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Q: There is this guy who liked me so he asked me to be with him but at first he was a nice vibrant person and noiw he is just mad boring and quit and the only time i hear him talk is when he tells me hi in the mornings and tell me bye in the evening.I really wanna break it off with him we have being seeing each other for 3 weeks now what should i do?

Well, before we start thinking about breaking up with him, do you really want to break up with him? Do you really want to give him up 3 weeks into the relationship? Think about this. When you first start a bond with someone, its not going to be exactly what you want at first. They start out quiet. Why? Because you hardly know each other, and even if you did in fact know each other, it takes a while to start a close bond. If you do want to get closer to this guy instead of just giving up, let things go on, and try stating conversations, if you're afraid and don't know what to say, don't stress, because he'll be glad that you want to talk to him. If you start talking more, you'll become a little closer, and it will get closer as you go on. Remember that when you first start seeing someone, or get together with them, it won't start out the way you want it to, its quiet. Thats why you have to work at it to make it what you want.

If you still want to stop dating him, then you could write him a letter if you find it easier for you. Explain that you feel a little bored in the relationship and that you'd like to stop dating. Its that simple, always explain the truth, don't give him the 'I'm not ready to date' excuse, tell him your feelings, and the truth. Thank you for asking, feel free to reply with more help!

-TheTeenGirl

Q: k, here is the worst moment of my entire life. it is something I would say every single girl dreads happening. I was about 13 and was at the local six flags water park, my best friend and I were hanging out with some guys we liked and the day was going pretty good. all of a sudden the guy I was crushing on (steve) turns to me and is like "hey! do you wanna go down the intertube slides with me?" I was so excited I jumped right off but as I stood my best friend was like "omg turn around" so I turned and looked and she mouthed "blood" to me... see I was on my period, I thought I was gonna be fine I had changed like 2 hours ago but I guess not cuz my whole frickin butt was covered in blood! I was embarassed, but luckily the guys were cool with it they said "oh its okay, we understand-just go change and then we'll head out" so I quickly wrapped a towel round me and headed off to the bathroom. as im walking away I hear steve go "huh, I have chew on my arm.." (all the guys chewed, which now I realize is totally disgusting, I don't know why I was even wasting my time) anyways one of the other guys go "dude that's not chew that's her blood!!!" steve freaked and ran into a pool to wash it off, I think I hid in the bathroom for an hour, until my friend came and got me telling me that the boys had leave and that we should go. I was mortified, that is something a teenage girl should never have to go through!

How do i get over this.... i mean theses guy r very judgmentally wat can i tell them to not make fun of me??? I dont ever want to see theses guys again im 'scared' to confrint themill rate 5!!!!

I am so sorry that you had to go through that, I can't even begin to imagine how I'd get over it. Its not one of those situations where you can just not care what other people think, this is truly hard to deal with. But, I will share a thought I had as I was reading your story. Let me take these sentences out for you that stood out the most.

My best friend was like "omg turn around" so I turned and looked and she mouthed "blood" to me

My friend came and got me telling me that the boys had leave and that we should go.

This is what stood out. You were in a crowd of immature boys and your best friend, and when something bad happened, your friend immediatly helped you when something bad happened, and she knew you'd get made fun of and be really hurt if she didn't say something, and she did. You have a really good friend, I think thats what needs to be your focus on this situation, or at least try. I'm not asking you to get over this now, I'm saying that when you feel bad about this everytime you think of it, just think about how good your best friend was to you, and that those guys are just really bad kind of people for laughing, they obviously have no respect for other's feelings and soon they'll get kicked right back. When these guys try to make fun of you, just don't say anything and keep doing what you're doing, and just walk away like you heard nothing, or a sign that says, "I don't wanna hear it." You don't have to actually face them, they hurt you, you can ignore them.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: sry if this is long but ok so like the thing is my parents got divoreced 3 years ago and now i have a step bro and step sis. All of a sudden i think i am to fat even though i no i am way skinny and i want to become belimic. Also i just dont see a point in living i mean u always go to school and work what is the point in it? please help me what should i do?

