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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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Ummm....well im starting school soon and i have to say these words in font of everybody.How can I stand in front everybody without being so scared?

What should I do?

The best thing to do would be to try to imagine ONLY you in the room, no one else. That way you won't be as nerves. You could also try this, too. Instead of looking at a bunch of people in the room, maybe you could focus on a few friends for support. You should tell one or a few of your closest friends that you're scared of doing this infront of everyone, they'll understand and will help you through it. Then when you go up to read whatever you have to read, just focus on them so you'll feel more comfortable about sanding up there. ♥

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How do you send a text message? I know how to get into the create text message thing. But when I have to type who I'm sending it to I don't know whether you type in the persons number that you're sending to or do you type there name? And do you type in the area code??? Help!!!

Normally, when you go to text a message to someone a screen pops up that says to put the number in. You have to put their number along with the area code. Once you're done that, another screen should pop up that says 'type message here.' When you're done, just click on send and it should work. ♥

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16/f

i saw the movie the 40 year old virgin, and at the part where that blonde girl goes in the bathtub and masturbates with the bath hose thing, it made me want to try it to see what it felt like but i don't have one of those in my bathtub. so i tried doing it with an empty bathtub and letting the water run normally out and it was the most arousing feeling i have ever felt. however, i have done this a few times now, and my stomach feels bigger. is it possible that the water entered my body and cannot come out? please help, i'm scared!

No, that's not possible. Water that isn't supposed to be there will come out. You could be just sore because you aren't used to it or you could have cramped up your muscles. ♥

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is there anyway you can see who visits your myspace?

There's no MySpace trackers out, sorry. ♥

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i didnt get my period in july and i havent gotten it yet and it is really late. i havent had sex but i know my friend gave her bf a handjob in her pool while i was in it (and of course i didnt know till later that night) and she said that he cummed. is there any way that i could be pregnant from that?

No, you're not pregnant. The chlorine in the pool will kill the sperm. So you have nothing to worry about. If you're just starting your period, then it might be a little late. This will lead you to having irregular periods (a lot of girls have this.) If you don't have your period in a few months and you're worried, I suggest going to see your doctor just to have a check up and see if everything is going alright. ♥

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ok i am 14/f and i had sex once with my current bf, but it hurt really bad so instead of keeping it in the front he went to the back, so my question issince i didnt do it for more then 3 min will my next time still hurt alot??

It's going to take awhile for you to get comfortable with this. As time goes on, it won't be sore like the first time. He should be going slow and gentle with you. And before he even has sexual intercourse with you, he should always perform some oral or finger you. That way, it'll be way easier when you do have sex and it won't hurt as much. ♥

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Hey :) i am 14 years old and i collect stickers........ i was just wondering, am i too old to be collecting stickers??? i love it..... am i too old? or is it all in my head??

thx

It doesn't matter how old you are. If YOU love collecting stickers, then stick with it. You're never too old to collect stickers. I have a few stickers around my room and I'm going on 19. So, no worries, it's all in your head. ♥

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So I dated this guy for a week and 2 days and we spent every day together. we broke up a week ago tomorrow and I can't get over it. I want him to want me back. He said he wanted to whore around and then he goes and dates a Freshman and I'm a senior. It's killing me and I don't know what to do. I don't want to go to school and see him with someone else. All I've did is cried.

I know that you think a lot of this boy and you have strong feelings for him, but do you honestly think he feels the same way? (I'm not trying to be mean or harsh here, I'm just trying to help you out.) It seems like he doesn't like you as much as you like him. If he did, he wouldn't be doing these things to you. He wouldn't be breaking up with you and he wouldn't be going for other girls.


I'm sure you're an amazing girl, so you should have an amazing guy by your side. You may think that you really like this guy, but since he does these things to you, this isn't true. You need a guy that will stick by and can be your bestfriend as well as your boyfriend. A guy that will treat you like a princess and will never hurt you or make you cry. A guy that will stay with you longer then 2 weeks. And a guy that won't dump you to go whore around with other girls. You're still young, so you shouldn't be tied down to a guy. Your perfect guy is still out there, you just have to play the field a bit and look for him. Just think of it this way, you're that much closer to finding the perfect guy for you. ♥

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how do you get a picture from the folder on your computer My Pictures on a URL?? like if i wanted to give the URL address of a picture to someone.... how would i do that??

You'd have to put them on the internet to get the URL. You could either upload the picture on http://www.imageshack.us and you'll get the URL from there. Or, you could get your own photobucket page where you can store all your pictures; http://www.photobucket.com ♥

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how in the world do i stop bitting my nails???? they are soo short that sometimes they bleed. i tell myself not to, but i keep bitting them. please help me

I used to bite my nails and it was really hard to stop, but I finally did it. There's this nail polish out that is for people who bite their nails and are trying to stop. It's clear and it tastes nasty. If you aren't able to find that, just try the rubber band method. Everytime you go to bite your nails, snap the rubber band. ♥

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What are some good ideas to get your 15 almost 16 year old boyfriend for christmas && his birthday...?
he likes video games..
basketball
seahawks&browns
green
...thx.

