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hey yall im 13 and im female.. i am having guy trouble :( i could get any guy i want but the one guy that i DO like says he wouldn`t go out with me.. i feel lonely tho i feel like i need to like someone how do i get the guy to like me? tHaNkZ

Hey! All I can say is you have to be yourself. Thats the most important thing in the book lol! Don't be someone you're not. Just try flirting with him and talking to him and maybe he'll see what a great girl you are. Does he know you like him? Because if he doesn't then maybe he's just saying he wouldn't go out with you because he doesn't know if you like him or not. But, if he still doesn't want to go out with you, thats his lose! He's missing out. But, there are other fish in the sea. Just go out and have fun live life. And meet new guys! Guys that you will like. Try having your friends set you up with a guy that they think you will like. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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my mom totally pisses me off and she argues a ton with me and just ME! its like she makes me do everything she knoes i HATE doing and she keeps me from doing everything i love. when i try talking to her about it she just argues back saying if i dont like it then why dont i leave and stuff like that even though she knoes i cant leave since im only 14. when i try to tell my dad he just says things like "you knoe how she is" or "you and i can't do anythng about it" and he doesnt even try. my sister is the only person i can talk to but she cant say anything because if she does my mom will start hating her too. my mom doesnt do any kind of physical abuse or anything its just...GRRRRRR!! i dont knoe what to do but i hoped one of you would. im afraid that im going to collapse sometime soon with a major heart overload or something if things dont change around here soon!

(~*~ --__) LoUiEd (__-- ~*~)

Even though it gets on your nerves that she makes you do things you don't want to do, just do it and get it over with and then once you're done doing that then go out with a friend and get away from her and get things off your mind. Spend the night a friends house if you have to. And when she's not being mean to you, that should be the time you should try talking to her. Just be like "Mom, why are you so mean to me, did I do anything for you to not like me? Because if I did, then I'm sorry" Just say stuff like that and how you feel. Hope this helps, if not post back again and I'll be glad to help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey Ive been getting behind in school REALLY bad and I say Im ganna study every night to try and get better grades but then I end up getting invited some where or Wanna do something with one of my friends so I end up not either stuffing or doing my homework or anything Do you have any idea how I could do both?

Well you can always have fun and still study! Right when you get home STUDY and do your homework and then go out and have fun. Thats what I always do. Hope that helped! Good luck on it!!

xoxo Kourtney

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my friend amber is really making me mad! all she does is yell at me and says i lie to her what do i do??

signed,

im sick of it!

If she's your friend, then you can talk to her about it. Just be like "Why are you always yelling at me? Did I do something to get you mad?" And just tell her how you feel about it and that you don't like it that it gets you mad. She should understand. A friend shouldn't be yelling at there friends ALL the time. And just tell her that you don't lie to her and ask her what she thinks you lie to her about. Ask her anything you want to know. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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I've had this one friend "Helen" since 5th grade. I just met "Sarah" this year, and we became really good friends. For some reason , Helen is being such a mean you-know-what to Sarah. She's called her a h** and said she did something with another kid, which is SOOOOOOO not true. Helen doesn't even know Sarah, and she's talking about her. What am I supposed to do?? I don't want to get caught in the middle of this argument.

Try talking to Helen (alone) and just telling her that Sarah isn't really like that. Just ask her why she doesn't like her. Helen may be jealous of Sarah because she may think that Sarah is stealing you away from her or something and by being mean to Sarah, you'll realize that Sarah is a H** when really she isn't. So try talking to Helen and seeing whats up with her and why she doesn't like Sarah. Just be like "Do you have something against Sarah?" And then go from there. And after you are done talking to her about it and she still continues to be mean to Sarah, I guess the only thing to do is give her, her own taste of medicine lol. Good luck

xoxo Kourtney

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I'm a 15 yr old gurl and i'm in love with the show Lizzie McGuire. Its a disney show... made for like little kids. Am I totally retarded for liking this show? I dont know why I like it SO much but i realllllly do! I watch it everyday... twice a day! and I have a tape of all the recorded episodes which I watch a lot too. And of course the Lizzie McGuire movie too!!!!! I just cant get enough. I even cut my hair like hers (of course it looks better on her but whatev) please help i dont know what to do
Signed,
Confused Gurl