The point of living is to mature and learn how to make your own choices and be in life on your own. School is a very huge part that will lead you to your new life with your new family and house. Sometimes, a lot of kids do think that school is pointless, but if you look way deeper, school is your key into college, and college is your key to a very big successful job that you enjoy, and that leads to how much money you make to support your family and children. If you know that you're a skinny girl, why ruin that by going belimic? I don't know if you say that your parents are divorced and you have two step siblings is a bad thing, but even if it were really bad, that doesn't mean that there isn't a way out of misery. Thats half of why you eventually move out and get your own life started, so that you can be in control, and so that you can make that misery go away and make it your past. Learn from this and set standards for your own life later on. If you see a child getting abused, you say to yourself, "Oh my god, I'm never doing that, no matter how upset I get with my child" or you say, "now thats a way of discipline." Thats learning from a situation and thinking about how you'd do things if it were you. Decisions like anorexia, drugs, belimia effect your life and those decisions, and it will make things harder on you. So think about what this decision can do to you when you think of wanting to do it.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: HI! it's marie again. i have another question.

well, i told the father the other night that i'm pregnant with his child and he said that's great, and he asked me to marry him! i consulted my parents and they were okay with it and supported me all the way. we get married a month from yesterday, but i'm starting to have second thoughts.my mom is taking me to pick out a dress tommorrow though. i'm going to get a great one, and all the bridesmaids are going to wear hot pink is what i want, and i can't wait. but seriously, i'm starting to have second thoughts... i love this man, and he loves me, and i can't wait to have his child- and many more in that matter- but i just kind of think we're rushing in to things...what do you think? your advice is great and i think you're a great person... anything could help!!

Marie
(P.S.- my email is mcclean89@yahoo.com, and my aim screen name is cheerleaderbabestl. i look forward to hearing from you soon!)

Well, first off, thats wonderful that he asked you to marry him, its really great that hes going to support you! And I'm glad things turned out ok. I just want you to know that its more than normal to experiance second thoughts with marriage, everyone has them, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take them a little seriously. You say that hes a great man, and you love each other, theres really no problem it sounds like, so its probably just fear of whether it'll be ok or not. The best that you can do with your fearful feelings is to share them with your boyfriend. You'll really love the support from him, and it will make it easier for you. Things probably do feel rushed because of the baby coming and suddenly you're becoming and mother and wife soon, thats a really huge change for women. Its a big step in a woman's life. I want you to go ahead and look at dresses tomorrow, and at least let your boyfriend know that its really stressful at times, and he may be feeling the same, who knows, but as long as you stay open with your feelings. I think, that once you start looking at dresses and trying them on, or just doing marriage erands, you'll kind of feel better about it, and it might ease the pressure. I'm so glad that you came back with an update! I love it! Thank you so much! You can talk to me anytime you need, just inbox my name and I'll be there!

-TheTeenGirl

Q: (I'm 14/f)

So, I've liked this guy for like a year...and my friend Ashley started liking him and no one seemed to care anymore that I liked him...it was all about her.

Last night when I found out that he was going to ask her out, I started crying...then he came over and asked me what was wrong...I kind of blew up at him and told him that I liked him, then walked away.

After that my other friends who were hanging out with us there told me that the guy kind of disappeared and I don't know if he askeed her out or not...

I don't want to face anyone in school on monday. If he didn't ask her out, and it was somehow my fault, Ashley might not speak to me anymore, and if he doesn't like me back, ESPECIALLY if he's going out with ashley now, I don't think I can face him...I sit next to him in two classes.

Imean...we're friends and everything, but I'm afraid that this will change our friendship that I came out and said I liked him like that...

I don't know how I'm supposed to talk to him when I see him. I'm actually considering faking sick so I don't have to go to school.

And I don't know how to approach Ashley either. Before, I was just going to let it be, let her be happy if Nathan and she got together, but when it actually happened(or was going to, at least), I couldn't be happy for her because I wasn't happy for me.

I don't know what to do.

