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my best friend
well, my best friend and i are exactly the same practically and we always think the exact same. we pretty much agree on everything and she's really important to me
but, sometimes... we get mad for stupid reasons. we always make up like nothing happened, but sometimes she brings up really sad things like things that shes made fun (we make fun of each other all the time, jokingly) of me for , that actually hurt.
also, sometimes, she gets really into something and her school friends and her do things kind of against me. it really hurts sometimes
its not like im going to ditch her as a friend, but how could i cope with the things that happen, and how can i make myself feel better?
me- 14 f
friend-13 f
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tell her how you feel i sure she'll understand
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Chock it up to hormones. That is exactly what it is. During puberty girls are vicious with eachother more so than boys and say and do hurtful things to one another. The peer group is also a bothersome area with each girl fighting for leadership or to be heard and not shunned. Her friends do not like you so therefore she's stuck with what to say and do when around them.
Your job right now is to talk to her. Tell her what hurts you and let her do the same with herself. Then tell her it bloody well better not happen again as you are tired of the "Oh, I did not mean it." explanation and kiss, kiss, hug, hug BS when she goes back at it again and again.
Tell her straight up do not do this again to me and one more thing do not discuss me or put me down with your other friends as I would never do that to you. Explain it hurts and that true friends will not do that. Let her figure things out. Be clear on what you think is not acceptible. She is 13 so the maturity level may not have kicked in.
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Hm... the same thing happened with a few of my friends last year. Really I think you just need to sit down and talk with her, no interuptions (sp?) just tell her how you feel.
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Talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. Tell her that the things she thinks are just jokes, actually hurt you. If she talks about you behind your back, then she is not a good friend and I think you need to comfront her about it. She shouldn't treat you badly, if you are best friends. Just tell her how you feel and see where things go from there.
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