I don't think its weird at all. You just like her. Its just like 20 year olds like Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, except you just like Lizzie McGuire. Hey, even I watch it sometimes. And her haircut is cute too, I once got Brittney Spears haircut. Its not big deal, you just really like Lizzie McGuire. You're not the only one in the world who does. So don't worry!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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my best friend likes my brother =/ .. n i told her i'm cool with it.. she acted like she didnt like him.,. but she does.. n i think they are gonna go out.. =( there goes my friendship

Even though you said you're cool with it, you have to tell her how you feel. I mean after all she is your best friend ... right? Just be like, "I don't want our friendship to be ruined because of a boy, who is my brother!" Just tell her how you feel about this situation and tell her the truth. Don't just be like "Oh I'm cool with it" when really you're not! So just tell her how you feel Good luck hun! Post back if you still need help!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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ok here's the thing i hav this rlly gourgeous sister and everyone tells me omg ur sister's so hot ....... u dont looko like her. i am constantly comparing myself to her like weight and clothes and sports.she is super skinny im not saying im fat or anything cuz im not
but still she can get any guy she wants i can it always seems that she's better than me.

Even the prettiest girl can't get every guy she wants. I'm sure you do look like her, because after all you guys are sisters. People use to say that about me and my sisters. They would say I don't look like them, now all of a sudden I look like them! lol. Its crazy. I don't see it but they do. But, you can't compare yourself to your sister, that won't get you anywhere. And I'm sure you're gorgeous too, you just have to confident in yourself, and put yourself out there. And don't be someone you're not because you don't want a guy to fall in love with someone you're not. So be yourself and if you won't try getting advice from your sister. And she's not better than you either. You just have to be positive and you have to like yourself for who you are. So go out and have fun!! =D Because comparing yourself to your sister won't get you anywhere, you have to have fun in life and meet guys! lol. So don't bring yourself down girl! lol

xoxo Kourtney

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i liked this guy for a realllly long time, he knows but hes older and my parents dont like him and he only views me as a friend. every1 says how mean he is and stuff but hes extremely nice ta me, i really want to get over him thou because i know nothing will ever happen between us at least not rite away. i really think i am in love with him but i jus wana live my life rite now. i havent even had a stable b/f in soo long because i am so hooked on this guy its ridiculous! how can i get over him?!

It may be hard to just get over him since you like him so much or since you said you're in love with him. But all I can really say is, just go out and have fun. Because if you're always busy, that'll get things off your mind and won't keep you thinking about him. Try going to the mall, partys, friends houses, etc. anything that is fun. And when you're out having fun don't think of him. Sooner or later you'll meet another guy! You just can't compare every guy you see to him, because that won't get you anywhere lol (not saying you will, but some girls do that). So just go out and have fun! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey! OK, I'm really shy. Its not that I enjoy being all by myself because I totally hate it... I love to be with people... but it’s hard for me to just walk up to someone because last year in classes we got to sit around and talk for the end of each period. When I tried to talk to someone they would be like "uh huh. Ok" and then walk away. However I’ve talked to each of them individually and they seem interested in talking to me (No, they were not just being nice) I’m moving to a totally new country next year which means a new school. I want to redo myself… like not be so shy anymore. Could you all give me some tips for me to be less shy? And please no advice like "just talk to people"… that doesn't work. I've tried. Thank you so much everyone!! Any advice is appreciated!