Before I help, I will start out with by saying don't just skip school on Monday. The reality is that no matter how many days you fake sick, or skip, you will have to face them someday, so this will resolve nothing. I think that before you started crying, and jumping to conclusions so fast because of what you heard, you should have picked up the phone and called Ashley. Why? Because you could have told her how hurt you'd be if she ended up with Nathan, and that as she knows, you really like him too. I know you stated that she already knew, but when things start to happen, you should start reminding her how hurt you'd be. But, lets not go through the regrets, this is where you've ended up, and you may still be here even if you did things the other way. You say that you're scared to face Ashley, because you're a possible reason for Nathan to not hook up with her anymore. Whether you were the reason or not, that isn't a good enough reason for Ashley to stop speaking to you. That would be a really selfish thing to do because, you liked him too, and you let out your feelings to him. Ashley knew about your crush on him, so how can she be mad when shes was about to date the guy you liked, and then have you tell him your feelings? Its just selfish. When you go to school Monday, you just have to take thing regularly even though things didn't go regularly, when Ashley asks you whats going on, then you need to just tell the truth, because you need to say, "I had feelings for him too, I didn't mean to make things happen the way they did Ashley, but I really like him too, and it hurt." Remember, faking sick does absolutely nothing for you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Hi…well me and my bf (nikko) had a fight….he always get jealous on me.Even if I talk to somebody like my classmate if it is a guy he gets jealous and he will try to say that he will break up on me but he always say in the end that he cant do that bcoz he loves me…Well tomorrow im going to an occasion with my family but he wants me to stay in the house bcoz he is afraid that I may talk to a guy there…I have promise him that I will not talk to guy there but he always say that I should stay in the house which I cant bcoz every year we go there…I know that I talk to much in a guy, I cant avoid it…I know also that I have hurt him to much…what can I do? I love him so much. I don’t wanna lose him…and I know that he loves me…plz don’t say that I should break up with him,please…

I will rate high,promiz

Ok, define your differences here when you say this, "I have hurt him too much."
How have hurt him? By talking to other guys? By just having a casual conversation with someone of the opposite sex? That isn't something to feel sorry for in your boyfriend. He is at a controlling point. If hes begging you to not leave your house and threatening to end your relationship because you talked to a guy, he is having a sense of control over you. I would hope that you'd go to this family occasion whether you had to or not. I hope that when you want to go somewhere, you do it because you want to, and not just stay home with him because he gets upset. Do you really want to be with a guy who does not trust you at all? I know you love him and you have strong feelings, but that is a huge warning sign right in front of you. Hes being controlling. That will not go away, he will never eventually think, "well, we've been together for 2 years now, I trust her now." This will get worse. He won't 'suggest' that you stay home. He will make you stay home. I know you're probably thinking how ridiculous I sound, and thinking "he'd never do that". I'm telling you, you need to end this before things get worse.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Hi, I am a 17 yr old male who has a problem. My g/f head over heels in love with me. She claims, that if she could, she would marry me and have my children. The only thing is that I don't love her. I just like her a lot, but nowhere near to love. I used to say that I love her though I didn't mean it. Over the summer I admitted to her the truth sbout my feelings for her. Thinking this would driver her away, it only brough her closer. She is glad that I am able to tell her the truth on how I feel because she feels it brings us closer. We are curently intimate in the act of sex. I have always wondered if I am in it because of sex. My question is should I stay with her, and if I do, is it right for us to be having sex?

No way is it right to still be having sex. Stop having sex with her. You don't love her, so stop using her. That practicly using her. You are giving her mixed messages. You told her that you don't love her, and she got the wrong idea out of it. Its a little important that you tell her that, and now you are having sex with her. Shes getting big mixed messages, and you need to end this sexual relationship, and tell her you mean it when you say that you don't love her, and that the sex is going to stop. At this point, you're probably going to have to stop with everything, take a break from her so that she can get the idea that you mean it. You also owe her a big apology for being involved with her sexually when you aren't in love with her. Shes going to be upset, so don't expect her to just take it and its as easy as ever. Whatever decision you make, please stop having sex with her!

-TheTeenGirl

Q: When yur kissing/making out w/ a guy where do u put yur hands?

Ask someone else this question. I don't like questions asking about this. Sorry.

Q: every friend i have, i talk about, except one who is a grade younger than me. i talk good things about her but sometimes she can really make me mad and sometimes i get teased cause shes only in 6th grade and i need to "get some friends my own age". there this girl i really like in my grade but im like the only person in my skewl that likes her, and im trying to fit in so i pretend i dont really like her. i talk about everyone. its really bad! im a real bitch. i want a best friend. its pathetic!

please tell me what i can do. thank you

Trying to fit in ends up being just a huge humiliating mistake. Theres really nothing wrong with befriending a girl that doesn't have a lot of friends. You have to think of it this way, what if you were that girl that didn't have friends? What if nobody in the school liked you? Would you at least want a friend? Would you want one that pretended to be your friend? Definetly not. You'll never make friends by forcing yourself into a group of people that aren't like you, or by making fun of someone or pretending not to like them to impress the group. Sure, they'll laugh at what you say and think you're the funnest person in the world, but do you ever think that maybe behind your back, they'd be talking about you? Of course. You have to know that if you want people to like you, do these things:

1. Never talk about people badly, even if the people that can hear you have no idea who you're talking about. They get an idea of who you are just by hearing you.

