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Too shy :(
Hey! OK, I'm really shy. Its not that I enjoy being all by myself because I totally hate it... I love to be with people... but it’s hard for me to just walk up to someone because last year in classes we got to sit around and talk for the end of each period. When I tried to talk to someone they would be like "uh huh. Ok" and then walk away. However I’ve talked to each of them individually and they seem interested in talking to me (No, they were not just being nice) I’m moving to a totally new country next year which means a new school. I want to redo myself… like not be so shy anymore. Could you all give me some tips for me to be less shy? And please no advice like "just talk to people"… that doesn't work. I've tried. Thank you so much everyone!! Any advice is appreciated!
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in order to be outgoing and less shy, you have to really like yourself, and believe in yourself. you have to tell yourself things like "I can do this." "I'm good at conversing." "I look good today, people are going to WANT to talk to me." and so on and so forth. you HAVE to believe in yourself. you have to be confident. you have to take your chances also, because if you don't, then you won't ever make any friends. so just work on your self-confidence. that should improve your little bit of shyness by a great deal.
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Ha. That's me. :) Actually, I just walk with my friends, which seem to have more friends, and we just talk. So...just talk. Heh. You really can't change yourself in one second, and if you do, most people call that "fake" or whatver lable they think of, which is stupid. :-/ Anyway, just be yourself, love yourself, ugh, have confidence. =]
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hmm.. well when you get there instead of being like the shy type to just sit there and watch everyone talk.. be in the center and YOU be the one talking.. just be yourself and everything will be okay. all you have to do is just talk about things that interest you. im sure they'll all talk to you because your moving to a differnet country they'll probably think its awesome.. just talk to anyone and im sure you'll have no problem fitting in.. try to be friends with everybody!!
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hey wat my friend who every1 likes told me to do on the first couple of days of skool is to jus start convos wit ppl. say hi and introduce ur self.well i didnt. she did and every 1 knew her parctically in the first week. later on that year i started to become more open. all of a sudden every 1 knew me and liked me. I would also give the advice to be hyper. it always worked wit me (that skool year) i was always shy in skool in till middle skool when my frien told me to be open and start convos.
~GoOd lUcK!~
~kAtIe/Jinx~
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well i have always been outgoing but try when your walking around at the mall or the store anywhere mostly! just smile at people u dont know it will make u look friendly and say hi...pratice small talk about new music upcoming movies and things that happend in class what ever comes to ur head!!! good luck!! i odnt think u'll have a problem!! xoxo Sara
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i know how u feel. im kinda like u, but ppl stay 2 talk to me. (no offense). sorry, im a little moody 2 day. try going up to ppl and see wats up with them. and definately take answerman's advice. i've tried to be mysterious, and guyz(not all) seem 2 like it. be nosy...but not in ur face nosy. just see wats goin on around u. i really hope this works out 4 u.
flirty :)
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Well since you are going to be the new kid, usually people go up to the new kid. Atleast thats what I've seen. But, no I won't give you the usual "Just talk to people" because I know that won't work lol. But you do have to talk to people, lol, but in order to do that. You just have to allow yourself to open up and be more talkitive. I've answered questions before like this and I just told them in every class, talk to the people around you that sit by you. Just hold a small conversation with them. Thats what I did when I got into High School. It should work. Just take deep breaths (like 3) and calm down when you enter into class. People may look at you when you enter, because well you are the new kid. But hey you're getting the attention! But sit down, take the deep breaths, and talk to the people around you, introduce yourself! You'll be fine! If you need anything else just ask! =D And what country are you going to? Thats so cool!
xoxo Kourtney
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From what I've seen, it's easier for new people. Your more interesting than anyone else because no one knows much about you. Find clubs that you might be interested in. Talk to people about what interests you. I'm not sure that you can do anything about your shyness at first, but the more you talk to the same people, the more comfortable you'll become. Just don't talk to people for too long, you may appear needy. If this happens, you may drive them away.
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hey, well wut i would suggest is...think of ur self that ur better then anyone there...n talk to ppl...like go in the canvo...or try to b as nice as u could...or u could just be like..go up to ppl b hyper...n stuff usually everyone likes hyper ppl cuz they fun to b round :) u kno wut imean?!?! anyways i dunno wut else to tell u...w/e works wit me...i adviced it to u :) so good luck xoxo effy
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Okay well what you have to do is just when you start your first day try to get involved in the big cons. Don't be afraid of someones reply!!
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Maybe if you made the first move and asked about someone and what they like. Just take baby steps. Read the news before you go out, or have some things you feel strongly about and ask them about it. If you are like me, once you start knowing a little bit about a person, it makes it easier to talk to them. The world needs some listeners too by the way.
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Yeah I know how you feel I moved to Italy, it sucks... just be open minded about everything, be yourself, and dont be afraid to talk to people... It always sucks to be the new kid because of course you're gonna be shy, as long as you are yourself then people will come to you, most people like individuality, so definitely be yourself, you'll make lots of friends that way
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confidence...always walk with your head up high and dont care whether or not people talk to you... i had this same problem wen i was in 7th grade buh wen i moved and went to 8th grade i pretty much didnt care anymore and thahs wen ppl started talkin to me...i was just there and they were the ones to come and talk to me...ya noe?
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