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help me please....
Hi…well me and my bf (nikko) had a fight….he always get jealous on me.Even if I talk to somebody like my classmate if it is a guy he gets jealous and he will try to say that he will break up on me but he always say in the end that he cant do that bcoz he loves me…Well tomorrow im going to an occasion with my family but he wants me to stay in the house bcoz he is afraid that I may talk to a guy there…I have promise him that I will not talk to guy there but he always say that I should stay in the house which I cant bcoz every year we go there…I know that I talk to much in a guy, I cant avoid it…I know also that I have hurt him to much…what can I do? I love him so much. I don’t wanna lose him…and I know that he loves me…plz don’t say that I should break up with him,please…
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OMG too much drama tell him that you might talk to a guy but you love him too much to even think about cheating on him and that you couldnt even stop thinking about him on your trip last year. If you love him that much than by breaking up you would be hurting yourself too.
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Ok, define your differences here when you say this, "I have hurt him too much."
How have hurt him? By talking to other guys? By just having a casual conversation with someone of the opposite sex? That isn't something to feel sorry for in your boyfriend. He is at a controlling point. If hes begging you to not leave your house and threatening to end your relationship because you talked to a guy, he is having a sense of control over you. I would hope that you'd go to this family occasion whether you had to or not. I hope that when you want to go somewhere, you do it because you want to, and not just stay home with him because he gets upset. Do you really want to be with a guy who does not trust you at all? I know you love him and you have strong feelings, but that is a huge warning sign right in front of you. Hes being controlling. That will not go away, he will never eventually think, "well, we've been together for 2 years now, I trust her now." This will get worse. He won't 'suggest' that you stay home. He will make you stay home. I know you're probably thinking how ridiculous I sound, and thinking "he'd never do that". I'm telling you, you need to end this before things get worse.
-TheTeenGirl
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Okay, this is a really difficult situation. Your man is really jealous and you're not doing anything wrong! Talking to other guys is perfectly fine for you to do when you're in a relationship. Relationships should not take away that much of your social life. Besides, it's not like you are flirting with other guys or cheating on your boyfriend in any way. Guys are people and it's kind of silly to not be allowed to talk to them. However, since your boyfriend is soooo oober jealous (I know a lot of people that are like this) and you want things to work out between you two there's a few things you need to do. Try to stop apologizing for and promising not to talk to other guys. Your doing that is making it a little worse. Your boyfriend sees how you're not talking to guys and he now expects that from you. That's part of where the jealosy actually comes from because he's thinking that since you usually don't talk to guys that when you do you must like them. The one thing that all healthy relationships have is good communication. What you need to do is talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel, but be very careful, you don't want to hurt his feelings. He needs to give you a little freedom to be yourself. Tell him that you feel caged and that his jealosy of you just TALKING to other guys makes you think that he doesn't trust you. Tell him that he needs to let you talk to whoever you want to prove to you that he does really trust you. I'm sure he does, but he is definitely acting like he doesn't. If you make him think that you don't think he trusts you maybe he will give you a little more freedom. If worst comes to worst you don't necessarily have to break up, but you can take a break from the relationship. Don't stop talking to guys because it makes him jealous! Even if he doesn't like it he will get used to it after awhile, but only if you do it. I hope everything works out okay for you. Good luck!
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GIRL!! You are definetly not right... Do you realize what your saying... and doing to yourself.. go back and read what you wrote to everyone... This guy is a loser.... First off... How old r u.... Because you dont need to be in a controlling relationship like that... He tells you not to go with your OWN FAMILY! Family should come before any guy... Trust me.. I've been through the same shit your going through... Him being controlling like this.. is eventually only going to led to alot more if you dont stop it now.... So your choices are pretty simple here....
1. your break it off before it gets too controlling and you cant get out.... Start getting hit.... cant do things with your family... cant talk to your friends.... guys or girls.... cant talk on the phone.... See... its only going to get worse..
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2. Stay with him.. and deal with the shit hes going to give you... Believe me... you dont want to take any of that shit from a guy... It took me a year to figure it out... I was hit... could only do things with him... and your not going to like it...
So needless to say.. you need to talk to this guy.. and tell him.... straight up... you are your own person.... and that you arent going to take his shit.. that if things dont change that you are gone.. Its as simple as that....
Dont be stupid girl... Smarten up...
Sorry Soo Harsh... Just dont want you going through that same shit I did.. Its hard..
*Jackie*
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