2. When somebody needs help, help them, even if people don't like that person. That person needs someone too. And its just respectful.

3. Compliment people. When you see that someone is wearing something you really like, tell them! It makes that person's day even if you don't think so!

Remember, if you follow those steps, you won't have any hatrid on you, and people will really like you for who you are. Most importanly, do not start or act like you are going to get in a fight. That goes along with no gossip!

-TheTeenGirl

Q: love hurts!! here i'll tell you somthing this guy is named Veljko ( i kno weird named) but he is hottt!!!!!!!!!!!! but doesnt like me, and thats cool, but i want to be friends with him.
But i dont kno how to say it. Do i give him a note in class? do i put a letter in his locker, tell him myself ( which i'm very shy i dont think i'll be able to do that) or get someone to tell him for me? HELP

PLEASE HELP SOON

Yes, you're right, love does hurt! I don't think this is really a big deal, so it doesn't matter how you tell him. If you're too shy, then don't tell him to his face, the note idea sounded good. Just tell him that its alright that he doesn't like you that way, but you'd like it if you guys could be friends. Thats basically it, I don't see any reason for him to reject you. So write him a note, whatever makes you comfortable! I think its best that you do it, though. A friend shouldn't have to do it. I think you can handle the note.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok i have this problem i like this certain guy and i want him to notice me but he don't and i an starting to get really pissed off.by the way i think that his girlfriend is a bitchy snob and i want to get her bac

Don't pick on another girl's guy. Its just plain out wrong. It doesn't matter what you think of his girlfriend, your crush likes her. I don't think getting anyone back will help any, all it will do is start things.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok Me and my boyfriend just started going out about 5 days ago. I never go around him and we don't talk alot. In the mornings he comes and sits by me and I feel really bad. My friends boyfriend pissed me off cause my boyfriend came and sit down in his seat and her boyfriend FLIPED! He started cussing and everthing. It made me feel really bad. I wanted to say someting but couldn't. I never talk to my boyfriend and we have 'some' things in common and if it keeps on like that then I am thinking about telling him I just wana be friends. Do you think that right?

Well, first of all, I think you need to tell your friend that she needs to get her boyfriend under control because it hurt you to see your boyfriend get yelled at like that. A lot of relationships start out dull and boring. Theres really nothing there, this is because you both don't know each other well yet. If you don't want to give up with your boyfriend, then start getting to know him better so that you guys will be able to have conversations. Ask him about school, any topic to get a conversation started. You probably have a lot more than 'some' things in common. You don't really know him enough to be able to idetify any shared interests.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: hey boys this is ilovepink101..well im in the 8th grade and i need advice from the boys..
ok theres this guy i like his name is garrette..and i told him i liked him a couple of weeks ago..and he just totally started acting alot nicer and flirting..ALOT!!and i always wanted to ask him if he like me..but you know im kinda shy..but im the kinda gurl that i dont care what people think about me and my realationships..but garrett is a whole diffrent story..he cant go outr with girl like me because im not a jock or a prep..and he carse what his friends say about me..and i dont know what to do..so a coulple of days agao i told him ilkied him..and he said i know!i wasnt suprised..but im like do you like me..and hes said no..so heres my question..!!
he always touches me and puts his hands down my shirt and he gave me a kiss on the cheek and he just always FLIRTS WITH ME ALWAYS!!and i want to know if this sounds like he liks me..but he said that were just friends with benefits!!but i think he likes me!!and do you think i shouild sit around waiting for him evn though he dont supooslvley"dont like me"????i rate 5's on anyone..i just need help..helllllllllllllllllllllllllpppppppppppp!!
love always,
*ilovepink101*>Bridgette

Do not wait around. Here are your warning signs why this guy is useless:

1. You told him you liked him and he didn't feel the same, yet hes touching you.

2. He cares what his friends think of his girlfriends, so he uses the "friends with benefits" excuse, just when you think hes liking you by flirting.

If a guy says that you and him are both friends with benefits, that is nothing special. I know this isn't making you feel good, but you need to realize who the guy you're waiting for is. Hes flirting with you so that he can get to you, and when you're caught in a moment where you are just loving his flirting, he knows that since you like him, you won't turn him down for anything. Making it easier for him to just touch you like that. Sorry, but even if he did admit to liking you, he'd eventually get lectured by his friends, and everyone else, and he lets them judge the girls he gets with, hes foolish. If you still feel like you should wait, keep reading over those warning signs. All he wants is your body, hes not worth your time.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I have wrote previous storys on here and this is a new one. I am so used to being by myself. Like I haven't dated in 5 years!!!! Im not a looser. I just don't like guys all around me. I like being alone. I have a boyfriend and I feel soo weird around him. Like ' Omg I can't stand him now, i just want to be friends'. I have always been like that. Its like the older I get the worser it gets. Its it just me or is it who i like. I have No idea. And if this helps. I have been very depressed latley.

