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Half The Love
Hi, I am a 17 yr old male who has a problem. My g/f head over heels in love with me. She claims, that if she could, she would marry me and have my children. The only thing is that I don't love her. I just like her a lot, but nowhere near to love. I used to say that I love her though I didn't mean it. Over the summer I admitted to her the truth sbout my feelings for her. Thinking this would driver her away, it only brough her closer. She is glad that I am able to tell her the truth on how I feel because she feels it brings us closer. We are curently intimate in the act of sex. I have always wondered if I am in it because of sex. My question is should I stay with her, and if I do, is it right for us to be having sex?
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Your 17 sex happens no you should not stay with her if you do not love her it is giving her the illusion that you might one day love her as much as she loves you. Break it off you will be doing her a favor its not fair to be using her like that and you cant stay with her forever
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maybe you should take her aside one night, on a roof, or in a field, or just on a deck hammock and look at the stars and hold her. look into her eyes and kiss her with all of the passion you feel for her, every last drop of it. The kiss will probobly be able to tell you. if it doesnt, slowly decrese the amount of time you spend with her. Dont do the whole, "i think we should see other people" thing, its heartbreaking and annoying(sorry, that was kinda harsh) good luck
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if you dont love her, you might have to take a break or something, because it's not going to work out if you dont feel the same for each other. it's good though that she feels closer to you due to the fact that at least she trusts you to tell her what you feel. this is also bad in a way because now you probably dont know how to act.
my advice is: if you don't love her, you probably shouldn't keep her with you because, the longer youre with her, the more she'l miss you once you break up. it probably feels very awquard to you that you don't feel the same. next time, youre with her ask your self " do i love her?" and ask that whenever u think about it and figure out when youre happiest. if its when u guys are having sex, then maybe tht is the reason. just ask yourself this and you'll see what she truely means to you.
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No way is it right to still be having sex. Stop having sex with her. You don't love her, so stop using her. That practicly using her. You are giving her mixed messages. You told her that you don't love her, and she got the wrong idea out of it. Its a little important that you tell her that, and now you are having sex with her. Shes getting big mixed messages, and you need to end this sexual relationship, and tell her you mean it when you say that you don't love her, and that the sex is going to stop. At this point, you're probably going to have to stop with everything, take a break from her so that she can get the idea that you mean it. You also owe her a big apology for being involved with her sexually when you aren't in love with her. Shes going to be upset, so don't expect her to just take it and its as easy as ever. Whatever decision you make, please stop having sex with her!
-TheTeenGirl
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Dude, take it from another guy, having sex with a girl is not gonna get her away from you.
Psychotic girls like that feed off of the intimacy.
Tell her she's a stepping stone so you know what you want when you're old enough to make a mature decision as to what kind of girl you'd like when you want something serious.
Think about it.
If you cut out the sex would you still be with her?
If yes stay with it.
If no jump ship.
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I personaly think it's wrong to have sex with people you don't love. If this girl is that into you, you should seriously end it before she ends up getting anymore feelings for you. Sure it would be hard to do, but in the end it would just be better for the both of you.
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I am currently in a relationship with a guy who claims that he loves me. However I am in the same situation as you are, minus the whole sex part. I am not IN LOVE with him. I do care about him a lot, which in my opinion means that I do LOVE him in some sense of the word. If your g/f understands your feelings for her, and she still does not mind engaging in sexual intercourse with you, then I don't think you need to worry about that. The age that you are in my opinion, is too young to be having sex tho. (My b/f and I are both 16. I plan on staying a virgin til I am married!) If you think that the sex might be keeping you around, stop for a while and see if you still feel the same way about her as you did while you were sexually active with her. If she really loves you, she will understand your reasoning for wanting to stop for a while. (Tell her the truth.) If you don't feel as strongly about her as you did while you were having sex, you might want to consider breaking up with her, and just being friends. Don't lead her on, and lie to her, b/c that is one of the worst things someone in a relationship can do. Good luck!
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