Well since you are going to be the new kid, usually people go up to the new kid. Atleast thats what I've seen. But, no I won't give you the usual "Just talk to people" because I know that won't work lol. But you do have to talk to people, lol, but in order to do that. You just have to allow yourself to open up and be more talkitive. I've answered questions before like this and I just told them in every class, talk to the people around you that sit by you. Just hold a small conversation with them. Thats what I did when I got into High School. It should work. Just take deep breaths (like 3) and calm down when you enter into class. People may look at you when you enter, because well you are the new kid. But hey you're getting the attention! But sit down, take the deep breaths, and talk to the people around you, introduce yourself! You'll be fine! If you need anything else just ask! =D And what country are you going to? Thats so cool!

xoxo Kourtney

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my neighbor and i are really really good frineds and everytime i am around him i feel like the world has just stopped and i get this werid feelin inside of me do u think i like him

YEP! =D you like him!!! Since you guys are good friends, you'll see him all the time. So, try telling him you like him or give him the hint or something. But, sometimes boys are clueless so you have to like just come out and say it. So just be like "I know we're close friends and everything, but I've began to develop a crush on you, do you feel the same about me too?" Say something like that. It doesn't have to be the exact words, but just tell him how you feel about him! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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This is gonna sound so weird. I read this advicenators collumn, and it seems like he is the kewlest guy ever. At first i thought maybe he was like 20 something, but he's my age, and i don't know, the picture of him kinda just made me feel weird, but i am not a person who starts that kinda thing. What should i do?

Aww thats cute! You should ask him a question and tell him alittle about yourself or you could just always IM him. And then get to know him for awhile! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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He loves her right?
She was so pretty..
He had such great teeth
She pushed him away
He didn't stay
But she knew he'd come back
So she could lay her head..
on his warm lap
But he never did
and so she bled

For every inch that peirced her thin
weary, tired, aching skin
she thought of him
But he wasn't there to dry her tears
or wipe up the crimson blood that stained
The knife she had
For every sapphire tear she shed
she would cut that much deeper
and so she bled

Girls like her just didn't slice
There flesh with kitchen knifes
The cold metal felt like ice
She was so pretty
and so was he
She didnt think this through right
she peirced her flesh instead
pretty cheerleader just broken inside
and so she bled

Last breath, what's left to say?
She thought of him
Her life was just one big cliche
Tragic story ending with a broken heart
She remembered everything he said
but he's gone now..

and so she's dead.

Thats a really good poem and its sad! I really like it, you did really good on. Good job! Keep adding more I love reading them!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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Well uhh I love this person and well he says Im pretty and stuff and he SAYS he doesnt like me im 13 by the way........one time my friend goes "what do u think of katie" and he goes silent for like 15 seconds and goes "nothing..." i dont know what to do!!!!!!! and he moved, and my other friend says we werent meant to be......ok, i LOVE him....im serious....could you please help someone who cries every night????????

You're not too young to love. Don't let anyone change that. You can't control your heart. It basically controls you. But, maybe he didn't want you to get hurt, since he was moving. You know what I mean? But, I'm sorry hun, but it seems like he's not coming back =( because he did move. But this is what you can do, go out and have fun, go to a friends house, the mall, whatever that you can do for fun in your neighborhood. Because doing fun things makes you get things off your mind. I know it will be hard, but you're gunna have to stop thinking about him, so you have to go out and have fun. Because you only live life once don't you? But just go out and have fun and get things off you're mind, you're bound to meet a new guy! If you still need help, just post back! =D Everthing will be fine!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I have almost no ones instant messaging address. My mom walked in while i was talking to one of my friends online and saw that i only had ten people on my list. Since i had a different s/n last year i didn't bother getting a lot of people's IM, so she sent me to this counsiling group for teens who can't get along with others. I went to the group once and they said that i just don't want to talk to people. Should i stay in the group, or leave, i don't think i belong in there, but should i give it another day?
Please help
Lizzy

You can try it for another day if you want. But I would talk to your mom first and tell her why you only have 10 people on your buddy list. Tell her exactly what you just told us. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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So I've always been attracted to other gitls.I don't think guys are attractive at all.I have had ex b/fs and stuff but I think girls are hot not guys.Does this mean I'm a lesbian?Do you think its wrong?