You could get him some of the following:


-- Video games.
-- A basketball.
-- Baskbetball stuff.
-- A basketball net for his room.
-- Clothes (pants or a shirt - maybe in green.)
-- Chocolate.
-- Christmas candies.
-- Make him homemade Christmas candies.
-- A movie.
-- A CD.


Hopefully these are some good ideas to get you started. ♥

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okay . ive always been really quiet in school and now in going into highschool and i dont want to be known as the quiet girl anymore. i want to be more outgoing. can someone help me

If you want to get over your shyness and work on it, check out these sites:


- - http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/shyness/step1.asp
- - http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM
- - http://love.ivillage.com/fnf/fnfetiquette/0,,lk4h,00.html


A lot of people are shy; it's not only you. I know I used to be REALLY shy when I was younger. But, as I grew up I kind of grew out of my shyness, which I'm sure you will too. Join some clubs or do some sports (if you like them.) This will help you TONS with your shyness. It'll open you up and you'll be more outgoing. You just have to work on it and give it some time, but it'll come to you. ♥

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I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?

It seems like he could have the potential of being violent with you, but I don't know if he will be or not. I think he just has a really bad temper that he doesn't know how to control. That could cause problems in the future (if you're still together) and that could lead to him being abusive or violent with you.


I'd give him a few more shots and see how everything works out. Talk to him about this and explain to him that it really scares you when he gets like he does. Tell him that if he keeps acting that way, he'll lose you.


If YOU think he is getting out of control and you're too scare, then end it. It's better to end it before it gets WAY out of hand. I rather be out of the relationship, then to say in a relationship where you're getting hit and punched everyday. ♥

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okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?

Having a boyfriend over MySpace isn't the best thing in the world to do. He may claim to be a 15 year old boy, but that's not always the case. He could be a 40 year old pervert that goes on the internet to look for little girls and tries to lower them into his trap. Once he has you as a friend, he'll be able to search up everything about you; where you live, what school you go to and what you look like. DO NOT give him ANY kind of personal information about yourself. If you do, he can track where you live in a heart beat. A lot of people over the internet ARE NOT safe and a lot will try to harm you. I suggest not talking to him anymore and if he wants to meet you, tell him no. You never know who he could be. Hopefully you make the right decision and you dump him for your safety. ♥

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Hi, i am 16. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now - this is a long relationship for me. This boy means a lot to me, and we love each other heaps - except we're really on and off. We break up all the time because his friends always get in the way.
Like, on the weekend of my 16th, he decided to go away with his friends to the coast and left me alone at home with dad, and that really cut me deep. Anyway, we always break up because he prefers his friends over me, but the thing is, i hate it. I want to tell him that i need his attention without sounding selfish and he gets really angry really easily. also, we broke up last weekend. i heard he got a new girl that is 15.. i think, anyway shes 2 years younger than him, and i heard they were going out so then i decided to go out one night on a weeknight so me and a few friends went for a drive and i ended up kissing one of his old friends. well that weekend after that he called me and we talked for 4 hours and sorted things out and i broke up with this other boy for the guy i love, but.. this girl he was apparently with is getting in the way.. im really insecure about it and i say "you love her more than me" and he agrees, but i know he doesnt. im really confused. does he love her or not. i love him so much and im sick of breaking up and when we got back together last weekend he talked to her on MSN messenger saying that he "still wants to be friends with her", so does he have feelings for her or not? thanks

Seriously, this guy seems a bit fishy, like something is up. I know that you think a lot of this boy and you have strong feelings for him, but do you honestly think he feels the same way? (I'm not trying to be mean or harsh here, I'm just trying to help you out.) It seems like he doesn't like you as much as you like him. If he did, he wouldn't be doing these things to you. He wouldn't be breaking up with you and he wouldn't be going for other girls.


I had a boyfriend that did this to me and I ALWAYS went back to him no matter what he did, I still took him back. I though I was in love and I though he was the one for me. We'd break up every week, then the next day we'd get back together. Then, I thought to myself. This isn't how a REAL relationship is supposed to be. Even if you fight, you're supposed to stick with one another and work things out. Breaking up and going back out is foolish and immature. If it were really love, you guys wouldn't be breaking up in the first place. Honestly, I know what you're going through and it's really hard. But you have to make up your mind and think about yourself. Do what will make you happy.


I'm sure you're an amazing girl, so you should have an amazing guy by your side. You may think that you really love this guy, but since he does these things to you, this isn't true love. True love is him being by your side no matter what and not breaking up everyday over foolish things. You need a guy that will stick by and can be your bestfriend as well as your boyfriend. A guy that will treat you like a princess and will never hurt you or make you cry. You're still young, so you shouldn't be tied down to a guy. Your perfect guy is still out there, you just have to play the field a bit and look for him.


