did, I would understand, because she would want to go really badly but you were at camp.)) She's not trying to replace you with another person, I'm pretty sure she wanted to go badly, but you weren't there. Talk to her and tell her that you trust her, but how can you guys be friends if she doesnt tell the truth and not be all snotty.

I hope I helped!!!
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Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?

I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.

Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]

It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion.

if you took of the lipliner it would be a perfect amount... however i think the lipliner just adds too much amount for me.

I hope I helped!
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