No I dont think its wrong. You are who you are and you can't help who you think is attractive! So don't let anyone bring you down!

xoxo Kourtney

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I am the middle child in my family and sometimes I think I don't belong with my siblings. Don't get me wrong I love them to death but... I am 13 a typical girl teenager. I like make-up, boys, fashion. But my brother does not respect any of my private life or social life. I am always baby-sitting for my little sister while my mom and dad are working and while my brother is out with his friends 24/7. It's not like I do it for my health i'm doing it for the $$$ but I need to get out too and especially since its summer. I am always fighting with my older brother and when ever I am on the phone with my boyfriend my brother always makes some rude remarks like "hey is this your tampon" or something like that something gross. I TOTALLY respect his private life and social life. My brother goes through my stuff, looks at my txt messagees on my cell phone to all my friends and my boyfriend and he goes on my screen name and talks to my friends pretending to be me. I have told him so many times that I need some space and he doesnt care. He gives smart remarks to me and I can't handle it. I've told my parents they yell at him yet when we're around my parents together he acts so perfect and he is older then me... how pathetic... but seriously I NEED HELP!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!!!!!
Signed,
Brother Hater

Hmm... I hate when brothers/sisters do that. It bothers me! Especially when they act all perfect in front of your parents because then your parents dont see how they really act. So do the same thing to him. When he's with his friends just embarrasse him like he does with you. And in front of your parents act all perfect, just like he would do. Just do exactly what he does to you. Because talking to him, wouldn't help, he would probably just laugh, because brothers/sisters are like that. So just basically give it right back at him! Have fun with it lol =P

xoxo Kourtney

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Omg.. i really like this boy in my school we hang out all the time movies at eachothers houses but i odnt know if he likes me but....im afaird if i tell him how i feel he will be like all weird around me and stuff!!! Should I tell him how i feel or just keep it as freinds?!?!?
Please help ME!!!

Well if you guys hang out ALL the time and you REALLY like him I think you should tell him! Go for it girl. Just tell him exactly what you told us. Just be like "I dont want things to be weird around us, so please don't get creeped out or anything, but I like you and I just want to know if you like me too" Just say something like that. It'll be okay. Seems to me he likes you I mean you guys are always together. Give it a shot. You can do it! Tell me if you guys go out and good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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i liked this one kid for a really long time.. i only ended up telling a few people becuz i dont like every1 knowin.. then after awhile i found out he liked me for awhile too.. then he asked me out at 1:00 A.M on my birthday.. i said yea of course.. and then i didnt get a phone call from him or nothing.. then at 11:O0 P.M that night.. he told me he doesnt think we should go out anymore.. he never told me a reason though.. i asked him why he even asked me out in the first place and he said i dunno.. he said he was sorry n everythin.. i think i might still like him but i cant say i loved him cuz we were neva together long.. wat shuld i do.. try n get ova him or still like him?

Well I'll sadly tell you, you're gunna have to try and get over him because he doesn't like you anymore, I mean thats what he said. You seem like a great girl though. And if you need help getting over him, go to like the mall, partys, friends house, etc. and just get out of the house it'll get him/things off your mind. And you'll meet new guys and then that'll get you over him. But, if you want you can try asking him again why you two broke up. Just ask him anything you want to know, that is if you want to know. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok...my best friend is mad at me because i tried talking her into going back to my church because she has done some bad stuff lately. I apologized and told her i like her for who she is but she wont talk to me...now what do i do?

Try talking to her again. Just be like don't get me wrong but I like you just the way you are, but you should go to church with me, it'll be a lot of fun! Just be like I'm sorry if it sounded mean when I first talked to you, I didn't mean for it to sound mean or anything. Just tell her the truth and be honest, because after all you guys are friends! She should understand, she may be stubborn for awhile, but she'll get over it. Just try again though! And just say you use to always go to church, why did you stop? You should keep going, just go with me! Just say stuff like that, that will convice her to go back and maybe she'll stop doing those bad things she is doing. And after she does go back to church, and she is still doing those things, have a talking with her. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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