I suggest making a pro (everything good about him) and con (everything bad about him) about this guy and seeing which one gets more. This might help you out a lot with what you want to do about this relationship. I wish you the best of luck, hun. ♥

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for more than a month now we're both 16... We haven't had the best relationship at least in my eyes... but then again it is our "first" relationship with the same sex... Because once school starts for me it'll be hard for us to see each other, should I ask him if he would like to be in an open relationship, and if he says yes should I dump him? My friends tell me I should since no one is usually comfortable with their partner being with someone other than them UNLESS they themselves have already been considering parting ways and/or have found someone they would be interested in "fooling around" with. Some advice please, thanks

I think you should do what you think is best. If you aren't going to be able to see him while you're going to school, then I don't see the point in being together. If you aren't able to see him at all, what's the point of having a boyfriend?


I wouldn't suggest having an open relationship with him, because that wouldn't be good. People could start rumors and you could be known as an 'easy' girl because of something like this. You know how some people are. And the fooling around bit isn't a good idea, either. That is how girls get names and I wouldn't want you to be in that category.


I suggest just ending it. You never know you could find someone new while at school that would be great for you. Just keep your eyes open and never settle for one guy. You have to play the field before you get tied down. ♥

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Well, school starts tomorrow for me. & My boyfriend promised that before I started work at eleven, he'd take me out for breakfast today, since it'd probably be a while before we saw each other again, since we'll both be going to different schools. ]: I was soo excited, I woke up at 7 to make sure he was awake, but he told me that he was going to go back to sleep because he had a big migraine, I didn't think it was a problem, because we'd still have a lot of time to go out. But, at 8 I called him, because we said we'd both set our alarms, & he didn't wake up, so I tried calling like three times, but then stopped because I didn't want him to think I was a "clingy girlfriend" he always calls me that.

Anyways, I called at like nine to see what was up & he woke up, and asked me what time it was & I told him it was 9 & he apologized, and I told him I was really upset because now I'm not going to see him before school starts, which I'm really nervous about. & It just fucking pisses me off because he didn't put ANY effort into this whatsoever.

What I'm also SO pissed about is that, I'm going to have to call my mom to get out of work [which is impossible] to drive me to work, since I can't drive yet. He knows my mom is abusive, & she's always mad about everything I do, but about this she's going to be fucking pissed bc I said I had a ride, & now I don't anymore, because he's a fucking moron.

Hah, sorry needed to vent. Anyways, I'm really nervous to call my mom now because I know she'll probably say some rude things & hit me when she gets home, but I just don't even know what to do about my boyfriend, like.. should I just wait for him to call me? Or what? I don't even know..

PLEASE HELP ME!! [:

It sounds like you really need your boyfriend now. Especially since you aren't too close with your mother (it seems) and she hits you and such. Everyone does have a bad day, though. And sometimes it takes awhile for a headache to go away. I know when I get a headache I usually sleep for 4 hours. He was probably just in pain so he slept through everything and he didn't feel like going out for breakfast. However, he should have just said that in the first place and I'm sure you would have understood. I think you should get him make it up to you. The least he can do is take you out for breakfast tomorrow, or whichever day is good for you. Just talk to him about it and I'm sure everything will get fixed up.


Now, I know you didn't want any advice on this mom part, or you would have asked. But, being abused can become really serious. You should really try talking to someone you trust, just to get everything that is bothering you out in the open (if you want that.) Tell a family member or a close friend. You mother shouldn't be doing this to you. She should be there for you whenever you need her. No if, ands, or buts about it. Mothers should always be there for their daughters. So, please, try to get some help with this before it gets out of hand. ♥

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How do you get rid of a really bad sunburn in one day? Is it even possible?

It's not possible for it to go away in one day, especially if it's really bad. You have to give it some time. I suggest putting some Aloe Vera on it. It'll keep your burn cold and will help with the redness. ♥

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What's that thing called, that director's use to start a scene? It's black and white and they push the top part down and it sorta clicks, then they say ACTION!. I just need what it's called!! Thanks.

It's called a clapboard. ♥

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I'm 16 years old. I've never had a girlfriend, I've never been kissed, I've never even held hands. Is something wrong with me? I feel like I'm missing out on one of the best parts of my teenage years. Is it wrong that it hasn't happened yet? Is it a bad thing? And what about when I finally do get a girl. Is she not going to want to be with me because I'm not experienced enough to make her happy? I guess the advice I need is how do I stop worrying so much. The only reason it bothers me so much is because of my age. I'm 16, I should have at least gotten to 3rd base by now, and I damn sure should have fallen in love. Please help! I appreciate it.

Lots of people your age haven't had their first ANYTHING yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get it when they're 12, others when they're 16 and some even only have their first time when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first kiss/loose your virginity and such, yet. You're only 16, hun. You have tons of time! When your first kiss comes/first time you have sex with someone, it should be with someone special that you care about and you want to do this with. You always remember your first time. So, don't get pressured into it. Make sure you're 100% comfortable with the person you're with. Give it time, though. It will come and it'll be that much more special when it does, because you waited until you were ready. ♥

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