Well, of course you aren't a loser. You don't have to be a girl gone crazy for guys to be worth something. It sounds a little bit like you push your boyfriend away before you try to even know or hang out with him. A lot of times, when people are usually alone, they tend to shut out to people and push away before somebody can even enter their lives. Try to talk to your boyfriend more, find something interest, go somewhere you like with him. I know you probably think you won't be able to take it, but you can break out of that lonliness and just be able to have another person around. Its really not that healthy to be alone a lot. That is why you feel depressed, you are just alone a lot. It will get worse if you just stay in, it won't solve those anti-social problems that make you upset. You have to try breaking out of your shell. And if not breaking, at least come out a little bit and just make yourself realize what you're missing. You don't have to go out with your boyfriend, go with a friend, get to know a friend better. Try something new, you'll probably notice one day or night you go out, you won't be depressed before you sleep, or for the rest of that day.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok so i've known this kid keith for like a year or something, we never really thought of each other as more than friends but thats all changed now. ever since i met him i've heard about him hooking up with a bunch of my friends. after me & keith started talking more he started to tell me he liked me and stuff, and i always gave him a hard time saying that i was only gunna b another girl he made out with , so i didnt talk to him for months, i just started talking to him again and he tells me he changed and hes not like that anymoree...and explains a bunch of reasons why he has changed and why he wanted too. i believe him. i really do. and then me & him went to the movies and made out and all that good stuff.. NOTHING ELSE. well a couple days later one of my friends..we'll call her kim..well kim i guess had a 'thing' with keith as she explained. and as her friend...lets call her kenzee explained. well i called keith and he tells me that kim totally bitched him out and i told him she bitched me out too. and i ask him if he had a 'thing' with kim and he told me sorta, well he admits to me that he likes her but he tells me he likes me too. keith and kim both got into a fight because of me and kim tells me that i ruined everything and that i go around bragging about kissing 'gorgeous' keith in her words. which i didnt. so, about two days later after that (me&keith are still talking) keith leaves me a message while im at cheerleading practice saying in exact words..this: "hey *****, whats up..well i just called to say hi...and whats up..well ill talk to you later oh and me and kim are 'really' cool now. well talk to you later bye hun love you." so i totally freaked out with jealously of course..well who wouldnt? and i called him and i guess he just got off the phone with kim..well yeah im soo jealous its unbelievable im scared hes just using me as like a back up or something like that or he just wants two girls..i dont know well can someone give me advice on what i can do? please thankss...i'll rate.

This guy is a cheater in denial, and you know it. Thats why you're so jealous and can't stop worrying about it, because you know that him and Kim have a thing. And please do not try and convince yourself or let him convince you that hes changed and that him and Kim are no longer a thing. You will just live this whole event all over again. He doesn't deserve to have any girls, hes a cheater, and he lied to you. I am strongly advising you to end this with Keith. You can be his friend and just watch him get yelled at again by different girls, but you should just chose not to be one of those girls. Do not let him convince you that things are different.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: 13/ F

Hi, I live with my grandparents. My grandmaw doesnt want me to wear thongs or use tampons. I was in the shower last weekend, and I had two thongs in the dryer with my clothes. My grandmaw took my clothes out and saw them. I think she threw them away. So let me get to my question; what can i do about her, because she is so old fashion, how can i have thongs and use tampons with out her knowing about this and doing something stupid.

Thanks, i Rate 5's

signed,
Confused

I think you should talk to your grandma about the tampons at least. That is a reasonable discussion, but the thong is just really not a big deal. You are a 13 year old girl. Thongs are really not that important. And don't think that I'm saying you should just deal with "granny panties", there are string bikini and others in the middle that are decent. Banning you from thongs isn't old fashion. Its being decent as a good guardian would be. There isn't a reason you shouldn't be able to wear tampons though.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock.

