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(I'm 14/f)
So, I've liked this guy for like a year...and my friend Ashley started liking him and no one seemed to care anymore that I liked him...it was all about her.
Last night when I found out that he was going to ask her out, I started crying...then he came over and asked me what was wrong...I kind of blew up at him and told him that I liked him, then walked away.
After that my other friends who were hanging out with us there told me that the guy kind of disappeared and I don't know if he askeed her out or not...
I don't want to face anyone in school on monday. If he didn't ask her out, and it was somehow my fault, Ashley might not speak to me anymore, and if he doesn't like me back, ESPECIALLY if he's going out with ashley now, I don't think I can face him...I sit next to him in two classes.
Imean...we're friends and everything, but I'm afraid that this will change our friendship that I came out and said I liked him like that...
I don't know how I'm supposed to talk to him when I see him. I'm actually considering faking sick so I don't have to go to school.
And I don't know how to approach Ashley either. Before, I was just going to let it be, let her be happy if Nathan and she got together, but when it actually happened(or was going to, at least), I couldn't be happy for her because I wasn't happy for me.
I don't know what to do.
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YOUR 14!! dont worry!!
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Pause for a moment. Think about where you were last month. Think about where you were last year. There were probably things happening, but do you remember them? If you do, are those things still bothering you?
Life goes on whether you're charging forth into battle or being drug by your feet across gravel.
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Alright I've been in situations similar to this before. Write a note explaining it all. Tell him how you feel and such and what you're afarid of. If you do want to fake sick give this to a *GOOD FRIEND* who you know will deliver this to him without reading it. I don't exactlyknow what will happen from there but if he is a good enough guy he will probably make a smart deision. When it comes to the heart there really isn't much you can do. But he may realize something from your note. I hope I helped!
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Before I help, I will start out with by saying don't just skip school on Monday. The reality is that no matter how many days you fake sick, or skip, you will have to face them someday, so this will resolve nothing. I think that before you started crying, and jumping to conclusions so fast because of what you heard, you should have picked up the phone and called Ashley. Why? Because you could have told her how hurt you'd be if she ended up with Nathan, and that as she knows, you really like him too. I know you stated that she already knew, but when things start to happen, you should start reminding her how hurt you'd be. But, lets not go through the regrets, this is where you've ended up, and you may still be here even if you did things the other way. You say that you're scared to face Ashley, because you're a possible reason for Nathan to not hook up with her anymore. Whether you were the reason or not, that isn't a good enough reason for Ashley to stop speaking to you. That would be a really selfish thing to do because, you liked him too, and you let out your feelings to him. Ashley knew about your crush on him, so how can she be mad when shes was about to date the guy you liked, and then have you tell him your feelings? Its just selfish. When you go to school Monday, you just have to take thing regularly even though things didn't go regularly, when Ashley asks you whats going on, then you need to just tell the truth, because you need to say, "I had feelings for him too, I didn't mean to make things happen the way they did Ashley, but I really like him too, and it hurt." Remember, faking sick does absolutely nothing for you.
-TheTeenGirl
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