Its normal to be in shock with these situations, one minute, shes just your best friend, and now shes going to be a mother. Thats shocking. For a while, you'll probably still feel this way, but it won't stop you from wanting to help and be there for her. You'll know its reality soon, and then, it will fall into place. There aren't really tips or ideas you need. Except for help her. Be the one to catch her when shes falling into a bad moment about her situation. Which brings me to that. A lot of times, when young girls become pregnant, they tend to think that it won't be ok anymore. Which isn't true. Even when your friend isn't telling you she doesn't think its ok, just tell her. You probably can't ever imagine what it must be like to become pregnant so young. Well, I hope that her boyfriend will support her in this, she'll really need it.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ohk so im freaking out because today i was going upstairs and my dad asked me if i ate and i told him yes in an attitude because lately i've been wanting to be alone. and he just annoy's the crap outta me cause he'll just stand there staring at me and being like what are you doing? its so frustrating. but anyways he started screaming at me he was like wtf is your problem nd i was like nothing why & he was like well look at your face your attitude. and we kept arguing and then he was like soon im going to have a long talk with you because i've been finding out of things you do and none of those are good. and i have proof so i know that they're true. and i havent told your mom yet cause she's sick.... so i was thinking about all the things i've done and i dont recall doing anything bad. and he also said ohh you need to fall off your high horse fast & crap and he also told me how he has connections and he's going to send me to some private school, im literally pissing my pants because im so worried please please help me gimmie advice or sumthing anything can and will help right now !!!!!!

Just try thinking of things this way. If you're scared that your dad is saying he knows about bad things that you say you aren't doing, then you've got nothing to worry about. So, don't let your dad telling you he knows what you've done scare you, when you havn't done anything bad. If you're scared about him threatening to send you to private school, then you need to go and ask him about it. I know that you just don't want to take my advice, but just think about it, how else will you be able to get through to him? Keep up your attitude? Nope. You need to find out what the real problem is. You need to go up to your dad, and say, "Listen dad, I know that one day when things got out of hand, I wasn't in a very good mood, and I was being a little snobby, and I'm sorry for being that way to you for no reason, I've just been frustrated lately, and I want to be alone a lot now. But, its really hard to move on because, I havn't really done anything that you wouldn't approve of. So, I'm not understanding why you're talking about sending me to a private school when I havn't done anything." Say something at least along those lines. Think about this, there is no other way to stop feeling scared. I promise that if you talk to him, you'll feel better. You need an update or explaination from him.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok well i'm a 16 yr old gurl and i just recently started going out with a friend of mine like 3weeks ago on thursday and i ador him......my first question is, is it weird that i might love him already? like i feel so confortable with him....and the other question is......i want to have sex with him...but is it to soon? like he knows i'm a virgin and he doesnt care to wait but i want to.

plz help i'll rate high

I think you know the answer to your question. "is it weird that i might love him already?" Nope, thats just a strong exciting feeling of a new relationship, not really love though. "i want to have sex with him...but is it to soon?" After 3 weeks of being together, and you want to know if its too soon to have sex with him? Of course it is! "he doesnt care to wait but i want to." He doesn't care to wait? You are with a guy who does not care to wait to have sex? This has to be a joke question. Is it not obvious that you just might be dating the wrong guy? Don't rate me and tell me that I'm not understanding the question. When I look at your question, it makes no sense. You want to have sex with him, yet you want to wait? The point is that, yes, it is too soon to have sex with him.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: i kind of think u got the wrong impression! my boyfriend wod NEVER perposely hurt ANY gurl! the way you put it kind of makes me think that you think hes abusive and hes not! he goes a lil over board i mean hes left bruises on me from biting me when we were just playing! i mean i have left bruises on him! its not intentional! please dont think that. well sorry im not trying to yell or anything i'm just making sure you know he isnt abusive in ANY way! thank you VERY much for the advice by the way! but one more thing i wasnt trying to show off by yelling at him in front of everyone and i understand it wasnt right but i had been bottling it all up all day and when he finally asked me what he had done i didnt mean to but it slipped out i normally would never do that! but once again thank you SOOO much for your advice it really helped!

I wasn't under the impression that hes abusive, that thought never actually crossed my mind to be honest. I'm saying that your boyfriend did something wrong, and it wasn't what he did to her, it was the fact that he did something that he is turned on by to his ex-girlfriend. It isn't right. You've got it all wrong, I never even came across the possibility of your boyfriend wanting to hurt anyone, I'm not sure why you'd think that, but I didn't. I'm agreeing with you that he did something wrong, but yet you did a harsh thing afterwards, thats all what I was saying. Thanks.

-TheTeenGirl

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